A practical way to get back at love rat. If one day you are wronged, how will you retaliate against me? I thought I would get rich, but I didn't? This may be a good way to get rich, but it's too difficult. Then find something better, but in fact, even if many people find something better, they will feel better lost. This is a cruel life, they can't let go of what they don't love enough.
Most women I know are not cruel enough, so they often get lost in love and don't have the persistent spirit of rolling down the stairs. When you are always hurt, everyone throws off their arms, clicks away, and then finds a place where no one is crying.
On this day, Miss Bodhisattva will stage a magnificent counterattack. She supports all kinds of older young men all the year round. When they are depressed, they hold clean bottles and touch their tenderness. They often exude the brilliance of motherhood, which makes people dare not stare. All kinds of ex-boyfriends, including the boss of a large advertising company, benefited a lot from her. These men all left her after regaining their spirits. They owed her money and didn't write an iou, so Miss Bodhisattva took a pen name, Bodhisattva.
Miss Bodhisattva has listened to the Prajna Paramita Heart Sutra hundreds of times, but she still hasn't changed it. This time, she decided to have a showdown with a heartbroken person. She decided to solve the problem on the highway. Of course, Miss Bodhisattva doesn't want to suddenly twist the steering wheel at high speed and die with him. She bought a pair of handcuffs, ready to handcuff him to the car and ask him a question, that is, whether to get married or not.
In those years when Miss Bodhisattva knew Mr. Son of a bitch, she was exposed to all illegal and criminal acts in the urban-rural fringe. As a person with high IQ, high education and high salary? Three highs? Women, how to degenerate step by step to buy handcuffs, all thanks to Mr. Asshole.
Mr. Asshole doesn't look like such an asshole, even looks bright-eyed and self-serious. He works slowly and methodically, which is probably his brightest moment. Miss Bodhisattva fell in love with him, but he was married and had a son. Of course, this matter has been kept from me before. Later, Miss Bodhisattva actually bought a short-sleeved T-shirt and went swimming in Sanya in winter. I looked at it carefully and contacted Mr. Asshole's itinerary. I said, I know who will go with you. ? Miss Bodhisattva said:? Stop guessing. ?
Then, my mobile phone received a message from Miss Bodhisattva. She accidentally lost Jingzhou, which made me feel that it was no accident that she was cheated repeatedly later. She said in a text message:? It's over. Zhang Dingding knows about us. ? This incident later became Miss Bodhisattva's annual joke, and her affair with the son of a bitch suddenly declined, starting with their reconciliation. A year later, the son of a bitch suddenly lost his temper. He is too ambitious, and his appearance is no longer down to earth. Idling around at home and engaging in all kinds of unreliable projects, most of them go up in smoke. The ashes also include his feelings with Miss Bodhisattva. The dripping stone made Miss Bodhisattva's patience to the limit. She couldn't give him up or love him, so she wanted to buy a pair of handcuffs and asked for an explanation.
She entrusted three people to get handcuffs after several turns, which enriched her bargaining experience with criminals and made her previous experience of handling false certificates and carving fake seals extremely naive. She dragged a colleague through a dilapidated wasteland in the urban-rural fringe and made a deal with a middle-aged retired policeman (who was said to have been fired). She took the 20 yuan back, and suddenly felt that she was a police flower.
Jing Hua's hands were shaking when the car went to the expressway. She sat in the passenger seat, her hands in her bag, sweating. Just then, she took out her handcuffs. Dad? An asshole handcuffed the son of a bitch to the steering wheel. Things went so smoothly that she almost grinned. She adjusted her expression and asked the son of a bitch to pull the car aside, then rolled down the window and took the handcuffs keys? Hey? It was thrown away. The son of a bitch looked at her and didn't think straight for a moment. She said that as a winner. Is there any way to figure it out quickly? We must finish our work today. ?
The son of a bitch shook his head, obviously finding the game a bit boring. He got rid of the handcuffs and did not panic. Then take out the car keys with the other hand. Miss Bodhisattva looked at him intently, and Mr. Asshole took off his car keys. There is a small key on his car key, which Miss Bodhisattva always thought was an ornament. At this time, she was shocked. Why is this key so similar to the one she just threw out?
Shaking, yes, as an ornament of Mr. Bastard, it turned out to be a pair of handcuffs keys! The second miracle is that the key can actually untie the handcuffs that handcuff him!
Miss Bodhisattva feels unworthy to be the savior of the monkey. After a brief dizziness, she resigned temporarily and wanted to post a post condemning the state for being too lenient with criminal suspects. Handcuffs as a special industry, who is managing and who is certifying the quality system?
Of course, things just went away. Mr. Asshole even tolerated the sudden attack of Miss Bodhisattva. A man who uses handcuff keys as decorations, I think, he should be tough enough.
I heard another beautiful counterattack, but the victim was my good friend. After he broke up with his predecessor, he began various trips to restore his body and mind and rebuild his spiritual home. He was exhausted by his opponent's hysteria. After a while, he signed up for a training class, flew to Vancouver and started again in a different soil. Before I could wipe my sweat, I was told by the ground crew that the round-trip ticket had been cancelled and I gave up the refund.
The news almost killed him. Before making a scene at the airport, he suddenly broke out in a cold sweat. He called his predecessor. Yes, everything is exactly the same as the idea that made him break out in a cold sweat. The other party confessed the facts of the crime and responded with two long smiles. Suddenly, he clearly said: When I was in pain, you walked around happily. I want you to give me everything I've been through these days. ? He sweated through the formalities, and when he entered the cabin, he felt a chill behind him. He even looked around for suspicious people in the cabin and nervously checked whether the seat belt was fastened. The shock brought by his predecessor is that only those who love you can follow you everywhere, and it is difficult to forget and remove it instantly. Every bump is like love before. It is not easy for Wan Li to fly at high altitude for a long time.
I don't have any more cases for reference on how to put unforgettable hatred into action and succeed in one fell swoop. I just suddenly feel that after or before separation, these unpleasant parts make the result of love ugly, which is the most poisonous, just stepping on something you care about.
But these retaliations that don't hurt the body and skin are not a kind of strong love.
The most effective and best way to deal with love rat is to pose 1: to get back at him by faking his death for a month and then coming back to life.
Among all the uncomfortable and ugly gestures to leave him, Xiao Yanqin chose the most difficult and intense way: suspended animation.
2011165438+1On October 25th, Xiao Yanqin's younger brother published her suicide note on the blog. She was declared to have committed suicide, and her ashes were scattered to the sea. Ex-husband and mistress forced to die? The news spread all over China. Bitch man? Jiang Hong and Xiao San Yoga Yu were attacked by netizens all over the country. However, what is particularly dramatic is that on the day of 20 12 65438+ 10/0, Xiao Yanqin? Resurrection with blood in the same place? . She was interviewed on BTV: Yes, I am Xiao Yanqin who wrote the suicide note. I don't know what else to say. Let me take a bow! I'm terribly sorry! ?
Pose 2: expose him to the unit leaders and colleagues.
? Leaders, teachers and teachers of Fudan History Department:
Excuse me, gentlemen. I am the wife of xc, a history teacher. I think I should let everyone know the truth?
When Ms. Sheng announced to the history department of Fudan University that her husband, Mr. Xu, was having an affair with a young female teacher, Miss Qian, in a long article of 8,000 words on Teacher's Day on September 15, she certainly imagined that her husband and mistress would be drowned by spitting, but she never imagined that she would get a lot of sympathy and solidarity, and almost the same amount of accusations and accusations.
In this triangle relationship, his wife, husband and mistress are all intellectuals studying abroad, and his wife, Ms. Sheng, posted posters, which made many people equate her with a street shrew with little education.
Pose 3？ Angry Weibo?
Dai Li, an assistant angel investor, chose Sina Weibo to publicly expose his animal nature to the world.
At the end of one year, she publicly disclosed in her Weibo that her boyfriend cheated several girls into having sex for several days, and then abandoned them. She met several famous investors and Sina bloggers who may have a working relationship with him: Do you know that?/You know what? Do you know that?/You know what? He broke my heart! With him for more than a year, he has been deceiving me to go out and sleep with girls. He really has a personality problem! Be careful when working with him! ?
She set a fire that winter.
Qiqi (pseudonym), a 32-year-old writer, recalls the breakup and still thinks she is crazy.
? It was a winter, and he told me calmly? Let's share it. We're not right, okay? , and then hang up. I was very surprised at his reason, calmness and decisiveness. He was angry and sad. I really wanted to see him face to face and see his reaction, so I went to him and waited for him to come back in his dormitory.
I waited about two hours, but he didn't come back. His cell phone is turned off. I'm sad and angry. I feel abandoned, my heart seems to explode, but I don't know what to do. I went straight to the supermarket and bought two bottles of Xiao er. I went back to the dormitory and directly fell on his bed and lit a fire.
I don't want to hurt him or anyone. When I saw the fire start to smoke, I went to the corridor to shout? Is there a fire? I saw someone with a fire extinguisher, so I left. I don't think it's a big deal. ?
There are many more? Posture? What is more serious and violent is that some women have served their sentences in prison for their actions, and some women have paid the price of their lives. Apart from the original explanation of our primitive brain's takeover behavior, why are they like this?
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There is no psychological separation.
? Whether coming back from the dead, exposing him publicly in Weibo, or even setting a lion on fire and asking for money, women's demands are the same, and the situation is the same. They just don't want to be separated from each other psychologically, so that they can continue to feel hurt. Even though they have been separated legally and have announced their breakup, there is still no psychological boundary that has been separated. ? Psychological counselor Dong said.
They have a strong tearing pain for separation, which makes them in a state of post-traumatic stress for a period of time.
At the same time, the psychological energy of hoping that the other party will be punished is very strong and may be hysterical. I don't care what the social evaluation is, but I want revenge. If I put it into practice, the consequences may be serious. ?
A deeper love addiction
Being derailed by breaking up and the pain and suffering we have to bear in it are described by many people as greater than abstinence.
American psychotherapist Howard? Halpern used it in How to Leave Him? Addiction? Explain this phenomenon:? In a love relationship, it is common for one party to become addicted to the other. Addictive relationships do have elements of love and commitment, but,
People who are truly loved and promised must be free to choose others, and one of the characteristics of addiction relationship is to limit this freedom, that is, it is a compulsive desire caused by addiction.
People who are addicted to alcohol or drugs know that alcohol or drugs are not good for them, but they will have a desire to push them to these things. When there is a strong addictive factor in a relationship, this feeling is manifested as: I must have him. Even if the relationship with him is not good for me, I will maintain it.
? The first feature of addiction is compulsion, and the second feature is fear that substances may disappear. People who are addicted to alcohol will be flustered if they don't know where the next glass of wine will come from. People who are addicted to alcohol will experience the same extreme panic when their drugs run out. Heavy smokers fidget in places where smoking is forbidden. People in an addictive relationship will panic at the thought of the breakdown of this relationship. ?
Really? Addiction? There is huge psychological energy hidden behind it. Even if this is an asshole, I want to contact him. When I can't contact him, I can't keep him. When my integrity given by him is destroyed, this psychological energy is likely to form a huge revenge equivalent: let him suffer, let him beg for mercy, let him be accused by thousands of people, and let him lose his job.
? Didn't finish a funeral?
Remember the title of the movie "If You Are the One 2"? Roi played by Ge You Ge is the host of the divorce ceremony of his good friends Mango () and li xiangshan ().
But in real life, many separations are not so peaceful. Women choose revenge, and the consequences are light and heavy.
? They did not psychologically complete the separation of mourning. ? Gong Xueping, a psychological counselor, said. She analyzed,
In our culture and social psychology, there are many negative comments and disastrous imaginations about breaking up and divorce, and there are few examples of benign dissolution around us, so that we are so hasty and difficult when we separate.
? For example, a woman writer who bought two children can drink her wine to mourn her lost love. If she had a friend with her and scolded love rat together, her second child would not be a dangerous liquid for arson. ?
The most constructive revenge gesture: live beautifully
In You from the Stars, there are 2000 people on TV. What is the secret of the host's interview to keep her attractive? Two thousand especially honest answer:? Beautiful! ?
Gong Xueping, a psychological counselor, believes that there is one of the freest and most beautiful revenge postures: live beautifully!
Revenge is our instinct. The man who is captured by revenge is not really free, because he still lives in an obsession with love. When we have revenge, we work more instinctively and don't really control our out-of-control life. However, after revenge, you may face a legal, social and family mess.
In other words, revenge is a prison in your heart. You must let yourself out and set yourself free.
How to live freely and beautifully?
In our program, Gong Xueping, a psychological counselor, said: Tear off your victim role, complete your other social functions, and let yourself be like a newly blooming flower with a brand-new attitude. Attract bees and butterflies? Let the butterfly in your heart fly out, whether you say revenge or the return of the queen, it is a more comfortable direction for people and themselves. ?
The love rat Identification Manual keeps giving you endless hope, but it will never come.
I never got it, but I seem to have lost it countless times.
Rourou Tao
scrambled
The attitude towards feelings is very casual and sloppy, and most of them belong to? Impulsive love?
You can't have a good beginning, let alone a good ending. Most of them end in chaos.
@ Cat Watching the Sun
Extremely selfish, rarely consider each other.
Sometimes it will make you feel that he really likes you, and sometimes it will make you feel that he is far away from you.
@ Jiarennan
When others talk about feelings with him, he uses reason.
When people talk to him about reason, he talks about feelings.
@ jingjing jingjing
I tell you, many people like him, and his strange appearance makes you like him more and more.
Pretending to be poor and lonely, saying that I don't feel so lonely when I am with you, is to guess that women are easy to be virgins.
@Cindy
He will arbitrarily enlarge and pretend to be reasonable because of some small things you did wrong, and then let you realize how failed you are.
Then, in turn, comfort you, saying that you can actually be better, suggesting that as long as you deal with it in the way he taught you, there will be changes.
Let you gradually begin to doubt yourself, feel that everything he said is right, and make you feel that he is your savior.
@ jingjing jingjing
Usually he acts like a warm man in trivial matters, which makes you think he is super sweet.
After he was in a bad mood or you two were angry, he became extremely indifferent to you and didn't care about your feelings.
Even chilling.
After a while, he will suddenly become very considerate and make you fantasize about hope. He still loves you.
It went on endlessly, playing with applause.
@ 丫丫丫丫丫丫丫丫 Huang Dajing
Love rat will think that your insecurities caused by irresponsibility are due to your lack of self-confidence.
To say that you need to be strong enough inside, to put it mildly, you give yourself a sense of security rather than others.
Typical irresponsible and erect a memorial arch!
@ kemin
Say what's wrong with me, and hope that everything I improve will be beneficial to him.
For example, be thinner and do housework frequently.
Be lenient with self-discipline, be strict with law-abiding, and cultivate qualities that are beneficial to him.
He takes a lot, but pays very little.
@ Honey, it's the desert.
Once, a boy told me that he was single, but there were several girls who took him and pretended to take him flying.
Asked me if I would like to join his harem group ... hahaha, Nima laughed me to death.
Why love rat is love rat is to live in his naive outlook on life and values, being self-righteous and not knowing it.
@ zhaozhaoyi
The surface is always? I won't touch you? Abstinence, and then look you in the eye and tell you seriously? I am honest and will never bully you.
However, when I started kissing, my hands were everywhere, and I couldn't wait to hit a home run at once.
@ Haiduo
Seldom willing to help others, always thinking of other people's intentions.
@ Yue Er Wan Wan
I asked:? Do you like me? Hey?
He replied:? See your performance?
depth of field
If I don't love you, I am still wasting it with you. I want the girls to speak first.
Obviously, it is your cold violence that blames you for not being sensible. It's really ten thousand deaths.
@ grapefruit
I can talk to you all night and talk to you about all kinds of restrictions. There is an appointment between the words and the words.
After making you interested, you said it was all in your imagination and you wouldn't like you.
Can only say that girls are stupid, he just wants to talk to you about sex, but you want to talk to him about love.
Miaoyizhi cat
A good man is a person who lives an honest and clean life, has a sense of morality and can control himself.
Love rat is the opposite.
@ Tangtangtangqiuer
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