Work hard.

Everything has a destiny,

I just do my best.

Everyone's heart is like a wild horse, jumping up and down, anxious for a while, wild for a while, and inexplicably excited for a while ... In order to make yourself comfortable, you must learn to subdue your heart. Only by putting this impetuous heart right can life become relatively beautiful!

How to subdue his heart? Some people use pen, ink, paper and inkstone (piano, chess, calligraphy and painting) to describe this Four Treasures of the Study:

One: "pen" is comparison, not capture (piano). First, it has a contest with its own heart, greed, ignorance, doubts about praise and slowness. This makes it appear, and there is nothing to say when you are caught red-handed. This trick means to face yourself, admit your shortcomings and take it off first.

Two: "paper" is paper and tissue for writing, which is used for writing, controlling, attacking the heart and wiping away tears (playing chess). Try to write more simple and sincere letters to your heart, which is not only inspiring and full of positive energy, but also full of tenderness, dreams, feelings, gratitude and goodwill ... thus melting this unruly heart!

Three: "ink" is painting (book (lost)). When your heart is moved by yourself, you will revolve around yourself and try to live like a painting. Qianshan is always in love, and the clouds are clear!

Four: "inkstone" is the inkstone that melts ink (painting). That is, through your own efforts, participate in life healthily and actively, and slowly you will find that the original thorn has disappeared and has been worn away by yourself. How wonderful!

People will encounter countless wild horses in their life, and our hearts will be subdued by life again and again. Time is like a knife to kill a pig, which is hard to change. Instead of being beaten passively, it is better to take the initiative, say no to your heart, hand over your heart, do it and cherish it!

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How to eliminate anxiety in the heart?

When I feel anxious, what is going on? In fact, what makes us anxious is not worthy of attention at all. What can I do to eliminate the anxiety and anxiety in my heart?

1. If someone causes your anxiety and trouble, then stay away and avoid it as soon as possible. Contact with people who make you happy. Don't pay attention to some people. In that case, when they are with you, they will get bored and leave you automatically.

2. Find yourself in anxiety and don't let it spread in your heart. If you want to control your anxiety, you can talk to people more, play chess, play video games, taste delicious food ... concentrate on playing, don't think about things at work, and don't think about annoying things, and the anxiety will disappear.

3. Find a quiet place and lie down or sit in the most comfortable position. Abandon all selfish distractions. Imagine more relaxing pictures in your mind. With the relaxation of body and mind, all kinds of bad emotions will gradually fade away.

4. Don't panic when things happen. Think it over before you do it. Determine your expectations and challenges. Take time to get rid of anxiety. Take a few minutes to write down your anxiety and put it aside. So I won't be unhappy. One of the purposes of doing this is not to get certainty, but to get boredom. Boredom is very useful, so that you are no longer lazy to think.

5. See if the scope of your anxiety is related to the core problem. Is your anxiety really necessary? Do you have to be so perfect? Do you have to be better than others? Do you have to be rich to be happy? Can't you live without men and family? In fact, all this is unnecessary, and my anxiety is really unnecessary worry.

6. Concentrate on this moment, enjoy the present life and don't worry too much about the future. Don't live forever in the future that never happened. Live every minute of today, live a full life, and happiness is around.

I feel very anxious recently. How to correct my anxiety?

First of all, we should know that anxiety is an inexplicable panic about something that hasn't happened yet. It is characterized by fidgeting and inner tension. Even always think something will happen. To put it bluntly, it is alarmist.

How to solve anxiety correctly? I think we should start from the following aspects:

First, look at your past with a positive attitude. A netizen once wrote these words, and I gave them to you as a summary of his life. He put it this way: life is just a few decades, and one day is missing. Looking back afterwards, I lost half. I asked him, are you happy? He replied, happy, some people are not as good as me. Then, you should live and work as happily as he does.

Second, look at the present with a normal heart. Every one of us will encounter many things every day, some things make people happy, and some things make people depressed. These are also normal. We can't give up on ourselves just because we encounter difficulties, or even fly into a rage. I once met an anxious person. When he is happy, he will do everything. When he is unhappy, he looks very unhappy. Especially when he was asked to finish a task alone, he seemed very anxious. He can only cooperate and has no opinion. In his eyes, we must do our best and make no mistakes. He doesn't know that winning or losing is a common occurrence in military strategists. Living like this is very tiring. We can't live like him, can we?

Third, treat your future with an optimistic attitude. There is no need to consider many things in the future so clearly and concretely. A lot of things should be done in a step-by-step manner. Although each of us only encounters a few things, we even repeat them every day. However, for everyone, every day is different. So the ancients said: everything is as new as chess. Look at everything in the future with the novel eyes of sunshine. When you encounter any problems, you are full of confidence to meet them instead of flinching. Then what are you worried about?

During the Long March, Chairman Mao said to the guards: "Difficulties are not terrible, but they are afraid of difficulties. If you are afraid of it, it will be terrible. If you are not afraid of it, it is not terrible at all. "

Anxiety is actually a word "fear" in it. If you are not afraid of anything, where can you get anxiety? Dare to use your knowledge and wisdom to meet all challenges. If you get through this, you will become the strongest person. You should face the difficulties like a petrel and shout loudly, "Let the storm come more violently!" " "

This is my advice to you. I hope you can face the reality bravely and be a brave person.

People who care are from the heart,

Everything is anxious.

Forget to go out,

Be happy.

Busy and hard,

Connect the heart bridge

If you don't get sick,

Must be treated in time.

How many people with depression,

Anxiety turns into depression.

listen to music

busy

Do something interesting to relieve anxiety.

If it is too serious, send it directly to the hospital.

If your anxiety is excessive tension and worry about objective things for a long time, and you feel upset, chest tightness, sweating, trembling or frequent urination, it may be that your anxiety has reached the level of anxiety. If it seriously affects your daily work or life, it is necessary to receive medication. General selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors can effectively control anxiety and depression symptoms.

If your anxiety only appears when dealing with things, and it can be improved if it doesn't last, it belongs to ordinary anxiety, and normal people will appear. If you are often anxious these days, you should check yourself to see if there are any things that upset you recently. You can find psychological factors and find a way to solve them! Or you are usually anxious. You can try to let nature take its course. There is no need to be upset and anxious about things that cannot be changed. There are always more important things waiting for us in life.

Listen to the birds singing in nature, watch the flowing water in spring, watch the flowers bloom and fall, watch the valley turn yellow, slow down the pace of walking and sing a favorite song! When you are careful to get in close contact with nature, you will forget other thoughts and calm down.

Ah! How to answer such a difficult question? Let's talk about a theory first!

Generally speaking, anxiety is caused by inner insecurity and is also related to lack of self-worth. People's setbacks and growth experiences in their families will leave scars in their hearts, but when they are young, they have no strength and ability to deal with them. They can only suppress them into the subconscious, and the wounds will not heal on their own, but will only be temporarily forgotten. As long as the conditions are right and you encounter similar situations, your brain will unconsciously awaken the feeling of being threatened from the depths of memory and become alert and sensitive. You are aware of this anxiety and worry.

This process is like the following figure:

Nowadays, it is very popular to say "live in the present". However, living in the present is actually very difficult and requires long-term self-cultivation. People either live in regret for the past or worry about the future, because the characteristics of human brain work determine that people's attention is easily distracted. Many modern psychotherapy methods, such as mindfulness therapy, are developed to treat people's distracted state.

Primitive people had only two choices under the stimulation of dangerous situations, fighting or fleeing. As long as they could choose either one, they would not be anxious. In modern society, people's living environment is becoming more and more complicated, and people begin to learn to disguise themselves and put on personality masks. They often disagree, and their thoughts and hearts conflict. The mind wants to make progress, satisfy its own wishes and create an ideal self-image. However, the reality is not satisfactory, and it doesn't matter if there is a gap between ideal and reality. As long as we face and accept it, people will not be anxious. To put it more popularly, the mind of modern people wants to fight, but the body is escaping. I know I have to work hard at the moment, but I already have the game in my hand. This is self-contradictory. How can we not be anxious about self-conflict?

Therefore, we are actually dishonest and often deceive ourselves. Anxiety is caused by our contradictory choices. External setbacks and sufferings are not a problem. The problem is that you don't want to face the reality, and you always escape and resist. What you're worried about is not the problem. The problem is being an ostrich in anxiety. Anxiety is a signal sent by the body to you, as if to say, "Things have gone wrong, come and face it!" " You pretend you can't hear.

There are only two kinds of things that can be changed and unchangeable, changeable and unchangeable, and can be changed very simply, as long as there are three steps: "face it, deal with it and let it go!" " .

Having said so much, it seems that I haven't said a word about how to overcome anxiety, hehe! Actually, I've already said it. If you listen, you'll understand it yourself. Anxiety is not an emotion to overcome, on the contrary, it is your friend. You listen to the truth inside! Be honest with yourself, or face or deal with it, and let go of what is irreparable. Do you still have time to be anxious?

This passage is not only for you, but also for myself. As human nature, we are all connected and face similar emotional problems. Jinhua Taoist temple free psychological consultation is willing to grow up with you!

Anxiety is an instinctive emotion of human beings, and everyone will have anxiety. When we are under psychological pressure and stimulation, we all have anxiety. Normal anxiety can help us face emergencies, but long-term anxiety will affect our mental health. If you are in a state of psychological anxiety for a long time, then I suggest you use the following micro-psychological sorting methods to adjust your anxiety!

1. Enhance the sense of security

Anxious friends are always worried about what will happen because of insecurity, which leads to anxiety. Enhancing your sense of security can make your anxiety disappear.

Increase confidence

People without self-confidence will doubt their ability to complete and deal with things, exaggerate the possibility of failure, and thus produce anxiety, tension and fear.

Divert attention

Anxiety is a vicious circle. The more anxious we are, the more we pay attention to the events that cause anxiety, which leads to paranoia, anxiety, confusion and pain. At this time, we need to divert our attention, such as finding an interesting and attractive book to read, or engaging in high-intensity physical labor and forgetting the painful things.

Relax.

Whether it is anxiety, fear, irritability or other negative emotions, psychological relaxation can help us to adjust better. There are many ways to relax, such as exercising, watching movies, listening to music and so on.