Parents should be educated to be professional parents, professional parents and parents who are really capable of raising their children. Generally speaking, parents in China have never regarded "raising children" as a serious, systematic, scientific post that requires professional competence certification. "Parents change, children change", parents are the most important "cultural template" for children, and 80% of problem children's influence comes from family. Therefore, parents should always be learners, explore educational wisdom in practice, be patient, restrained and persistent, forget their parents' dignified faces, become children's partners and accompany their children to grow up. It is the best thing in life to discover the internal order of children's growth, create a relaxed family education and cultural atmosphere, and help children grow naturally. For children, no one can replace their parents. Therefore, parents should seize the critical period of their children, and parents should let their children feel the key words of family education: love, appreciation, dialogue, responsibility, understanding, initiative, persistence, patience and understanding. Parents should see that "potatoes are different from potatoes". Different children have different characteristics, but they can be equally excellent. They should accept their differences, find their children's "advantageous development areas" and help them develop naturally.
Have the idea of being a professional parent.
However, there are still many "misunderstandings" on the issue of "how to educate a child so that the child can be born a complete person in the future".
One of the misunderstandings: misleading standards.
The new generation should be a generation with ideals, morality, education, skills and discipline, but what some parents inculcate in their children is how to find a comfortable job and earn more money when they grow up. According to this standard, they can only create deformed "people"!
Myth 2: misleading way.
Still spoil, everything is child-centered, "little emperor" and "little princess" are spoiled by me, so arrogant that they can't stand the wind and waves, grievances and setbacks; Or simple and rude, and often beat and scold. Don't you see, it is difficult to produce a new person with sound personality and pioneering spirit under the stick.
Myth 3: misleading behavior
Educate children to love learning, to be moral, to be disciplined, to strive for progress, but to be ignorant, and to indulge in "Fangcheng" and other things every day. In such an environment, how difficult it is for children to become "people"!
A mother should also be a child's first teacher. Mom, it is too important for a person's life. In modern China, many cultural celebrities have grown up thanks to their mothers' education. Many of Lu Xun's life interests were cultivated under the influence of his mother. /kloc-at the age of 0/8, with the understanding and support of his mother, Lu Xun gave up his traditional career and chose to study Westernization in the Westernization School. Mao Dun said that before he was twenty-five, he was completely under the "political instruction" of his mother. His mother's studious, sensitive and open-minded characteristics are almost fully reflected in Mao Dun. Guo Moruo also said: "In my life, especially in my childhood, my mother certainly had the greatest influence on me." Ba Jin's memory of his mother is: "She taught me to love all people." "She let me know the word' love'. She was the core of my childhood world. " So he said, "My first husband was my mother." Learn to be a parent and be careful not to let your child become a "contradiction maker". Although many times, the birth of a child will bring the distance between parents closer, sometimes it will temporarily worsen the marriage relationship. The past two-person world has now become a three-person world. Jealousy, ups and downs of sexual relations and the resulting sense of pressure will all lead to the loss of intimacy between husband and wife. The appearance of babies sometimes changes the relationship between husband and wife and their emotional focus. For example, the wife is too focused on the children and ignores the husband. In other words, the husband's indifference to his postpartum wife makes her feel left out. Therefore, it is best for mothers to temporarily adjust their focus to their families and give up their jobs for the time being. Fathers should also be prepared to put more energy into their families and take better care of their wives and children.
Family education should take off the coat of utility.
Nowadays, many parents have a strong utilitarian color on how to train their children. Therefore, if children want to grow up healthily, family education must take off the utilitarian "coat". Many parents believe that it is the success of family education to train their children to enter famous schools, find good jobs, earn high salaries and have a good future. This is also a problem facing our whole society. Parents firmly believe that "skills are not overwhelming", misinterpret quality education as one-sided "all-round development", and let their children run around in various examination rooms and stadiums, expecting their children to be "qualified" rather than "works" in the future.
Parents always say "children can't lose at the starting line". Actually, life is a marathon, not a sprint. Whether children can reach the end point happily through family education and experience the process of life happily is the most important thing. Therefore, we should take family education as a national education strategy, vigorously develop family education and establish a complete system. At the same time, the education system should assume the responsibility of family education, so that parents can accept advanced educational concepts and master basic educational methods. Family education urgently needs professional guidance. In September 2007, China Employment Training Technical Guidance Center of the Ministry of Labor and Social Security, China Youth Research Association and China Youth Research Center Training Center decided to jointly carry out the pilot training of "Family Education Instructors" nationwide. The so-called family education instructor refers to a person who uses scientific theories and methods to give professional guidance on family education knowledge, question consultation, information service and activity organization. Or in short, family education instructors are professional workers who can help parents do a good job in family education in a scientific way. In developed countries such as Europe and America, there are 1 family (parent-child) education guidance experts for every 300 people, and there are 800,000 family education guidance experts in the United States.
At present, there are less than 20,000 family education guidance experts with professional quality in China, including 1 and nearly 70,000 talents. Considering the tense parent-child relationship in our country, our family education is in a state of lack of professional guidance and urgent need of professional guidance. At present, family education tutor is still a relatively new concept in China. Family education tutors need to update people's ideas when they enter China, but I believe that with the efforts of all parties, it will become a career with vitality and development potential, and will definitely enter thousands of families in China.