I am a primary school teacher. Let me give you my opinion. 、

Many people say that the little boy didn't "begin to understand" until the third year of high school because of his late development. This phenomenon does exist among students. Their grades are very ordinary in grade one or two, but they suddenly get grades in grade three or four or five or six, and some of them don't "begin to understand" until junior high school or even high school. Every child is different.

When I was in grade one or grade two, I obviously felt that boys were slow to develop. First of all, they are mentally late. Second, it is more difficult to get used to it. To put it bluntly, I think girls should be more sensible. Especially before the fourth grade, it is difficult to pick out an excellent boy in the class. Boys give teachers the feeling that they can't sit still, and then they are particularly naughty. But there is a key problem, that is, there is no difference between boys' intellectual development and girls', that is, compared with girls, they seem to be more naive.

Almost to the third grade, some boys began to sit still and listen to the class, so they can complete the tasks assigned by the teacher well.

I have a feeling about the "enlightenment" of boys, that is, children must be similar, even if they are not particularly excellent, they cannot be particularly poor. Those particularly poor children in the class have no study habits at all, that is, they can't sit still for minutes in class, whether in class or otherwise, or at the bottom of the class in the third grade. I feel the possibility of "enlightenment" is relatively small, because in the early stage.

Therefore, parents of boys must pay attention to developing good habits for their children in the first and second grades, and at the same time, their grades should be kept in the middle reaches, not too bad, otherwise it will be difficult to catch up even if they are "enlightened".

This is an interesting question, and I am very willing to share some of my understanding.

It is said that the child's third rebellious period is adolescence, and then, he slowly begins to really understand, the pressure of learning is also great, the people and things he contacts are also rich, and his cognitive ability is obviously improved.

However, they are still Xiong Haizi in your eyes. Because compared with other children, there are still too many places that make you dissatisfied, because you look at him every day, either anxious or a little proud.

The senior high school entrance examination may be a watershed. Some children have a sense of cooperation in advance, have been able to read the changes in the world, have understood the value of family ties, and have known that the future is in their own hands. They have matured and become young people. Their parents can rest assured that their teachers like them and their classmates admire them. However, many problems, most children may not know until the senior high school entrance examination, to achieve the goal, we must rely on our own efforts. This is a sign that children are sensible, grow up and mature, that is, they are beginning to be sensible.

In high school, after only one holiday, basically all the children began to understand, except a few who were too spoiled at home.

They began to have their own goals, their own plans, their own learning methods and ways of making friends.

Especially the students who live on campus, begin to know that if they go to dinner late, they will have nothing to eat, and not getting up in the morning will delay a lot of things. From enlightenment to partial self-care, children have embarked on the direction expected by parents and teachers.

Generally speaking, the sooner parents let go of their children, the faster they will mature. What parents have to do is to control the key points. As for the key point, most parents understand it.

Let go of your hands moderately to help your child take off earlier.

However, the melon will not drop until it is ripe. Let nature take its course and add fertilizer moderately.

It doesn't matter at which stage to help children start to understand, because children may start to understand at different stages. The key lies in the influence of parents' educational means and family environment.

First, there is no essential difference between male and female students in enlightenment, and enlightenment does not distinguish between men and women. Although it is similar to the saying that girls are more sensible than boys in ordinary life, there is no essential difference between girls and boys from the perspective of enlightenment. Even because of physiological differences, girls are more likely to fall into haggle over every ounce and are not easy to get out of emotional troubles.

Second, the type of enlightenment For children's enlightenment, we still have to distinguish from the type, one is the enlightenment of brain thinking, and the other is the enlightenment of mind and emotion.

1. There are several stages in the enlightenment of brain thinking. The stage in which the subject raises questions is generally manifested here, but it is not the complete performance of enlightenment, but only a part.

2-3 years old, children can realize themselves, and many things are to consider themselves first, which is the beginning of self-awareness.

After 5 or 6 years old, children began to try to think with their own thinking and make their own preliminary decisions. This is also the stage when the prefrontal lobe of human brain begins to develop, and children have their own ideas. Adults will think that children don't listen to adults. In fact, this is not the so-called rebellion and rebellion, but the children have their own thinking.

13, 14 years old, children's abstract thinking ability has basically developed, and they are trying to analyze and solve problems with their own logical thinking, which will be very different from the analysis mode of adults, so the so-called rebellious period of youth comes out. Its essence is a manifestation of children's increasingly mature personal thinking.

Around the age of 30, people still have a mature stage of thinking. After experiencing the test of life, people's thinking is becoming more and more mature, unlike in the past, when considering problems incompletely, their perspectives and thinking are becoming more and more comprehensive, and they can think from the whole and the whole. This is also an important stage of thinking enlightenment.

In the process of enlightenment, parents always think that children are disobedient, but they are not. Moreover, some psychologists think that children's disobedience is a sign of rebellion, which is unreasonable to some extent, easily misleading parents, but missing the encouragement of children's real thinking development.

2. Mental enlightenment, regardless of age, is directly related to parents' educational methods or family environment.

Understanding the heart is whether a person can be considerate and considerate of others. When we say that children are sensible, we actually don't mean that children can do things well, but that children know how to think for their families and others, not just themselves. A sensible child can be described in two ways: as quiet as a child and as moving as a rabbit. When it is necessary to be quiet, the child can sit quietly, but when it is necessary for him to move, his hands and feet move very quickly and simply.

It is not natural to make children mature mentally, but it needs the guidance of parents, and even the drastic changes in the family environment force children to change themselves.

There was a child who suffered family changes when he was three or five years old. He has been cooking for himself since he was a child, even taking care of his paralyzed mother. Such children are very young, but they already know how to take care of their loved ones and face the misfortune of their families bravely. This can be said that the environment has created a child's mental maturity.

The vast majority of families are happy, and children live a carefree life, so it is difficult to understand other people's hearts, and it is also difficult to quickly mature and become sensible and obedient. As parents, they need proper guidance in this respect and don't spoil their children too much.

Third, how to cultivate children to be sensible? There are two types of children's enlightenment, so there are two directions to cultivate children's enlightenment, but the intellectual enlightenment of two content centers is more important than the ideological enlightenment.

1, cultivate children's mental enlightenment.

To cultivate children's mental enlightenment is simply to make children sensible. We can always do it in the following two general directions:

First of all, cultivate children's basic etiquette rules and clearly tell them to learn to respect others.

The function of etiquette rules is to tell children what to do to do the best thing, not only to limit their words and deeds to a certain range, but also to tell them to keep their hearts in a better state. The first sentence at the beginning of The Book of Rites tells the core idea of the ceremony, "Don't be disrespectful", which tells us not to lose our inner respect in doing anything. When we have respect for people, things and things, we will naturally restrain our words and deeds and not do anything that hurts this person, thing and thing. Etiquette rules teach not only superficial rules, but also an inner respect.

Second, we should boldly take the initiative within the rules.

As long as it conforms to the law, you can do corresponding activities, such as sports, life and study. And it will not limit our thinking, how to diverge and how to comb.

Etiquette can calm a person down, but within etiquette, people need to act boldly. Being quiet and active is the maturity of one's mind and the concrete embodiment of one's understanding.

2. Cultivate children's thinking.

Let's not make it too complicated, but simple. There are three main aspects:

First, read. It is to let children read a lot of books, cultivate their reading ability, learn more knowledge, let children see more things and get in touch with more factual experience. This is mainly to provide a lot of material for children's thinking, so that children can have specific content when thinking.

Second, write. It is to let children write and express their ideas. Of course, words only represent, so to speak, painting and making. It is to promote children's thinking ability by outputting ideas in the brain.

Third, break. It is to teach children to analyze and judge, distinguish right from wrong through the analysis of things, and make correct judgments and choices according to appropriate standards.

At what stage is the so-called enlightenment for little boys to go to school? We can look at it from several points in time.

First, boys are more mature than girls of the same age, with a time difference of about one to one and a half years.

Secondly, what does it mean that there is a phenomenon called "third grade trap" in primary schools? That is, the grades of the first and second grades are good, but the children's grades have dropped greatly since the third grade.

This makes many parents very anxious. In fact, the reason behind it is that the content of Grade One and Grade Two is still relatively simple. Many children can easily face it as long as they have preschool classes in kindergarten, but when they have English in the third grade, many children are not used to it and their grades will decline after learning in the relatively deep water area.

Third, most children go through three rebellious periods from childhood to metropolis. Of course, this also varies from person to person.

1 The rebellious period is about two years old, which is called "the devil's two years old". This time is the process of children's self-cognition. The third rebellious period is called adolescence. After puberty, many negative emotions and energy accumulated by children from childhood will erupt, and the relationship with parents may change greatly.

But at the same time, the second rebellious period was ignored by many parents. This rebellious period exists between the ages of seven and eight, probably in the first or second grade.

Based on the above analysis, we can find that the boy's words may appear in the third grade or in the fourth grade or even in the fifth grade, which shows that he studies harder, sits more steadily and is more careful.

What is another point that needs to be emphasized? Enlightenment is sudden, a point, a certain day, but in fact it must be the previous stage of accumulation, there is no previous continuous accumulation, so there is no such thing as enlightenment.

As parents, instead of waiting for their children to start to understand, it is better to create a good atmosphere in peacetime so that their children can grow up better, and this enlightenment can come earlier.

To achieve this goal, parents must relax their mentality and accept their children's present situation. At the same time, they should improve the parent-child relationship and give more positive encouragement to their children. The key point is to influence their children with words and deeds, not words.

When we ask our children to attend class on time, we should not always be late and make excuses. When we ask our children to respect others and be polite, we must do this first. When we ask children to be careful and self-disciplined, we can't pick up the mobile phone and play games in front of the children until midnight. Do you think the children listen to you or watch you do it? This is completely different from saying and doing. For a child, he will only imitate your behavior, not just listen to what you say.

I'm glad my boy began to understand in high school. I played in junior high school and primary school, and I played in public schools all day in junior high school. Junior high school teachers are irresponsible to their children as long as they don't make trouble in class, talk, sleep or read idle books. It is difficult to control children when they reach puberty. During the epidemic, having a holiday at home is just playing with your mobile phone. The teacher once advised me to drop out of school, but later I didn't go to higher vocational school at my insistence. This situation can't depend on schools and teachers. Only by relying on the efforts of himself and his family, chatting with his children and encouraging them to support them in action, gradually, will he be willing to open his heart to us and strive to achieve his best results in the last two months after school. Smooth a local private high school. Small achievements, our encouragement and affirmation to him, and the children themselves have a clear direction for their future study and life.

Since entering high school, I have found that my children have changed a lot. I have never taken notes before, and I have never written my homework. Now the homework is finished on time and the class notes are very neat. This is a big leap for children. So a suggestion for everyone is to treat boys as friends, always pay attention to the changes of children and communicate frequently. I hope my experience will help you.

At what stage did the little boy start to understand? I guess the friend who asked the question wanted to know when the boys began to understand their studies, so that they could be patient with the current confusion and look forward to the future.

Because I also have a boy, I have had this kind of psychology, and I am very moved to see this problem.

Now that we have entered the realm of light clouds and light winds, let's share our experience.

First of all, we should realize that the pace of each child's growth is different, so the time for each child to "begin to understand" will not be exactly the same. Even to our despair, some children may never "begin to understand". So the basic condition for answering this question is that my children can start to understand.

Can begin to understand also has two conditions:

First, the talent is extraordinary, just waiting for the opportunity. For example, there is a true classic story in my life: my sister was famous for her stupidity since she was a child. She didn't pass the exam in Grade One, Grade Two and Grade Three, and got 30 points in the math exam at the end of Grade Three. During the holiday, my father told her all the books and did exercises, hoping that she would make up the exam and try to pass it. After the make-up exam, when I waited for the results in fear, something shocking came unexpectedly: this shock was nothing, just the beginning-from then on, it was all her fault that I didn't get full marks in the math exam, and it was easy to get high marks in college. This experience made me understand what a hearty start is! However, this kind of story can only happen to a few people with strange bones. Most people want to be "enlightened", but they have to look at the second point.

Second, families attach importance to education, especially scientific educational methods, so that children can naturally adapt to the development rhythm of intelligence and cognitive ability.

In fact, as long as the second point is achieved, then "enlightenment" is waiting for flowers to bloom.

As mentioned above, the rhythm of each child is different, so it is really difficult to define the specific time of enlightenment.

For example, in my children's class, there is a small composition written by a first-grade child, which is very sophisticated, clear and excellent. Compared with my own children, I was confused and anxious. I thought it was also because children had been studying in thousands of books since childhood. Why can't they talk when they look at pictures? Since other children can do this, it only shows that my baby is stupid! Feedback this anxiety to the teacher, and the well-informed teacher replied to me: "Your child is normal and the level is already good. Don't be better than those individual children, they are just beginning to understand early. " It seems that she put silly babies in a pile for comparison. It doesn't matter if we are stupid. Stupid birds fly first. Keep reading what you should read, and keep saying what you should say. Self-motivated, I managed to remain optimistic until the fourth grade (more than three years! )。 I'm almost numb, just mechanically holding the idea that we are stupid but can't give up learning. However, just as the children put the first composition of grade four in front of me, the feeling that I was shocked by my sister reappeared. This time, I know what "leap" means, to be precise, "quantitative change to qualitative change"! Their articles are not only fluent in language and clear in organization, but also full of emotion and imagination! At that time, my sister gave me a sense of surprise, and my children gave me a sense of comfort.

At this time, there are still many children in the class who are not on the way to writing.

Therefore, practical experience tells us that instead of expecting "enlightenment", it is better to wait patiently for the child's growth, conform to the child's rhythm, and use "no enlightenment" to soothe the child's confused and confused heart. As a parent, you only need to be diligent, then flowers will always bloom.

There must also be a push to be sensible, or the child will encounter a knitting machine himself. My son began to understand in the sixth grade. The previous math problems were all in the clouds and fog, and there was no clue. In the sixth grade, he went to the teacher's house and began to understand. Although it can't be said to be top-notch, it was ok in middle school. In the third, fourth and fifth grades, the teacher said that his son should not fall behind, just like those poor people, and he was satisfied. In fact, the basic IQ of most children is similar, except for a few, very few. Having parents to teach at home and having money to hire a tutor will definitely improve your study, but your IQ will not be higher than others. Take the situation of online classes at home during this epidemic. Many students usually study well, but they don't make up lessons, so they don't study. Later, institutional counseling was opened, and everyone went to make up lessons, and the study was gradual. If the child can't, help him in time and get started quickly. If we let them develop on their own. See the chance. Of course, there will be people who refuse to learn and can't learn, but this is also a minority. Most people have similar IQs. My child's first class teacher once told me that. My family is in Grade Two this year.

It is indeed based on psychology and pedagogy that boys "begin to understand" late. Most boys make rapid progress in their senior years, so there is a saying in school that "as long as boys work hard, there will be no girls"! However, not all boys begin to understand late, and not all boys have the opportunity to "understand"!

It is said that boys start to understand later, but psychologically a little later than girls. Maybe they are not so mature when they understand things and behave like girls, but there is no problem with intelligence. Research shows that their intelligence is the same as that of girls of the same age! Therefore, if parents let themselves drift in the first or second grade and expect them to "enlighten" themselves in the senior grade, their grades will advance by leaps and bounds, which is absolutely insane!

I once taught a student. He is clever, but he doesn't have any good study habits. He never attends lectures. He never sees anyone after class, never does his homework, and plays by himself or disturbs other students in class. The most important thing is that his parents spoiled him and told the teacher not to put too much pressure on the children. Their children are still young and have not yet begun to understand. If only they were a little older! However, the fact is that he doesn't even know basic calculations and doesn't know basic new words. Can you expect him to have an epiphany in grade three or even higher? ! Can he count down from grade to positive number one? ! I think this possibility is basically zero! That's true. Under the "all kinds of love" of parents, the child was completely abolished, and later he was addicted to online games and tired of playing truant!

Therefore, the so-called "enlightenment" is relative First of all, we should make all preparations for enlightenment and not let the children be too poor. Otherwise, when the child is really "enlightened", there is no chance to catch it!

Ok, put up with the question of the wrong character made by the subject accidentally, and I understand it as "enlightenment" to answer this question.

Education experts often mention that people have to go through three annoying age stages when they grow up from children to adults. The first stage is 2-3 years old. The second stage is 7-9 years old; The third stage 12- 15 years old. Many people prefer to call these three stages the rebellious period of children's growth. Here, I disagree.

I prefer to define these three age stages as three turning points. At these three turning points, as long as parents give correct guidance and education, children are more likely to survive or have miracles. Miracle is an abnormal behavior that is different from previous emotional expression, or begins to understand and work hard for the school; Or rebellion is more troublesome than before, and it will never be recovered. The turning point of thought is the external manifestation caused by maturity, ignorance, sobriety or abnormal internal growth.

1 year-old, 2-3 years old, children from ignorance to have their own understanding of the world, and can express it in a certain language, ideology gradually formed. They want to explore the world by themselves, gain recognition from the outside world and be curious about new things. At this time, their external behavior is very strange and even dangerous. For example, he litters toys, stains clean clothes, touches charged equipment, and even drinks ink as milk. These are not the intentional actions of children, but the instinctive curiosity generated at this age drives him to explore the unknown. At this time, parents' attitudes and practices are crucial. If they always criticize him in a sarcastic tone, they will give him the biggest signal:No. But this will not stop his curiosity, he will be more curious, and then his behavior will be understood as treason by impatient parents, which will force him to stop by beating and cursing, and the result will only be counterproductive or even worse; If your parents give you positive guidance, for example, if you get your clothes dirty, your mother will help you wash them and your mother will be very tired. Do you want your mother to be so tired? After guidance, the child suddenly matured a lot, showing the appearance of "enlightenment". He is more willing to cooperate with the follow-up education problems, and even easier to adapt to kindergarten, laying a good foundation for future academic success.

At the age of 2, 7-9, the child has already entered the third and fourth grades of primary school. The study life in primary school has basically adapted, and the novelty of going to school has passed. Next, more and more cultural knowledge needs to be learned. In addition, the third grade is also a time when the difficulty of knowledge increases, which is a great turning point in terms of children's psychological adaptation and knowledge difficulty. At this time, children are prone to falling grades and being tired of learning. Parents should not stimulate or criticize their children because their test scores have dropped. If you can face the decline with your children, you should find ways to improve your grades and guide them with positive examples to minimize your children's emotional ups and downs. After this period, parents will guide them well, and children will begin to be sensible for the second time in life. Too good, the results will go up; It's too bad. I'll drop my grades until I'm tired of learning.

3. 12- 15-year-old children are gradually mature and curious about society. They want to see the world from a broad perspective and feel that their behavior is limited. Emotions are prone to ups and downs. In the face of major events, we can't draw a correct conclusion by our own subjective judgment and objective experience, so children's emotions are capricious and easy to go to extremes. If parents don't be too nervous at this time, relax and give their children more time and space for self-digestion and thinking, they should face it with their children at the critical moment instead of preaching, strict management and stopping. I believe that as long as parents are patient enough, there will definitely be more children, and the transition period will be shorter, easier to understand and mature.

Most people prefer to believe that children's enlightenment is in the third stage. In fact, I agree with the importance of the first stage, but at this stage, the child is too young and his positive needs are ignored by his parents. If the first stage is guided correctly, it will be smoother and smoother in the future. Look, Xueba is different from kindergarten primary school, and its learning ability and habits are very good. It is not from the age of 65,438+02 or 65,438+03 that its advantages in learning are highlighted. It can only be said that the third stage is a sign of a child's mental maturity. However, if you begin to understand it well, you must try to cultivate it in the first stage.

I think it is generally divided into two stages. For example, whether the first and second grades of primary school study well depends on whether the third grade is good, because the homework in the first and second grades is generally shallow, and the little boy is interested in reading at first, but by the third grade, the homework will go up a step. If his academic performance is good, the reading distance of the little boy is basically smooth.

The second stage is junior high school. At this time, the little boy began to understand, and his lessons were not good. If he wants to study, he can change his attitude and catch up with his academic performance. If you get good grades, the environment changes in junior high school, or you make bad friends, it is easy to learn badly. At this time, if your grades don't go up, it will be difficult to correct them.