"Teacher, what should my child do if he is introverted?"
1, after an activity starts, it is not the first time to participate. Instead, we should watch carefully, listen carefully, concentrate on what we are interested in, and like to be alone in the room.
Some people are not in a hurry to answer questions, but consider them comprehensively before they speak. Strong sense of personal space.
I don't like others sitting too close, and I don't like others entering his room without knocking.
4. Don't speak your mind easily. If you get along well with others or are interested in a certain topic, the river will keep flowing.
If you have these performances, don't worry, it's not a question of social skills, it's just that your child is introverted.
"Think about my feelings!" -this sentence comes from Feynman, 12-year-old son of Wu Zhenyu.
Some time ago, Feynman, the 0/2-year-old son of Wu Zhenyu/Kloc, attracted much attention from netizens after he participated in "Where is Dad Going?", but he blew himself up because he refused the talent show requested by fans: "He has a strong stage and social phobia." The secret has been hidden in his heart for a long time, even meow and her family don't know it.
Due to the cyber attacks of fans, it is particularly distressing to force a child to say "think about my feelings"!
In view of the problem of children's introverted personality, many parents blindly try to give their children interest training classes, force him to speak, force him to perform in front of relatives, and label their children as "not talkative", but the effect is counterproductive.
Letting introverted and sensitive children perform on stage is actually similar to taking off their clothes and parading in public. We should teach children to face up to and appreciate their own personality, instead of trying to suppress and change them.
"Other people's children are busy when they see people; Our children are not likable at all ... "
"extroverted and lively children are more likely to succeed, and introverted children need to cultivate self-confidence ..."
"Give the child a speech training class and see if I can cure his introverted problem ..."
I have a friend whose daughter has just entered the first grade of junior high school. Since she was a child, she was introverted and didn't like to talk, so she signed up for a small host training class and trained her to be an extrovert.
After a period of class, the teacher reflected that the children always deserted in class, and their participation in extracurricular activities was not high, and they always liked to be alone. My friend panicked and thought it would be good to sign up for a training class and guide slowly, but the effect did not change significantly.
A week later, just in time for the anniversary of the center, the training class teacher rehearsed a talk show for her daughter. When she came to the stage on the day of the celebration, her daughter lowered her head and whispered, "Mom, I don't want to perform. I want to go home."
When my friend got angry, she severely stopped her daughter. Because of anxiety and rejection and the pressure of performance, the child squatted on the ground and cried.
Later, the child refused to go to the training class, refused to get along with others and refused to talk at home. The situation is worse than before!
Psychologist Carl jung said that introverted children often get energy by being alone. They are meticulous in observation, good at analysis, independent in thinking and concentrated in thinking.
If parents force their children to change "correction" in order to "exercise" and "reform", they will force their children to integrate, be cheerful and lively; It will not only make children embarrassed, but also produce rebellious psychology and constantly consume internal energy.
Actually, introversion can also create advantages. Some studies show that nearly 70% of successful people are introverts. Moreover, introversion tends to be the fifth of the nine personality types, belonging to the observer, with strong insight, independence and good thinking.
Jackson Yee, who broke into a world at an early age, is a typical introverted personality and doesn't like to talk much. I used to be very calm on the show: "I am a particularly slow-heating person. In a strange environment, I am most comfortable in my own world. "
Now it is the "top flow" of the entertainment circle, which not only won the first place in the commercial value list of 20 18 artists' network influence, but also worth over 100 million yuan; He is also the spokesman of many international brands. A better day, starring in a movie, is a circle of friends, attracting countless praises.
There is no good or bad personality. Many parents have deep-rooted misunderstandings and prejudices about introverted children, thinking that introverted children must suffer losses on the road of life!
However, American researchers have found that introverts have more blood flowing to their brains than extroverts, and their emotional sensitivity, concentration and creativity are also more unique.
Introverts are quiet and don't like chatting, but they know how to listen and have the most empathy.
Speak to the point, don't please and cater to it, it is the most trustworthy and confidential;
Pay close attention to things and get used to thinking deeply;
Be firm and strong inside, know yourself very well and follow your inner thoughts.
As the saying goes, the ruler has his strengths and the inch is short.
An extrovert has his own light,
Introverts also have their own unique charm.
"I like to play alone, everyone has their own choices!"
In the documentary "After Zero Zero", a 3-year-old Yi Yi, many people questioned whether she was autistic. Can you integrate into society when you grow up?
Her parents didn't ask their children to do this and that like other parents, but accepted their introverted personality normally.
"We think she is quite normal."
For growing children, parents should not jump to conclusions about their abilities too early, but should respect their development rhythm and learn some methods to establish self-identity.
Less reasonable, more understanding, listening, respecting and recognizing his feelings. You can also talk to your child about temperament, so that he can understand that introversion and extroversion are just a personality trait, thus reducing self-criticism and negation.
Introverted children are often creative and like to use abstract thinking. Can provide them with more basic toys, such as building blocks, colored mud, brushes and so on. Let the child's imagination have room to play.
Parents can take the initiative to tell him about your day's activities, tell him about your current mood and feelings, and let your child realize your sincerity and respect for him. He will slowly put down the obstacles and talk to you seriously.
Introverts need to be alone to regain their energy.
Extroverts need to socialize to gain energy.
As parents, don't kidnap a child's personality, learn to accept and encourage him!