Xiaoshi just entered the fifth grade this year. He has been very nervous about his studies because he studies in the best school in the city. Parents have high requirements for Xiaoshi's studies, and Xiaoshi is under great pressure, but Xiaoshi can always resist the pressure in his grades. In the past, exams were always ranked in the top three in the class, but in the recent mid-term exam, Xiaoshi unexpectedly fell out of ten places.
Xiaoshi has been moping since the results came out. When he got home, he shut himself in his room, and it was useless for his mother to knock at the door. At school, too, the teacher found that Xiaoshi was always absent-minded in class recently. He usually likes to answer the teacher's questions in class. Now he only reads with his head down and doesn't even look at the blackboard.
The teacher reported the situation to Xiaoshi's mother. Xiaoshi's mother wanted to find an opportunity to enlighten Xiaoshi, but Xiaoshi went to her mother and said? I don't want to study? . Mother was very surprised when she first heard the news. After calming down, she asked Xiaoshi the reason.
Xiaoshi just said:? I didn't do well in this exam and don't want to take it again? Although Xiaoshi's mother encouraged her to say? As long as you do well in the next exam? , small stone still don't talk with his head down.
Mom also moved out of the example of Ma Yun. It is said that the college entrance examination is a lifelong one, and Ma Yun has not been admitted to the ideal school three times. According to the current academic requirements, Ma Yun's diploma is not brilliant at all, but this does not hinder his success.
He founded the largest Internet e-commerce platform in China, providing employment opportunities for young people and being enthusiastic about public welfare. He achieved complete success. If Ma Yun had given up hope for life because of a failure in the college entrance examination, he wouldn't exist now.
Mom told Xiaoshi that everyone will encounter setbacks, and you failed the exam. The most important thing is to summon up the courage to analyze the reasons for the decline in your grades, rather than obsessing over the emotions of self-denial.
When you grow up, you will find that grades are not a big deal. People live in the present, that is, at this moment you study hard and try to get into a good school. Once this time has passed, you don't have to worry about any mistakes or regrets.
After listening to his mother's words, Xiaoshi's attitude has also changed. He did not mention that he didn't want to study or give up. Although he is still in a bad mood recently, he insists on going to school every day.
After this time, Xiaoshi's mother is also rethinking her behavior. She has always felt that providing the best education for children is the greatest support for children. It seems that children need to learn much more than the knowledge in textbooks.
In fact, more than this time, Xiaoshi usually lost his temper just because his shoelaces were not tied properly; When I went out with Xiaoshi, I tripped over something on the road, and it took a long time to stand up by myself. You will always be in a bad mood after you stand up. Looking back now, it is difficult for Xiaoshi to recover from any setbacks. In the long run, he will surely fall in front of greater difficulties in the future.
Adversity quotient is more important to children than emotional intelligence.
In fact, there are many children like Xiaoshi. They grow in the greenhouse for a long time, and they will wither easily when they encounter external obstacles. How far children can go in the future is not only related to IQ and EQ, but also lies in? Adversity quotient? everywhere
The reason why children are afraid of setbacks and failures has a lot to do with their parents' education. In order to give their children love and support, parents always try their best to make their children happy both materially and spiritually. It's just that the world never depends on individuals. Apart from family, there is no environment that can give children a smooth guarantee.
It takes hard work to get good grades in school. Walking in society requires self-awareness and awareness of prevention. Only in this way can we deal with external harm and deception. Adversity is inevitable, and only improving one's combat effectiveness is the solution.
Children themselves are fragile. If we just create a safe environment for him to grow up, it will be vulnerable. Let children face setbacks and failures calmly and learn to give themselves the courage to start again. This is the real growth education.
Parents should not underestimate the problem of children's adversity quotient training. Many children have an indelible impact on their lives because of their lack of ability to face setbacks.
There are often news of children committing suicide on TV. Some children choose to commit suicide to cope with difficulties just because they can't finish their homework during the summer vacation and dare not go to school to face their teachers.
This is incomprehensible to adults, but for primary school students, if they do not finish their homework, they may face criticism and scolding. As long as the child thinks about this ending, he will feel scared. All they know is that they can escape punishment by committing suicide.
If you are a child with a good attitude, you won't push yourself to the wall at all. Even if you are scolded a few times, you will still be a hero in the future. On the contrary, a child with a heavy and sensitive heart is afraid of being criticized because of his fragility? Blx？ That they can't bear the pain of criticism.
Although they can't finish their homework, it won't affect their grades or their lives. Because of external requirements and responsibilities, they have to face up to this problem.
Neither parents nor teachers will tell him that it doesn't matter if he can't finish his homework. They will only say that he must finish it on time, and this is the environment. Only when children themselves have no ability to break through the predicament will they make extreme behaviors.
Most children face academic difficulties and may feel different degrees of pain, but they will not be forced to commit suicide. All parents need to know is that since their children's plight is inevitable, they should be taught how to break through. Therefore, it is necessary to improve the adversity quotient.
How to improve children? Adversity quotient? ? 1, give your child a chance to fail, and you can learn to fail.
In Where is Dad Going, Zou Shiming once educated his child Jessica Hester Hsuan because of winning or losing. Zou Shiming is a boxer and always wins in the arena. Jessica Hester Hsuan often watches his father's games, so he has developed a winning mentality.
At the beginning of the program, there were games. Every dad tried his best, such as eating noodles and stacking grass, not just by strength, so everyone lost and won.
Jessica Hester Hsuan couldn't stop crying when he saw that his father didn't win the game for the first time. His mouth also said that dad can't lose. Zou Shiming may have rarely encountered this situation before, so he can only slowly calm Jessica Hester Hsuan's mood, saying that dad sometimes loses and can't always win.
Jessica Hester Hsuan didn't accept it at first, but gradually realized the fun of playing games, and he didn't care so much about winning or losing. Only when you know that you have failed can you stand up. Adults are like this, especially children.
2. Encourage children, not do it for them.
Children can't solve math problems, because they are afraid of affecting their sleep, so parents work out the answers directly for their children. Although this completes the homework, it blocks the process of thinking and solving problems that children should have.
Maybe the next time you meet the same question, you can fill in the answer directly, but with a slight change in form, the child can't start. This will directly affect children's ability to solve problems and weaken their self-confidence.
3. Recognize and guide children's emotions.
Parents should empathize with their children's emotions. Children can't speak formulas? Isn't it that simple? , so to speak? Remember the formula first, then do the problem? Giving advice to children is far more useful than mocking.
Parents should not treat their children with personal eyes and ideas, learn to support and guide their children, and let them have the courage to solve problems, so that they can really exercise their children.
The real growth of children is not only a process of rich knowledge, but also a process of becoming powerful step by step. Only when people can cope with all kinds of difficulties in life can they survive in this world. Don't be afraid of failure, believe in yourself, agree with and practice what you think is right.