The image of a teacher from a child's perspective is unacceptable to teachers. What about the image of parents from the perspective of children?
You may say that a few parents are not good to their children. Anyway, I am amiable and approachable to my children, not the kind of overbearing parents.
However, a picture book writer draws parents whose children's perspective is "incompetent", and no reader dares to clap his chest and say that I am better than the adults in the book.
Jon Ai Ji, a picture book writer, is an adult, but his story is full of childlike innocence. The children in the story are very independent and smart, while the adults are naive and don't know it. Jon's I Want a Dog is a children's picture book. Children have read it and parents are more educated.
A simple little story can poke everyone's heart.
In the picture book A Dog I Want, the little girl went to a pet shop and told the clerk that she wanted a dog. The clerk took out the "cool anteater" for a while, and then introduced the "baboon baby who can chase the ball", "obedient python", frog, goldfish, lizard, albatross, kangaroo, wombat … but the little girl just wanted a dog. Finally, the clerk admitted that there were no dogs here. Before the little girl left, the clerk asked the little girl, can you tell me what's so special about dogs?
The little girl said that dogs are loyal, caring, smart and brave, which makes people want to hug.
The clerk recommended a perfect pet with these advantages-seal!
The ending was unexpected. The little girl likes it very much and takes the seal home.
In the first half of this story, the clerk did what every parent did-lied to the child.
The little girl wants a dog.
The clerk thought, you like dogs because they are cool, right? Then you must like anteater! You like dogs because they can chase the ball, right? Then you must like baboon babies. Do you like dogs because they can listen to you? So are pythons!
The clerk didn't want to admit that he didn't have a dog, but wanted to send the little girl away with other animals.
But the lie failed and the little girl didn't buy it.
Finally, the clerk finally admitted his mistake and tried to communicate sincerely: I don't have a dog, but can you tell me what you like about dogs?
After getting the little girl's answer, the clerk tried to sell it for the last time and unexpectedly got the little girl's approval.
The problem can be solved when you are willing to communicate with your child sincerely.
Be more sincere, be more patient and learn to communicate. Do you think you have read this book? That's not certain!
The reason why the clerk recommended the anteater was "super cool". The little girl said no.
Baboon babies are recommended because they can chase the ball. The little girl doesn't want it.
The reason for recommending python is "You call it and it will come to you". Little girl still doesn't want it.
Frogs are recommended because they can bark. The little girl exposed the lie of the shop assistant and became a little angry.
The shop assistant brought the dog out.
The little girl exposed the shop assistant, who was actually a lizard dressed as a dog. At this time, the little girl was very angry and covered her ears and didn't want to listen to the clerk.
After that, I didn't look at the clerk at all and kept saying, "No! Don't! I don't want it! "
Let's talk about it from a little girl's point of view. If you buy something online, you want to return it in full. But the customer service keeps telling you: you can exchange goods, you can buy the same model and the same value, and you can get a small gift as compensation ... After seven or eight rounds, the customer service just doesn't respond positively to the question: Can you return it? How can I return it?
At this time, you can't help swearing in your heart. What's wrong with this customer service? ! Can't understand people? !
Put any adult in the little girl's position, she can't be good-tempered.
But what happens when you put it in the shop assistant's perspective?
You have great respect for children, and you know how to talk to little girls as positively as possible.
You should apologize to the little girl for taking a dead goldfish. Willing to apologize to children is much better than most adults! )
You are very patient. Teach your children that you can train lizards.
But you are so patient, what have you got? It was the children who covered their ears and shouted "no, no!" "
This scene coincides with the daily life of countless families-parents are really patient, but children are bad-tempered and willful! Not obedient! Finally, parents' temper is often blown up. Fuck patient communication, the child just won't clean up!
From two angles, you will find that it is human nature for children to be angry, and it is also human nature for parents to be angry.
What is extremely terrible is that when you look back on the past, when you criticize your child and try to "cure the child's bad temper", what did you do wrong to make your child angry, or what did the child do wrong to make you angry?
Are you sure you are 100% reasonable?
You have serious business with your child, you are willing to apologize to your child, and you have the patience to teach and convince your child ... 99% of you are perfect, but 1% is wrong-your child wants a dog, and you are more willing to give it to other animals.
Empathy, can you imagine how hard the baby puts up with you every day?
Many parents know to be reasonable, to communicate and not to cheat. But there is a problem. Do you have to tell the truth about everything?
Admit that I don't have a dog
I can't do it.
Isn't this just bowing to a child and showing weakness?
In the process of children's growth, from birth to a long time, parents are his whole world. Everything in this world, including eating, walking and talking, is taught by parents bit by bit. Parents are used to doing anything in front of their children.
Children can't learn addition when they are first exposed to it. Parents start teaching immediately, 1+ 1 = 2, 1+2 = 3, as simple as eating and walking.
But the child didn't learn?
At this time, parents will feel very headache! How come my child can't even learn the simplest addition! I was so angry that my blood pressure rose and my chest ached.
But few parents realize that they have encountered something they can't do well, and they are not so good at explaining the simplest mathematics.
Some parents realized it, so they went to find more teaching methods from mathematics enlightenment books, made interesting teaching AIDS and continued to try with their children.
And some parents insist: I am right, but you can't learn. You are making me angry.
The previous parent, who was not perfect, always found that he couldn't do anything here and there, so he had to learn and grow.
The latter parents are perfect and self-righteous, but they are too naive in the eyes of their children. Children know that this adult will only cover up problems and fool children. Talking to him is like talking to a chicken and a duck. I don't understand.
Some people think that parents who have been studying, growing and solving problems are too idealistic. They are too busy with their work to solve many things.
Then, when we really can't do it, we should at least learn from the clerk in the book, admit the facts and discuss the solutions. If we can't solve it, we will face it together.
Don't always try to cheat children.
Parents don't know that their children know that their parents are lying, but the author of I Want a Dog does.
If you cheat your child next time, maybe the child will vomit you silently like the little hero in the book!