The neighbor's three-year-old child is about the same age as my baby. The difference is that their children have been in preschool since they were two years old. Now they can recite many ancient poems and speak English. For children's learning, neighbors have always been very tight, and they will take time to study with their children every day.
I used to have a sense of crisis: other children are so powerful that they can recite more than 100 poems and speak fluent English, but their children only play for one day. If this continues, the gap will be big! Why don't we also sign up for a class? But since I went to class, I decided not to go.
Although the classroom atmosphere is quite relaxed and interesting, children sit in the classroom and dare not move. They have to listen carefully to the teacher's cultural knowledge that they don't understand and are not interested in. If you don't behave well, you will not only be rewarded, but also be told by your parents when you go home, which makes you very unhappy.
The child's body is pinned on the parents' expectation of "looking for a child to become a dragon and a woman to become a phoenix". Parents' starting point is undoubtedly good. But the question is, is this "advanced" education model really suitable for 3-year-old babies?
It is difficult for anyone to give an exact answer to this question. But from some cases around me and combined with the opinions of education experts, I personally think that the success rate will not be too high! This is mainly reflected in the following aspects:
Today's children are "precocious" in their cognition of things. For example, a 3-year-old baby basically knows everything you say, and there is no big problem in communication and expression. But if it is cultural teaching, it cannot be generalized.
Can a 3-year-old baby understand the vocabulary and artistic conception in poetry? Can you understand the meaning and pronunciation of words? He doesn't understand. How can he learn? I can learn something by rote, but I have nothing to gain.
Studies have shown that children's brain circuits are mostly "single thread". In other words, they can only think and accept one thing at the same time. But it is impossible for a teacher to attend only one class at a time, otherwise parents will think that the value of the course is lower than "expected": after paying so much money and teaching only a little, why do you come here to attend classes specially?
Therefore, most of the cultural knowledge learned by the baby depends on the review and practice accompanied by parents after class. What is said in class time is just to "mix a familiar face" in front of children, which is why children forget when they learn, and they can't learn how to learn.
When children learn slowly and can't keep up with others, parents will be anxious and think that their children are not "hard" and "serious" enough, so they often force them to study. You know, under high pressure for a long time, children are prone to psychological problems.
At the age of 3-5, the baby should be playful, but his parents force him to arrange many learning tasks, which puts great pressure on him at this age. Can children be happy? "Individualized development" is just empty talk.
Compared with the advanced learning of cultural knowledge, the education of babies before the age of 3 is the most important, and the cultivation of behavior habits and the improvement of cognitive ability are the most important.
There are always some senior teachers and scholars who can see through and predict the future of some children at a glance. This is not a wild guess, nor a superstition. They often judge what kind of life height a child can reach in the future according to his intelligence and behavior habits.
In other words, if a child has a smart mind, good behavior habits and strong self-control, it will be difficult for him to justify himself as not excellent in the future.
The habit of regular work and rest, the three-year-old baby sleeps 10~ 13 hours a day, sleeps 10 hours at night and takes a nap for about 2 hours during the day. In daily life, parents should keep the baby's rhythm, fall asleep regularly and get up on time.
Healthy eating habits, baby's diet is directly related to his health. Good eating habits should include: washing hands before meals, not fighting during meals, not eating snacks within 1 hour after meals, not picky eaters, not partial eclipse, not wasting food, and encouraging children to eat independently.
To cultivate the ability of self-care, 3-year-old babies should not only learn to eat by themselves, but also learn to go to the toilet, brush their teeth, put on and take off their clothes and shoes, pack up their toys, and help adults do some housework within their power, such as setting the table, serving food and handing things.
Good study habits, the baby before the age of 5 is not learning much cultural knowledge, but cultivating his study habits and attitudes. Parents insist on reading picture books and telling stories to their children every day, which can satisfy their curiosity and stimulate their desire to learn and explore.
Cognitive ability refers to the ability of human brain to process, store and extract information, including the ability of perception, memory, attention, thinking and imagination. 3-year-old baby's cognitive ability training suggestions start from three aspects:
Voice training, talking to the baby can exercise his hearing. Usually talk to your baby more and listen to some interesting stories and good music. When talking to your baby, pay attention to clear voice, gentle tone and smile, which can strengthen listening training.
Visual training, often take the baby out, encourage him to walk more, see more and think more. You can also draw some pictures on paper and communicate with your baby at close range. You can also find some novel picture books to show your baby and guide him to know different colors, shapes and characteristics.
Tactile training encourages babies to eat with spoons and experience the tactile sensation of toys made of various materials. You can also let your baby catch some small things with his hands, such as beans, and play beading games. This can make their fingers more flexible and make the coordination of their brains, eyes and hands more coordinated.
3 years old is a milestone in the baby's growth and development. This year will also be the first time for them to leave their parents and take up their small schoolbags to go to school. Before that, if babies have good habits and high cognitive level, they will be able to adapt to kindergarten life faster and better.