There are many "experts" in the Internet age, and everyone believes that the traffic is the king. It seems that as long as you pay more attention, you have the right to speak. In fact, education should be treated according to the results.
1. Compared with the founder of the once-popular "don't cry, just hug" parenting method abroad, he is an American named John Watson. He advocates that children threaten their parents by crying. If children know in infancy that crying can make their parents eat and hug, then they will always threaten their parents with crying in the future.
Some people still believe in this concept of parenting until now. Even Ma Yili, the actress, believed in never having a baby in her first child. I stopped crying and began to hug, but slowly I found that the child was very insecure, afraid of any sound, and always showed frightened eyes.
Watson's children have two sons and a daughter. The eldest son suffered from mental illness under his father's strict education. After many suicides, he completely ended his life at the age of 30.
Watson's youngest son is also unwilling to contact his family and runs away from home alone. As an adult, Watson's daughter suffered from serious mental illness and committed suicide many times. Watson's granddaughter, like her mother, suffers from severe mental illness, alcoholism and repeated suicides.
Watson's behavioral education law, which lasted for three generations, was proved by his family, which was somewhat unrealistic. Because children aged 0-3 are very dependent on their parents, children in this period need more and more dedicated love to feel safe.
If the child's long-term crying is not responded, the child will gradually become indifferent and stop communicating with the outside world, and psychological construction will collapse.
Li Meijin is a popular child-rearing expert. Her idea is that children need more love and respect when they are 0-6 years old, learn to obey the rules and care about others. 7- 12 years old, we should learn knowledge and establish three views. She argues that/kloc-children over 0/2 years old will no longer be willing to accept their parents' education, which is a kind of "nagging" for them.
Li Meijin, who practiced love and freedom, had a daughter who was not good at math when she was a child. Every time she reports her academic performance, she always fails math. Li Meijin didn't blame her, because she studied with her children, and the children didn't work hard, but they really couldn't keep up with the rhythm.
Finally, the mother and daughter discussed: I don't blame you. Your father didn't do well in math when he was a child. It's hereditary. Therefore, my daughter told Li Meijin that it would be good to choose a major without studying mathematics in the future. When she grew up, her daughter became a music teacher.
Although there is no high achievement, she is very happy and satisfied with her career. Inner satisfaction may be more important than career achievements. Li Meijin, who is engaged in the education of love, also perfectly embodies the educational achievements in her daughter.
There are always many educational methods and suggestions in the market, because children are different and everyone has different opinions. However, parents know their children best. When they grow up, they will pay attention to them before they know what they want to express.
Teach students in accordance with their aptitude, not blindly follow, and pay attention to be patient, careful and caring when treating children in the general direction.
1. Be patient
It takes enough patience to treat children, and it takes time for children to contact the whole world from a blank sheet of paper. During this period, there may be naughty and disobedient behaviors. Parents should accompany their children to correct in time and be a kind and upright child.
be careful
Be sure to pay attention to the changes that have taken place in children, which may be some kind of change in mentality. Fu Seoul once asked the child that he was bullied at school because of an ice cream. The child received the ice cream bought by his parents and handed it to his classmates, his eyes dodging.
After many inquiries, I learned that the child often bullied his classmates, and Fu Hancheng's son would be bullied, so the first reaction to getting something good was to hand it in.
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Nowadays, students are under great competitive pressure. Don't keep oppressing children, and put their emotional self-confidence first. Solving children's problems and caring more about children is what every parent should do.