Since my son was four months old, before breast-feeding, we first gave him some orange juice, and then added banana puree, apple puree, carrot puree, green vegetable porridge and so on. Older, start feeding him soup, boiled eggs and potatoes. Cereal crops are the best food that most children like to eat, but Carl doesn't like them. I think a child's favorite food is good food, so I only give him what he likes. But we won't let him eat meat until he is two years old.
There is a German proverb: "A person's character depends on food." Food does have something to do with people's personality. Someone once advocated "diet therapy". They think that letting children eat different foods can make them form different personalities. For example, giving children more carrots will make their teeth and skin beautiful; Eating more potatoes can improve children's logical thinking; Eating kidney beans can increase children's interest in art; Cabbage and cauliflower will make children think simply and become ordinary people; Eating green vegetables is prone to rash. In this way, children who hate math can eat more potatoes, children who are not interested in art can eat more beans, children who lack perseverance eat peas, and children who are grumpy eat cabbage.
Half a month after my son was born, we insisted on feeding him regularly and feeding him water, so that his biological clock was more regular from the beginning. Even after he can eat, he can only drink water between meals and can't eat other snacks, lest his stomach always get no rest and his blood always concentrates in his stomach instead of his brain. If a child's energy is only used for digestion, his brain will not develop well. In addition, eating too much not only hinders children's brain development, but also harms children's health and makes them suffer from various gastrointestinal diseases.
It is generally believed that educating children means teaching them to read, read and learn knowledge. Admittedly, these are an indispensable part of education, but they are not enough. I think, from a baby to an adult, in this long process, everything is inseparable from education. Unfortunately, many parents and even some education experts are not aware of this.
Take children eating as an example. Generally speaking, the more you eat, the better, and the better for your health. That was not the case. Eating too much will not only hinder the development of the brain, but also make children's brains think that eating can solve all problems. You know, for a baby, besides being sick, the most uncomfortable thing is hunger. If the baby is hungry, giving him a lot of food and making him eat too much will make him think that eating to fill his stomach is the only way to eliminate uncomfortable feelings. When he grows up, he will form the habit of relying too much on material things.
Of course, here, I don't want parents to limit the food their children need, but I want to remind parents who love their children. Everything should have a reasonable limit, so should eating.
One day, I saw my wife feeding little Carl milk, so I went over and asked, "Honey, did you seem to have fed it just now?"
"Yes, I think he is crying, so I want him to drink more milk." The wife said.
"No, Carl just had enough. He doesn't need to eat anything else, at least not yet. " I took the bottle back from my wife and said.
Because of the sudden loss of delicious food, little Carl burst into tears, and his wife was a little unhappy and didn't understand my behavior.
At this moment, Carl's grandmother came over.
"God! How can you treat this poor child like this? " Grandma complains endlessly. "The baby wants to drink milk, why not let him drink. Children are born so unlucky, why should they be treated like this? Oh, my poor child! "
"Not that I don't want him to drink milk. I just don't think he needs it yet. " I explained.
"You always say that you want to cultivate Carl into a successful person, but how can he succeed if you don't let him drink milk? You always talk about education, I feel useless. " Grandma said angrily.
I have nothing to say about my grandmother's incomprehension. How can I argue with such a kind grandmother?
Afterwards, I explained the truth to my wife and told her that loving children is not blindly caring for him and obeying him. We should treat his training and education rationally.
My wife knows everything and is sensible. Since then, she has never been too obedient to her children as before.
Some people may think that I have gone too far, but in any case, I think my approach is correct. Because the cultivation of excellent children needs to start from these details in life, so don't ignore anything that seems trivial.
Someone once said, "Different stomachs make different people. It determines whether this person becomes an optimist or a misanthrope. " I think this sentence shows that eating not only affects people's physiology, but also affects many other aspects.
Children sometimes cry for no reason. Adults always think that children must be hungry or sick when they cry. Actually, it's not.
Like adults, children have a desire to be valued by others. Even newborn babies will have this instinctive desire, which is almost born to adults.
It is true that we all expect to be respected or valued by others. However, in our life, how many people have really done this?
Some people get attention from others through their own talents, while others get attention through their own efforts. In either case, it deserves our respect. However, there are also many people who take the attitude of begging and giving alms because they are eager for the attention of others. This kind of practice will not only lose the dignity of others, but will arouse their disgust, which is a stupid behavior.
One day, little Carl in the cradle burst into tears for no reason.
Just as my wife was going to visit Carl in his room, I stopped her: "Did Carl eat just now?" ?
"I ate it, I just fed it." The wife replied.
"So, is there anything wrong with him these days?" I asked.
"no!" The wife replied.
"If so, you'd better ignore him." I said.
"Why? Carl is crying! " My wife looked at me strangely.
"I think that since he is not hungry and shows no signs of illness, it is his own business to want to cry, so we don't have to pay attention to him." I said.
"Crying is a child's nature! I will be fine if I go to comfort him. " The wife said.
"Do you know why children are crying when they are neither hungry nor sick?" I asked.
"Oh, children are like this!" The wife said, "Maybe he needs me." .
"Of course, he must miss you very much." I explained to my wife, "But I think the fundamental reason is that he wants us to know his existence and to get our attention." .
Under my persuasion, my wife didn't rush to see the child crying as usual. Sure enough, it didn't take long for little Carl to see that crying was useless and stopped crying.
After a while, when my wife and I secretly went to see him, he was lying in the cradle and having a good time alone.
The purpose of this is to make little Carl feel that it is impossible to win the attention of others by crying. On the contrary, you should seek happiness for yourself when others are not paying attention to you.
Although Carl, who is still a baby, can't understand this truth, I think he will understand it when he grows up.
If we don't use and develop children's potential in infancy, these abilities will never be developed. So I decided to train his five senses (ears, eyes, mouth, nose, skin) to stimulate brain development. Because listening to the party, vision, taste, smell and touch are the physiological basis for human beings to perceive the outside world. Fully stimulating children's sensory organs can promote the active activities of all parts of the brain. If we can actively activate his brain by stimulating his senses, the child will become smarter.
Hearing is the first of the five senses to develop, because babies' hearing develops earlier than their vision. Mother's sweet singing is extremely important and effective for training listening. Fortunately, my wife has a good voice. Since he was born, he has often heard beautiful folk songs sung by his mother. Although I can't sing, I often recite poems to him.
Six weeks after my son was born, I gently recited Virgil's poem Alice to him, and the effect was very good. Whenever I read this poem aloud, my son can calm down and fall asleep quickly. As the tone of the poem changes, the son's reaction is also measured. Macquarie became excited when she read Horatius on the Bridge, and became quiet when she read Tennyson's His Dream. Through this way of education, my son can recite the first ten lines of the first volume of Alice and His Death when he is one year old.
I want to emphasize that I didn't force my son to recite poems, but let nature take its course. Take "his death" as an example. Because my son likes it very much, he recites it like chanting every night, and he can recite it skillfully soon.
In order to make my son feel about music, I bought him a Jason Chung that can make seven sounds in music, and tied a red, orange and yellow clock. Every time my son wakes up before feeding, I will ring these clocks for him and slowly move them left and right to attract his attention. When my son was less than six months old, he was able to ring my name accurately-blue bell, purple bell and so on. I think this is an effective way to make him form a melody.
Effectively training eyes is also an important step to develop children's intelligence. When my son was born two or three weeks ago, I prepared some colorful cloth cats, dogs and deer for him, all of which were placed beside my son. I often move toys to stimulate his vision. I often show my son the rainbow reflected on the wall with a prism. My son likes watching it very much. When he cried, he stopped crying as long as he saw the rainbow.
In order to train his sense of smell, we give our son various stimuli, but considering that eating too much sugar and salt is not good for his health, we always insist on eating light food, which can keep his sensory sensitivity and avoid forming the bad habit of eating too much sugar and salt.
After the full moon, my son was able to look up in bed, so I arranged his feet with my hands and taught him to crawl. Parents must let their children learn to crawl as soon as possible, because prone is good for their babies. When babies crawl, their neck muscles develop rapidly, and they can look around freely with their heads held high, which increases the chances of receiving external stimuli, thus promoting the development of children's brains and making children smart.
After the child's visual development is achieved, it is necessary to cultivate the child's observation ability. There are two ways: one is to cultivate children's observation ability through colorful colors. I hung copies of various famous paintings and a large number of imitations of famous carvings around my son's room and read the names of these items to him. At first, my son only paid attention to the color of the painting, and gradually he understood the meaning of the painting.
Painting plays a great role in children's intellectual development, and children who can grow up under the training of parents who are good at painting are very happy. Knowing a little about painting, I have prepared many beautiful paintings of flowers, birds and animals for my son, as well as beautiful picture books to read to him. He can listen quietly all the time, which shows that although my son doesn't know anything, he has begun to take an interest in my voice and the color of the painting. Moreover, I often draw my conversations with my son to inspire his intelligence.
I bought beautiful balls and sawdust in various colors to cultivate my son's sense of color. He is also often asked to play games with all kinds of dolls in bright clothes. The reason for this is that if children don't start to develop color vision at an early age, they will be slow in the future.
Crayons are also good toys for children. I often use it to play "color contest" with my son. I prepared a big piece of paper. From a certain point, I first drew a line three centimeters long with red crayon, and then my son drew a blue line with the same length with red crayon. He also drew a blue line behind his red line, and so on. If my son uses a crayon different from mine, the game will be over and my son will lose.
I often take Carl for a walk as soon as he learns to walk. When walking, let him pay attention to the color of the sky, the color of trees, the color of flowers, the color of Yuan Ye, the color of buildings and the color of people's clothes, all in order to develop his sense of color.
In addition, I also pay attention to cultivate his habit of concentration and let him learn to observe things keenly. My son and I play a game called "Watch carefully" to do this. Whenever I pass by the store, I will ask my son what goods are displayed in the window of this store, and then remind him of them. Of course, the more goods my son can talk about, the better. If my son doesn't remember what he should remember, I will criticize him. This game can also effectively train the son's memory. Because we have been doing this for a long time, when my son was only two years old, one day I took him to a shop selling carved imitations. He said to the clerk, "Why don't you have Vinius de Vero and Vinius de Med?" The clerk was surprised that such a young child should know these two famous paintings.
Because the baby's attention is not easy to concentrate, I teach my son various adjectives with vivid objects. Six weeks after my son was born, I bought him some red balloons and tied them on his wrist with a short rope. The balloon swayed as his hands swung up and down. From now on, I will give him a balloon of different colors every week. Through this game, I easily taught him adjectives such as red, green, circle and light, and my son seems to like this game very much.
After realizing the benefits of this method, I also asked my son to hold sawdust or other articles with sandpaper in his hand and teach him rough and smooth handwriting. Of course, this kind of education sometimes produces some unexpected bad effects. For example, babies often like to send things from their hands to their mouths. Therefore, parents should be more careful, and children will not form this habit.
Giving full play to children's hands is very effective for cultivating their observation ability. It takes a long time for a baby to know his own hands. In order to let the child find his hand as soon as possible, his hand should be kept occupied.
Every time my son wakes up and opens his little hand, my wife and I quickly let him grab something. Usually, we often move our son's fingers and let him touch things or clap his hands.
In addition, I induced my son to observe our hands and let him know the differences between many hands. For example, I shake it with a small bell. The son will shake his arm and make a sound. I gave him a crayon and a piece of paper when he was eight or nine months old. I also took a crayon and a piece of paper. I draw on paper and my son doodles on it. In fact, he can't draw anything, but through observation, he has begun to use his hands.
What needs to be emphasized is that I will never force my son to do anything when I am training him. The child is still a young life, and we can only let him develop his potential slowly. I don't want to let his potential be wasted, so I try to give all kinds of effective guidance. In this way of education, sons always have something to do, and they will never bite their fingers because they have nothing to do like other children. Nor will you feel depressed or cry because you have nothing to do. On the contrary, the son grew up in a healthy direction from the beginning.
The third chapter in the fourth quarter to be continued.