So sixteen or seventeen is the rainy season, and it is also the most headache for boys and girls!
If the child is in adolescence, a very special stage of life, all kinds of psychological contradictions intertwined, tired of learning, unwilling to learn, feel very tired. Then, as parents, the most taboo is violent intervention, criticism, arbitrary handling and simple reprimand. This will only intensify contradictions, strengthen children's rebellious psychology, make children more tired of learning, and even make excessive behaviors such as running away from home.
Parents should spend more time with their children, communicate, exchange and talk with them, bend down and try to treat them equally and sincerely. And encourage children to participate in some healthy and beneficial cultural and sports activities, or cultivate a hobby, so as to spend adolescence calmly, easily, happily and safely.
The second reason why children are tired of reading is that they have not established correct optimism about learning. There are joys and sorrows in study and life. In the process of learning, we don't always feel happy from it. In fact, more often, we experience hardship, sweat and frustration. ...
At this time, we should tell our children that learning is definitely not an easy task. In the process of learning, you need to concentrate and spend energy. When encountering difficulties and setbacks, we need to adjust bad emotions in time, make efforts with strong will, and pay sweat and efforts with perseverance.
As the saying goes, "Shushan has a hard road, and learning the sea is endless."
Learning really needs to be able to bear hardships, be willing to bear hardships, and be willing to bear hardships in order to "see the rainbow after the storm."
China has always attached great importance to education. Even now, countless parents hold the ardent hope of "making their children have a bright future", not only let their children learn cultural classes at school, but also arrange a large number of extracurricular cultural cram schools for their children.
A child, after school, weekends, winter and summer vacations, as long as he has a little time, has piano lessons, math lessons, eloquence lessons, dance lessons and so on. Whether the children like it or not, all the children are full.
It can be said that today's children are really tired, and even occasionally it is reported that some children are exhausted. Nowadays, parents euphemistically say, "Don't let your child lose at the starting line!" In fact, if you study too much, I am afraid that you will not let your child win at the starting line, but let your child die at the starting line.
Since children are too tired to study, let's talk about the situation of ancient children going to school and see if they are tired.
In the pre-Qin era, learning was exclusive to aristocratic children, and almost all ordinary people were Ding Bai. In film and television dramas, we often see an interesting scene: an official announcement is posted on the wall, a scholar reads the announcement loudly, and everyone nearby is listening carefully.
It should be said that this scene is in line with the ancient national conditions. After all, people in the pre-Qin period were illiterate everywhere in China, because their education was monopolized by nobles, and the common people were basically Ding Bai.
Therefore, in this case, in order to break the monopoly of aristocrats on education, Confucius traveled around the world to give lectures and spread ideas, so Confucius became a model figure of "model for later generations".
Imperial College was established by the central government of Han Dynasty, which was the highest institution of learning established by the central government of Han Dynasty at that time. Its teaching system is not strict, there is no prescribed graduation deadline, teachers are absent from attendance, students attend classes at will, and of course, there is no such cram school as chicken blood today.
Under the educational system of the Han Dynasty, more emphasis was placed on encouraging students to study independently and cultivating their self-discipline and innovation and promotion ability, rather than doing useless "cramming teaching".
Although the teaching system in Han Dynasty was simple and rude, its "herding sheep" educational characteristics were very similar to the American model, but it did not mean that students were indulged.
Just like the college entrance system of "lenient entry and strict exit" in American teaching today, the simple and rude education system in Han Dynasty is almost the same as the "American model".
Imperial academy's examination in Han Dynasty was held once a year, so it was also called "Year's Examination".
In the annual examination, the examiner will be divided into two subjects according to the degree of difficulty, and the students will choose independently. After the New Year's exam, according to the merits of the grades, those with good grades can be awarded official positions, those with poor grades can be ordered to drop out of school, and their grades will continue to study at school.
Therefore, in the Han Dynasty, whether a child is tired or not depends entirely on the individual, not on the educational environment at that time. Their exams are just for getting into imperial academy, and they are not caught in the cycle of taking exams for the sake of exams.
Since the Tang Dynasty, children's happy nature can no longer be found.
The model of central official school in Tang Dynasty was similar to that in Han Dynasty, but the frequency of examination increased greatly.
There were ten-day exams, monthly exams, quarterly exams and annual exams in the Tang Dynasty, which were similar to the weekly exams, monthly exams, mid-term and final exams, mock exams and so on for middle school students today.
In addition, there was a strict system of persuasion and withdrawal in the Tang Dynasty, and those who failed the exam for three consecutive years, did not graduate in school for nine years, and missed too many classes were ordered to drop out.
There are many exams and rules, and the children in the Tang Dynasty are really tired.
However, the students in the Tang Dynasty were not the most tired, but the students in the Qing Dynasty were so tired that they doubted their own lives, especially the children of the royal family in the Qing Dynasty, who got up earlier than chickens and went to bed later than dogs. Probably, it can only be described by allusions such as hanging your head and wearing stocks.
Zhao Yi, a historian in the Qing Dynasty, once said with emotion: "The strictness of the family law in this dynasty, that is, the fact that the prince studied, has never been seen before."
From Zhao Yi's words, we can see the seriousness of studying the children of the Qing royal family.
So, how tired are the children of the Qing royal family?
According to relevant historical records, the Qing emperor entered school at the age of 6, and usually attended classes in the study. Because their homes are generally far away from the study, they have to get up early when it is not bright and take Dai Yue's car to school.
After entering the classroom, the princes have to study for an hour first. An hour later, when the teacher comes, they will start their first class. At this time, it's only 5 o'clock in the morning.
That's not all. After the formal class starts at 5 o'clock, the children will stay until 5 o'clock that afternoon. After careful calculation, princes have to attend classes for at least 12 hours a day, which is even scarier than sweatshops owned by capitalists!
Not only that, the emperors of the Qing Dynasty basically had no holidays. Except for the Spring Festival, Dragon Boat Festival, Mid-Autumn Festival, the emperor's birthday and his own birthday, they have almost no rest all year round, only five days at most.
The children of the royal family in the Qing Dynasty studied hard to the extreme, and the upper class was the lower class. Naturally, folk scholars do not want to be left behind.
It is said that Zeng Guofan was stupid when he was young. In order to make up for the congenital deficiency, Zeng Guofan studied very hard, often burning the midnight oil and studying tirelessly.
Once, a thief sneaked into Zeng Guofan's bedroom to steal something. At this time, Zeng Guofan suddenly came in, and the thief had to hide on the beams, waiting for Zeng Guofan to leave and then waiting for an opportunity to start.
I didn't expect Zeng Guofan's qualification to be too slow, and he couldn't recite an ancient prose for hours. When the thief woke up on the beam, he saw the white chickens crowing in the East, and the little boy was still stuttering. Finally, the thief couldn't stand it any longer. He jumped down and said angrily to Zeng Guofan, "You are so stupid, what are you reading?" I memorized it after listening to it several times! "So the thief recited the article from beginning to end, and then walked away.
Of course, this story is just a rumor, but we can also feel that it was not easy for ancient children to study, even more tired than today's children.
Therefore, parents should treat children's reading fatigue rationally and make scientific and reasonable arrangements.
After ten years of cold window, it is not easy for students. Please be kind to students and put yourself in their shoes!
There are several reasons why children nowadays are tired of studying! First, the impact of the social environment, most families are only children or two children. Both male and female parents attach importance to children, and children nowadays are not like our parents' generation. There are many children, and the family is not rich. They are basically free-range. I can solve it there! It's different now. There are not many children who live well, have money and are controlled by the state family planning! So people have the energy and ability to train and educate their children! Second, because of parents, every parent in China society expects his son to succeed and his daughter to succeed! I'm afraid my children have no education and are unable to face the pressure of the future society. This is the so-called "thinking about change if you are poor", and it is also the comparison mentality of most people. Seeing other people's children enroll in various cram schools, they follow suit and enroll in cram schools whether they like it or not. Kill the child's natural "play"! What should children do at what age! Let them do something! Adults say let nature take its course every day! Why can't children? Third, the relationship between the education system, our previous education is still traditional education, exam-oriented education! Children can only have one choice, and it is the only choice. There are also some teachers who are inextricably linked with cram schools in order to prepare for the exam, and do not talk about important knowledge points in class. Children can only hear important knowledge points in cram schools. Therefore, the knowledge that children should have learned in a reasonable study time has not been learned, which takes up the time for children to play and study. Can children never tire of learning? Do you agree?
Reading can be divided into two types: exam-oriented and non-exam-oriented Relatively speaking, in our country, due to the national conditions, most parents study their children mainly by taking exams.
Therefore, in order to get good grades in the exam, teachers and parents will help their children improve their academic performance through various methods, which in itself is a matter of consuming physical strength and energy, so from the perspective of parents, it can be called "tired". From a child's point of view, it is a child's nature to love playing, watching cartoons, playing games and exploring the world. Since I entered kindergarten at the age of three, small classes, middle classes and large classes have begun to involve primary school knowledge, so it is strange that children are not tired.
Now, all kinds of early childhood enlightenment and young bridging classes have mushroomed, which is the objective reality that the post-80 s generation of children are facing and participating. After all, many post-80s graduates from universities with relatively high quality. In the process of educating the next generation, they also pay attention to the cultivation and learning of their children. In the past, it was a great thing for a child of a few years old to know how to play musical instruments and dance. Now, it is nothing if he doesn't participate in some large-scale activities and competitions, watch TV or take exams.
Since kindergarten, although our country has long emphasized reducing the burden, there is no way because of the national conditions. Although parents don't want their children to become tired and bored because of their studies, there is nothing they can do. Other children are studying, and some of them have "benefited" from studying. Who wants their children to be bad?
With the development of society and education, we can't say which method won't make children tired. I think they will be "tired" as long as they survive and develop in society. What we have to do is to establish a correct concept of learning, develop good study habits, establish correct values and outlook on life, and let children feel the joy of success and the value of life through hard work.
Of course, as parents, companionship and guidance are really important. Every family has a different family background and family environment. I hope parents can overcome difficulties as much as possible and create a good family environment and learning environment for their children. I wish all children healthy growth and academic success. I wish my parents and friends a smooth job and a harmonious family!
Do you mean that children study hard?
In fact, children are tired of learning because they don't learn thoroughly in class. If you learn well in class, your homework will be easy to do.
As for learning special classes, it depends on what children like. It must be difficult for him to learn what he doesn't like, because he rejects this course from the heart. Those who like to learn are relatively easy to learn.
First, the homework is heavy. Teenagers should not know the taste of sadness, but nowadays children feel more and more tired of reading, and there is endless homework after class. The cram school arranged by parents has packed their lives and become a luxury wish. According to statistics, a China child aged 18 has accumulated more than 10000 hours of homework, which is equivalent to three times that of France, four times that of Japan and six times that of South Korea. The data is embarrassing. With so much homework and heavy schoolbags, troubles and worries follow.
Second, whose youth is not confused? On the way to school, accompanied by the sweat of hard work, the frustration of growth and the expectation of parents who want their children to succeed, children in this period are psychologically sensitive and fragile, rebellious and arrogant, and have poor self-regulation ability. Heavy homework, exam-oriented education scores, parents' blame and disappointment, and unsolvable difficulties all affect the perception of reading.
Third, pressure from parents and schools. It goes without saying that schools will also put a lot of pressure on children for the rate of enrollment.
Fourth, lack of interest in reading. Those who love it are better than those who know it, and those who enjoy it are better than those who love it. Interest is the best teacher. Only when interest guides reading can you enjoy learning. Taking books as friends, the road to growth is not lonely. Nowadays, children's books are full of all kinds of boring examination papers, and there are fewer and fewer choices for extracurricular reading. Reading is really boring.
Fifth, the rebellious mentality of reading more and more books but not wanting to read them. Repeated mechanical practice has turned into the psychology that the more books you read, the more reluctant you are to read. The mission of education is to cultivate children's autonomy and independence.
How to make children tired and valuable, I hope to arouse discussion from all walks of life.
Children are tired of learning, but parents are bitter.
First of all, China's national conditions affect parents and children. Everyone thinks that only by reading good books can we make progress. Parents let their children sign up for various interest classes for their "success". In addition to the knowledge and homework learned in class, children also have to deal with the homework of various interest classes. It will be tiring to learn so many things.
Secondly, parents and teachers' schools put great pressure on children. Basically, every primary school and middle school will be divided into excellent and poor classes. In order to get their children into excellent classes, parents try their best to cram various courses for their children. Teachers also use their parents' hearts to let parents sign up their children to cram with teachers. Parents are too demanding, so children can only study hard. There is no time to play, and some children do their homework at eleven or twelve every day, and they don't get enough sleep. How can they not be tired?
Finally, children are tired and parents are tired. How many parents try their best to make money in order to give their children a good learning environment? No matter what you do, you just want to leave the best for your children. Children and parents are under great pressure.
If children can have a full rest and play on weekends, they will be in a good mood and study harder.
In fact, it is the common feeling of most parents that children are tired of studying, but not all children are tired of studying.
Everyone must remember those outstanding students in their school days, and now they all say that they are schoolmasters. They have a distinctive aura, and their final exam results are always in the top few, either the monitor or the study Committee, the teacher mainly praises the object, and every parent-teacher meeting gives parents a long face and so on.
A large part of such children will make people feel that learning is a kind of enjoyment. Homework is always handed in on time, and the knowledge taught by teachers can always be integrated quickly. In fact, in my opinion, it is natural for these good students to study well.
Why do you say that? At school, I was a good student in the eyes of teachers and other students. I also participate in the Mathematical Olympiad on behalf of my school every year, and I win prizes every time. I don't think I am a genius. I studied hard before I went to college, but I never got tired of reading. I will tell you my heart here.
To be exact, my grades were not good until the third grade of primary school. I am a troublemaker in my class, and I belong to a student that the teacher doesn't like. Every exam ranks more than 30 in the class, which is not the worst, and belongs to the lower-middle level. In the third grade, a math teacher named Yang came to our class. Teacher Yang has a habit of taking out everyone's homework after class every day. Students who have done well will be praised, which is a simple verbal praise. Sometimes I am very happy when I am praised, and I will do my own questions seriously. Gradually, Teacher Yang praises me almost every day, and I will listen to the class more carefully and do my homework. By the time I was in the fifth grade, my math scores were already very good, and I could participate in the math competition on behalf of my school.
And because I am often praised, I have a strong interest in learning and my grades in other subjects will gradually get better. I remember when I was in junior high school, because my grandfather worked in the Education Bureau (now the Education Bureau), I was assigned to the best junior high school in the city. Later, my family told me that the principal of the school was afraid of my poor grades, but when my grandfather showed the results to the principal, the principal breathed a sigh of relief. "I am relieved to have such good grades," the principal said happily.
When I got to junior high school, I found that my junior high school grade was the third in my class. When I became a monitor, my teacher would often praise me. Under the great motivation of learning to gain a sense of identity, I will listen carefully and do my homework carefully every day. As long as I don't understand, I will figure it out myself. I remember that the geometry class in junior high school is still difficult. At first, I was a little afraid to prove geometry, so I proved that the three midlines, the midline and the bisector of the triangle all intersect at one point. When I spent a lot of time to prove it myself, I found that I was not afraid of geometry. After primary school, I never let my family worry about my study. The senior high school entrance examination was admitted to the best high school in the province, and the university went to a famous university.
To sum up, I don't know what my study would be like without my respected teacher Yang, but it is his encouragement that really makes me like learning and reading, and I never feel bitter and tired of reading. Encourage children more. I believe that most children have potential. How relaxed parents should be if they can successfully awaken their children's subjective initiative in conscious learning.
Are you tired of running a marathon? I must be very tired, but I often see so many amateurs taking part in training and marathons when they have nothing to do. I don't think they can get the medal, but why do they want to participate? This is love.
Is the child tired of reading? Tired is definitely tired, but the key is that you can't find the pleasure of reading, don't like reading, regard reading as a task, and always think that a task has not been completed, so you will feel tired and very tired psychologically.
At school, I only like chemistry. The reason is that during the first chemical experiment, the teacher touched herself with phosphorus, caught fire, and was scared to scold the three-character classics. Seeing that the sanctimonious teacher can even speak the three-character classic, he is full of curiosity and interest in doing chemical experiments.
Therefore, if you want to learn, it is very important to cultivate your interest.
In fact, children in China feel tired from studying, and half of them are influenced by their parents' idea of "looking forward to their children's success, looking forward to their women's success", which is also an invisible concept to strengthen children. China has a history of 5,000 years, and the ancients all gained fame and fortune by reading books, so it is not wrong for China's parents to have this idea, because that's how they came.
As far as my experience is concerned, I have four sisters, two sisters and one brother. My brothers and sisters are very good at reading and reviewing at school, so they are very popular with teachers. As the youngest child, I went to the same school as them, but I started late, so I couldn't understand a word the teacher said. As teachers, they will compare me with my brothers and sisters, which invisibly increases my pressure, so I have no intention to study. When I don't get good grades in the final exam, my elder sister will beat and scold, so I just want to escape from my studies.
Later, for various reasons, I went to my parents' place. Because of my parents' encouragement, I failed in the exam, and my parents didn't beat and scold me, so I enjoyed my study very much, without too much pressure, and my academic performance improved. Finally, I was admitted to the university.
I understand this situation very well. Children are tired of learning because of parents' blame, pressure, parents' ostentation and teachers' comments, which will also increase children's psychological pressure.
In the choice of training courses, parents should respect their children and ask their wishes, which can cultivate their autonomy and make them feel that they are adults and have their own choices.
However, if the child fails in the exam, we should teach the child to find his own mistakes and encourage him instead of looking at him with reproach. Children are psychologically sensitive, and a small move will also affect their psychological changes.
Therefore, as parents in the new era, in the process of raising their children, they should also learn and grow together with their children, let them release their nature and cultivate their right to choose independently.