Women who are depressed because of marriage have been depressed for a long time and have not taken the initiative to relieve them. When depression accumulates, it will produce depression. Marriage is sometimes beautiful, but poor management will turn it into a grave. Let's learn about women who are depressed because of marriage.

Women depressed by marriage 1 1. Why do women get depressed after marriage?

1 may be caused by emotional factors. For example, if there is a big gap between your imagined marriage life and reality, your mood will fluctuate violently, which will naturally lead to depression.

2. It may be caused by financial factors. After the husband and wife get married, if the husband has been unemployed and idle at home, the pressure as a wife will be even greater, from the pressure of life and from the pressure of economy.

3, it may also be caused by physiological factors, especially during pregnancy, estrogen will have great changes, so the probability of depression will be higher, everyone must actively adjust their mentality.

Second, what are the manifestations of depression after marriage?

1. If you are always in a bad mood after marriage, no matter what gifts or surprises your husband has prepared for you, you are always depressed. If you are not interested, you should pay attention. You may have depression. I suggest you go to the hospital for the first time to consult a psychologist.

2. After marriage, if you find that your life is very unhappy and you feel sad every day, no matter how your husband teases you, you feel that the other person is bored and you are not excited, which also shows that you have depression.

In the past, I always liked to go out for dinner with my friends. However, after marriage, I no longer like my old hobbies. Nothing interests me, and I have always been pessimistic, which indicates depression.

Women who are depressed because of marriage 2 Which women are prone to depression after marriage?

First, an introverted and inconsiderate husband;

The safest and safest marriage is complementary, and the imbalance and ultimate failure of marriage are mostly due to the failure or failure of complementarity between husband and wife. Just like an outgoing and playful man, he will grow up only when he meets a gentle and calm woman. As for an introverted woman, she will be happy only if she marries an extroverted and humorous man. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like to talk. He can tell jokes to make her happy. It doesn't matter if she doesn't like going out to make friends. He will do her job and drag her out to play. However, what I fear most is that a woman is introverted and her husband is particularly careless and inconsiderate. The melancholy in her heart was frozen by silence and loneliness. The more silent and lonely, the thicker the ice in her heart. As far as the sky is always blue, most women are close to or belong to this situation when they are depressed after marriage.

Second, the husband is not at home all the year round and lives with his in-laws;

Once a netizen confided to the sky that the sky is always blue. She said that when her husband is not at home and at home, her in-laws treat her completely differently. This completely different attitude makes her depressed, even disgusting.

In fact, this situation completely exists. Mother-in-law and daughter-in-law have lived together for a long time, and there has been little harmony since ancient times. A little carelessness will lead to contradictions. However, family members often stand on the side of their in-laws, especially when men are not at home, and their women are particularly vulnerable to bullying. Coupled with her weak body, what her husband sees is often not the truth. That kind of mood is really unspeakable.

Third, those who can't stand on their own feet and have no way to control their husbands;

The sky is always blue. It has always been believed that a woman must have one of two things after marriage, either she can live independently or you have the real ability and skills to control this man. If you are neither, it is only a matter of time before your marriage turns red, and once you lose power in this marriage for a long time, you will definitely get depression.

Therefore, the sky is always blue, and women are often advised to be able to clearly understand their situation and their position. They shouldn't always stand by. Smart women should learn to observe, know when they should do something, and when things are wrong, and take measures to prepare for protection.

Fourth, the two places are separated, and one person takes care of the children;

People who don't get married and have children will never understand how much energy and effort it takes to raise a child. Especially for many newly married women who are not really mature, but want to raise their children alone, the pain and hardship can never be expressed in words.

The child was ill and no one poured water. No matter day or night, she can only sleep when the child is asleep. Tired, no one to comfort, because the child's father is not around. In this way, after a long time, it is particularly prone to post-marital depression.

Fifth, the personality is too rigid and has no economic strength.

In real life, there is a kind of woman who belongs to the reed type. In marriage, they are like reeds on the wall-the top is heavy and shallow. What should be the explanation for this? Forgive the sky is always blue, but it is as heavy as her personality is too rigid, and as light as her self-improvement. The superposition of the two will definitely form her "shallow" disadvantage, and it is easy to interrupt her life in marriage.

In fact, this kind of woman is very poor. The more rigid her personality is, the more pathetic she is. She is so pitiful that no one cares, has nowhere to talk, or won't talk. In fact, this is a society that respects the law of survival very much. The law of the jungle gives priority to the strong, which also applies to marriage. Strength is not proved by posture. More often, it needs strength to interpret, and it must not be taken by the stubbornness of personality. Only one person can drink at most, and one person is depressed!

Women repressed by marriage 3 stories 1:

After marriage 18 years, she suffered from depression, but she walked out of the trough and bought two houses and a shop for herself and her daughter.

She married him on 1990. After marriage, because the society advocated late marriage and late childbirth in the early 1990s, both parties had no desire to raise children, and the man's parents made it clear that they would not give support and help. Because of personal wishes, family reasons and economic conditions, it is not ideal. So neither of them had children until the end of 1996, when she finally got pregnant.

During pregnancy, due to physical changes, as long as she smells the oil smoke, she will have severe morning sickness, so she can't cook. The man not only refused to help her cook, but also admitted not to go home for dinner.

Before the baby was born, the man's behavior chilled her.

She always goes to the maternity check-up alone, cooks on her own with a big belly, and doesn't feel any family warmth at all.

The daughter was finally born on 1997, but the man didn't want to bear the family responsibilities as a father and husband at all, and he was completely indifferent to children and family affairs.

In daily life, the man often stays out at night, even if he comes home in the early hours of the morning, so she often can't see her husband. After marriage, the two are often in a vicious circle of quarreling and cold war.

Because she has been in high-intensity work for a long time at the same time, she is under the double pressure of family and work.

She was diagnosed with depression in 2008.

Suffering from depression, she sometimes feels particularly excited, sometimes feels unable to move, and even often thinks of suicide.

When she tried to seek comfort from her husband, she always got resentment and blame from him, and even made verbal violence and cynicism against her.

In 2009, due to the long-term deterioration of endometriosis, frequent menstrual pain caused her blood pressure to rise, and the doctor told her that she needed hysterectomy, which undoubtedly made her suffer from depression worse.

When she told her husband about this situation, the man just nodded to show his knowledge, without any words of comfort or relief, and did not say that he would accompany her to the hospital to complete the operation.

Helpless, she can only live in the hospital alone. Before the operation, she was always taken care of by her colleagues. Only when the family had to sign before the operation did her husband slowly appear in the hospital.

Sadly, because the man has always adhered to the AA lifestyle after marriage, he only used two red envelopes of 10 yuan to send her to the operating room.

So all the medical expenses are also borne by her.

Later, I learned from my daughter that her husband learned that her uterus had been removed and she could not have a son for her in the future, so he discussed with his parents how to divorce her. His words were full of disgust and disgust.

What she can't accept most is that this man said these words in front of his young daughter, regardless of the bad influence on her daughter.

After leaving the hospital, she took care of her body and daughter alone, and the husband and wife didn't talk much for three years.

In 20 12, my daughter took the senior high school entrance examination, but the role of "father" was absent all the way, as if there was only one roommate in the family, and they suddenly became a strange "shared" relationship.

Men come home very late, go out drinking and having fun with a group of friends, and are addicted to alcohol, regardless of the life and death of their wives and daughters. There is no denying that this relationship has entered a completely deformed stage.

After her daughter's senior high school entrance examination, she resolutely left the cold home with her daughter and began to rent a house outside to do business with friends.

After being separated from the man, her mood began to get better, and she began to sleep well at night, and her spirit improved day by day.

Fate always favors those who are strong and hard-working.

After six years of separation, she bought herself and her daughter a commercial house and a shop by her own efforts. Mother and daughter are like sisters.

From 2065438 to mid-2008, she came to my law firm for an interview and told me what happened above. She didn't cry or feel wronged. Everything seems to be telling other people's stories.

The reason is that she came out of that emotional quagmire.

As a matter of fact, since the two have never gone through the divorce formalities and have not reached a written agreement on the respective ownership of the husband and wife's property, the property obtained during the separation period also belongs to the joint property of the husband and wife.

After I communicated with her, I gave her a plan, and she could communicate and negotiate with the man first. After all, for so many years, the man has not invested a penny in the assets she earned, nor has he invested any energy. Emotionally and morally, she can communicate with him.

In this case, after my subsequent intervention and consultation, I communicated with the man many times, through communication with him in emotion, children's education and other aspects. Finally, the man admitted that he had been sorry for her for so many years, so he didn't want to fight for the assets she earned after separation, and he didn't advocate splitting the property he bought in his early years after marriage.

The two went through the divorce formalities under our communication and mediation.

One day after the divorce, she brought her daughter to visit the law firm. The whole person looks radiant and has no previous signs of depression.

Story 2:

2 1 years ago, they went to register for marriage by bike. Today, 2 1 year later, he took her to court for divorce in Tesla.

She and her husband grew up, and their parents are old acquaintances, which can be described as childhood friends.

Just together, two people go to work together and get off work together. When the food is not delicious, boxes of instant noodles also feel very happy.

At that time, her mother was ill, and the man ran back and forth between the hospital and home unhurriedly, carrying soup and water and taking care of the elderly in every possible way.

On her birthday, he rode a motorcycle to buy her a cake.

At that time, she felt that she was the happiest woman in the world.

1998, there was no wedding, no ring, only a few new wedding quilts and shoes, and the marriage was registered.

After getting married, he said he would go to work in a factory in Guangzhou, and she resolutely followed.

In 2003, their son was born, and their relationship finally had the crystallization of love.

After the birth of the child, the two also became more diligent. In 2005, we started to open factories together and stopped working for people.

The hardest part is actually in the beginning

In order to save costs, she did all the work. Many times, she has to work until two or three o'clock in the evening, even three or four o'clock, and she has to get up at seven or eight the next day to continue her work.

Because of physical fatigue, she sometimes goes to work sick, hoping to help him share more.

In daily life, there will be small quarrels between ordinary couples, but life is finally smooth and the factory is a little better.

A few years later, the industry changed. After discussion, they followed the trend, opened their own clothing company, registered their trademarks, and had their own brands, and their careers were booming.

But in April of 20 18, she heard from her partner that he had found a female college student and wanted to have more children.

This is like a bolt from the blue for her, so many years of hard work, don't want to give her?

But emotionally, she still loves him very much and confronted him several times. At first he denied it, saying only that you shouldn't listen to others' nonsense. I can't do it.

Since the company has more than 100 employees, she really can't stand everyone talking about it.

She followed him and found him walking into XX Hotel with a young woman.

At this moment, her heart was full of mixed feelings and resentment against him.

At night, she confronted him again. This time, he admitted that he had contact with a woman, but he still loved her. He just thinks that she is too old to have any more children, and simply wants to find a woman to have another child in case something happens to their son.

Such a reason made her completely unacceptable. Her mood is extremely broken, but she doesn't know how to vent, just crying.

After thinking about it for a few days, she learned from the bitter experience and told him clearly that as long as he broke contact with that woman, she could let bygones be bygones and everyone would live as before.

He readily agreed.

Who knows that during the interval between her return to her hometown in the next half month, he was still with the woman, but he took her to the company aboveboard, took her to meet all kinds of friends and partners, and even told the woman all the property in the family, the operation of the company and the information of family members.

Everything he did was unacceptable to her, and her mood was on the verge of collapse.

Helpless, she didn't know who to turn to for help. On the one hand, she is sad that her emotional efforts for so many years have been betrayed, on the other hand, she is afraid that the foundation she has laid for so many years will be used by a third party.

Introduced by a friend, she came to the law firm and found me.

My first impression of her is elegance and gentleness, but she reveals a little weakness. She kept crying when describing what happened above. I can feel her deep love for him, but love can't be unilateral.

I talked with her all morning, and I helped her analyze her feelings and assets in an all-round way, mainly assets. I asked her to communicate with him as much as possible about the family assets and get to know the details of the company's operation and accounts receivable. First of all, I wrote a marriage property agreement to fix the assets after marriage to avoid subsequent asset transfer.

Under my patient guidance, after many twists and turns, I finally signed a marriage property agreement with him. So far, in this case, the property dispute has been settled. She should be happier. Every time she communicates with me, she still cries and always complains about him, feeling that she has spent so many years of her youth and can't accept his betrayal. Even between words, she often says extreme things like I really want to kill him and then commit suicide. I want to die.

I think her mental state is abnormal, so I strongly suggest that she see a psychiatrist.

A few days later, she sent me the self-rating depression form of the hospital, and I saw that the diagnosis was: there were (severe) depressive symptoms. So I'm particularly worried about her.

So I can only try to appease her and let go of the past, try to accept the reality, think more about the future of herself and her children, and protect what can be guaranteed at present.

Because I have handled so many divorce disputes, I deeply realize that after a marriage is divorced from emotional factors, what is left is the division of interests. Even when I am in court, I will see all kinds of ugly faces. In reality, there are too few marriages that are together and separated.

I was involved in this case from June 2065438 to June 2009, until the two sides finally settled it through friendly mediation. In the meantime, I invited the other party to our law firm for an interview. I have communicated with each other countless times by telephone and WeChat, and established a good communication mechanism. Only on the day of mediation, I successfully helped her get a net asset of about10 million, and the man basically "went out clean". However, at the moment of getting the civil mediation and divorce certificate,

From the perspective of a professional marriage lawyer, the result of case mediation is much better than the expected litigation result. Although I have told him not to stimulate her as much as possible, her depression may take a long time to recover. I gave her a gentle hug when I left the court. I could feel her body shaking slightly at that time. I hope she can take good care of herself and her children and get out of this life as soon as possible.

After reading many books on psychology, I personally think that depression needs self-healing. If it is unacceptable in my heart, it will become more and more serious.

According to traditional psychoanalysis, depression is anger "going inward". Imagine how suffocated a person would be if he hid his anger and even anger in his internal organs!

Therefore, I sincerely hope that people in a morbid emotional state can let go of the past and hold their heads high in the future.

In fact, life is an experience, and many things have passed. No need to sigh and sigh, no need to regret and regret, no need to be angry and unwilling.

In this kind of cases I have handled in the past, many people, both men and women, suffered from depression because of domestic violence and the other party's perennial extramarital affairs after marriage. Most people will slowly come out and start a new life after dissolving that marriage.