American Academy of Pediatrics guidelines require mothers and babies to share different beds. About 3,500 babies die in sleep-related accidents every year in the United States, which means that this guide is based on suggestions for safe sleep and prevention of sudden death. Everyone knows that Nuno pursues intimate parenting, and I am also an advocate and executor of intimate parenting.
Many mothers say that they can sleep for a long time when they are hugged or hugged by their mothers. Why? When the baby is in the mother's arms or sleeping beside her, she can hear the familiar heartbeat in her stomach, smell the familiar mother's body odor and feel her temperature in a few months. We feel safe and relaxed in a familiar environment, and so does the baby. At this time, it is safe and relaxed.
Guide of the International Association of Nurses: Mothers who sleep with their babies at night breastfeed three times as much as mothers who sleep in separate beds at night.
Breast-feeding mothers may breast-feed 2-3 times or more at night, and let their mothers wake up and nurse before putting them in the crib. It is impossible to wake up 4-5 times in a night's sleep.
Where should the baby sleep?
1 On the premise of ensuring safety (mom and dad don't have bad habits such as smoking and drinking, the mattress is moderate in hardness, and there are not many cushions, plush toys and bedding that may cover the baby's mouth and nose, so you don't have to lie on your back before turning over), sharing a bed with your mother not only makes your baby feel more secure, but also helps breast-feeding, and the opposite mother can get more sleep time.
If the mother is worried about the baby's safety, it is recommended that the baby sleep in a small bed next to the mother's big bed, and the baffle next to the big bed should also be put down, so that it is more convenient for the mother to take care of the baby at night.
I also bought a crib because I wanted to practice the concept of "mother and baby in the same room, but different beds", but I only used it once after I bought it. Later, when it was used as a storage basket, 400 yuan was thrown into the water, and I didn't seem to hear the water ringing.
Yes, from the experience of people who have been there, I think the crib is a chicken rib product. Many parenting books say that letting the baby sleep in the crib can cultivate the independence of the child, and the mother can relax a little in the future.
Mothers who take care of their babies know how difficult it is to put their babies to sleep, but it is very difficult to put them to sleep. Putting the baby in the crib without waking it up is a technical job with a high degree of difficulty! Moreover, for most mothers of the second month, it is already very hard to feed their babies, change diapers and feed them, and they have to struggle with their babies' sleep. They really have no energy.
I think it's better for newborn children to sleep with adults, but we should pay attention to "sleeping in the same bed." On the one hand, it is to prevent the baby from being suffocated by adults. On the other hand, the quilt of adults will be thicker than that of babies, which is not conducive to the growth of babies.
When children are older, cribs can be spliced with adult beds for easy care. When the child is about 5 years old, the bed can be separated.
The theoretical parenting book's answer to this question is that it will advocate that the baby should sleep alone in the crib after birth, which is beneficial to the baby's sleep quality. If babies and adults sleep in a big bed, there will be many potential health hazards, and in severe cases, there will be the danger of suffocation.
However, what is the actual situation? At least nine out of ten treasure mothers will say that it is unrealistic to let the baby sleep in the crib directly after birth. A baby who finally falls asleep will wake up once he is put into a cot. Even if you put it down successfully, you will wake up in a short time. If you put the baby on the big bed and sleep with your mother, the baby will obviously sleep a lot more solidly.
When I was pregnant, I also idealized the theory that babies sleep in cribs in parenting books. I bought cribs carefully early and imagined countless babies sleeping in cribs and sleeping soundly.
Results After the baby was born, the gap between reality and ideal was so big. My Macey Bao is a baby who just woke up in the crib. Before her confinement, she insisted that Macey sleep in the crib, but after being euthanized, she successfully put down the crib and didn't wake up. As happy as winning the lottery.
At first, I thought it was the baby who needed to get used to sleeping in a cot. Later, I really didn't want to toss the baby again. I tried to put it on the big bed and sleep with me. I feel much more relaxed and the baby sleeps well. From then on, I let Bao sleep with us on the big bed.
I don't think there is an absolutely correct parenting method that can be applied to every child. The so-called parenting experts can learn from their parenting methods, but they can't just force themselves and their children to do it.
The parenting methods practiced by every parent who has raised children are the most practical and suitable for their children. Just like where a baby should sleep, the general principle is whether it is better for the baby to sleep in a small bed or in a big bed with an adult, and the baby can sleep wherever he likes.
I hope my answer is helpful to you.
The arrival of a baby is the happiest thing for every family, but it is also a very important question whether the baby sleeps with adults or in a crib alone after birth. Sleeping alone may be beneficial to the cultivation of the baby's independent personality, but it may also bring some security risks and inconvenient reality. So what's the best way to do it?
Ma Jianrong, deputy director of pediatrics department of Beijing Maternity Hospital, suggested that newborn babies are more suitable to sleep with their mothers. The newborn baby has a serious sense of insecurity and urgently needs the care of his mother. It is too early to cultivate his independence. After establishing a sense of security, independence will be easier. The early one can let the baby sleep alone after 3 months, and the late one can let the baby sleep alone after 3 years old.
Of course, you should also pay attention to the fact that it is best to sleep in separate beds with your mother. The mother sleeps in a big bed and the baby sleeps in a small bed, which not only has certain independence, but also can comfort the baby in time and avoid many dangers. If you share the same bed, don't let the baby get too close to the mother. It is best to keep a distance of more than one arm to avoid pressing the baby when the mother turns over.
This advice is more suitable for most babies. If the baby's natural temperament type is insecure, there will be a lot of fear in the new environment after birth. If the baby cries all night, he may be more attached to his mother. Mothers should try to spend more time with their babies. It is suggested that the mother can put the baby's ear close to her left chest and let the baby hear the sound of her heartbeat. This kind of sound is familiar to the baby and increases the baby's sense of security. 1 year-old is an important period to cultivate baby's sense of security. Psychologists also pointed out that 1 year-old baby's requirements are not too much, and try to meet them unconditionally.
Whether we sleep with our mother or alone, we all hope that our baby can get a healthy and comfortable sleep, because we all know that sleep is too important for a baby's healthy growth, and the secretion of growth hormone during sleep can be three times higher than that during waking, which is also conducive to the development of the brain nervous system. So how can we make the baby sleep comfortably?
First of all, if the baby sleeps alone, he should choose a small wooden bed instead of a soft bed. If you sleep with your mother, your mother should also choose a hard bed because it is beneficial to your baby's spinal development.
Secondly, the choice of pillows. Newborns don't need pillows, because their spine is straight and there is no physiological bending. When the newborn lies flat, the back and back are naturally on the same plane to avoid stiff neck caused by raising the head.
Finally, pay attention to the baby's sleeping position. The advantage of supine position is that it can relax the muscles of the whole body and minimize the pressure on the heart, gastrointestinal tract and bladder of the newborn. Disadvantages: lying on your back for a long time will also make your baby's head flat, and it is easy to be choked by vomit when vomiting, causing suffocation.
(Figure 2) Supine position
Lying on your side: it will not cause excessive pressure on the organs, which is conducive to muscle relaxation and will not choke into the trachea when galactorrhea occurs. After breastfeeding, lie on the right side for 0.5- 1 hour, and be careful not to press the auricle forward when lying on the side. Disadvantages: the skull seam is not completely closed, and long-term lateral sleeping may cause skull deformation. The left and right directions should be adjusted in time to avoid face deviation.
(Figure 3) Lateral position
(Figure 4) Prone position
About the author: Zhang Dan, the first student of Wang Xingguo Teachers' Popular Science Writing Training Course.
Jilin Yanbian University has a college degree in traditional Chinese medicine, and Liaoning University of Traditional Chinese Medicine has a bachelor degree in traditional Chinese medicine.
National first-class health manager, national first-class public nutritionist, national second-class psychological counselor, and senior nursery teacher.
Director of Dalian Nutrition Society, director of Dalian International Medical Exchange Conference, child nutrition guest of Dalian Radio Station 106.7.
Expert consultant of Nutrition Department of Liaoning Vocational Skills Training School, special lecturer of nutritionist of Dalian Staff University, and special lecturer of nanny of Dalian Women's Federation.
After the baby is born, the traditional practice is to sleep in a bed with the mother. This is convenient for frequent breastfeeding and is also conducive to falling asleep.
The concept of sleeping in separate beds after the baby is born is later. The reason is to cultivate children's independence and avoid the danger of suffocation caused by adults sleeping, and it is often the case that adults and babies sleep together and cause danger. Before the baby was born, I accepted the idea, so I prepared a crib to do it. But in the process of taking care of the baby, I find it difficult to sleep in separate beds with the baby. Seeing a baby who can only eat, drink and cry, it is even more untenable to cultivate independence.
After reading Developmental Psychology, it is found that in the United States, 5,000 to 8,000 seemingly healthy babies suddenly stop breathing during sleep every year. This sleep-related disease that puzzles the medical community is called Sudden Infant Death Syndrome (SIDS). Many victims of sudden infant death syndrome will have abnormalities in the arcuate nucleus of the brain, which may control the breathing and awakening of infants during early sleep. The abnormality of arcuate nucleus may be due to the mother's exposure to toxic substances during pregnancy, such as illegal drugs or tobacco products. Researchers have no effective way to determine which babies are at higher risk of sudden infant death syndrome. Therefore, it is suggested to reduce the occurrence of sudden infant death syndrome, such as avoiding easy sleep and unnecessary soft accumulation.
Many parenting books advocate that babies sleep alone in cribs after birth, and they will give different reasons. The most important point, which is also the most widely spread point, is probably like this: sleeping alone in a crib will prevent adults from turning over and holding down the baby, which will lead to the risk of accidents.
However, the latest research shows that the risk of accidents caused by mother and baby sharing the same bed is very low, which usually occurs in special circumstances such as obesity and mobility difficulties of adults.
My family also has a baby who was just born for two months. At first, I also followed the concept in the parenting book, hoping that he could sleep in a cot alone, but:
My baby can't sleep well in his crib, and he always complains, which leads to my baby can't sleep well and I can't sleep well. Now that the air conditioner is turned on at home, it is particularly easy for the baby to sleep in a cot. Maybe he kicked the quilt away?
So I've been sleeping on the big bed with him in my arms recently. Sometimes, I hold his little hand gently. He slept soundly and steadily, and his stuffy nose would be relieved soon. Of course, it is more convenient for me to breast-feed him at night. I believe he can go back to his own bed when he is older, but at this stage I still choose to let him sleep with me in the big bed.
It seems that every precious mother will go through this process.
I read a lot of parenting books before giving birth, all of which are about cultivating children's independence. After the baby is born, it is necessary to arrange to sleep in the crib, and also to avoid the mother sleeping too hard on the baby, or the mother's breasts blocking the baby's nose and mouth, causing accidents.
So, mom and dad prepared the crib with puppy love and waited for the arrival of the baby.
After giving birth to a baby, the painting style changes every second. Mom is particularly sleepy in the middle of the night, so she doesn't want to move if she holds the baby again. The baby is very small, very insecure, and finally fell asleep, which dare to touch him at will; The baby has been in the womb, although it is a very warm place. Listening to the mother's breathing and heartbeat, the baby sleeps more stably.
As a result, the cot was shelved by the gorgeous Li Di.
It depends on each family.
I remember a person who specializes in Japanese children's sleep. He said that Japanese families are generally very small, so children always sleep with their parents and sleep deeply, which is Japanese sleep. His research shows that children also feel more secure.
In western education, children are advised to sleep alone when they are 4.5 months old, because it is easier at this time, and children may not want to be separated when they are older.
Most western countries have extra rooms, and some even have monitoring equipment to know all the movements of children in the room.
If there are conditions at home and there is a special nursery, you can sleep in separate rooms with your baby when he is about 4.5 months old. If you don't have the conditions, and Ma Bao is also very hard and tired, I suggest that you can sleep in separate rooms when the baby is over 2 years old, or when the baby is in kindergarten and around 3 years old, he will naturally accept this result, and there is no need to make the baby feel insecure because of the room sharing.
Should the baby sleep with adults or in a crib alone after birth? Why?
For this question, let me talk about what I think and how to take care of my daughter. When the baby is young, it is possible to have different beds in the same room. When the baby is older, it is possible to let the baby sleep in a small room alone.
Look at my arrangements for my daughter at different times.
1, when the daughter was born.
I always take care of my daughter like this. The newborn baby looked at her soft and small, at a loss. She was afraid that she would be crushed when she slept, and she was afraid that she would be too far away from herself. At night, the situation was unclear and it was not good to take care of her daughter. So I put her on the crib next to her.
note:
There are many cribs prepared by mothers for their babies, which were originally used after the baby was born. As a result, it was found that it was not convenient to feed when the baby was crying at night, so the crib was put on hold.
Second, you can sleep all night when you don't need to eat night milk.
This time I put my daughter. Separate from our bed. Put it in our room. Make her conscious and start sleeping alone.
It is also necessary to correctly cultivate children's understanding of darkness.
In fact, we have correctly cultivated the baby's understanding of the dark since childhood, and she will not be afraid of the dark.
Because the baby is always black in the mother's belly. But the baby has been fine. Why is the baby afraid of the dark after birth? Many times, this is our adult language stimulation to tell him that darkness is a terrible thing.
Does the daughter sleep with adults or alone after birth? That's what I did. Now daughters sleep alone.
How do you think? Does the baby sleep with adults or alone in the crib? Welcome to discuss in the comments section.
The first answer is yes, it is best to sleep in a small bed alone.
Why?
Let's share a short clinical story: A few months ago, the department admitted a baby, and it was almost dawn. The parents found the baby's head covered with a blanket. When they opened the quilt, they found that the baby's face was cyanotic and his reaction was aggravated. They rushed to the emergency room and were admitted to the hospital, asking about their medical history. Babies sleep in the same bed with their parents and between them. At the same time, they also covered a quilt. Adults slept deeply and moved the quilt. It can be seen from this story that babies who sleep with adults after birth are prone to suffocation and even sudden death.
The American Academy of Pediatrics recommends that babies sleep safely.
1, sharing a room with different beds.
2. The crib is within the parents' sight.
You can't put anything unrelated to your baby's sleep on the crib, including toys and extra blankets.
Sleeping bag is a safe choice.
5, the mattress can not be soft, but hard.
6. Stay away from second-hand smoke.
7, can't sleep on the sofa and swing.
8. Lie on your back as much as possible.
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Introduction: The baby was taken away by the nurse as soon as it was born, as long as it was clean nursing.
From the moment of birth, the newborn does not adapt, does not adapt to the warmth of leaving the mother, and does not adapt to the wetness of amniotic fluid. It is precisely because of these maladjustments that newborns must sleep with their mothers after birth.
The mother can pick up the baby at any time. When the baby wakes up at night, he will feel his mother's warm arms and soft breasts, which will reduce a lot of uncomfortable feelings.
A mother should give her baby time to adapt to a strange environment.
Sleeping is the longest and most important time every day. He needs more stable sleep to promote brain development. A baby completes the process of brain development during sleep.
The time to sleep alone in a cot can be set at about 5 years old. Don't worry. In fact, every step of a child's growth is regular.
It is unrealistic for you to let an 8-year-old baby hold you and nurse you every day. The characteristics of each stage are different. Mom and dad should respect the principle of natural parenting, and love for children begins with complete acceptance.