Cao Zeneng, chief psychologist of Zhuhai Bangda Psychological Consulting Co., Ltd., said: "Compared with winning or losing in the exam, the results will be divided into good and bad, and the candidates' mood will definitely fluctuate. According to experience, two weeks after the college entrance examination is often the period of frequent psychological problems of candidates. Candidates can't treat their psychological pressure rationally, and it is easy to induce extreme behavior, resulting in psychological problems such as' post-test depression' or' post-test expectation anxiety'. "Before the college entrance examination, the mentality of many candidates was like a tight spring, and problems of all sizes were suppressing the way for the college entrance examination. Once the college entrance examination is over, without reasonable guidance, the destructive power of spring will be quite powerful.
On the one hand, for candidates, there are many reasons for psychological depression: candidates who are frustrated in the examination room may be depressed for a long time, do not communicate with others, have strong negative emotions such as self-blame, self-blame, and even have self-abuse impulses and suicidal tendencies; However, some candidates, because of the sudden disintegration of the college entrance examination goal, can't find a suitable motivation for life for a while, and they will feel weightless, at a loss, and even can't find a reason to "live and exist"; Some candidates' stress suddenly explodes after the exam, from freezing point to boiling point, forming a great psychological gap, which makes people feel weak, loss of appetite, poor sleep and anxiety; There are also some candidates who suffer from loss and gain, are not confident enough, and have a low evaluation of their own achievements, so they are depressed, listless and pessimistic. In addition, candidates who do well in the exam are also prone to addiction, and they are prone to tears of joy by over-venting their emotions through online, singing and gathering.
On the other hand, family atmosphere is also an important factor affecting children's psychological state. Some parents pay too much attention to the results of the college entrance examination, and they will be nervous as long as the results are not announced. Once parents are nervous, children will be more nervous. With the constant anxiety during the period of volunteering and waiting for the admission notice, it is annoying for the whole family; Moreover, some parents dare not say anything before the exam, for fear of affecting their children's play. After the exam, if the child's grades are not ideal, the family atmosphere will be more harmonious.
Suggestions: First, parents should treat their children with a normal heart, and don't nag about "seeing grades" and "how many undergraduate courses" every day. The exam is over, no matter what their grades are, they must accept the reality unconditionally; Don't care too much about your children, don't be responsive before the exam, and don't be sarcastic after the exam; Pay more attention to children's emotional changes. From review, college entrance examination to waiting for admission notice, children are under great physical and mental pressure. Parents should help their children to relieve their psychological stress in time, let them do some housework within their power, or listen to music, watch TV and visit relatives and friends, which can gradually dilute the influence of the exam.
Second, parents can help their children relax moderately. In the process of relieving the psychological pressure after the exam, the self-regulation of candidates is more important. Parents should help their children study, entertain and travel in an adjustable way, divert their attention from exams, relieve their emotions, get rid of the troubles of negative emotions, look at success or failure objectively, and face their future life with a positive attitude. Of course, if children can't decompress themselves, they can also seek the help of psychological professionals.
Third, guide the children to listen to the "last lesson". Let children realize that exams are a thing of the past, and they must objectively evaluate themselves after exams; Regain your hobbies that you gave up because of the exam. At the same time, objectively analyze the actual situation: if you are depressed about your mistakes, you can consider retaking the exam; If your grades are always like this and your wishes are too high, you need to learn to adjust your goals; If parents' financial ability is acceptable, attending private universities or foreign universities is also a good choice; Of course, it is also a good choice to get a job first and study while working.