I learned from family education that children's education should be valued. Growth is a sweet and difficult process, which is more conducive to making children better. Next, I will take you to know more about family education.
Family education experience +0 1
In the arduous process of educating children, we should give them more care and smile. Children are the hope of every family, and family is the cradle of children's healthy growth. Educating children is the unshirkable responsibility of every parent. The influence of family education on children is subtle and lasting. It is the wish of every parent to let their children grow up healthily and happily. The key to realize this wish lies in education. It is far from enough to educate a child well by kindergartens and schools, and family education is particularly important. In the process of educating children, every parent has his own unique views, and different people have different views. Let me talk about some experiences of children's education and share them with parents all over the world.
First, pay attention to children's moral education and the formation and development of good character.
Today's children are all only children, and they are spoiled in every way at home, making them self-centered, never considering other people's feelings and not knowing how to care about others. As a parent, I always pay attention to my words and deeds, don't bring him work pressure and emotions, and influence him with good behavior. Educate everything on the positive side. If you encounter some negative effects, discuss with him and let him know his ability to judge right and wrong.
Second, set an example and create a good learning environment.
Nowadays, children are under great pressure to study. Parents should try their best to create a good learning environment for their children and let them concentrate on their studies in a comfortable environment. Try not to disturb your children during their study, read books and do housework quietly beside them, answer their questions about learning at any time, create a good learning atmosphere for them, and let them study happily in a good environment set by an example.
Third, lay a solid foundation and cultivate good study habits.
The most important thing in learning is to lay a good foundation. I have heard a saying: "Elementary school and junior high school are almost enough, and high school should study hard." I don't think this idea is correct. Elementary school and junior high school are the key stages to lay the foundation and cultivate good study habits. Once the foundation is not well laid, it is difficult to change the situation after entering high school. So at this stage, I tell my children to listen carefully in class every day and understand what they don't understand. English must be read, recited and listened more; Mathematics must master the basics, don't confuse concepts, and answer questions carefully; Chinese should not only master the knowledge in textbooks, but also understand other knowledge related to the text that is not available in the books to be extended. Form good study habits from details and cultivate good study consciousness.
Fourth, strengthen communication and exchange with children with love and smile, and be their bosom friends.
After entering the first grade, children may be more and more resistant to their parents because of adolescence, and they are unwilling to talk more about what happened at school and the quality of learning. What happened? Does it disgust him that we often talk to him as parents? So I put down my parents' airs, smiled lovingly at my children, and often told him something about my own unit and the difficulties I encountered consciously or unconsciously at work, asking him for advice. Gradually, the children also told me something about school and study. I never directly criticize his mistakes in study, but give priority to encouraging and raising hopes.
The power of love and smile is infinite, and children's thirst for knowledge is inspired by their parents. If parents are well-intentioned and persuasive, instead of alienating their children in a rude way and attracting them with well-intentioned feelings and words, it is easy to get their children's good feelings, and their children will be very happy and willing to communicate with you all day. Giving children a bright smile every day will make them happy physically and mentally and develop their intelligence. I am a person who loves to laugh, and I am glad that there is a special educational means in my family education-smile. If the children succeed, I will send them to appreciate with a smile; When the child feels lost, I will smile and send encouragement; When children make mistakes, I will smile and send them to tolerance. I won the respect and love of the children with a smile. Smile is a shining golden key, which can open the door to successful education and help children grow sturdily.
Fifth, cultivate good interests and build up self-confidence.
Interest is the best teacher for children. No matter what you do, as long as you are interested, you will have the motivation to do it well. Interest learning and passive learning have different effects. So I never put pressure on my child to enroll in advanced classes, remedial classes and other things he doesn't want to learn. My children have been playing middle school and happy middle school, and their grades have always been among the best. Now, my children have learned to play table tennis, badminton, basketball, skateboarding, cycling, skating, swimming and so on. He learned what teamwork spirit is from these sports, and he also tasted success and failure. These personal experiences are a good spiritual wealth for him.
Six, conscientiously sum up experience, make the next study plan.
Every time I take an exam, I ask my children to sum up their successful experiences and find out the weaknesses and deficiencies in each stage. After each grade comes out, we should sum up and analyze the problems of each subject with our children, make a good study plan for the next step, and fight a prepared battle to be foolproof.
Seven, educate children to face setbacks correctly.
People will inevitably encounter setbacks in their lives. Suffering is a great wealth of life. Misfortune and frustration can make people sink, and can also cast a strong will and achieve a full life. Suffering is a good teacher in life, which can teach children to learn to treat all problems with gratitude and positive attitude and bravely participate in social competition.
Eight, grasp the scale of respect, trust, encouragement and criticism.
Parents should learn to put themselves in their children's shoes, respect and trust their children, get to know them better, change their hearts with trust and win their trust. In daily life, we should learn more about their growing troubles and spiritual needs through careful observation, heart-to-heart conversation, careful care and patient help, and avoid comparing the shortcomings of our children with the advantages of other children. Whenever encountering difficulties, encourage and comfort him and help him regain his confidence. Criticize children's mistakes in an appropriate way.
Return to nature, increase your knowledge and broaden your horizons.
As soon as the child has a holiday, we will take time to take him on a trip and show him the outside world. Children have gained a lot of knowledge and broadened their horizons by getting close to nature and feeling the breath of nature. Seeing the children playing in the embrace of nature, we are happy, and our comfortable expressions are beaming. Yes! The healthy growth of children's body and mind is more important than anything else.
X. Set an example and always be grateful.
Nowadays, only children are spoiled and loved by their parents. They are all "good babies" and "little sun" at home. Sometimes the soft ones don't work, the hard ones don't work, and it's difficult to manage. Therefore, what he is required to do must first set an example and try his best to be perfect. For example, we ask him not to play computer games often. First of all, we should do it and try to be his role model. Children are thoughtful and flesh and blood. The love, patience and care we give them will be in their eyes and in their hearts. Parents' words and deeds and meticulous care will touch children, and they will always be grateful to teachers, families and society; I will also try my best to create everything and repay the society with an honest, kind and grateful heart.
The above talk about some family education experience, in this diversified society, the experience of cultivating children is far more than that. It is multifaceted, concrete and touching. The environment of each family is different, the specific situation of children is different, and the specific education methods are different. I have been confused and confused in the process of children's growth and education, but I will persist and work hard. I firmly believe that as long as I give my children more love and smiles, my children will be better and will become the pillars of the country in the future.
the second
Everything is difficult at the beginning, and education itself is a norm of moral behavior. The education problem of students is not only the school's, but also the family's. Family is a child's first teacher and a teacher of family education. It is through family education that parents impart good moral character, rich knowledge and experience to their children. For the future of the children. Lay a good foundation for the road of life. In my opinion, the key to doing a good job in family education should be to "prescribe the right medicine" according to the characteristics of children.
Children are like flowers in spring, innocent, lively and lovely, and have poor ability to distinguish right from wrong. At the same time, they are curious, receptive and imitative. Therefore, parents should never use simple and rude methods when educating their children. We should be good at guiding, try our best to stimulate their interest and change passive learning into active learning. They should mainly do the following work:
First, cultivate children's good study habits.
Ye Shengtao said: "Education is the formation of habits." "All good attitudes and good methods should become habits. Only when proficiency becomes a habit can we express a good attitude at any time and place, and apply good methods at any time and place, as if by instinct, we can never use them all our lives. " Children's concentration time is short, so they must improve their learning efficiency in peacetime. For example, when writing homework, you should finish the homework assigned by the teacher within the specified time, and you can't play while doing it; Check your homework and be responsible for yourself. Parents must not be teachers. Parents must pay attention to the analysis of the reasons for the wrong questions, not just staring at the scores. This makes children feel that learning is their own business, and good study habits can get twice the result with half the effort.
Second, pay attention to the ways and means of communicating with children.
As parents, we should put down our airs, make friends with children, regard children as independent subjects, communicate with children as low as possible, use less imperative tone and use more negotiating language. Use "we" more than "you should", even if it is criticism, let your child feel your love for him. Because children's hearts are very fragile, if parents often give their children classes, they will inevitably have a sense of fear and disgust. If they dare not approach you, they will often have rebellious psychology. Not only do they not like what you say, but they are afraid to go to school.
Third, parents should pay attention to their words and deeds.
As parents, we should pay special attention to our image. Parents should behave in a civilized way in front of our children. Because parents are role models for children, parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on children and have a far-reaching impact on their growth. Of course, we must have great endurance and be patient with children. Don't use your child as a vent bucket when you encounter troubles at work. As parents, you can't lose your temper. You can only take pains to persuade and educate, and at most you can only euphemistically say "I'm really angry if you do this again", and then patiently guide and persuade.
Fourth, stimulate children's interest in learning.
As parents, we should try our best to be good at guiding and stimulate children's interest in learning. As we all know, children are active and playful by nature, but as long as they are interested in something, they will really study hard, do it seriously and do it consciously. They don't want to do things they are not interested in, and it is impossible to drive ducks to the shelves for their children. Only by being good at guiding children and stimulating their interest in learning can children be happy and actively involved in learning. Usually, you can make use of your knowledge and imagination to make up some interesting stories or games, so that children can learn while playing, and truly "enjoy learning".
In short, for children's family education, we should learn to communicate with them attentively, help them develop good study habits, stimulate their interest in learning, and let them study happily and grow up healthily.
Family education experience 2 1
Now many parents can't forget their lofty status. They treat their children as children and are the objects that need to be controlled. Treating children as learning machines is an object that needs to be filled, but children will never be treated as people and need to be respected. They don't want to squat down and analyze, find and solve problems from the perspective of children. Apart from great expectations and heavy love, parents are simply arrogant and unreasonable. Instead, I reason with my children all day.
According to a survey, children hate their parents' nagging, "talking nonsense all the time", "saying everything a hundred times" and "talking all the time since kindergarten". What does this bring to children?
Man is an emotional animal. He only trusts his feelings. Psychologically speaking, it is not the truth that illuminates our growth, but the feeling that guides us forward, especially children.
When children say "I'm hungry", parents say "just eat, not hungry"; Children say "I'm hot" and parents say "it's not hot today". Parents will not only deny their children's feelings, but also bring more negative emotions to their children. When you jokingly ask, "Is mom or dad better?" The child looked at his parents doubtfully. His feeling is: Did father or mother do anything bad? When you say, "I spent so much money on your education, do you know?" The child's feeling is that all the money at home has been used by me to study, and my parents are very painful for this. Maybe I shouldn't study. When you say, "You did so badly in this exam, stop playing!" The child's feeling is: he doesn't study well, he doesn't play well and he is a useless person. Parents quarrel every day, and the children feel that they don't love me. When parents invade their children's personal space at will, his feeling is the end of the world. There is nothing in this world that belongs to me, and I don't need to exist!
We all say that "a good parent-child relationship is better than a lot of education". Where did the bad parent-child relationship start? Don't respect children's feelings! It can be said that it is the first killer of parent-child imbalance! When a child's feelings are denied, that is, his emotional flow is blocked, his frustration, incomprehension of adults and panic about the world will be shrouded in his heart for a long time, not to mention learning. He has no interest in everything and is paralyzed like rickets. Parents take out their hearts and the children are indifferent!
It's not what you say, it's what the child hears, not what you do, but what the child feels. Pay attention to children's feelings, experience their feelings, affirm their feelings and express their feelings. You are a great parent!
the second
Thackeray, an English writer, said: "Sowing behavior, harvesting habits, sowing habits, harvesting character, sowing character, harvesting fate." This shows the importance of cultivating good behavior habits. Tao Xingzhi, a thinker in China, once said that "most of the important habits and attitudes needed in life can be cultivated successfully before the age of six." It reveals the necessity of cultivating good behavior habits as soon as possible.
At present, most children are only children, which is the sunshine at home. Family members take meticulous care of their children's lives, give them the best food and clothes, help them do everything they need to do, meet their requirements to the maximum extent, and never say "no" in front of them. Grandparents and parents spoil their children too much, which leads to problems such as self-centeredness, poor adaptability, willfulness and fear of hardship. From teachers' home visits and questionnaires at the beginning of school, it is found that most children in small classes are full of food and clothes, and many parents attach great importance to their children's cognitive education and intellectual development, and take the cultivation of their behavior habits as a substitute or not to correct them on the grounds that their children are still young. In the development of children, there is a disharmony between cognitive potential and behavioral potential.
Many children are still confident when performing programs, but once they are allowed to complete a simple task independently, they seem at a loss. Some children have not yet formed the basic behavior habits of eating, going to the toilet, listening to lectures and playing with toys. If this situation is allowed to develop, there will be more and more problems in children's behavior, and their bad development will be inevitable, which will have a bad impact on their later lives.
3~4 years old is the key period to cultivate children's good behavior habits, and family education and preschool education are the important periods for children to form good behavior habits. It is more important for children to cultivate good behavior habits than to acquire knowledge. And good behavior habits can not be formed overnight. To cultivate a person's good behavior habits, we must start from an early age. More and more facts prove that the cultivation of good behavior habits is much more important than the acquisition of knowledge. Developing good habits is the foundation of a person's independence from society, and it also determines his work efficiency and quality of life to a great extent, thus affecting his success and happiness in his life. It can be said that habit is an important aspect to show a person's quality. Small class is an important stage for children to gradually move from adult care to independent life. Many behaviors of children in small classes have not been established or stereotyped, which is very plastic. Therefore, it is more important to cultivate children's good living and health habits in small classes.
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My daughter is 8 years old and is in the second grade of primary school. She is not only excellent, but also makes us proud: she has a wide range of interests, is self-motivated, studies hard, has a strong initiative, has a certain sense of responsibility and love, can respect her elders and is good at getting along with children. On the whole, she is a healthy, happy, smart and lively little girl. But there are still some problems, such as carelessness, love to play, slow work, and not taking the initiative to help classmates.
When it comes to education, we usually pay more attention to children's physical and mental health education, emotional education and social moral education. We pay attention to the different changes of children at each stage, and often communicate with each other to make children live in a relaxed, happy and harmonious environment. Of course, there is also a lot of confusion. Let me talk about some educational ideas and experiences of our family.
First, the word "strictness" comes first, and "care" is not "love".
At the beginning of life, human nature is good. Every child is born kind and simple, and the formation of habits is the result of acquired education. Now there are more only children, family conditions are better, and there are more phenomena of being disciplined by others. In the process of children's growth, many parents often ignore the strict education of their children. All things are handled by parents and grandparents. They have no sympathy, no self-care ability and no will to overcome difficulties. Our family usually requires children to be polite to others, not to bully the small with the big, but to respect their elders. In education, we should give priority to guidance, be strict but not autocratic, and care but not spoil.
Second, strive to cultivate children's good habits
The cultivation of children's habits is related to their future behavior norms, especially in primary school, which is the most critical period for establishing routines and cultivating good study habits. It is most effective to cultivate all kinds of good habits at this stage. Grasping this link is equivalent to grasping the child's future.
Nowadays, children's IQ is high, and most children are not good at study and work and rest because of bad habits. For example, eating while watching TV, playing with things while doing homework, letting adults accompany them to do homework, and not doing homework immediately after school. Grandpa always picks up her daughter from school. In the first semester of senior one, she didn't adapt to the habit of going home from school to do her homework, so she watched TV first when she got home, just like she used to go home from kindergarten. Her grandfather couldn't control her, so he asked her to do her homework when we came home from work. It was very late, which affected the spirit of the next day. So, we said to her, "You have to do your homework when you come home from school. Mom and dad will check you when they come back from work, and then we will issue you a sign according to the situation. Because at that time, the class issued slogans to encourage children. Since then, she has done her homework as soon as she gets home every day. This not only improved her autonomous learning ability, but also developed good habits. We often use our spare time to communicate with children.
Third, parents should be role models for their children.
The power of example is infinite. A public service advertisement on TV does not mean that parents are the best teachers for their children. Parents are not only natural teachers for children, but also partners, friends and role models. It is not easy to be a parent, and it is even harder to be a good parent.
Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words, and the influence of parents' words and deeds on their children is subtle. As a parent, I think we should "learn to care" first. Care about family, friends, society, country, etc. Let children know how to respect the old and love the young, be humble and help each other, and be generous. Secondly, we should strengthen our self-cultivation. Always study, don't indulge in playing cards, mahjong, etc. Establish a healthy and upward image in children's minds. Third, we should build a harmonious family. The influence of family life atmosphere and adult morality on children can not be ignored. Living with praise and encouragement, children will learn self-esteem and self-confidence. Living in humiliation, he will learn to feel inferior; Living in equality, he will learn justice.
Fourth, pay attention to the growth of children and guide them correctly.
When children were very young, my family attached great importance to moral education and knew how to be a man before doing things. We mainly ask children never to lie, don't take other people's things, and don't litter. When we are educating, we all do it in an equal atmosphere. Generally, we take a little time every day to pay attention to the growth of our children: Have you finished your homework? Did you have fun at school today? Is there anything interesting? Especially when children encounter setbacks or make mistakes at school, we communicate with her in time, give correct guidance, adjust children's mentality, and make children like school and be happy at school.
While paying attention to children's growth, we should also be careful not to deprive children of time and rights to play. Nowadays, there are more and more training institutions in the society, and parents are more and more eager to let their children become pianists, singers, painters and dancers ... Learning piano today, dancing tomorrow, learning English in the morning and learning Olympic Mathematics in the afternoon makes children not only uninterested, but also bored. Our children also attend training courses, but they are all her favorite, so every time she goes, she is very happy and gets along well with her classmates.
Education is a complex systematic project, and family education requires parents' patience and care. Although we have some educational ideas and experiences ourselves, the education of children is still not enough. We will continue to study hard and learn from other people's successful experiences and practices in family education, and discuss with teachers and parents to make children become excellent students with all-round development in morality, intelligence and physique.
Understanding of family education 3 British writer Thackeray said, "Sowing behavior, harvesting habits, sowing habits, harvesting character, sowing character, harvesting fate." This shows the importance of cultivating good behavior habits. Tao Xingzhi, a thinker in China, once said that "most of the important habits and attitudes needed in life can be cultivated successfully before the age of six." It reveals the necessity of cultivating good behavior habits as soon as possible.
At present, most children are only children, which is the sunshine at home. Family members take meticulous care of their children's lives, give them the best food and clothes, help them do everything they need to do, meet their requirements to the maximum extent, and never say "no" in front of them. Grandparents and parents spoil their children too much, which leads to problems such as self-centeredness, poor adaptability, willfulness and fear of hardship. From the teachers' home visits and questionnaires at the beginning of the school year, it is found that most children in small classes are at home, and many parents attach great importance to their children's cognitive education and intellectual development, and take the cultivation of their behavior habits as a substitute or not to correct them on the grounds that their children are still young. In the process of children's development, there is disharmony and synchronization between cognitive potential and behavioral potential. Many children are still confident when performing programs, but once they are allowed to complete a simple task independently, they seem at a loss. Some children have not yet formed the basic behavior habits of eating, going to the toilet, listening to lectures and playing with toys. If this situation is allowed to develop, there will be more and more problems in children's behavior, and children's dysplasia will be inevitable, which will have a negative impact on children's future life.
3~4 years old is the key period to cultivate children's good behavior habits. Family education and preschool education are the important periods for children to form good behavior habits, which is more important than knowledge acquisition. And good behavior habits can not be formed overnight. To cultivate a person's good behavior habits, we must start from an early age. More and more facts prove that the cultivation of good behavior habits is much more important than the acquisition of knowledge. Developing good habits is the foundation of a person's independence from society, and it also determines his work efficiency and quality of life to a great extent, thus affecting his success and happiness in his life. It can be said that habit is an important aspect of a person's quality. Small class is an important stage for children to gradually move from adult care to independent life. Many behaviors of children in small classes have not been established or stereotyped, which is very plastic. Therefore, it is more important to cultivate children's good living and health habits in small classes.