After reading the first book in one breath, I admire the teacher's calmness and wisdom in dealing with problems. It is really commendable that a teacher can control his emotions, look at children without colored glasses, and analyze problems objectively without labeling them at will.
For a class teacher, the requirements are even higher. We should not only learn to deal with the problems between students, but also coordinate the problems between teachers and students, parents and schools. Without superhuman powers, the Monkey King's eighteen kinds of martial arts are hard to achieve, and teachers need to keep learning, reflecting, summarizing and improving.
In this first chapter, it is outstanding that trust in children is the cornerstone of establishing a good relationship. Without trust, nothing. Because as a child, he listens to the people he trusts most, and a person who doesn't trust, even if he speaks well, the child will not accept it.
As parents, they are often full of distrust of their children, which is also the biggest killer of destroying parent-child relationship. Distrust of children means disrespect and disapproval of children and will destroy a child's self-confidence. There is a famous saying: If you want to destroy a child, destroy his confidence first. As parents, sometimes we are careless. We get angry casually, reprimand, beat and scold children, and even criticize children in public, giving them no face. This is very sad. Yesterday, I went to the supermarket. I saw a mother yelling at her daughter in the lobby on the first floor. The child's face was frightened and his eyes were full of fear, but the mother didn't know it and roared at the child in the lobby. Perhaps such a scene can't be remembered by parents themselves, but I never thought it would leave a deep imprint on children's hearts. With her, I will be awakened by the frightened scene in the middle of the night.
Therefore, as parents, try not to criticize children in front of outsiders and protect their self-esteem. Sometimes children are not afraid of suffering, tired and not understood. Learn to be a wise mother and embrace everything with unconditional love, and the child's mind will be supported, and such support will become a spiritual treasure for life. That's what Edison's mother did, protecting children's hearts, cultivating great inventors and bringing us light.
The second feeling is that as parents or teachers, we should learn to praise and affirm our children. Everyone is not perfect. We should see his bright spot and the progress of the child. We should use a magnifying glass to discover his advantages and speak them out, which will bring strength and hope to children. Just because the teacher said: if you are not afraid of scouring, you are afraid of being stupid. The child got his affirmation. Family ties have become focused, and the relationship with teachers has become a step closer. Everyone wants to be seen and noticed. If you say he is good, he will get better and better, and if you say he is not, he will get worse and worse.
I remember there was a student named Yu in our class. He gave a lecture in the next class for the first time. I met him and asked him to be an orderly for me in the future, responsible for the health of the podium. Every time I do well, I praise him for his seriousness and dedication, and give him a little material reward from time to time. In a year's time, his math score has increased from more than 20 points to more than 70 points. Especially before the middle school entrance examination, he scored 96 points in a mock exam, which surprised many students and surprised them. From then on, he often gave lectures to other students. He became a small lecturer, confident, happy, sunny and active, which made everyone like him. Later, I got more than 70 points in the senior high school entrance examination, which is already a very good result. As a teacher, we should learn to praise students, have an eye for finding beauty, and of course make use of the Marion effect of leather. What kind of person do you want him to be, he will grow up in the way you imagine.
The third feeling is that being a teacher is good. Parents should also learn to listen to their children's voices instead of saying a word. We adults have made mistakes, so we should learn to admit our mistakes, apologize and put down our airs, so as to win the respect of our children.
The class teacher in the article asked Hao to thank the math teacher instead of apologizing, which was particularly touching. After reading it, I feel a warm current flowing into my heart. If you just apologize, your child may feel guilty and feel bad. That is a kind of negative energy, which is not conducive to the healthy growth of your child. The transposition of gratitude will eliminate the guilt of children, be full of emotion and warmth, and feel the care, love, tolerance and selfless dedication of teacher Lion. Thank you for letting the children learn to be grateful, and they have a sense of responsibility and mission in their hearts. If they can't finish their homework, they will feel sorry for the teacher and increase their sense of mission.
I remember that once something happened in our class, which touched me very much. There is a student named Ding, who has been doing well in math. Every exam is more than 90 points, and he can't get high or low, especially every homework is particularly serious. After Tomb-Sweeping Day's holiday, I checked her homework and found that her homework was particularly messy. I was angry and gave her a lecture in class (which our teacher often does). When I finished her, she was a little emotional and said to me, teacher, I wrote all these homework in the hospital. At that moment, my heart ached. I have no right to speak without investigation. I bombarded her, but I didn't even know that my child was sick, so I finished my homework painfully. I knew then that I was wrong. I will learn to listen to children's voices in the future, instead of labeling and labeling them at will. I realized that I was wrong, so I apologized to her on the spot. Now I think I should thank her. It was her behavior that awakened me. As a teacher, I should learn to listen to children's voices, control my emotions, and learn to respect every life.
Later, at noon, I saw her lying on the concrete floor of the classroom, feeling sorry for her children, having a backache and not going home at noon, and insisting on going to school every day. Because the senior high school entrance examination is approaching, I dare not delay my studies, so I went home and took my yoga mat for my child and let her lie on it to rest, which made up for my guilt for my child. But my little move brought warmth to the children and touched the parents. A yoga mat links our love together!
The love that children need is true love, and the love that children feel is true love. We must constantly improve our ability to love by learning to bring strength, warmth and love to others!