One of my children came to America after finishing the fourth grade, and the other came to America after finishing the third grade. None of them went to a good primary school. I cultivated good reading habits for them when I was in primary school, and they continued to adhere to reading chinese books after they came to the United States. But English will be worse than other children. The older children have been communicating with others in America for two years, and now they are trying to read English novels. I think parents are very important, and children still have to stay with their parents. With their parents around, they will feel safe and study quietly. Parents are the best teachers for children.
After giving birth to a daughter in China for half a year, my wife went back to the United States to continue studying MD and practice at the same time. At first, I was under great pressure and didn't have enough money to live in a dormitory. All my property is a second-hand pickup truck (GMC). Without money, time and energy, we can't take care of our children by ourselves, so we have to leave them to two elders to bring them back and forth. We went back to America at the age of five, and came back to Shanghai with us for one year until we were ten. We graduated in the third grade, and then left home to go to college in America.
Children who study in different places pay more effort, time and energy than children who live in the same place. As a parent, I feel guilty about my daughter's fatigue. Sometimes I always wonder if it's worth it. Why should my success (I don't succeed) be based on the pain of my children's parents?
Good luck!
This is hard for you to think of … see for yourself what changes have been made in mainland textbooks recently. Of course, some people don't care about this kind of thing.
Everyone has a different outlook on life and treats children differently. Some people like foreign countries. They think the moon in foreign countries is brighter than that in China. I know a man, son-in-law, entrepreneur, boss of a listed company, and raised three children. The third one grew up in the United States because of super life, and now all three go to study in Britain. They think they are superior and their children enjoy the best education abroad. Every child spends hundreds of thousands of years every year. All they know is that they have money. In the future, their children will know everything about diplomacy, but they won't know anything about China. Their English will be very good in the future, but they don't even know the general knowledge of Chinese! Let's talk about America. Some parts of the United States are advanced, and the national treatment is better than that of China. However, because the three views of Americans are completely different from those of China, where Trump wants to lead the United States now is to lead himself to the grave! The president is improper, and he is even more unsafe! How many people all over the world want him to die soon? Is it safe to live in such a country and be shot at any time? Analyze it! When I say this, some people may say that your children can't go abroad. You are being sarcastic! ? No, my son has been to America and Switzerland, and my granddaughter goes to kindergarten in America and Switzerland. It's ok to learn something abroad, but we can't serve abroad, because we are from China, and our son returned to China in his thirties. Now she is an associate professor in Tsinghua, and her granddaughter is studying in the affiliated elementary school. He is happy, and his main size is safe. This is the main thing. For your reference!
Thank you for your question.
Let me give you an example first. A friend of mine and his wife also work and live in America. They have a son who was born in China and lives in the United States. However, due to family reasons, children can't stand education in China, and think that American textbooks are much more difficult than domestic ones. At that time, they thought that children could not learn much cultural knowledge in America.
The way they take is to speak Chinese in American families. From primary school to high school, husband and wife have different division of labor. Bring domestic study materials, my mother teaches Chinese, and my father teaches math and physics. If a person is on a business trip, they conduct online home teaching through QQ. Their children are not only educated in the United States, but also learn the culture of China. After family education, children can speak Chinese fluently and read magazines and novels from China. Now I graduated from university and worked as a professional analyst in a famous accounting firm in new york.
First, if you want to accept China's traditional ideology and culture, you don't have to go back to China. I don't live in America. But I lived in Canada for a while. There are many Chinese schools in Canada, including Chinatown and Chinese churches. I think there should be some in America. I think the culture and education there are also quite traditional. Children can receive education in China and traditional ideas there.
The second point I want to say is that I think family is more important than school for a child's moral quality and traditional culture education. Of course, everything at school will be heard. Parents are the first teachers of the children. You should instill China's education and traditional ideology and culture in them from an early age.
I have seen many Chinese in Canada teaching Chinese Pinyin at home since childhood. It is no problem for children to read some domestic children's books after learning pinyin letters. As for writing, China schools have courses in this field. Our parents can also teach, but it must be very hard.
I think I have achieved the best of both worlds. If you go back to China and let your children receive education at home, you must also go back to China. Parents cannot live without their children. If you all go back to China, it will definitely break your family life. In that case, it is very likely that children's education will not achieve the expected purpose, and it will also affect your career development.
I don't know what I said, do you agree? Thank you again for your question.
I don't know much about your specific situation, so I would like to express my thoughts here. Please forgive me if I say something wrong. I don't know what kind of plans you and your husband have for your children's future study and life. Will you let your children study abroad or stay in China? Which country are you and your husband in? How does the education level in that country compare with that in China?
Now let me briefly talk about the education situation in China:
1. Domestic key primary schools, everyone is squeezing their scalp. In order to get their children into key primary schools, parents will encourage them to join the ranks of "Niu Wa" and "Xueba". Children seem to know a lot of knowledge, which virtually obliterates their original learning ability. What seems to be "advance" is actually "retreat".
2. Division of ordinary schools and school districts. The quality of teaching is average, and the level of teachers is average. However, children will be a little happy and will not be able to enter a good school. At this time, parents may give their children training courses such as English mathematics, and the exaggerated explanation of the training course teacher has strengthened the choice of parents to improve their children's performance through training institutions. The child gradually became unhappy.
3. Domestic and international schools. I don't know much about international schools in the south. A common problem in international schools here in Beijing is that children's Chinese ability is relatively low, and their English ability will not be as good as you think. You have to rely on your parents to seize their study time after class. After entering a good international school, children may be less worried about learning this aspect and the cost will go up. More than 200,000 a year.
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In fact, I still suggest that the children follow you for the time being. Children need more love from their parents. Children can go abroad to go to school normally;
1. You and your husband use your usual time to make up your child's Chinese. You can master the basic knowledge of English language and mathematics, and you can improve your level according to your child's learning ability. Just don't let children lose interest in learning.
2. Be sure to help children develop reading habits. Help children sort out the story structure from the story. At present, the national college entrance examination has been reformed, and Chinese mainly assesses children's extracurricular reading, as well as their ability to obtain information and solve problems. My child is 20 months old, and there are books at home, so now children consciously read books and listen to their parents telling stories.
I wonder if what I said will help you. If there is anything I don't understand, I'd like to discuss it with you.
Simply put. American education was abolished as soon as it came out, and it is useless in the future! The false statements on the Internet are misleading. The whole public opinion seems to be the mainstream, but in fact it has seriously deviated from the objective reality. Why is this happening? It is probably also the reason why culture has been introduced for many years. However, the real reason is not the case. The main reason is that the behind-the-scenes pusher has been quietly infiltrating, and the public opinion position is surging! Say a few more words, sometimes some things are known at a glance, and some things need to be seen through the fog! In fact, usually, truth and wisdom belong to a very small number, and most people are ignorant. This is an objective fact, which is not transferred by subjective stubbornness, nor by social progress and changes of the times. In my opinion, nothing has changed in the deep thoughts of China people, and the quality revealed in history remains the same. Of course, not only that, but also flash surface. ...
Children had better finish primary school in China! Only in this way can we have a certain outlook on life and learn the most difficult Chinese well! A friend around me, whose two sons and eldest son came to the United States after graduating from primary school, learned English well in only two years, and there was no problem in classroom study! Now high school 1 age! He thought he was from China! I like watching China's TV series! You can think in English, and reading in Chinese is no problem! His youngest son came to America in the second grade of elementary school! Go to a bilingual school! But children are very resistant to Chinese! Say I like Chinese the least! It's too difficult! And he said he was an American (his father beat him twice for this matter, which shows that his father is bent on cultivating him to love China). At present, the third grade of primary school is all English! Because I volunteered in primary school! Deeply understand the importance of basic Chinese! And children's views on Chinese! I think no matter from language learning or the establishment of outlook on life! The best way is for children to graduate from primary school and then come to America! It's too late to learn English! It's too early to learn Chinese!
When you and your husband and son work and live abroad, you should bring your son back for ideological and moral education, let him know the pride of growing up under the red flag, and don't let decadent capitalism poison your next generation [laugh] [yi tooth] [love].