Diary of Home Visit (1): I went to Zhang Xiao's home this day. The child is extremely emotional and often has fierce conflicts with his teachers and classmates. The main manifestations are: beating classmates in class, often leaving the seat at will or beating and poking classmates in class, affecting others to attend classes and not listening to the teacher's education. Once teachers and classmates can't make them happy, they will be willful and lose their temper. In the past, the communication during school hours reflected the problem behavior of children, and parents were embarrassed. The purpose of this home visit is to fully understand the children's family growth environment and personality hobbies, and to close the distance with children and parents. It is estimated that parents will talk about the contradiction between classmates. I want to listen to Zhang Xiao explain the situation clearly, including his inner rebellious psychology towards teachers and classmates. Exchange views with parents of children, reach an understanding, and make it clear that it is incorrect and unpopular to hit people and bump into teachers.
Zhang Xiao's house is new and big. It can be seen that the economic conditions at home are very good. There are several boxes of toys. Children are interested in four-wheel drive, and parents have laid tracks in children's rooms. Material aspects should be responsive to children and satisfy them as much as possible. However, in the creation of spiritual and cultural atmosphere, it cannot be compared with the Shen family.
My father, who is the leader, is not at home because he works temporarily in the company. During the nearly three-hour conversation with my mother, I became more and more aware of the real cause of children's rebellious and willful character-the doting and connivance of family education.
The mother said that the father of the child is very busy at work, so as long as the child asks and gives reasons, the whole family revolves around the child. I found that when the child plays the piano, his mother always reminds him to pay attention to the notes and speed, and never misses a difficulty. It can be seen that the mother's parenting style is to pursue perfection in everything, which seems strict, but in fact it is arranged instead. For three hours, Zhang Xiao kept running around the room, interrupting the conversation between teachers and parents from time to time and asking his mother to help him do this and that. At first, the mother didn't ask her children to sit still, but satisfied their wishes one by one. There are no clear rules for family education, which is a remarkable feature of this family.
I told Zhang Xiao's performance in school to my parents truthfully, told the whole story from the child's point of view, and told the serious consequences: parents created a greenhouse for their children without wind and rain and difficulties, and their children got used to this self-centered life. Because he can't get along with others, friendly children hate him; Because he is willful and can't listen to criticism, the teacher can't control him; Because I like fighting, I often attract like-minded playmates who don't change their bad habits, but I am bullied by strong hands. Then why does he like school? How to treat criticism and frustration correctly? What should parents do if they indulge blindly at home and can't satisfy him in the future? What will he do to his parents if he can't work for him in the future? Who will let him enter the society in the future? Who will serve him? The mother advised the children to stay away from those aggressive friends, but I thought, how can normal communication and collision between children be stopped by adults? Without communication, how can we learn the communication skills of tolerance, negotiation, obedience and cooperation? I feel that some parents may be elites at work and need help in their children's education.
I propose to delay the time for children to meet, and resolutely refuse inappropriate requests. So when Zhang Xiao called his mother to help him in the room, her mother didn't move for the first time, but told him that she was talking to the teacher and solving her own problems. The child immediately let out a cry and slammed the door. But after ignoring it for a while, it calmed down. But later, when the child won the mother's favor by coquetry, the mother gave in. Next, Zhang Xiao opens the refrigerator and wants to eat a second popsicle. This time, the mother stopped the invalid situation with words, then ran after it and took the popsicle back. This time, "no" is very firm.
The second tutor suggested that children learn to obey from sitting posture and make clear requirements. Learn to use polite language when you need help from adults.
Third, my mother must have a good talk with my father tonight to unify the ideas and methods of family education.
I didn't see my father in this day's home visit. Although it was a little regrettable, it was still a little effective, because the child's mother was moved and began to try to understand the teacher's recommendation.
For me, the harvest is not small, and home visits are really necessary. Children's performance in school is a mirror of family education. Children whose parents don't care move freely like weeds. Parental connivance is to fertilize weeds and let them grow wildly. Teachers must go deep into the family to truly understand the crux of students' problems.
Teachers should not be afraid to tell parents the truth, as long as the starting point is for the children. Communication in students' homes is often simpler and more harmonious than inviting parents to school, and the sincere recommendation of teachers will be easier to understand.
Every family is the cell of society. Once the school education is far away from the family and divorced from the society, it will become extremely fragile. Only by reaching an agreement with parents can school education achieve results.
Diary of Home Visit (2): I went to Lin Peng's classmate's house this morning. Lin Peng's house is two bedrooms and one living room, but it is also clean and tidy. Talking with parents, I learned that Lin Peng was born in Shekou. His mother used to work in an electronics factory, and his father used to be an employee of a state-owned enterprise. After layoffs, he opened a grocery store. Parents take care of the business in the shop and often leave him alone to play and study. The mixed environment of the commercial street allows children to enter and leave billiards rooms and other places from an early age. From this, I understand why Lin Peng called names and didn't like reading and fighting.
Lin Peng poured me drinks enthusiastically and showed me photos of my childhood. It seems that there is great potential for self-care. Xiao Lin Peng in the photo is chubby and cute. He told me that he likes jiaozi best, but he doesn't like eggplant, carrots and fat meat. Although he likes watching English cartoons very much, the CD player at home is broken and he hasn't watched it for a long time. Lin Peng's father was surprised. Obviously, he doesn't understand. Lin Peng told me that during the days when his leg was injured, Li Tian helped him go home every day, so he was very close to Li Tian. Then he showed me around his small room. When I turned around, I saw that my father couldn't help trying the CD player. It's really broken. I can see that he feels a little guilty.
The children's room was changed from the dining room, and the sheets and children's origami racing cars were randomly placed on a bunk bed. There are many compartments in the cupboard, but there is only one photo frame. In the whole room, I only saw an extracurricular Chinese that I only read a few articles.
I told the parents that he was very inattentive at school, obsessed with racing and bullying his classmates. And clearly pointed out that family education did not keep up, did not create a good learning atmosphere for children, and parents did not care about their children's learning and ideological growth. We agreed: first, every afternoon after school, grandpa is responsible for managing the children's homework and watching TV after finishing it carefully. Second, every day, parents take out a person to chat with their children, learn about school life or listen to their children read extracurricular books, and teach them to play chess or collect stamps. Third, urge children to get rid of swearing, swearing and slapstick.
Lin Peng was very happy when the teacher visited. When I left, he sent me downstairs. He also smiled and said that he would study every day and wear school uniforms as required.
This day's home visit made me feel that children are really the mirror of parents. How can children like reading if their parents don't study? It is said that the child is poor in learning. Did the parents insist on urging him to develop good habits? Or do you just want the tree to be straight, let nature take its course, and just say no matter what? For parents like Lin Peng, we need to strengthen guidance, improve their own quality and educators' awareness, and let them lead by example and influence their children by changing themselves.
Diary of Home Visit (3): I bid farewell to Chen Pengyu's parents and immediately contacted several classmates who lived in Vanke's charming city. It's only a five-minute drive from Phoenix Garden to Charming City.
Just entering the door, Chen Jinyu's father greeted him from the community, holding some small change, saying it was for our parking. He will naturally refuse to accept it, but his heart is really touched by the waves.
I had a simple conversation with Chen Jinyu's parents, mainly praising Chen Jinyu's progress in study, especially the change of study habits and the improvement of his grades. Parents are very happy to hear this and are pleased with the improvement of their children's grades.
When we left, Chen Jinyu's father insisted on sending us to Tu Yuqi's home. Although he is in a community and the children can lead the way, he still insists on seeing us off by himself.
From the eighth floor of one building to the fourth floor of another building, the distance is not far, but at that moment, there is indeed a little touch lingering in my heart.
Diary of Home Visit (4): It's past four o'clock since I came out of Ding's house. We went to Zheng's house for a brief exchange. Then drive home. Miss Xia lives in Tangxun Lake Community, and Miss Li drives her to the turntable. When Mr. Xia was about to get off the bus, it suddenly occurred to everyone that there were several students in the community. So I decided to choose two classmates to visit my house temporarily.
This was totally unplanned, so I contacted Xiong Yifei's parents in Xinhe Wang temporarily. Luckily, our parents were at home, so we went to Wang Xin's home first. Wang Xin's mother warmly received us, and we had an in-depth exchange on Wang Xin's study, life and family. After getting off the bus, I received Xiong Yifei's mother in the car. Towards the end, I got a call from nursery rhymes' mother. She asked us if we were still in Jiangxia. She invited a class from Sunshine's training teacher and came back specially. Unfortunately, we have left Jiangxia. I feel guilty after hanging up the phone.
Yes, the "Thousands of Teachers Visit Every Household" activity launched by the Education Bureau has enabled us to have deeper contact with parents and learn more about their children's learning and living conditions, which really benefited a lot. But limited by time and energy, I may not be able to visit all my parents in a short time. I really want to say sorry to them there!
At home, I ate a few mouthfuls of rice and looked at my watch. It is only seven o'clock. I fell asleep on the sofa, but it was already five o'clock in the morning when I woke up, only to remember that I didn't even take a shower.
Home visit, tired and happy!
Diary of Home Visit (5): When I came to Tu's home, only her mother and brother were at home. Not long after she sat down, her father called back and insisted on talking to me. On the phone, he expressed his deep apologies and apologized to me for not being able to go home. Actually, I understand that her family runs a restaurant on foot At this time, business is busy, how can she leave? But despite his busy schedule, he still remembers the teacher's home visit, and he is very grateful to the teacher for his respect.
Tu was transferred from Guanggu No.4 Primary School last semester. At that time, he didn't do well in the exam and had poor study habits, especially in class. But last autumn sports meeting, I discovered her specialty in sports, such as making her a sports committee member in the class. Since then, the child seems to be a different person. Help the classmates deliver lunch, and the whole team is not at school, helping to send and receive books. . . . . . As long as it is about class honor, she works hard. Moreover, my study habits have improved and my grades have improved.
Her mother listened to my introduction and expressed deep recognition for the child's progress. I also hope that we can be stricter with her and make her grades improve faster. In the process of communication, the younger brother who painted the kindergarten will drill around for a while, find something to eat for a while, and open the door for a while. The naughty and lovely appearance of the little guy makes us very happy. No wonder Tu has such a sense of responsibility for' things in class'. It turns out that this is inseparable from her taking care of her little brother at home!
It's so happy to have a younger brother.
Diary of Home Visit (6): When I left home, just after three o'clock, I contacted Ding's mother, who had just sent Ding out for training. Her family lives in the last row of houses, and we drove twice to find it. In fact, Ding is very obedient in class. We're mainly here to find out about her family.
According to Ding's mother, Ding is very good in other aspects, except for her inferiority, and she feels that her father can't protect her like other classmates' fathers. For this reason, sometimes I dare not get along with other students, for fear of being laughed at by other students. I was very shocked after listening to mother Ding's words. To tell the truth, the classmates that Ding observed at school were completely different from those mentioned by her mother. At school, she is cheerful and lively, enthusiastic and generous, and she can't see the shadow of inferiority at all. It seems that children in family life are sometimes different from those in school.
The home visit at Ding's home is probably the least that our teacher talks in all the families, because she listens to Ding's mother most of the time. In the process of speaking, her tears overflowed her eyes several times, and both Miss Li and Miss Xia handed her tissues.
When I left, a word popped up in my mind: poverty inherits the wind!
Diary of Home Visit (7): After dinner, I contacted the parents of Ding, Zheng, Nursery Rhyme and other students respectively. Because of poor communication yesterday, I called in the morning, so I arranged some parents' time temporarily, but I had to wait around three at the earliest. There are still two hours between now and three o'clock. Where shall we kill time this time?
Miss Li suggested visiting her colleague's house, but unfortunately her colleague went out immediately on business. I decided to invite two beautiful women to wash their feet for leisure, otherwise it would be too difficult to mix. Just when everyone couldn't agree, the phone rang. It was Zhijie Zhang's parents. She said that she is at home now and has time. Thank you so much, you really saved our lives!
I came to Zhijie Zhang's home and talked with his parents about Zhijie Zhang. Children are also smart, chubby and lovable. But I am a little playful and lack the awareness of learning. His mother said that nobody cared about him at home. His father comes home only once a week, and his mother works in the hospital. Time is not fixed, grandparents take him, and they can't ask him about his study at all. . . . . . His mother really wants us to do his ideological work and let him go to a homework custody class.
I immediately promised to do Zhijie Zhang's ideological work on Monday and let him go to the homework custody class every day after returning home. I believe I can do it, I must do it!
Diary of Home Visit (8): I made an appointment with Teacher Li last night to visit Jiangxia's home this day. Xia, an English teacher, also came back from a business trip. We met opposite the school and went to several classmates' homes in Jiangxia.
In Wuhan, it is hot when it is hot and cold when it is cold. It's very cold and it's raining lightly. I only wore a thin shirt. It's cold!
The first stop is Yang Xuan's home, in Miaoshan community. I arrived at his home at twelve o'clock to talk with his parents about Yang Xuan. In fact, Yang Xuan is also a lovely child, just like a lazy sheep on TV, and his personality is also very cute. Teacher Li, who teaches music in particular, just wants to find a "shit" prop to wear on her head. However, his study habits are not very good, and he is always distracted in class, mainly due to poor self-control and low self-demand. I communicated his situation with his parents. Mainly rely on parents to hire a tutor for him and help him manage his children more. Parents also agreed.
Yang Xuan's family opened a community clinic, which is on the first floor of his home. Yang Xuan always does his homework on the second floor. I think he can't concentrate too much, which may have something to do with this environment! When I left, I also suggested to his parents to create a better environment for Yang Xuan. Yang Xuan's mother insisted on inviting us to the restaurant across the street, and finally refused.
Driving straight to Jiangxia, along the way, we drifted past the hotel where Miss Li hosted us when she got married. Her proposal to eat there was unanimously opposed by Miss Xia and me. We "envy and hate" for fear that she will bring back perfect memories. Ha ha!
After arriving in Jiangxia, I found a private restaurant. Naturally, it's my turn to be the host. They saved me a lot and only ordered a few side dishes, but fish heads and ribs, as well as tofu, were really delicious. The first stop of Jiangxia's home visit made me feel that the private kitchens there were really delicious!
Diary of Home Visit (9): Wang Guanda lives in the neighborhood next to Liu Shilong. This will be our last home visit today.
When contacting Wang Guanda's father, he was the only one at home, his mother was still at work, and Wang Guanda went to a relative's house. On the sixth floor, when I entered the door, Miss Li insisted that I go ahead. I don't understand why. I didn't know he had a puppy until I entered the door. Miss Li is afraid of his puppy! Ha ha!
Wang Guanda's study habits are not very good, and his grades in every exam are not ideal. We told his father these things, and his father knew it very well. I'm talking about the last endorsement. At that time, he was the only one in the class who could recite The Theatre, so he became an "endorsement inspector" and was very happy. Looking for classmates to check every day, like a very, very big official!
Why did the child look like a different person at that time? Because of encouragement! At school, as long as the children behave well, I will not be stingy with my praise and encouragement. Then at home, how much I expect parents to give their children more encouragement and less scolding; Praise more and criticize less.
Parents, your wholehearted encouragement will be your children's bright smile!
Diary of Home Visit (10): It was very late when we came out of Shen Yili's house, but we decided to visit these two houses again. Liu Shilong is one of them.
Liu Shilong studied in our class in Grade One and Grade Two. In the third grade, he went to the United States with his mother, where he learned about "western education" for a year and returned to our class last semester. The little guy is smart, sunny, lively and mischievous occasionally, but he is very likable. Some students in the class gave them a kind nickname "Yankee".
When I went to his house, his grandparents were at home. Seeing the teacher visiting at home, the little guy was so happy that his mouth closed. We affirmed his achievements, but also put forward requirements for him, which was somewhat uncontrollable in class. During the whole process, Liu Shilong kept in touch with us.
I asked his teacher if he was happy with his home visit, and he said he was very, very happy; I asked him if he wanted the teacher to go home again. His head is like a drum. I said, what are you going to take out to let the teacher go home again? He said that in the final exam, I got 88 points in Chinese and 95 points in math, okay? I patted my chest and replied: Cheng! Of course!
Big hands and small hands pull up. "Hook, hang yourself, for a hundred years, don't change!" affix a seal