It depends on what kind of job you belong to. If you are educated and strong, you can take good care of your children without anyone. Now the housing conditions are good, you have a baby, milk powder and diapers. Everything is in the house. My daughter-in-law, I gave her 10 thousand yuan to take a month off, she didn't, neither I nor her parents did. My son took a week off.
My wife is in her second month. Please invite Aunt Yue before delivery, 1300 yuan /26 days. At that time, I advised them not to invite, because Aunt Yue was only in charge of children. During confinement, the baby sleeps for 20 hours every day. What is Aunt Yue doing? Mysterious massage, early education, take your money and feel at ease. My family Dabao is 7 years old. I personally brought it to this day. She's smart. My son and daughter-in-law listened to me and didn't invite them. There are still a few days to go out of the month, the children and adults are fine, and the relatives are praised when they come. Bao Xiao takes a bath every day. He was happy when he took a bath. I just cooked dinner for my daughter-in-law and changed the baby's diaper. They fell asleep peacefully.
Personal experience, please have a new moon, and then ask your mother-in-law or mother to have one. Of course, if it is your own mother, it is best, because confinement always doesn't know where evil comes from ... The new moon is more beneficial to novice mothers. The old man hasn't brought children for many years, and it's always different from the current method ... Please ask the new moon to avoid the friction between the in-laws. A friend took care of two old people during the second month. After the second month, his mother was still angry with her husband's family, and they were still unhappy. ...
In the second month, my mother-in-law and mother were around to take care of them. With two people, as long as there is no major physical problem, there is no need to take a new moon under normal circumstances.
There are advantages and disadvantages for mother-in-law and mother to take care of the next month together. It is best to weigh each other's temperament and family environment before making a decision.
Mother-in-law and mother take care of the benefits of confinement together;
Mother-in-law and mother take care of the next month together, and most of them are in this mode, one is dedicated to taking care of the children, and the other is dedicated to cooking and cleaning. In this way, housework is shared, and it won't be too hard for two people to help each other. Mother can also have a good rest and save some expenses.
Mother-in-law and mother take care of confinement together. Disadvantages: It is easy to have bad feelings.
Compared with mother-in-law, most people will naturally be closer to their mothers. Three people get along day and night and live under the same roof. Mother-in-law will naturally feel uncomfortable when she sees that her daughter-in-law is better to her mother. If the old man is open-minded, he may turn a blind eye to get through this month. If the old man haggles over every ounce, two people who were originally in-laws may become passers-by.
Best solution:
If you have financial conditions, you can either find an old man and add another month to take care of the children in the month, and the old man is responsible for managing the housework.
If you really need your mother-in-law and mother to help at the same time, you should discuss it with your mother in advance. As a daughter-in-law, you also need to take care of your mother-in-law's feelings and praise her more, so as not to be left out in the cold and compensate her mother-in-law where she can't see it. In short, the relationship between two people should be handled well, and we can't wronged ourselves.
Congratulations on having a good mother-in-law willing to help.
Modern people's concept has gradually changed, and they no longer think that grandchildren should be brought up by their grandmothers, and instead pay more attention to independence and freedom. Some open-minded old people feel that since their children have a family, they should be able to shoulder the heavy responsibility of the family. Even if they have descendants, they feel that this is their own private affairs. Most people think that the problem of mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is an eternal problem, and they can try not to live together. But we can't learn to be mothers overnight, and it is certainly commendable that our mother-in-law and mothers with life experience can help us when necessary.
If the child is a mother-in-law raised by herself since childhood, she has rich parenting experience and life experience and can get along well. It is not a problem to have different views and communicate with each other. Mother's personal care makes you more relaxed, and her cooking is more in line with your appetite. Mother-in-law pays more attention to the baby. She has a lot of work to do, such as making milk, changing diapers, going out in the sun, bathing the children and washing clothes by hand. Mom can help. It is very important for a pregnant woman to have a good mood in the next month. It is natural for her to be depressed in all aspects.
I'm afraid you and your wife are both only children and have been taken care of by your grandmother since childhood. Such a mother-in-law may have insufficient parenting experience. In addition, everyone thinks that their method is better and sticks to their opinions. Perhaps the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law will be dissatisfied with each other, and quarreling will lead to family conflicts. At this time, we need an experienced and more authoritative new moon.
First of all, formal Yue Yue has received professional training, and from the experience of nursing mothers and babies, Yue Yue is more authoritative. They know how to match nutrition, know what to eat to discharge lochia more easily, will help you recuperate when your milk is insufficient, and know how to massage when your milk is sore. Newborns don't know how to express themselves. If they are hungry, have loose bowels, sick and uncomfortable, they will only cry. Inexperienced you, me, and my mother-in-law who has not brought children for more than 20 years may not be able to make a judgment at the first time. At this time, you will find that the new moon is really useful.
If your husband and wife still have brothers and sisters, then your mother-in-law can also get the knowledge of service month directly from Yue Yue, which is equivalent to getting free training.
I think it is better to take care of my family. If my mother-in-law has experience, it's still my home.
If your mother-in-law is old and you want them to rest, you can take a month off.
If family conditions permit, you can take a month off. The monthly salary ranges from 8000 to 20000.
Personally, I suggest that you invite an elderly Yue Yue, and please be sure to check whether Yue Yue has relevant qualification certificates before.
The following is the network information:
Nurses are qualified as nurses, nurses and senior nurses. Nurses only need junior high school education to take the exam, and nurses need to have been engaged in this profession for more than 5 years after obtaining the professional qualification certificate of this profession. Senior nurses need a college degree and have obtained more than two years of intermediate nursing qualifications.
You can choose different qualified months according to your needs. The higher the general qualification, the more expensive the price. Try to go to the right Lunar New Year service center to choose the Lunar New Year.
When choosing Yue Yue, you should also ask Yue Yue's personal information in detail, whether there are infectious diseases, whether the documents are qualified and so on.
You can also design some questions yourself and see how Yue Yue answers them.
You can also practice for a few days first. In short, there are so many incidents of child abuse. Please be careful again.
If the mother or mother-in-law is a reliable person, save some milk powder money for the child! Life is the beginning, spending money is behind! Moreover, many new moons are trained in rural areas, and they are not necessarily professional! As long as you eat well, look after the children, eat less cold food, and try not to wash your hair or take a bath. The old-age tradition of China people should not be changed as much as possible. I can bear it if I don't take a shower or wash my hair in January. If your mother-in-law is unreliable, please take a month off. If you eat well, at least you won't be tired or angry.
Personally, if someone can take care of you, Yue Yue can come uninvited.
But both mother-in-law and mother are here, afraid that they will have different opinions because of different concepts, and then you will be caught in the middle, and you may suffer.
In this case, you don't need to ask your mother to go home, and you don't need to ask your mother-in-law to go home. This is a dilemma.
It is not easy for mother and mother-in-law to work hard all their lives, and it will be very tiring to take care of the moon.
If you ask for a new moon, you can solve this problem well. Compared with the older generation, care for Yue Yue should be more professional.
In fact, it is better for a pregnant woman to take care of herself after confinement. After all, they are immediate family members, and the probability of conflict between them will be lower.
There are so many women in the world confined to the moon. Is a month that terrible? It is not enough to have a mother and mother-in-law to feed at home, but also to ask for a new moon. Is it breast-feeding the baby, breast-feeding the mother or cooking the moon meal? These two mothers should be competent, right? I breast-fed my daughter-in-law for three months alone, and both mother and son can clear customs in a happy and healthy full moon!