1. Give her enough sense of security. Women will definitely feel more insecure with boys younger than themselves. Therefore, as a man, we must give women enough sense of security. Where does the sense of security come from For example, a stable job, such as taking care of her gently and considerate. 2, into his circle of friends, brother and sister need the recognition of friends, the man's friends are more sure of you than your girlfriends, get to know more friends around him, create better relationships, and make your boyfriend feel worthy of interacting with you. 3. Be generous and openly in love, and make her feel that you value her. You don't have to take a photo of yourself in your circle of friends every day to show how much you love her, but you must generously introduce her to your friends and family and dare to hold her hand in the street. 4. Really dilute the age gap in the mind, not influenced by secular vision. In some places, some people still have some taboos in their eyes, thinking that girls eat young grass and boys rely on girls. Only when both men and women really start from their feelings and ignore the discussion can they contribute to the stability of their feelings. Advantages and disadvantages of sister-in-law's love: 1 It can show that both men and women are attractive. If you are a sister-in-law couple, it is generally because boys are attractive or girls are attractive, otherwise they will not attract each other. 2, older girls will not be melodramatic, girls are more spoiled and dependent, but if girls are older than boys, these feelings will not exist, and they can be veritable strong women and earn money. 3, can let you feel the feelings of different peers in love, women's maternal feelings will be more enlarged with age, and there will be a desire to protect men younger than themselves. Her mature and intellectual side will make you extremely relaxed, and the man will prefer the former to the unruly and willful woman of the same age. Disadvantages: 1, the generation gap is too large. If the age gap between two people is too large, it is likely that there are differences in values, world outlook and outlook on life. This profound ideological difference may lead to the generation gap between the two people is too large and will eventually separate. 2. Many brother-sister relationships will eventually end in breakup. Take a closer look at many celebrities or couples around you. Few sibling relationships end in breakup, wasting time and energy. 3, the man's economic pressure will be greater and the woman will be more anxious. If we don't consider the result, every relationship will only become a relative, and the practical problems need to be deeply thought by both sides. When both brothers and sisters need to face marriage, they will encounter problems such as unsuccessful career and poor financial resources for young men, while the woman is anxious because she is too old to leave enough time for her husband. This may be one of the reasons why brother-sister love can't go to the marriage hall. What should I pay attention to when falling in love with my brother and sister? 2 1. The patience of money is actually easy to understand. You find a brother as your boyfriend. He has graduated for many years. Generally speaking, in terms of money, his stock assets are more than his younger brother's, so he is generous, not because his younger brother is stingy, but because he lacks money and has a short graduation time. Especially looking for a male classmate at school, you graduated from college for four years at the age of 26, and he graduated from graduate school at the age of 23, which seems to be "only three years old". When he graduates at the age of 26 in three years, you will be "30" at the age of 29. At this time, you have to wait for him to start his first job, get started slowly and earn money. It will be slow to get the money at first, so you should be patient with him, your long-distance love run that lasted for more than three years, his potential stocks, and your parents' relatives' urging marriage. It is easy to have money, but the key is to have no money. When there is no money, it will be very stressful to find a younger brother as a husband. Even if you are the same age as his junior high school or high school classmates, he will graduate with a master's degree in the fourth year of your graduation, and he will enter the society three years later than you. Girls who have worked for three years will subconsciously take their brothers, customers and small leaders who are several years older than you in their lives as reference objects when comparing objects, and then think of their "husbands" who have just started or haven't started making money, and your gap will be relatively large. It's the same for both of you to enter society. Even if a 28-year-old senior looks for a 26-year-old senior, there will be obvious economic fatigue, because as analyzed in the previous paragraph, your inner goal is a 35-year-old senior, while your man is a 26-year-old junior, and their wealth stock (house, car, registered permanent residence, savings, etc.). ) and increment (salary, position, sideline, resources, etc. ) both. Therefore, usually find a schoolmate as a boyfriend, especially a husband, and have excellent endurance in money. This is not a kind of love that makes God cry. I suggest that you give priority to your brother. Followed by men of the same age; Then there are boys less than 2 years younger than you; Then there are returnees with little economic pressure, and even rich second-generation schoolmates; Finally, a warm boy younger brother who is less than 3 years old. 2. Definition of classmates Our life can be roughly divided into six age groups: children, teenagers, youth, prime of life, middle age and old age. According to the perspective of career, it is divided into three stages. Before graduation, it is called a student period, after graduation, it is called a working period, and 55 women and 60 men are retired. However, it should be noted here. The student period in the early twenties is the growth period of our life, and it is also the tempering period of our life, or the "probation period". After entering the workplace, 22 years old grows to 55 years old and 60 years old. Such a career with a minimum of 30 years and a maximum of nearly 40 years has a similar period of running-in in the workplace, or social adaptation. /kloc-graduated in 0/year, and I felt good at first, but I soon found that I didn't know anything and the knowledge in school could not be applied to my work; In the second year, your psychological defense will accelerate the decline, and your self-confidence will even begin to resemble a free fall; In the third year, that is, 24 months after graduation, I was really discouraged to the edge of sadness; In the fourth year, 36 months after graduation, I began to be "as sick as spinning", but I was still very sad within 48 months; In the fifth year, 50 months after graduation, I began to climb slowly, painful and happy; From then on, from the sixth year until graduation 30 years or even retirement, they all belong to working adults. It's a long time, which means that the first five years after graduation are the probation period of the whole 30-40-year career, also known as the confusion period. The deep cold in the confused period is between junior year and senior year, which happens to be about 30 months after graduation, when I want to jump off a building. A boy who graduated six years ago and a boy who graduated 1 years ago have completely different perceptions of occupation and workplace. The former is an adult in the workplace, whether promoted or not. Most people who graduated 0-5 years ago are still in the stage of giant baby in the workplace. No matter how smart you are, these stages will not disappear as long as you enter the market economy outside the system. Some people are slightly better off, but it is deceptive to tell you that he or she is not confused. It can only be relatively shortened, or the absolute value of this desperate bottom is relatively not so great, and the pain after meeting my brother is not so deep. The four green stages in the picture are all ideal vacuum periods before graduation. At this point, you are in the stage of accepting theoretical thinking and talking on paper. People who pay attention to World War II and World War III have the same professional thinking as recent graduates. It can be seen that no matter what work you do, work plays a great role in the growth of professional thinking. The above is the decomposition of the confusion period, which has never been said in China. Let me emphasize again: after graduation, it takes about five years to fall down and get up again, which is called the new career period. During this period, some point between the third year and the fourth year is your valley of despair, and that time is the most sad. Six years after graduation, you have become an old driver in the workplace. Since then, salary or position depends on your personal development, and the strict correlation with "years" has begun to weaken. What does this sentence mean? For example, a P7 post in Ali, with an annual salary of 800,000, can be delivered after graduation for 6 years, 1 1 year and 22 years, depending on how old you are. Drivers who have been driving for 5 years must be novice drivers who have just got their driver's license for 3 months and are sweating like rain on the road; However, everyone has been driving for more than six years, and no one dares to conclude that Lao Wang with 15 driving experience is better than Lao Zhang with 7 years driving experience. Throughout my career, the symbolic moment was that I was promoted to be a leader and managed by people. As a leader, you will begin to need reverse thinking and strategic thinking. You can know the reasons why you can't understand things, relationships and principles when you are an employee, especially where you misunderstand the leader. Similar to being a mother-in-law, I certainly know what it's like to be a daughter-in-law at first. As a leader, you also need to have decision-making ability. It used to be execution, but now it needs to make decisions. For example, buyers can log in to the system, enter materials, place orders, urge goods, urge invoices, return goods, and count inventory and online material quantities; But the purchasing supervisor is responsible for supplier selection, unit price, MOQ, why it is unit price and MOQ, why the delivery time is so long, what if a supplier suddenly closes down, what if the customer suddenly cancels the order, and who to choose as the buyer of this material. From employees to leaders, most people can't cross this step. As I have said many times, what we encounter most at work are old colleagues who have not been promoted to supervisor. These are the so-called old drivers, old employees and Lao Zhang and Lao Wang who "take care of themselves". They seem to know everything, but they don't care about people and leaders. Whether you can be promoted to the fourth stage as a manager, even a small supervisor, depends on the weather, location, people and coincidence. Of course, it also depends on your unit, your education, relationships, including your performance, understanding and even luck. The above is mainly about outside the system. Within the system, there is no such downward and upward curve for at least five years. They continue the thinking of senior three or senior three students. They have many theories, most of which were put into practice after graduation. Just like what you do in the student union, there is no rapid fall, no desperate valley, no climbing behind you. They will complain a little, but as long as they stay and don't make big mistakes, they will basically play the role of cadres, that is, leaders, not because of their strong ability, but because their execution has improved and their time, qualifications and relationships are in place. This U-shape, which lasted for about five years, is the bleeding outside the system, which is often called "beating", and it is also the main reason why Xianglinsao dare not come out easily. Complaining has no cost. Let him or her come out and have a try. Most of them are talking but not practicing. Of course, they don't know why. After reading this article, they finally understood the principle. Let's go back to what we said about seniors looking for junior girls. Take a good look at where you are on the curve and when your senior husband is. It can be said that the perception and cognition of different points on this curve and even the view of society are different. Therefore, after entering the society, brothers and sisters do not look at your age, but at the number of years you have entered the society. You are a 3 1 year-old doctor who just graduated and fell in love with a 25-year-old junior college sister. You are her junior, too. She has 4-5 years of social experience. In the first five years of your graduation, she can play whatever she wants. You don't understand society, and it's useless to have a higher education. Why does Lao Denuo, a middle-aged man, call Ling Huchong, 20, his eldest brother? Why do you think it is? This university has majors and apprentices. At first, it mainly depends on the time when you enter. Whoever starts work first is the senior brother, and whoever graduates late is the junior, not the age. 3. Sister's patience. Let's choose one with a smaller time difference. You both graduated from undergraduate courses. Three years after your girl entered the society, she graduated with a master's degree, so you are his senior, even though you are classmates. The questions he asked after graduation are basically the ones you have experienced. Although you two lovers are different in gender, they have similar experiences, especially the same problems. Most of the questions asked by boyfriends of the same age easily remind you of yourself yesterday. Why do I suggest that your girl find a classmate? The age gap is too small. Think about it. If you are 29 years old and graduated for 8 years, you are introduced to a 26-year-old graduate student. Don't think there is a difference of 3 years between you. Soon, he had a master's degree and a doctor's degree. Even if I graduate at the age of 30, I still have 12 years of work experience. You developed very well and became a minister or director. How can this graduate catch up with you? Your concern is natural. You are afraid to find a mistress as a boyfriend or husband: he will find a mistress during school, ask silly questions after graduation, find a female colleague after work, blame you for being too low and too high, blame you for being too good to him after losing your job, and finally be promoted to be a leader at the age of 39, and actually like a 24-year-old female employee, but don't like you at the age of 42 ... In short, your junior is three years younger than you, so you should have this. Even if you don't get married, you should be patient when you have a sister-in-law relationship. 4, the bet of late marriage Many men, even if the younger sister that their brother is looking for is a girlfriend, have talked for seven or eight years, and they don't talk about marriage with their sisters. Every time they talk about getting married or getting married or even family life, children and so on. This guy will avoid talking about it. Among them, most boys have to continue to prepare for their economic foundation, or their dedication to work is not in place, or they want to develop and promote their positions before marrying you ... Some even regard you as a spare tire, waiting for nothing while talking to you. Now not only are you not looking for your brother, but your boyfriend is still at school. Do you want him to take the initiative to marry you or to propose, which will take several years? An older brother will hold you back for seven or eight years, but I'm afraid a younger brother will hold you back for eight or nine years, from 23 to 33. Who else can you marry besides him? Do you want a bride price? Do you want it? Not for the bride price, just to tell you that you are more likely to be dragged out of marriage. Therefore, looking for a schoolmate as a boyfriend is bound to be prepared for a late marriage. Some girls especially want to be mothers, and try not to find schoolmates and husbands. Late marriage is called gambling because when you were 35 years old, he remembered to get married, but the bride was not you. What if he doesn't like you? After that five-year curve, he may find that he was PUA from the beginning, and he will find that you laid hands on him during his ignorance period, but he will retaliate against you. This reminds people of the lady from Hangzhou, so forget it.