According to the wedding custom and etiquette in China, after three days of marriage, the bride will go home with the groom with many gifts, which is also called "going home in three days".

This is a kind of etiquette in China. The bride's parents attach great importance to the etiquette of returning home for three days, which is an important event for the bride's whole family. Therefore, when the bride returns to China for three days, she should prepare gifts and try to leave a good impression on her father-in-law.

The gift should be prepared in advance. Gifts must be something that the bride's parents like. Return the gift in fashion. To return to your parents' home, you must arrive at your parents' home between 10. The bride and groom should greet the elderly first, the groom should be renamed as parents, and show kindness and enthusiasm to relatives, friends and neighbors.

When the whole family has dinner, the bride and groom should sit aside and raise their glasses to thank everyone for their wishes for their wedding. Don't rush home after dinner, talk to your parents for a while or have some entertainment with your family. Go home before sunset around 4 pm and invite the elderly and brothers and sisters to your home.

2. What are the highlights of Jinan Huimen?

Huimen is also called "mothering", that is, "going back to my mother's house".

The taboo of returning to the bride's family is mostly about the bride, but it refers to the taboo items of the bride's returning to her family. In Henan, in addition to the above-mentioned taboo of going back to your mother's house to watch lights on the fifteenth day of the first month, you should also avoid offering sacrifices to stoves and going back to your mother's house on the first day of the first month.

Because women don't sacrifice stoves, they don't ask their daughters to go back to their parents' homes on the day of sacrifice. The first day of the first month is the beginning of a year, and the water spilled by the married daughter is married to her husband's family.

On New Year's Day, it is naturally inconvenient for the whole family to get together and go back to their parents' home. The fifteenth day of the first month is also the first full moon day of the year, fearing that the daughter-in-law will not be reunited with her family when she returns home.

So it's usually the second day of the first month and the sixteenth day of the first month. In order to take care of the reunion and celebration of both parties to the marriage.

There is a saying in Luyi County that "please (girl) on the 16th day of the first month, and deliver it on the 2nd of February. Don't get sick". In Zhejiang and other places, old brides are forbidden to go home on the winter solstice.

Otherwise, I thought I would kill my husband's parents. As the saying goes, "My mother's family lives for a winter, and my husband's family goes to work."

Jiangsu also has this custom. However, the reason is different, that is, if the winter solstice is spent in the bride's house, the bride's house will decline.

The custom of returning to her parents' home on June 6 in northern Shaanxi is said to be to contact her in-laws' feelings, when she will invite her daughter and son-in-law home for reunion. Henan also has this custom, but it is related to the season of wheat harvesting and threshing.

As the saying goes, "When the wheat harvest is over and the game is over, there will be no girl to look after her mother." . The prostitute didn't visit her mother, and her father-in-law died. "

The taboo of returning to the door is to let the bride abide by the communication order, and she must not return to the door when she should not, otherwise something will happen; When it's time to go back, you must go back, or something terrible will happen. Generally, on the third day of marriage, the bride and groom will go back to visit their parents, but they must return to their husband's house before sunset that night, because the new house cannot be empty.

In Linxian County, Henan Province, the bride goes back to her parents' home in three days and goes along the road to greet her. The so-called "three days without two roads". Yi brides avoid talking to the groom on their way home. They are like strangers.

This is related to the custom of keeping marriage. When the Han people go back to their hometown, the young couple always kiss, talk and laugh.

There is a folk tune of "Going Back to Mother's Home". The gifts that newlyweds bring home are always in pairs, not singular.

The bride's family can't accept it all, and she has to take some back when she goes back to her husband's house. Some brides, influenced by superstitious ideas, will have to wait 120 days (4 months) to return to Ning, while others will have to wait three years to go home.

In some places in Zhejiang, some women were sentenced to "breaking their mother's family". Such a woman is not allowed to get on the sedan chair at home. When getting married, the man's house picks up the woman to go out. A woman dressed in rags pretends to beg and put on a sedan chair in the temple, which is called "borrowing marriage". The parents and relatives of the woman's family must hide, and everything is taken care of by her husband's family. One hundred and twenty days after marriage, you can save your relatives.

Otherwise, the bride's family will lose everything or suffer misfortune. There are also so-called criminals who "divorce" (husband and wife are separated) and "turn around" (take chestnuts from the fire) and can't go home until four months or even three years later.

Generally, after one month of marriage, in-laws can contact freely. When returning to China, the bride can stay with her parents.

The number of days to stay is very particular. Some areas in Henan have the custom of staying for a few days.

As the saying goes, "eight to eight, twenty cents" and "nine to nine, two ends". In other words, those who return to their parents' home on the eighth day of the eighth month can stay at their parents' home for eight days, and those who return to their parents' home on the ninth day can stay at their parents' home for nine days.

In this way, the most time is to stay for one month. If you live like this, it will be auspicious for both men and women, otherwise it will be bad.

However, there is also a saying that don't live for eight days. As the saying goes, "if you live seven years old, you will not live eight years old, and your family is poor." The formation of this taboo is generally due to the ideological consideration that it is not easy for a married daughter to live in her parents' home.

Among them, there are emotional constraints, moral constraints, economic pressures and production needs, and many factors have contributed to the agreement of this custom. If the bride and groom go back to their parents' home together, then their accommodation in their parents' home also has different taboos.

In Han and Manchu, it is a custom for newlyweds to avoid sleeping together when they return to their parents' home. Manchu allowed their children to live in Xikang, and other guests were not allowed to live in Xikang.

But girls and children can't live together. It is said that the newlyweds sharing the same room in their parents' house will make their family's access decline. This is also caused by the concept of unclean and blasphemous sexual behavior.

People often think that women are always troubled by things between men and women. Because of this, female families always feel a little depressed psychologically.

Besides, if the bride's family and her husband's family are not of the same clan, how can we provide a place for the husband's family to carry on the family line in the bride's family room? If she was really pregnant at her mother's house, wouldn't she take her "human potential" and "financial potential" to her husband's house? The bride's family will definitely decline because of this. Therefore, it is absolutely forbidden for young couples to share the same room in their parents' house, which is the idea under this custom.

However, whether in the Han nationality or in many places, it is not taboo for newlyweds to sleep together in their parents' homes. Sometimes, these two completely different customs will coexist in the same county, for example, in Linxian County, Henan Province, these two customs coexist.

After the bride's return, her identity has changed and she belongs to others, so her family often "guards against her". The Oroqen people were forbidden to wash pots when they married their daughters and returned to their parents' homes.

Otherwise, her family's fortune will be brushed away by her. There are similar taboos in Xiuwu County, Henan Province.

The local folk taboo girls go out to touch their parents' spoons and fire pillars. They all say that "touching the spoon won't kill my father-in-law, my mother-in-law" and "lifting the torch won't kill my father-in-law and my son-in-law".

Also taboo to take the knife and scissors of her family, taboo to catch her dog and so on. He said, "I'm afraid I'll cut off my family and bite the road in the future."

In short, make every effort to prevent married girls from using or taking things from their parents' house. If they take things from their parents' house after marriage, disputes and disputes will inevitably affect the relationship between men and women. However, it is not a good idea to guard against it. How can we make her consciously not take them? So I used the spell of "dead father-in-law" and "dead son-in-law" to scare her as a warning. When the bride returns to her mother's house, she should avoid telling her family all the bad things she encountered in her husband's house, and avoid returning to her mother's house and then telling her family things regardless of weight.

The result of "learning to speak" in this way will often cause trouble, affect the relationship between men and women, and the bride will also lose her reputation as a rapper. So there is a saying that "you can be a daughter-in-law and hide at both ends, but you can't be a daughter-in-law and pass it on at both ends."

This is handled by the brides of both men and women.

3. Ask about the etiquette and steps of getting married in Jinan.

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The general ceremony at the wedding reception is as follows: 1. The bride and groom greet the guests at the gate of the banquet hall; 2. Witnesses, referees, guests, hosts and relatives are seated; 3. At the beginning of the wedding, play "Wedding March"; 4. Male and female guests attract the groom and groom to the dining table; 5. Master of ceremonies officiates at the wedding; 6. The witness spoke and read the marriage certificate; 7. The guest representative made a speech to congratulate; 8. The bride and groom exchange tokens; 9. Open champagne, cut wedding cakes and drink toast; 10. Parents from both sides took the stage, and parents' representatives spoke to congratulate them; 1 1. The bride and groom bow to their parents three times, to their guests three times and to each other three times; 12. Take a photo; 13. Raise a glass and the master of ceremonies announces the start of the banquet; 14. The bridesmaid leads the bride and groom out; ? Writing of Wedding Invitations This is an invitation used by both men and women to invite relatives and friends to the wedding reception. Generally, the bride and groom can be named together, separately or by their parents.

Example 1: I signed an invitation, and we are scheduled to hold a wedding reception in the lobby of * * Hotel at noon. Please * * Book * * Example 2: The parents signed the invitation letter, and we booked * * noon * * to book the * * hotel room for the children. ② Write "cum" or "and" between two names, without pause or comma.

③ The specific date (month, day) of the wedding should be stated. (4) indicate the wedding place.

Two. Congratulations on making a fortune: three stars at home/a talented person and a beautiful woman/a perfect match made in heaven/a coincidence/a godsend/a fifth-century Qi Chang/Feng Huang Yu Fei/a soul mate/a dragon and a phoenix/a Yushu Qiongzhi/a Yuefu singing/an eternal knot/a century-old harmony/a century-old couple/family ties/unity and friendship/marching side by side/playing the piano like drums/flowers and plants.

4. Ask about the etiquette and steps of getting married in Jinan.

General wedding preparation process 1. Wedding preparation 1. 1. Decide the date, place, ceremony and wedding reception mode 1.2. Determine the wedding budget 1.3. Draw up the guest list 1.4. Call a good friend to discuss the wedding plan 1.5. Confirm the best man. Bridesmaid 1.6. Identifying wedding witnesses II. Prepare before the wedding 2. 1. Communicate with all project stakeholders of the wedding 2. 1. 1. Communicate with parents about wedding planning and progress 2. 1.2. Send a happy message to friends and relatives 2. 1.3. Call relatives and friends in other places. +0.5. Determine the auxiliary staff on the wedding day, and define the division of labor (coordination between men and women, hotel coordination, firecrackers setting off, hotel welcoming, wedding sign-in, wedding candy distribution, wedding site and hotel new house layout, wedding car, photography and video recording) 2. 1.6. Draw a sketch of the wedding scene. Indicate the relatives and friends at each table 2. 1.7. Both male and female guests are welcome. The bride and groom are familiar with the sketch of the wedding reception site and the seating orientation of relatives and friends of all parties is 2. 1.8. Making wedding cards 2. 1.9. Make wedding plans, determine the list of relevant personnel and contact information 2.2. Buy wedding supplies 2.2. 1. New home decoration article 2.2. Furniture 2.2. 1.2. Bedding 2.2.2. Wedding supplies order 2.2.2. 1. The bride's wedding dress, 2.2.2.2. Wedding ring, 2.2.2.3. 2.2.2.4 Bride Cosmetics Company. Wedding stickers, red envelopes, happy words 2.2.2.5. Red ribbons, flowers, pop-up patterns (or petals). Wide double-sided adhesive tape, transparent adhesive tape, festive supplies, full set of happy characters, cold fireworks (as the case may be), 2.2.2.6, cigarettes, wine, drinks 2.2.2.7, sugar, peanuts, melon seeds, tea 2.2.2.8, digital camera memory card or film 2.2.2.9, flowers and fruits 2.3. Prepare images of the bride and groom 2.3. 1. The bride starts to take care of her skin. Groom cuts hair 2.4. Renovation of new houses 2.5. Determine the wedding host (or wedding company) 2.5. 1. Communicate with him about the plans and ideas for the wedding day 2.6.56989.66666666666 Choosing a wedding venue 2.6.4. Confirm the banquet menu at the price of 2.6.5. 2.6.6 Confirm the acoustic effect of the wedding reception site. Coordinate with the hotel for wedding banquet layout and other details 2.6.7. Book a banquet 2.7. Appointment wedding makeup 2.7. 1. 2.7.2 Choose a makeup place. 2.7.3 Communicate with makeup artists. 2.7.4 Confirm the design on the wedding day. The number of ceremony vehicles is 2.8.2. Agree on the time and place of the float. Determination of driving route and required time of wedding car on wedding day 2.8.4. Wedding car reservation 2.9. Wedding photo booking 2.9. 1. 2.9.2 Determination of the number of photography and cameras. Choose a photographer for the wedding day. Arrange the division of photography 2.9.4. 2.9.5 Prepare photographic equipment. Booking photography 2. 10. Other 2. 10. 1. Replace the new bill 2. 10.2. 3. Prepare the day before the wedding 3. 1. Communicate with all project stakeholders of the wedding 3. 1. 1. Communicate with parents to complete the wedding preparation 3. 1.2. Make final communication with the preparatory team on the preparation and division of labor on the wedding day. 3. 1.3. According to the preparation, communicate with the host about the ceremony on the wedding day. 4. Communicate with the best man and bridesmaid again. 3. 1.5. Finally confirm the relatives and friends who helped 3. 1.6. Finally, confirm the wedding reception, vehicles, photos, makeup and other details to prepare 3.2. Confirm the preparation of the speaker on the wedding day 3.2. 1 3.2.2 Preparation of the witness's speech. 3.2.3 Preparation of parent representatives' speeches. 3.2.4 Preparation of guest representatives' speeches (as the case may be). Question preparation of the bride at the wedding 3.2.5. The bride and groom may make trouble at the wedding. Compile 3.3. 1. Finally, try on all the clothes. Pack all the clothes to wear on the wedding day. Prepare two bottles of fake wine 3.3.4. Prepare fast food for the bride and groom, and prepare drinks, fruits, flowers and disposable cups for the guests on the wedding day. Finally, check everything and give it to a special person. And issue the goods list 3.3.5. 1. The bride's new shoes 3.3.5.2, ring 3.3.5.3, red envelope 3.3.5.4, jewelry 3.3.5.5, the bride's cosmetic box 3.3.5.6, sugar, cigarettes, wine, tea and drinks 3.3.5.7. Fireworks props 3.4. The bride and groom specially prepare 3.4. 1. The bride and groom are familiar with the wedding procedure again and again. Rehearse the bride's hug. Rehearsal for the wedding catwalk 3.4.4. Rehearse the toast. Relax and encourage each other. Pay attention to sleep. Go to bed early. Wedding day process 4. 1. Makeup 4.2. The wedding car, photography and camera finally confirmed the arrival time of 4.2. 1. Vehicle configuration 4.3. Welcome the bride 4.3. 1. 4.3. 1 Arrive at the bride's house and prepare for the groom. Red envelopes 4.3. 1.2 inform the bride before going out 4.3. 1.3 inform the bride to prepare firecrackers before arriving 10 minutes 4.3. 1.4 ask questions to the bride's relatives and friends before entering the door (not necessary), and release red envelopes 4.3. 1.5 to the bride. Group photo 4.3.10.7 longan, lotus plums and red dates (boiled eggs) soup (depending on the custom) 4.3.10.8 Before going out, the bride said goodbye to her parents and the groom promised them. 4.3. 1.9: Preparation of firecrackers 4.3.2: Notify the wedding reception to prepare firecrackers before arriving at the groom's house 10 minutes 4.3.2.1:Parents in 4.3.2.2 should prepare red envelopes for meeting, and the bride in 4.3.2.3 should offer tea to their parents and take a group photo with 4.3.2.4 longan, lotus seed soup and red dates (water eggs). 4.3.2.6 Firecracker Preparation 4.3.3. Location shooting 4.4. The hotel prepares 4.4. 1. Bring sugar, cigarettes, wine, tea, drinks, holiday candles, etc. 4.4.2 Go to the hotel wedding room. Hotel wedding room layout 4.4.3. Finally, check the details of banquet arrangement, sound, sign-in desk, etc. 4.5. Makeup 4.5.2. 4.5.3 Check-in desk personnel are in place. 4.5.4 Greeting personnel are in place at the door. The bride and groom greet the guests at the bridesmaid's door. Wedding ceremony (depending on the arrangement of the wedding company) 4.6. 1. Host preparation, voice preparation, ring preparation, petals and ribbons preparation 4.6.2. Play. Ribbon (petal) 4.6.3. 4.6.4 Introduction by the host. The officiating party delivered a speech. The bride and groom go on stage. The bride and groom exchanged rings and bowed three times. Parents of both sides talk about 4.6.8. The bride and groom opened champagne, cut cakes and drank a toast.

5. Detailed explanation of the wedding banquet process. What to wear, what to wear is exquisite.

(1) preliminary preparation

10:30, the sound engineer chooses his own tracks to create a live atmosphere. 10:50, the manager arranged a welcome meeting. Parents wear corsage, newlyweds wear flowers, and important guests wear VIP flowers. 1 1: 16, the banquet ceremony officially began. (Determine the final start time according to the presence of guests. )

(2) Opening remarks

1。 Nine bells (accompanied by a live band)

Lighting requirements: when the first bell rings, the field lights will go out one after another, the computer lights will flash, and there will be some smoke and bubbles.

2。 When the bell rings, the electro-acoustic belt will be strong. Music style: the music suitable for male hosts is different from that of parents and newcomers, and the lights are on one by one.

Moderator: Take the red carpet from the audience to the center of the stage. (Lighting requirements: a beam of chasing light is fixed; Band requirements: When the host introduces himself, beautiful background music will be played. )

(iii) Commencement of ceremony

1, preface

After a brief self-introduction, the host said, "Today is a good day. The building in xx is decorated with lanterns and colorful decorations, beaming with joy. Dear friends and guests, give up Sunday's entertainment and relaxation time and attend the X family's return banquet: husband xx and daughter xx. First of all, please allow me to express (the most) warm welcome and (the most) heartfelt thanks to you on behalf of X House and X's parents! ! Now I declare: X's husband xxx and daughter xxx come back to the house to hold a banquet to thank the official start! ! (Music begins)

2. Introduce the couple and their parents

First of all: Let me introduce the guests who participated in our activities today, that is, xxxx. Ok, let's welcome Mr. and Mrs. xx across the red carpet with warm applause (music begins). B. Let's welcome the in-laws of xx Mansion with warm applause, as well as the father-in-law and mother-in-law from Taiyuan, Shanxi. (Music begins)

3. The couple's parents' speech

Next, let's welcome today's two protagonists-the groom: xxx and the bride: xxx with the warmest applause. (Music begins). On xx, xx, xx held a grand wedding ceremony with xxx. Today, two newlyweds stood on the rostrum with their parents, and planned this party to show their concern and love for Mr. Chen Kai's family for many years. First of all, please give a speech by Mr. Chen Kai, the grandfather of Mount Tai. Please invite Mr. Xi Gonggong from xx (address) to give a speech.

Step 4 make a wish.

Please stand in front of the wishing tree and extend my best wishes to both parents and all the elders and friends who have cared for and supported them. Please stand in front of the wishing ball and bless yourself. All the lights are out, only the wishing ball is flashing, and only the new person is cut after chasing the light. Please press the "hand ink mud" symbolizing the eternity of love.

5. * * * Have lunch

Both parents were invited to take the stage and bow to all the guests with the new couple. One bow, then one bow, three bows. The ceremony is over, thanks to all the guests and friends. Invite everyone to lunch.

6. What about the wedding reception? What about the wedding reception?

What about the return banquet?

First, let's learn about Federal-Mogul. Huimen: commonly known as "mothering", which means going home to visit parents after marriage, is a marriage custom of Han nationality. That is, on the third, sixth, seventh, ninth, tenth or full moon after marriage, the son-in-law goes back to her mother's house with the bride to pay New Year greetings to her parents and relatives. This is the last ceremony of marriage.

Huimenyan theme

The back door banquet, also known as the thank-you banquet, must reflect "thanks". But who to thank and how to thank are different according to the changes of the times. Ancient people respected heaven and earth, so the proportion of gratitude in banquets was very important. Now, thanks at the back door banquet are mainly for the bride's parents and guests. Although it is not difficult for a daughter to meet her parents after marriage, her gratitude and love for her parents will not be less than in ancient times.

Huimen banquet time

As far as time is concerned, the banquet in Michelle Chen 19 on July 22nd, and the banquet in Ruby Lin on August 2nd, 3 1 2008 are all three days after the wedding. But Shen Teng's wedding was held 12 days after the wedding, which was not within the above time. Is there something wrong?

In fact, the time requirement of the back door banquet is not as strict as that of the ancient ceremony. It is of course best to be able to finish it within the required time. If you don't want to rush, you can finish it in one month. Of course, there are also some reasons, because of work factors or too far apart, it takes more than a month to hold a back door banquet. As long as both husband and wife and their parents (especially the bride's parents) reach an agreement.

Who should be invited to the back door banquet?

Because the mother-in-law banquet is the first time for a married daughter to return to her family, of course, the elders and relatives of the bride's family should be invited first. Of course, if some relatives and friends can't attend your wedding because of time and distance, you can also invite them to your back door banquet.

Huimen banquet style

Because it is a tradition of Chinese wedding customs, many newcomers will choose Chinese-style back door banquet. Shen Teng's back-door banquet also included pandas from Sichuan, the bride's hometown, which was very creative and thoughtful. But if your wedding is Chinese, you'd better choose a western-style banquet. In this way, one China and one West can better reflect the beauty of differences.

In addition, in the wedding process, many brides will give up their wedding dreams to achieve a perfect wedding in order to take care of the views of their elders, so when returning to the banquet, they can also choose the style that the bride likes to make up for their little regrets.

The dress for the back door banquet

Because the formal wedding has been held, the dress for the back door banquet is not as casual as the wedding. Although Ruby Lin has prepared three sets of round-the-door banquet dresses, if you are afraid of trouble, it is ok to prepare only one set of simple dresses. In addition, the back door banquet can really put away those big trailing wedding dresses, simple dresses, cheongsam and the like.

Return banquet process

To tell the truth, many of the back-door banquet processes seen in Du Niang are written about wedding processes, which makes many newcomers stupid and unclear about weddings and back-door banquets. In fact, we just need to remember which processes are not available in the back door banquet and which ones need to be emphasized.

These processes are unnecessary: exchanging tokens, making a glass of wine, worshipping the church and so on. Because these processes symbolize a lifelong commitment and have been completed at the wedding, there is no need to repeat them here.

The back door banquet can have these processes: champagne ceremony, cake ceremony, kissing, small games and other festive and lively contents can be reflected again in the back door ceremony. Of course, if you want to be more interesting, you can choose some lively opening, such as singing love songs.

In addition, the newlyweds who have got the wedding video, it is best to play your wedding video at the back door banquet. On the one hand, they can enjoy Xiu Xiu's love, and more importantly, they can let friends who didn't attend your wedding feel a once-in-a-lifetime feast.

The ancients believed that the wedding was officially completed when the banquet was over. From then on, two people, even two families, really joined together. Some people say that everyone is so busy, so let's skip the back door banquet. But sometimes life really needs more sense of ceremony to teach us to remember the beauty of being respected, loved and cared for!

7. What are the procedures for getting married in Jinan?

A box should be prepared. The back of the second bed should be put in the box. There should be 1100 yuan in the box, as well as the so-called three gold, clothes, sweaters, shoes, socks, cotton-padded jacket watches for the daughter-in-law. And your conditions. But when the man goes to the woman's house, cigarettes and sugar must be put in the box.

The woman bought a good suit, shoes, tie and socks for the man.

The man also needs to find a glib woman over 40 as a matchmaker (either divorced or widowed), and he will also go and sit with her parents that day. Secondly, on the day of engagement, in addition to the money given by her mother-in-law and father-in-law, the girl changed her name to parents, and other relatives of the man, such as aunt, also gave red envelopes. It's not for nothing that girls call me aunt. My aunt also costs money.

This custom in Jinan is also very different in various districts and towns. Be sure to say hello. It is best to let the woman go home and ask the elders if there are any taboos and special attention.