1, Sima Guang taught his son well.
Sima Guang, whose real name is Shi Jun, is called Mr. Sushui. Northern Song Dynasty statesman, historian, official to prime minister. Although Sima Guang is in a high position, he is strict with his godson and attaches great importance to cultivating children's awareness of self-discipline and self-improvement. He wrote an article that has been handed down to this day, "frugality to show health."
He summed up the lesson that many sons of high officials and dignitaries were decadent because they could not stand on their own feet in the shadow of their ancestors, and warned his sons: "Virtue comes from thrift." "frugality is famous, extravagance is defeated."
Because of well-educated children, Sima Guang's sons are humble and polite, and have a successful life without relying on their father's power or family wealth. As a result, people all over the world know Rong Zhi, but they all know Sima's son.
Ji Hongchang didn't forget his father's instructions.
Ji Hongchang was born in Fugou, Henan. One of the leaders of the Chasui Anti-Japanese Coalition. He was a soldier in Feng Yuxiang's army in his early years. He was promoted to battalion commander and division commander because of his bravery and good fighting skills, and later served as commander of the Kuomintang and chairman of Ningxia Province.
1920, 25-year-old Ji Hongchang was a battalion commander at that time, and his father Ji Junting was seriously ill. He said to Ji Hongchang, who came to visit, "Being an official should be innocent and modest, and think more of the poor in the world. Being an official is not allowed to get rich. Otherwise, I can't sleep in the grave. " Ji Hongchang promised tearfully.
After Ji Hongchang's father died of illness, he wrote the words "Official is not allowed to get rich" on the porcelain bowl, and asked the ceramic factory to follow the example of batch firing and distribute the porcelain bowl to all officers and men. At the meeting to distribute porcelain bowls, he said, "Although I am Ji Hongchang, I will never oppress the people and plunder their wealth. I must bear in mind my father's teaching that being an official is not to make a fortune, but to do good for the poor in the world. Please supervise me. "
Ji Hongchang's words and deeds were consistent, and he was innocent and upright all his life, serving the people everywhere. When Japanese imperialism invaded China and the people were in dire straits, he opposed Chiang Kai-shek's surrender policy and rose up against Japan. Killed by Kuomintang reactionaries at the age of 39.
3. Lu Xun's godson let nature take its course
Lu Xun and Xu Guangping had only one son, namely Zhou Haiying. When his son was born, Xu Guangping showed signs of dystocia. When the doctor asked Lu Xun whether to raise people or children, he replied decisively: "Raise people." As a result, mother and child are safe.
In the process of his son's growth, Lu Xun basically carried out the idea of "how can we be fathers now" and made him "completely liberated". He said, "What I take for granted now is nothing but love."
According to Zhou Haiying's Seventy Years of Lu Xun and Me, Lu Xun's educational model is "let nature take its course, try not to give him too many blows, or even disobey his love, unless it is extremely unbearable and unreasonable".
One day, Zhou Haiying refused to go to school anyway, and Lu Xun hit him with a newspaper. Later, Lu Xun wrote to his mother and explained, "It was loud during the war, but it didn't hurt."
Qian Jibo is very strict with his son.
Qian Jibo is a master of Chinese studies and the father of scholar and writer Qian Zhongshu. Qian Jibo is very strict with his son. When Qian Zhongshu was sixteen, he also gave him a beating. 1926 From the autumn to the following summer, Qian Jibo went north to Tsinghua to teach, but did not return to Wuxi during the winter vacation.
At this time, Qian Zhongshu is studying in middle school. Instead of reviewing textbooks, he plunged into the world of novels. Father came back to ask his homework, but Qian Zhongshu failed the exam and was beaten.
1929, after Qian Zhongshu was admitted to Tsinghua University Foreign Languages Department, Qian Jibo often wrote to him. A letter said, "Being a benevolent gentleman is more important than being a scholar."
Then a letter said: "Now foreign things say that your article is better than mine, and I am glad that you have learned from me;" However, let's just say that you have always been loyal to me and practiced for me. I am particularly comforted. "I hope Qian Zhongshu can be" indifferent to his ambition, quiet and far-reaching ". "I hope you are Zhuge Gong, Tao Yuanming; Unlike you, Hu Shizhi and Xu Zhimo ".
Qian Jibo kept his distance from the New Culture Movement at that time and devoted himself to studying Chinese studies. He warned Qian Zhongshu in this way because of a Confucian cultural standpoint.
5. Liang Qichao's love for his children is all-round.
Liang Qichao has nine children. Under his education and guidance, they all became experts in a certain field, and even produced the story of "one academician and three academicians". The three academicians are architect Liang Sicheng, archaeologist Liang Siyong and rocket control system expert Liang. Besides, the fourth son Liang Sida is an economist, the second daughter Liang Sizhuang is a librarian, and the third daughter Liang Siyi is a social activist.
Liang Qichao's love for his children is all-round, not only in study, in dealing with people, but also in financial management, current affairs and many other aspects, with a peaceful and equal attitude. After reading Liang Qichao's letters, you will understand that Liang Qichao's performance in educating children in A Letter to Children is exemplary.
Liang Qichao made no secret of his love when writing letters. In a letter of June 1927, he wrote: "You know, your father is the most emotional person, and his love for you is extremely enthusiastic. No matter how busy your homework is, you must write at least once every few months, and just a few words will tell you that you are safe. "
In studying, Liang Qichao didn't value diplomas at all, but emphasized laying a good foundation and mastering the "temperature". He said to Liang Sizhuang, "It doesn't matter if you don't get into college. A diploma is not a diploma. The thicker the wall, the better. " And teach children how to ask questions and learn-"there must always be two working cycles of' strong stew' and' slow stew' alternately."
At the same time, Liang Qichao emphasized the importance of responsibility. 1923, he wrote to his eldest daughter, Liang, saying, "No matter how big or small the cause in the world is, as long as you do your best within your responsibility, you are the first." Of course, Liang Rengong did not forget to praise his son-in-law and daughter-in-law while writing and teaching his children.
② Ancient short family instructions
1, "There is nothing to say if you don't learn' poetry'; If you don't learn' ceremony', you can't stand. "
One day, Confucius was standing in the yard, and his son Kong Li was walking briskly with his head down. Confucius stopped him and asked, "Have you ever studied poetry?" Kong Li replied, "No". Confucius said, "If you don't learn poetry, how can you speak?" Kong Li went back to study poetry. The next day, Kong Li met Confucius standing in the yard again. Confucius asked, "Have you learned etiquette?" Kong Li replied, "No."
Confucius said, "If you don't learn manners, how can you be a man?" So Kong Li went back to practice the ceremony. This story is called "Xunting". Later, the ancients called it "Xunting" when the father reprimanded his son.
2, the filial piety of the husband, the beginning of the matter, the middle of the matter, and the end; Leave a name for parents in later generations, who is the greatest filial piety.
Sima Tan believes that since the death of Confucius 400 years ago, the princes merged and the historical records were cut off, but today's domestic reunification has many deeds, such as sagacity, loyalty, loyalty and so on. However, as a Taishiling, he can't do his writing duty, so he is very uneasy. So when he died, he cried and told his son Sima Qian, hoping that he would inherit his father's footsteps and not forget to write history books.
Sima Qian lived up to his father's orders and finally wrote the Historical Records, which was praised as "a historian's swan song, leaving Sao without rhyme".
3, the gentleman's trip, quiet to cultivate one's morality, to cultivate one's morality. Not cold, not awake, not quiet, not far away. Fu Xue, want to be quiet; Just, you have to learn. If you don't learn, you can't be versatile, and if you don't want to learn, you can't succeed. You can't study hard if you are slow, and you can't be rational if you are in danger.
This is a letter that Zhuge Liang wrote to his eight-year-old son in his later years. In this letter, Zhuge Liang asked his son to study hard, be inspirational and work hard on his indifferent and quiet cultivation. Don't be impetuous and behave absurdly.
At the end of the article, he inculcated: "Young people who don't work hard are sad." Zhuge Liang worked hard day and night for Shu Han and had no time to take care of his son's education, so he wrote this letter to warn his son.
4, jade is not cut, not a weapon; People don't learn or know. However, jade is one thing, and Changde is constant. Although it is not a tool, it still does no harm to jade. Human nature, because things will move, if you don't learn, you will be a villain, not a gentleman, but don't think about it.
Ouyang Xiu advised future generations to study hard and improve their self-cultivation. Warning to future generations: if people want to make a difference, they must be honed first. People's habits are most easily influenced by the external material environment. If you can't temper yourself from time to time and improve your knowledge and moral connotation, you will abandon the gentleman and become a villain.
5, a gentleman does not give his relatives, and does not make ministers complain. Therefore, there is no Dali in the old age, don't abandon it, don't prepare one person. A gentleman is as strong as an ox and does not argue with the ox; Walk like a horse, don't compete with it; Wisdom is like a scholar, don't compete with a scholar for wisdom.
Respect those who are broad-minded and respectful; Those who are rich in land and keep risks are safe; Respecting the position of Lu, keeping its humble, is also expensive; The people are strong and the soldiers are strong, and they are not afraid of danger and win every battle; Smart and wise, those who keep fools will benefit from it; Write more blog posts and keep them simple and broad.
A moral person will not ignore his relatives or make ministers complain that they have not been appointed. I didn't make any serious mistakes in my later years, so I can't abandon them and blame others. A man of virtue, even if he is as strong as an ox, will not compete with the ox, and even if he flies like a horse, he will not compete with the horse for running speed; Even if wisdom is like a scholar, it will not compete with a scholar for wisdom.
A man of great virtue will be honored if he treats himself with humility. The land is vast and rich. If you live frugally, you will always be safe. If you are respected by senior officials and obey discipline in a humble way, you will be more distinguished; If you are outnumbered and persist in fear, you will surely win; If you are smart and foolish, you will benefit a lot; Learning more and memorizing more will make you more knowledgeable, but with superficial modesty.
(3) What are the examples of good family education in ancient history?
First, Sima Guang's "family model"
1, a mother, not suffering from lack of kindness, suffering from knowing love and not teaching. The ancients said, "A loving mother defeats her children." . Love without teaching leads to corruption, great evil, punishment, chaos and death. It is not the failure of others, but also the failure of mother. Since ancient times and today, many people can't be complete.
2. Mothers are not worried that they are not kind, but that they like them too much and don't know how to teach them. For the mother, Sima Guang thinks that the key to the failure of loving mother is to love but not to teach, but to spoil and spoil. Little children only know how to make a living, how to reach for clothes and how to make a living. The worst case is to let the children go their own way, regardless of discipline and lawlessness, so that they do disloyalty, unfilial and immoral things. In the end, they went to jail and became the scum and sinners of society.
Sima Guang himself said that family style is more important than tongzhi. He said; If you want to govern this country, you must first get your family together. In terms of studying the status in the world and dealing with the complicated contradictions around us, the family model is really important and practical. Modern people need to learn wisdom from ancient teachings and be a "secular person".
(4) celebrity family rules and family education stories
1, Hu Shi advocated "independence, sociability and emphasis on learning"
In the aspect of family education, although Hu Shi advocated "independence, sociability and emphasis on learning", he was also suspected of not knowing how to love children. 1929, Hu Shi wrote a letter to Hu Zuwang, hoping to cultivate him to live an independent, gregarious and hardworking life. The letter said, "What is that?" Class one should catch up with the top row of class one and school one should catch up with the top row of school one. Children with ambition should have the best homework, the best conduct and the best life.
Ji Hongchang didn't forget his father's instructions.
Ji Hongchang was born in Fugou, Henan. One of the leaders of the Chasui Anti-Japanese Coalition. 1920, 25-year-old Ji Hongchang was a battalion commander at that time, and his father Ji Junting was seriously ill. He said to Ji Hongchang, who came to visit, "Being an official should be innocent and modest, and think more of the poor in the world. Being an official is not allowed to get rich. Otherwise, I can't sleep in the grave. " Ji Hongchang promised tearfully.
After Ji Hongchang's father died of illness, he wrote the words "Official is not allowed to get rich" on the porcelain bowl, and asked the ceramic factory to follow the example of batch firing and distribute the porcelain bowl to all officers and men. At the meeting to distribute porcelain bowls, he said, "Although I am Ji Hongchang, I will never oppress the people and plunder their wealth. I must bear in mind my father's teaching that being an official is not to make a fortune, but to do good for the poor in the world. Please supervise me. "
3. Confucius' family precepts: Poetry is handed down from generation to generation.
Confucius' education for his son begins with being a man, not asking children to recite many words and do many questions correctly, but starting with poetry and courtesy. Why study poetry? Poetry comes from the heart and can express people's truest and sincere feelings, and beautiful words can make words better; Why do you want to learn etiquette? It is to educate children to be moral, polite, and live in harmony with others, so that children can be better people.
4. Lao She's family motto: Diligence is the foundation of being a man.
Lao She's way of educating children is still an example for people to learn. Mr. Lao She once said in a letter to his wife: "I think they know a few words roughly, can add and subtract, and know a little history is enough." As long as they are strong, they can learn a craft in the future and make a living without going to college. " If I see my daughter can dance and talk, I have the hope of becoming a star. My boy is as healthy as an ox, and I will be very happy! I hope my children can make a living by sweating. "
Mr. Lao She said so and did the same. On one occasion, Mr. Lao She's daughter only got 60 points in the math exam, which was a little unhappy, but Lao She comforted her daughter and said, "60 points is also very high! You are better than dad. I failed math when I was a child! " When my daughter asked Mr. Lao She what to do if she couldn't get into college, Mr. Lao She replied, "If you can't get into college, just stay at home and I'll teach you English.
5, Li Shimin family training: eat every meal, and then read the farmer.
Li Shimin, the second generation emperor of the Tang Dynasty, set a family motto, that is, "Remember the hardships of farmers when eating a meal at a time", that is, don't forget the hardships of farmers at every meal. Li Shimin, as a generation of emperors, never wasted money, treated others with an open mind, listened to opinions with an open mind, accepted talents, became a generation of wise kings, and realized the famous "rule of chastity" in history.
⑤ A short story about the family rules and precepts of celebrities.
Zeng Guofan has three sons and five daughters, and his youngest daughter Zeng Jifen lived to be 9 1 year old. 1875, once married into Niejia, Hunan. Zeng Guofan stipulated that each daughter's dowry should not exceed 200 taels of silver when she got married, as well as the homework list written by her father. Zeng Guofan wants to train his daughter to be a diligent housewife. In fact, her daughter did better than her father expected.
Qian Jibo is very strict with his son. When Qian Zhongshu was sixteen, he also gave him a beating. 1926 From the autumn to the following summer, Qian Jibo went north to Tsinghua to teach, but did not return to Wuxi during the winter vacation. At this time, Qian Zhongshu is studying in middle school. Instead of reviewing textbooks, he plunged into the world of novels. Father came back to ask his homework, but Qian Zhongshu failed the exam and was beaten.
In life, Feng Zikai called going out to do things "boring". When he was with the children, he was full of joy, holding the children, feeding them, singing and teasing them, drawing and making them laugh, and being very close to them. On one occasion, Zhan Zhan, the eldest son, asked Feng Zikai to carry him to the station to buy bananas, "grabbing hands all over the floor before coming back". When he got home, he fell asleep on his father's shoulder, and the banana in his hand had long since disappeared. Feng Zikai sighed in the article "For My Children": "What admirable truth, nature and enthusiasm! The so-called virtues of silence, implication and profundity in the world are unnatural, morbid and false compared with you! "
⑥ 50 words of ancient family training stories.
Father and son are honest and clean.
During the Three Kingdoms period, Hu Zhi worked as a county magistrate in Wei Guoyuan for nearly three years. After his death, there was no money at home, only clothes and boxes of books given by the court. Everyone praised him for his integrity. When Hu Zhi was the secretariat of Jingzhou, his family were all in Kyoto. Once, his son Hu Wei went to his house to see him. When he went home, Hu Zhi took out a piece of silk for his trip. Hu Wei knelt in front of his father and said, "Dad has always been honest and clean as an official. I wonder where this silk came from? " Hu Zhi said, "My son doesn't have to doubt that this silk is the rest of my salary." Hu Weiwei thanked his father for his reward and got on the donkey. Along the way, when he stayed in a hotel, he let the donkey go and cut wood to cook.
Later, Hu Weiwei also served as the official secretariat, with outstanding achievements and justified. After entering Jin, Emperor Wu of Jin received him. Emperor Wu of Jin talked about Hu Zhi's life story in those days and was amazed. He asked Hu Weiwei, "How does your incorruptibility compare with your father?" Hu Weiwei replied, "Not as good as my dad." Emperor Wu of Jin asked, "Why?" Hu Weiwei said: "My dad is clean and afraid of others knowing, and I am clean and afraid of others not knowing, so I stay away from my dad."
All landowners celebrity family rules short stories
1, Sima Guang taught his son well.
Sima Guang, whose real name is Shi Jun, is called Mr. Sushui. Northern Song Dynasty statesman, historian, official to prime minister.
Although Sima Guang is in a high position, he is strict with his godson and attaches great importance to cultivating children's awareness of self-discipline and self-improvement. He wrote an article that has been handed down to this day, "frugality to show health." He summed up the lessons of many sons of high officials and dignitaries in history who were decadent and decadent because they could not stand on their own feet in the shadow of their ancestors, and warned his sons:' Virtue comes from thrift.' Thrift is for fame, luxury is for failure.
Because of well-educated children, Sima Guang's sons are humble and polite, and have a successful life without relying on their father's power or family wealth. As a result, people all over the world know Rong Zhi, but they all know Sima's son.
Ji Hongchang didn't forget his father's instructions.
Ji Hongchang was born in Fugou, Henan. One of the leaders of the Chasui Anti-Japanese Coalition. He was a soldier in Feng Yuxiang's army in his early years. He was promoted to battalion commander and division commander because of his bravery and good fighting skills, and later served as commander of the Kuomintang and chairman of Ningxia Province.
1920, 25-year-old Ji Hongchang was a battalion commander at that time, and his father Ji Junting was seriously ill. He said to Ji Hongchang, who came to visit, "Being an official should be innocent and modest, and think more of the poor in the world. Being an official is not allowed to get rich. Otherwise, I can't sleep in the grave. Ji Hongchang promised tearfully.
After Ji Hongchang's father died of illness, he wrote the words "officials don't get rich" on the porcelain bowl, and asked the ceramic factory to copy and burn the porcelain bowl and distribute it to all officers and men. At the meeting to distribute porcelain bowls, he said,' Although I am Ji Hongchang, I will never oppress the people and plunder their wealth. I will keep in mind my father's teaching that being an official is not to make a fortune, but to do good for the poor in the world. Please supervise me.
Ji Hongchang's words and deeds were consistent, and he was innocent and upright all his life, serving the people everywhere. When Japanese imperialism invaded China and the people were in dire straits, he opposed Chiang Kai-shek's surrender policy and rose up against Japan. Killed by Kuomintang reactionaries at the age of 39.
The godson of the president is independent.
Former US President Ronald Reagan is not only famous, but also rich. But he strictly requires children to stand on their own feet and never let them rely on their parents. After his son lost his job, he lived on welfare while looking for a job.
4. Lu Xun's godson let nature take its course
Lu Xun and Xu Guangping had only one son, namely Zhou Haiying. When his son was born, Xu Guangping showed signs of dystocia. When the doctor asked Lu Xun whether to raise people or children, he replied decisively: "Raise people." As a result, mother and child are safe.
In the process of his son's growth, Lu Xun basically carried out the idea of "how can we be fathers now" and made him "completely liberated". He said, "What I take for granted now is nothing but love." According to Zhou Haiying's Seventy Years of Lu Xun and Me, Lu Xun's educational model is "let nature take its course, try not to give him too many blows, or even disobey his love, unless it is extremely unbearable and unreasonable". One day, Zhou Haiying refused to go to school anyway, and Lu Xun hit him with a newspaper. Later, Lu Xun wrote to his mother and explained, "It was loud during the war, but it didn't hurt."
The story of 8 family styles and family precepts
1, flawless jade, can be a national instrument; The son of filial piety can be Guoxin.
Supporting parents is a traditional virtue of the Chinese nation, which has been handed down from generation to generation since I started.
We do have some advantages, but we should also hide some. It's called self-cultivation.
I only insist on studying until today, so don't give up your youth lightly.
5, home, the guardian of the soul; Home, a warm harbor; Only the most beautiful place in the world.
6. Put filial piety first and respect first; Devote oneself to hard work in order to do good deeds.
7. Honor the elderly and strictly teach children and grandchildren; Respect the old and love the young, and be kind to Mu.
8, Yin and Yang, everything grows, parents are safe, and families are prosperous.
9. People are happy, not jealous; People should not be happy when they are in trouble.
10, do more good deeds, accumulate good deeds, and ensure family prosperity.