1. Generally speaking, everyone likes and appreciates handsome (beautiful) and talented people. 2. Personality quality is one of the most stable factors affecting liking. 3. American scholar Anderson studied the personality traits that affect interpersonal relationships. The six most popular personality qualities are sincerity, honesty, understanding, loyalty, truthfulness and trustworthiness. The following are: wisdom, credibility, consideration, enthusiasm, kindness, friendliness, happiness, selflessness, humor, responsibility, cheerfulness and trust. So, look, you don't have to work so hard. Haha, with these qualities, people like you, and they are very stable and will not change dramatically with the change of appearance. (2) Just kidding and get to the point. You said, "You always think that a boy is good enough to attract girls and win their favor, so I study hard, play guitar and dance street dance, and study hard." You said: "I found a very handsome good brother around me, who has no talent and doesn't study hard, but many girls around me like it." "An ordinary boy can't win the favor of girls even if he tries to make himself excellent." Refine the high-frequency words that appear above. Keywords: hard work. So, I think, you are really tired ... you have been trying to make girls like you instead of focusing on making yourself smarter. You are saying in your heart: if I work hard and you like me, my efforts are worth it; If I work hard and you don't like it so much, my efforts are not so worthwhile. Therefore, being liked is what you want, and hard work is not what you really want. Hard work is just one of the ways to get like it. (3) However, after hard work, the results are not all as you wish. You will question whether you should work hard. Because, in order to be liked, it will be really uncomfortable! After my efforts, I was liked. You may think: I am liked because I work hard. I am not completely liked, because the part I want to be lazy may not be liked. After hard work, people don't like it. You may think: I have worked so hard and I am not liked. I'm so bad, so you're looking for another girl's favorite factor. You find it relatively labor-saving to be handsome. It seems that being handsome can win the favor of some girls without that effort. How relaxed and natural it should be. (4) So, you come to a conclusion: Even if an ordinary boy tries to be excellent, he can't win the favor of girls. It's not as good as a word or two from a handsome boy that makes girls feel excited and makes me feel desperate. So, this belonging can finally give yourself a little rest ... but fortunately, you are not really desperate, because you have seriously raised your doubts. Share your thoughts and feelings with your friends here. (5) It really takes a lot of courage to admit that you can't do it, and you really have to face the Great Depression. Fortunately, you gave yourself a way out. Give yourself a vacation and come here to talk. Do you like the ordinary-looking self? If you don't like it enough, don't expect others to like it Do you like yourself who can work hard? If you don't like it enough, don't expect others to like it (6) Embrace yourself who is tired and wants to rest. Once, you were not good enough to be liked by your parents. Once, your parents wouldn't allow you to work hard enough. You really, really work hard! Don't despair, just like yourself who can't be liked by others. One day, when you do this, you will find that more and more people like you ~ the girl hidden in your words will see your efforts. Take a break before you start ~ It's not easy to answer questions. Watch and praise it ~