But after listening to so many truths, who can really understand the true meaning?
Parents always tell their children to carry out all the tasks they have arranged and tell them to study hard. How many parents have said this to their children:
"Your parents can only do this for a lifetime. They can't give you great wealth, but you have to study hard and work hard in the future to be worthy of us! "
As a result, they set many goals for their children, arranged a full schedule, spent a lot of money to send their children to various cram schools and interest classes, and began to be shopkeepers without worrying about their feelings.
But often these children do everything according to their parents' requirements when they are young, and accept the pressure from their parents. But when they are adults, they integrate into society and lose self-control, and they still have no achievements or even give up on themselves.
When children can't meet their own requirements, they will blame the failure on them. "Why are you so worthless?" And "you disappoint me."
As a result, many parents began to reflect: why do children look smart when they are young, but they are not as good as before when they grow up? What happened to the baby?
When I was a child, we all learned a classical Chinese article called Upper Zhong Yong. This article is about a man who grew up to be a genius but became a mediocrity. under
Everything happens for a reason. Be sure to find the root cause, then educate the children and learn to pay attention to the process, not just the result!
Therefore, Xiao Yi summarized the following two situations for everyone. When children grow up, it is easy to be worthless. Parents should not be happy.
1, a child who avoids trouble by being "smart"
Used on children, that is to say, children play tricks, not simply to show their superior mind, but to avoid trouble, such as avoiding parents' criticism after doing something wrong, and children will not reflect on themselves afterwards. These tricks are used in inappropriate places.
However, when many parents see that their children are smart, they simply think that their children are smart, have high IQ and even are complacent. It is because of this neglect that they will gradually become a curse.
As the saying goes, cleverness can't accomplish great things. After a long time, children are used to escaping, not paying, and not fulfilling their responsibilities. One day, cleverness will make children stumble, and even the cleverest children will only disappear when they grow up, so it is difficult to make great achievements.
It is harmless for children to use cleverness correctly, but parents must guide them to establish a correct outlook on life and let them use these cleverness in their lives.
2. Children with low eyes and high hands
Su Ming Cheng, the second brother in "Everything is OK", which was popular some time ago, is such a child.
When I came back from school, I spoiled my mother with sweet words to make her happy, and then asked for money. I threw all the dirty clothes and socks to my sister to wash.
I only earn 3500 yuan a month, but I don't care about spending it all. I also asked my mother for 2000 yuan to travel. With the love of my family, I have moonlight every month, and my mother subsidizes him 23 thousand every time.
As a result, after his mother died, Su Mingcheng's "financial path" was broken, and he was smarter than himself. He thinks he is a little lip service, and is considering throwing away a career. As a result, his career and marriage ended in fiasco.
In real life, there are also many such children who rely on their own intelligence, only talk, never down-to-earth, and just want to succeed by their own intelligence.
Such children will be praised by many people when they are young, but when they grow up, they are often mediocre and accomplish nothing.
Parents' love for their children is far-reaching. Don't always think about making their children happy all their lives. What we should teach them is the ability to survive independently in the world.
One step at a time is more important than trivial cleverness.
If parents encourage their children to express themselves by breaking the rules when they are very young, and regard them as "smart", then it is often difficult for children to get along well with the people around them when they grow up, and even make some extreme behaviors.
In life, our parents must set a good example for their children in life, teach them right and wrong, good and evil, beauty and ugliness, teach them basic respect for others, and maintain basic etiquette and self-cultivation in public places.
Therefore, teaching children to enrich themselves, work hard and have independent thoughts is far more important than pleasing others.
Every child comes into this world with a blank sheet of paper. What they will become depends on how their parents who are responsible for raising them teach them!
Many times, parents don't know how to communicate with their children. When they were talking, the child covered his ears and didn't want to listen. It's all because of the generation gap. Adults don't know what to talk to children, and children regard adults as imaginary enemies. Naturally, it is not good to educate your children.
3~6 years old is a critical period for the development of children's personality, behavior habits and high emotional intelligence. No matter how busy parents are at work, they should also pay attention to this stage. No matter how hard and tired they are, they are shaping their independent personalities to face the future life.
Let's go back to the question mentioned above: Why do children look smart when they are young, but worse when they grow up?
In fact, it has a lot to do with whether parents have the habit of reading and studying. Maybe some parents will say, I love watching TV. What does it have to do with children?
However, your words and deeds and realm directly determine the height of children, and children are greatly influenced by their parents.
If you don't read or study, you can't create a good reading and learning environment for your children, and of course your children won't be interested in books.
Reading can fully open people's thinking brain and exercise their thinking ability. Thinking often is the best way to make people smart and develop their brains. People who don't use their brains for a long time will accelerate the brain decline, and smart people will become dull.
Speaking of cleverness, everyone must be the group with the highest IQ in the world, that is, the Germans.
When it comes to Germany, many people think of world celebrities in various fields, such as Einstein, Marx, Beethoven and so on. We may wonder why all Dodds are Nobel Prize winners or masters in other fields.
This should start with the education of their children.
Germans believe that life is the best early education, and the best early education is not in early education classes, but in life.
High-quality companionship does not need to be around children all day, nor should it be at the expense of one's own life.
Parents lead a good and wonderful life, and children will naturally absorb and follow suit-this is what German parents do every day.
Xiao Yi here recommends a set of functional early education enlightenment picture books for German babies-German Children's Self-management Picture Books.
This set of books was created by famous German children's literature writers and German illustrators. It has 12 growth theme: sleeping alone is ok, interesting countryside, visiting grandparents, playing hide-and-seek with dad, I can take a bath, it's not terrible to see a doctor, taking my sister to the playground, and
There must be excellent parents behind excellent children. Every word parents say to their children and every move they make in front of them has a great relationship with their growth.
3-6 years old is the best time for children to develop reading habits. Of course, parents whose babies are under 3 years old can also use it. We can be the material of children's bedtime stories and read them.
The protagonist is a little raccoon, which is also a favorite cartoon image of children. Colorful illustrations and pictures are close to life scenes. When reading picture books, children will consciously substitute the characters in them and give their babies positive growth guidance through the power of role models.
This set of books is well worth a try. After all, it is the enlightenment picture book of German education, and there must be many unique places.
3-6 years old is a critical period for children to form habits. If you don't pay attention to guidance, bad habits are easy to form. Once they are stereotyped, it is difficult to change. Think about why adolescent children are so difficult to discipline. This is a fact.
Therefore, if children have these bad habits, parents must help them correct them "gently and persistently"!
A set of books only costs 49.9 yuan, with an average 4 yuan 1 gross, which is almost the price of a breakfast we eat every day, or because lazy take-away money can bring good habits to children, including reading habits and living habits. Why not?