Overnight, babysitting seems to be a high-risk industry. In fact, hiring nannies to take care of housework and children has become the norm in many urban families. We interviewed the hostesses of eight families in Beijing, Shanghai and Hangzhou, and talked with them about nannies.
The old man can't come, but the nanny can.
After the child is born, the old man can't come to help for various reasons, so it is the only choice to ask a nanny. Most of the eight families we interviewed began to ask for nannies after Yue Yue left, and two of them left Yue Yue directly to become nannies.
That's the nanny at Yezi's house. Yue Yue has lived in her home for five years, and her salary has always been according to the standard of Yue Yue: 7,000 yuan.
Li Hong hired a new nanny with a high salary of14,000 yuan when she was confined. After the full moon, she accepted the invitation to stay as a live-in nanny, and her salary was cut to 7,000 yuan. In addition to these two, the average nanny's salary we interviewed this time is around 5,000-6,000 yuan, which also represents the middle market of nannies in first-and second-tier cities (an Indonesian nanny earns 8,000 yuan a month).
For most families, whether economically or emotionally, asking the elderly to help take care of their children is still the first choice. Hiring a nanny is out of necessity, but some mothers have different ideas. "I drove my mother home." Han Lin said that when the child was three months old, she hired a nanny to send her grandmother home who had been helping. "On the one hand, I am worried that her body can't bear it, and I feel that even my mother can't avoid trivial contradictions. Let's go find a nanny. "
Go to her home, just rest assured, please go back to your home.
Deciding to hire a nanny and find an acquaintance to recommend it is everyone's first thought. But according to a mother's words, send a circle of friends to ask whose nanny is reliable, and the following news is all. Who has a reliable one and doesn't hurry to raise it at home!
Most families still employ nannies through intermediary companies and labor market channels. After settling the referral fee with the intermediary company at one time, the nannies can only provide a copy of their ID cards, and even the health certificate is not standard.
When talking about choosing a nanny, many mothers can only ask if they have any experience with their children and see if the nanny has cleaned herself up, or if there is an unclear "eye margin".
"At that time, I asked my aunt her former employer. It is said that she left from nursing to kindergarten when the child was three years old. I think it should be reliable. " Han Lin said that now is the opportunity to consider this issue. Actually, I should ask menstruation for the phone number of an ex-employer.
In contrast, Liu Jing's approach is even more desperate. She is from Zhejiang. I heard that there is a good nanny in Quzhou. At that time, she arrived from Shanghai. After I found my aunt through an intermediary, I went to her house to have a look. She knew where her home was and what her husband and children were doing, so she took it home with confidence.
Other families choose foreign nannies because they are "not at ease". Linda from Beijing is an Indonesian nanny who tries her best to invite people back from abroad. Although the agency fee was expensive, the other party received very formal and strict training and handed in her passport and mobile phone as soon as she arrived, which gave Linda a great sense of security.
Install monitors or use people?
After the arrival of the nanny, how did a family accept this foreigner, and what process did it go from strangeness to trust? Linda believes in strict vocational training. She mentioned that once the whole family traveled to Hainan and left a nanny to look after the house. Later, I saw from the camera (for anti-theft installation, not for monitoring the nanny) that menstruation's life was abnormal in those days. In addition to cleaning, I watch TV every day. I don't even sit on the sofa at home, but only sit on the small stool next to the sofa.
More families have to go through trial and error.
"At the beginning, my aunt took the children downstairs to play, and we followed far away."
"I will secretly ask my neighbors in the community what happened when my aunt took care of the children outside?"
"There is a combination lock at home. At first, my mother was a little uneasy. Tell my aunt the password. It took about a week to say it. "
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We also interviewed people in the industry and found that such temptation is normal. The person in charge of a housekeeping company in Hangzhou said that employers (many people do) would be advised to do a credit test during the probation period, and put a 5 yuan on the sofa today and 10 yuan on the coffee table tomorrow, and take photos with a mobile phone that can show the date of taking photos.
If you find that the money has been taken away by the nanny, you'd better find an excuse to dismiss.
The person in charge also mentioned that before going to work, you can ask the nanny for the phone numbers of her family, former employer and friends, and call her one by one to ask about her situation, so as to have a more comprehensive understanding of her family, work attitude and interpersonal relationship. If you are really worried, you can entrust a special back-adjustment company, and the intermediary and the back-adjustment company will sign a contract for investigation and acceptance. The investigation scope of rotary company includes basic information, such as ID card, academic degree, criminal information, even whether the company is a legal person or a shareholder, as well as work experience and performance.
However, on this issue, Liu Jing showed her unique wisdom. "If you don't trust, don't look for it. If you look for it, you must trust it completely. " Liu Jing said that in her home, the nanny will accompany the children 24 hours a day, and she is also very opposed to installing monitoring, because she thinks that "your distrust will definitely have a negative impact on your aunt."
Nanny, employee, relative or family?
Liu Jing, who insists on "no doubt about employing people", believes that hiring a nanny is not a simple employment relationship, but should be treated as a family member. She did the same: the best room at home is for her aunt to take care of her children. When she goes abroad to play with her aunt, she will get an aunt to eat bird's nest at home, and all kinds of treatment will be treated equally.
Nanny and host eat and live in the same house, and it is inevitable that they will be as close as family.