Children will gradually learn how to get along with other children through these activities. The so-called "being bullied" is sometimes just the perception of adults, and the feeling of children may not be like this. If children don't mind toys being played by others, parents don't have to be too nervous. On the other hand, if children are very unhappy, we can educate them about the concept of real right, and distinguish which ones are their own, which ones are others' and how to deal with them.

Maybe it doesn't hurt if I stand and talk, because my son is rarely bullied, but he is also bullied by children several years older than him. But in my opinion:

As long as he is not hurt materially, I won't interfere. Let me give two examples of being bullied. First of all,

One day, two boys, aged 5 and 7 respectively, took a group of children's sand toys from Mao Mao Tou. The little owner and the big owner of the toys didn't ask, and the two children had a good time. Mao Mao Tou wanted to take part, but as long as he held out his hand, the two boys would push him away or take away the toys and forbid him to touch them. Mao Mao Tou asked me for help, and I told him, "That's not mom's, and mom can't help it. Go find your brother yourself! " Mao Mao Tou followed his two brothers for a long time. No, he cried. I held him and comforted him. He said he still wanted to play. I asked him to tell his brother again. This was repeated for nearly an hour until the 7-year-old boy left (he went home for dinner at noon), and Mao Mao Tou was finally able to play with another little brother, but despite this, he was still limited everywhere. But I am very happy that the child finally experienced the first setback in his life and endured it.

There are several 5-or 6-year-old boys in the community. Mao Mao Tou likes to play with them, but obviously they don't like to play with their younger brother, so they tease him, scare him and even beat him (I dare not push him around too hard, Mao Mao Tou doesn't mind). As for me, I sat quietly by, my heart ached, but I still endured it. They didn't tell them until they saw that I didn't mind their malicious games, and they became more and more angry (I hit Mao Mao Tou's pants stall with a toy and said with a smile that I was hitting my penis): "My brother likes you and wants to play with you. Please don't hurt him. You can't do this to your brother. "

I want to say, first, it is very happy to have a kind child, which can be seen by outsiders and will certainly be good for family in the future; Second, as long as his family gives him enough love and support (setbacks are not deliberately given by adults), he can cope with setbacks so calmly outside (tolerance and avoidance are one way to cope), and he is already great.

Suggest that heartbroken mothers can do this:

1, children are often "bullied" because they are more delicate. So give your baby more exercise. If he is over 4 years old, you can send him to learn Taekwondo. When he (she) is strong, it is estimated that there will be a chance to "compensate" (kidding! )

2. In peacetime, fully respect children's property rights. When someone wants to take a child's toy, if your child doesn't want to, you have to tell others: the toy belongs to someone, please get it after his consent (if the toy belongs to an early education center or kindergarten, say that someone got it first, and you have to wait. )。 In fact, many times because adults feel embarrassed, forcing children to give up will have two consequences. One is to give it to whoever takes his toy; In addition, they often rob other people's toys. If children can't protect their toys, parents are advised to speak for them. )

He thought of many ways: for example, 1, and secretly took it back from her schoolbag the next day. Tell the teacher and ask the teacher for help (I did it that day). Tell the monitor that he did it that day, and the monitor also went to look for it (but because the classmates left early, they couldn't get the result). Let me call each other's parents and get them back.

Except for the first item that needs guidance, other methods are actually feasible. And I found that he couldn't face his classmate directly, because he said that the classmate was fierce and he didn't dare. I encouraged him to face the problem bravely. You should directly ask for something that belongs to you, but the expression should be peaceful and don't solve it with your fists.

The first method is not aboveboard and easy to cause misunderstanding. I also encourage him to make more friends while helping others. Many hands make light work, not necessarily fighting violence with violence, but at least he is too lonely and vulnerable to bullying.

If two children are the same age, I usually let them solve their own problems. If the child is younger than my daughter, I will stop it. If the child is a few years older than my daughter and the other person is fierce, I will ask her if she wants to play with others. If not, I'll get it back for her. If she agrees, I'll let people play.

I have two ways to deal with it: first, let them grab enough by themselves, play with what they can get, and play with others if they can't get it. This is a relatively primitive method. After all, we all went through these processes when we were young. Second, parents come forward to teach their children to barter. If you want to play with others, you can exchange things you don't want to play with. This is a more civilized practice, suitable for older and more sensible children. When my daughter and others grab toys, I will grab them myself first, and adults should try to participate in the interaction between children as little as possible. It's okay to cry.