? In May, 2009, Zhao Pu served as the host of the conference commemorating the first anniversary of the Wenchuan earthquake and went to Sichuan. Chatting at our workstation, he took out his mobile phone and showed us his 7-day-old daughter. Such a cute little person doesn't know how to care about his father's business trip. I saw an article on his Netease blog the other day, which was about "Where is Dad going?" When talking about the audience's different comments on Tian Liang, Jimmy Lin and other dads, he said: Actually, thanks to these dads, they don't have any successful experience in educating their children, and they don't have any profound theories. They just clumsily learn how to be fathers and grow up with their children. After reading it, I was deeply touched.
In a loving relationship, there is no natural perfect role.
? I have been asked many times how to solve children's problems, how to get along with my lover, and how to communicate with unreasonable parents. I often hesitate. With the title, I actually want to answer: I don't know. Mother said to her sister-in-law, "You'd better buy a parenting magazine. You ask your sister, she didn't have children when she was a graduate student, so she wrote a pregnant woman column for someone else's magazine. " Can you raise children by the book? "That's true.
? The buddies who engage in music prenatal education, with a group of pregnant women, use music to let expectant mothers relieve the anxiety and tension of childbirth. As a result, when his wife pushed out of the delivery room and saw a baby, the buddy opened his mouth and cried with the rich tenor who was singing in the Golden Auditorium.
? On the question of whether children cry or not, each discussion is fought by two groups, one group advocates hugging, in order to establish children's sense of security; One school advocates not hugging in order to cultivate a good neural response mechanism. Sometimes I look at it coldly and want to ask: If your child cries like that, will you hug him or not? What's one's turn? It's one's insight.
Therefore, every time I see someone calling himself an "expert in relationship" or "expert in marriage", I get dizzy. I can't, and I don't want to. A very good teacher gave a very good course on marriage psychology, and he was invited twice and declined every time. For marriage and love, the professional courses of family and children have always kept the rhythm of running around, not seeking progress. Not the course itself, nor the research direction, but I chose chaos and ignorance.
? Love needs wisdom, love needs art, love is not a technical activity or some kind of knowledge, but to perceive, correct and embrace another soul with one's own soul. What a keen and soft mind a person needs.
? Like most people, I choose to meet new problems in the process of falling in love. Learn to deal with the complex relationship between branches and vines in the family; Learning needs time and thought to understand each other's needs; Learn to feel the sudden happiness and anxiety in your heart: worry about a person's hunger and fatigue; There is suspicion and doubt about a person's going far and near; Be moved to tears for a person's gentle treatment. In these ups and downs, I look at my heart like February, and cardamom is ending.
? I choose to exercise myself in the process of love, like you, and get familiar with your voice, your figure and your soul in the process from far to near. This process let me know that no matter what I have experienced, I can still love others without reservation after being hurt. In the years of Sinsang, the body will eventually decline, but the soul will be renewed for a long time. This beautiful feeling can only be realized by heart.
? People who love each other have no predecessors. It's no trouble to learn a new language with one person, recite one lesson at a time and correct one by one. Study with a person and see wonderful places to take photos and share; Everyone who has enjoyed the same teacher's teaching, the same book and the same CD knows that it is not the thing itself, but all the efforts are to stay with a person for a long time.
? People who love each other will never succeed Maybe the dazzling light lit up the eyes at first, but in the end, it was just a soft pain in my heart. Inadvertently, an idea is implanted in this way, as if a clam is ill, and the existence of a person becomes the reason why you have love. I can't tell whether he is good or bad, but I feel angry and funny when I look at this man's silly appearance.
? People who love each other don't win. I am used to seeing how many "emotional experts" teach people how to hold their appetite and how to use their brains. I can't help but think of the article "Strange Tales from a Lonely Studio, Heng Niang". In order to please her husband, that kind of calculation is handled well, such as employees dealing with the boss. Husband and wife do this, suddenly feel cold in the back, don't get married. The evil roots of human nature have always been there. How can a loved one take advantage? Inviting pets by means and tricks, I don't know whether to insult each other's IQ or my personality. Is it true to possess in the name of love and deceive love?
? I don't know that the love that I never want to please is moving because I have experienced many hardships: it's not roses and rings, it's not the "concern" that keeps looking at his face, but his distress gradually exceeds appreciation in every move, just thinking about being good to you.
How many people are afraid to fall in love with others, afraid of being cheated and disappointed. When I was young, I used to be careful and haggle over every ounce and ask others, "Do you love me?" Now I just ask myself, "Are you ready?" . People often refer to lovers as "the other half". In fact, a person who is getting stronger and stronger inside does not need to rely on anyone to make up for anything or prove anything. Life is short. I always feel that I once loved someone passionately, so that I can illuminate myself that I don't know. You don't know who you meet on the road and who is your destination. You don't know whether you really saw heaven or a mirage. Over the years, you gradually realize that you don't really need marriage or love, but when you are more and more complete, you meet another person on the same journey with you. If you don't love deeply, why get married?
? So, just like a teenager who is in love for the first time, I love you without any obstacles; Spend as much time with you as possible, like meeting again after a long separation; Like brothers and sisters, just to protect you. Yes, in fact, I don't know how to love you best, so I have to love you like you, like a child who has never loved before.