When chicken soup like choice is more popular than hard work, many people even disdain hard work. Zuo Luo, vice president of Insertion College, once pointed out in an article: "The big V's tell you that choice is greater than effort, platform is greater than effort, opportunity is greater than effort, cleverness is greater than effort, and method is greater than effort. But is this a fact? Everything is greater than hard work, and in the end those things become a shield for you not to work hard. When the world gets worse, it starts with laughing at efforts. "
Especially under the premise that a person's ability has not been significantly improved, his personal connections are not extensive enough, and his resources are very limited, a person can only earn corresponding returns by his own efforts.
Psychologically, accepting efforts is the normal state of life. This also means that you should give up your current comfort zone and be hard on yourself. In order to achieve the expected goal, you have to sweat and forge ahead.
But I have to say that hard work may not win, because there are many factors to win, and hard work may be just one of them. We should also talk about factors such as weather and geographical location. This is a fact of life. We should emphasize the important role of hard work in victory, but we can't ignore other factors.
The question now is how to increase the possibility of winning and make the effort meaningful. When you think about these problems, you will find that it is far more difficult than believing that hard work will pay off and working hard as always. This kind of cognitive effort, this kind of effort to change the way of thinking, this kind of effort to change the way of working is very different from that kind of brute force. If we proceed from this rational cognition, it is not difficult for us to draw a cognition: the chances of winning through hard work will increase a lot.
In other words, efforts are not blind, and there must be ways and means. As Teacher Song Xiaodong wrote "Efficient Efforts", don't let inefficiency ruin all your efforts, but find the right way to struggle.
Accept your personality and give full play to your advantages.
In psychology, the simplest method of personality division is to divide people into introverts and extroverts. It must be noted here that there is no good or bad personality. Whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, as long as you can accept your own personality, you will have a chance to become a master of communication.
One of my teachers is an introvert. Every time I chat with him, although he doesn't talk much, he always hits the nail on the head and gives me a lot of inspiration. Once, he shared with me some insights from his career as an introvert for so many years. He told me that when he first started working, he also longed to be an extrovert. On the wine table, he also envies those who can talk easily with the leaders. But when it's his turn to talk to the leader, he always feels unnatural. If you say something nice once in a while, you will feel uncomfortable all over.
Later, the teacher told me that he reconciled with himself-he accepted his introverted personality and learned to give full play to his advantages as an introvert. He found himself better at listening. In addition, although he doesn't talk much, what he says is often to the point. In this way, introverted personality did not hinder his better communication with others, nor did it hinder his career development. In the year when I graduated, my teacher sent me a short message telling me that he was sent by the school and was going to Japan to be the Chinese dean of the Confucius Institute at a university.
In fact, whether you are an introvert or an extrovert, you can talk to anyone. The key is to accept your personality, and then give full play to your character strengths.
What determines your career height is to give play to your advantages, not to cater to them deliberately.
When I was a graduate student a few years ago, I often took a senior trainer, Qiang Ge, to give classes to enterprises and be a teaching assistant on weekends. Usually, Brother Qiang is responsible for taking over the whole training business of an enterprise, and then calling a group of freelance trainers to complete the training task of the enterprise.
Brother Qiang's qualifications are relatively old, and he has registered his own training company, which is very prestigious in the training circle. The people he works with are well paid, and Brother Qiang never defaults on his salary. As soon as the training is over, he will pay the workers immediately. Of course, Brother Qiang is also very strict with people, and everyone respects him, so everyone calls him Big Brother.
While working as a teaching assistant with Brother Qiang, I met another trainer, Xiaobai. Xiao Bai is short and strong, and his eyes are always sharp. Xiao Bai is a person with personality. When other trainers are around Brother Qiang, only Xiaobai goes his own way and never tries to please Brother Qiang.
Sometimes, when Brother Qiang arranges training tasks, Xiao Bai often points out unreasonable places without saving face. Seeing Xiao Bai speak so straight, I felt a sweat for him, thinking, I wonder if Brother Qiang sent him money? If you offend Brother Qiang, don't ask him to come over for training next time. Isn't this a question of money? However, every time Brother Qiang receives a big training order, he will ask Xiaobai to do it together. Once, everyone needed to take a bus to a scenic spot in the field for outdoor training. As a result, Xiao Bai was late for a long time and hasn't arrived yet. The whole bus is waiting for Xiao Bai. Everyone is guessing that Yan Jianqiang's brother will definitely scold Xiaobai this time.
Half an hour later, Xiaobai arrived at the scene panting. However, Brother Qiang didn't break into a furious rage, but symbolically said, "Come early next time." And never said anything again. Seeing the whole process, I always feel puzzled: why does Xiao Bai seem to have so many small problems, but Brother Qiang still dotes on him so much?
It was not until one day that Brother Qiang asked me to take some photos at Xiaobai's training ground that I understood the power of Xiaobai. That day, when I completely listened to Xiaobai's training class, I was really shocked. When Xiao Bai is training, he seems to be a different person. This is a training on employee motivation. Xiaobai is very devoted in class, and he is full of passion and appeal. On the rostrum, he repeatedly quoted and ridiculed that
The staff under the stage were engrossed in ecstasy.
At that moment, I guess he must have felt the kind of "flowing experience" described in psychology, such as running water and harmony between man and nature. After the course, Xiao Bai's voice became hoarse because of overexertion, but he was surrounded by students under the stage like a star, and everyone wanted to take a photo with him. At that moment, I envied Xiaobai being warmly sought after by so many students. I hope I can be like Xiao Bai one day. At the same time, I finally understand that although Xiaobai has some small shortcomings, these shortcomings are not hidden. Brother Qiang still values Xiaobai's talent. What makes Xiao Bai truly respected is his professional skills, not deliberately catering.
Don't think that hard work is tiring, and mediocrity is more tiring. Because life is a general ledger, if you choose comfort at the age of struggle, then pain will come sooner or later. You can think it over. Physical pain is not terrible. What's really terrible is that there is no hope in your heart. Because it is also tired, that kind of hard work is positive and full of hope. And that kind of idleness is passive and desperate.
(6 struggle methodologies, 42 thought and action guides, and hundreds of typical cases. Say goodbye to inefficiency and let your time and actions come true quickly! )
Release date: 20 18090 1
Pricing: 39.80 yuan
Publishing House: Tiandi Publishing House
Number of pages: 280 pages
Book number: 978-7-5455-4043-7