This film is about a seven-year-old girl named Mary, whose IQ is extraordinary. When all the children of her age were learning addition and subtraction, she was already learning differential equations by herself, so she seemed out of place at school and she didn't like school herself.

Mary lives with her uncle Frank and doesn't know who her father is. Her mother Diane committed suicide shortly after she was born. Although Frank doesn't have a steady job, they always get along as friends.

Until one day, the little girl's grandmother Evelyn appeared.

Evelyn discovered Mary's talent in mathematics and thought that it should not be wasted. She must devote herself to the research of mathematics like the mother of the child. After failing to discuss with Frank that Mary should live with her, Evelyn hired a lawyer to fight for Mary's custody. Frank lost the case because he didn't have a stable job and was once detained for violence.

After that, Mary studied math with her grandmother Evelyn all day, and she felt sad because Frank finally gave up on herself.

Frank didn't actually become a man without a proper career because of incompetence.

He, like his sister and the mother of his children, has an extraordinary IQ, but he just wants to resist his mother's manipulation of their lives and finally becomes self-destructive.

At the end of the movie, Frank, because he missed Mary so much, summoned up the courage to find his mother and accused her of not arranging Mary's life as he manipulated his sister's life. He thinks that although Mary has excellent IQ, she still needs to experience the fun of ordinary people's life, instead of living a boring life of learning mathematics in addition to mathematics.

Frank gave his mother the proof process of a mathematical equation, telling her that it was told by her sister and would not be published until after her death, proving that this equation was the life goal set by her mother for her sister.

Evelyn finally painfully admitted her mistake.

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What impressed me most in the film was Mary's mother Diana, who never appeared.

Women who only appear in photos.

A young woman who chose to end her 27-year-old life just after giving birth.

A mathematician who has devoted his life to studying mathematical equations.

At the beginning of the film, she never told us why she committed suicide. Why would a promising mathematician commit suicide? Is it because her boyfriend abandoned her and her children?

In the movie, Evelyn regrets her daughter's death and unproven mathematical theorem. She thinks her granddaughter can inherit her daughter's unfinished business.

But her son Frank told her with facts that Diana had proved this theorem long before her death. Even if it has been proved, she still doesn't want her mother to know, and even hopes that her mother will never know when she is alive.

At this time, we strung together all the details in the movie and finally knew the reason why Diane committed suicide.

Diane showed her talent in mathematics from an early age. In her mother's words, it takes a billion people to have such talent.

As a result, Diane was arranged by her mother to study mathematics since she was a child, and was told that proving an equation that had never been proved was her goal in life.

This goal is actually Evelyn's own regret. Because she studied mathematics when she was young, she got married and had children. Because of her limited ability, she gave up mathematics.

So she hopes her daughter, and later her granddaughter, can realize her dream.

Apart from studying math, she didn't experience the fun of other peers, didn't participate in sports activities, didn't have friends of the same age, and even her only first love was solved by her mother with tough measures.

Every photo of Diane in the past is either a single photo or a photo with her mother. This is too abnormal for a little girl's growth trajectory, but Evelyn thinks her daughter is too special to waste time and energy to experience an ordinary life. Her daughter is destined to live a wonderful life.

She is lonely, even though her mother is always by her side. Her mother will refuse her any wish except math. Her mother is not a mother, because she did not give her children pure love, but manipulated her life in the name of love.

When she finished the life goal set by her mother, she didn't know what to do next.

She feels that her mission in this world is over, but she is very reluctant to let her mother be happy for her success.

She wants to carry out her only and greatest resistance by ending her life and covering up the theorem that she has successfully proved.

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Diane's life is miserable. Living according to her mother's wishes, she didn't willingly accept the arrangement, but she later took the most violent way to resist, having children out of wedlock and committing suicide.

She did give her mother a heavy blow, but her mother never really understood the root of her rebellion.

Her mother never thinks she is wrong. She thinks that her daughter committed suicide because Diane was too weak. She also thinks that her husband and son are weak and have many problems.

In short, I never feel that I have any problems.

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As a mother, the rights and strength she has are irresistible to a weak child. In order to survive, children will choose obedience.

When a child enters adolescence, begins to have self-awareness and slowly learns to fight for his rights, we think that the child has become rebellious.

Many parents judge whether their children are good or not by whether they are obedient or not.

Those who listen to their parents are good children, but those who don't.

Parents' words become the standard for judging children.

However, are parents' ideas correct? Parents are human beings and make mistakes. Moreover, even if it is inconsistent with parents' ideas, does it mean it is incorrect?

Are there no rebellious children in adolescence?

Yes, there are two kinds. One is a child who is used to listening to his parents' arrangements and has never thought of rebellion. One is a child who is respected and treated democratically by his parents, because he does not need to rebel.

When we are always complaining that our children are disobedient, should we also reflect on ourselves? Is the child's disobedience really doing something bad, or just not acting according to our wishes?

At the end of the film, Mary went back to her uncle Frank and continued to live with him. Mary studied with college students in college and realized the fun of learning. After school, I will play with my peers and have my own friends. Besides, Mary also talked with her uncle about all kinds of problems in life on an equal footing as before.

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There are three scenes in the relationship between Uncle Frank and Mary that impressed me deeply.

The first scene is at sunset. They are playing and discussing the topic of faith. Frank expressed his opinion, but also stressed that it was only his own opinion and did not ask Mary to accept it. Mary can have her own ideas.

The second act is a quarrel between Frank and Mary, but Frank is at fault. Frank calmed down and found that his impulse hurt Mary, so he immediately apologized sincerely to Mary, hoping to get Mary's forgiveness.

In the third act, Mary is very sad to know that her biological father doesn't care about her.

Frank took Mary to the door of the hospital delivery room and waited for the arrival of a new life with the family of a strange pregnant woman. The joy and emotion of the family outside the delivery room for the smooth birth of the baby also infected Mary. Frank hopes to tell Mary in this way that Mary's birth has brought them as much joy as those people.

Mary's mother was unfortunate because she took her own life to get back at her mother.

Mary was lucky because she met her family who respected her.

When we treat our children as equal people, or directly treat them as our friends, you will find that you will not control your friends' lives or force them, because you will lose this friend.

Children are actually the same.

Treating children as friends is easier said than done.

Because as a parent, I always think that I have the responsibility to make my children grow up better.

However, if the standard of quality comes from parents themselves, without reference to children's own opinions, or even the decision of what children will do when they grow up, who to marry, how many children to have, and so on. They must obey their own arrangements, and children will only become tools for parents to realize their self-worth in the end.

Because parents want to be successful parents in the eyes of themselves and the world, they want their children to be obedient.

The three scenes where Frank and Mary get along in the movie have actually told us what to do.

First, don't impose your ideas on your children, but encourage them to think independently.

Second, adults make mistakes. We educate our children to correct their mistakes and set an example for themselves.

Third, love for children is not just talk, nor is it imposed on children because we think it is love. The love a child feels is true love.

Children are not an extension of parents' lives, successors for parents to realize their ideals, and robots that need to be manipulated.

Children are independent lives and people who can have the right to choose themselves. We can support and guide their lives, but we cannot control them.