Because he is a demolition family in Beijing, there are many suites at home, and both elderly people can help with the baby in good health, which fully meets the legendary conditions for having a second child.
I didn't expect my colleagues to shake their heads immediately, because our female colleagues who gave birth to a baby were moved to tears. "My daughter-in-law is a caesarean section, and I don't want her to suffer any more."
So far, I'm still teaching my husband the words that he loves his daughter-in-law. Unexpectedly, at the end of last year, his second child was born, a big fat son and two children, which started the happy life of the winner in life.
I asked him: Why do you suddenly want a second child? He replied airily: the old people on both sides urged and were willing to help. My daughter-in-law and I both think it's good for our children to have a companion, without considering men and women. We got pregnant and had a baby.
Don't forget to tease me: when do you want a second child? Both children are fine.
Well, it seems that the whole of China has started the rhythm of having a second child. I have to admit, I'm a little shaken now. Although I just finished maternity leave a few years ago, I swore to him: Give me10000000,10000000 won't be regenerated.
In a blink of an eye, three years have passed, and the child is over three years old. Many children about his age have brothers and sisters. Several friends who often play together have no brothers or sisters, but their mothers are preparing for the second child.
Careful observation reveals that there are more and more families with a second child around them. Most of the mothers who vowed a few years ago that they would never have children again have already given birth to a second child, and some plan to give birth to a second child. The rest are hesitant about whether to have a second child. Perhaps only a few people have expressed their determination not to have a second child.
Looking back carefully, the reasons for not wanting a second child in those years are nothing more than the following: 1, pregnancy and childbirth are too difficult.
It is easy to get sleepy in the first trimester, poor appetite in the third trimester, heavy body and inconvenient activities. It is very troublesome and uncomfortable to draw blood almost every month throughout pregnancy. The pain during childbirth is unbearable, and all kinds of sudden factors are difficult to control.
2, bringing a baby is too tired and too hard.
The long March after the birth of the child has just begun. Breastfeeding problems such as breast milk, night crying and other sleep problems, from neonatal jaundice to eczema common in children, almost all the first year of giving birth to a baby is spent in fear and fear. The child is too young and fragile to be taken care of.
3, economic pressure, raising a baby is too expensive.
To raise a child, you need to buy diapers, milk powder, toys, picture books, as well as early education classes and swimming classes. If there is no old man to take care of the baby, you have to consider the nanny fee. There are all kinds of training classes after class in kindergarten. Basically, one baby is a four-cornered golden beast, and two children can't afford it at all.
4. Pregnancy and childbirth affect career development.
Undeniably, no matter how the state supports the birth of babies, no unit welcomes pregnant women, and maternity leave in general units will affect the performance appraisal of that year. Working mothers have to breastfeed after maternity leave, and their energy is not the same as before giving birth to a baby, which will affect their career development more or less. Some mothers even quit their jobs as full-time mothers, and the sadness is probably only understood by those who have experienced it.
The reason for not wanting a second child is cruel and real. Judging from the physical pain and psychological torture, it is estimated that few women really want to have children.
Then why do many mothers heal their scars and forget the pain, and after a few years, they begin to want Erbao happily? 1, I want a second child, and I hope the child has a companion. Brothers and sisters are the best gifts parents can give their children.
This reason probably accounts for more than half of the reasons for having a second child. Parents can't love their children enough. Many people think that it is worthwhile to raise a pregnant baby, no matter how hard it is, as long as it is beneficial to the child.
There is a popular saying on the internet that having a second child is not because of money, nor does it have to be a boy or a girl. But in this world full of competition, indifference and utilitarianism, the most important thing for parents is not to leave their children a house and money, but to leave a close relative with the same blood, and the fortunes are dependent on each other.
I hope my children have brothers and sisters. In the long life, some people will grow up with me, others will face the future sickness and death together, and they can help each other when they are in trouble. This is probably the main reason why many parents want a second child.
Because I love my boss, I want to have a second child for my boss's company. Although the actual effect of each family remains to be verified, the group of non-only children born in 1980s have deeply realized the benefits of having brothers and sisters, so when they become parents and have the conditions to have a second child, they will consider having another child.
2. The theory of "raising the second child as a pig" instills in people the awareness of raising the second child well.
Some time ago, I said in the live broadcast: the cost of having children is not high. The first child can still use old things, so everyone is encouraged to have more children. It caused a heated discussion for a time.
Although many people don't agree with Yu Xiansheng's statement, we have to admit that the awareness of raising a second child well and saving money and worry has been recognized by generations.
Although the education cost of the second child will not be low at all, from the actual situation, the second child will really save money and worry.
First of all, having a second child will not be as scary and cautious as when I was a parent for the first time. I have experience in common problems such as infant jaundice and acute rash, so I won't be nervous anymore. Secondly, the second child can continue to read expensive well-known picture books at home and abroad, wear the old clothes of the boss, and use some old toys of the boss. Some online classes can be used effectively for life, and the second child can continue to use them. The money spent on the boss is painful. If the second child can also be used, it is still quite cost-effective. Finally, because of the experience of taking the boss, the second child is generally not as meticulous as when he was in senior three, and the second child will learn things early and quickly under the leadership of the boss. It is said that every second child is a villain with strong learning ability and high emotional intelligence, thanks to the influence of the boss. The desire to have two children drives people to have a second child.
It's rare to prefer sons to daughters now, but almost everyone wants to have two children. If you have a daughter, you want a son and experience the feeling of raising a son. A son wants a daughter, a mother wants to wear beautiful parent-child clothes with her, and a father wants to feel MengMeng with a little cotton-padded jacket.
Even growing up in the same family environment, children's personalities may vary widely. The process of cultivating children is also the process of accompanying children to grow up, and many children also have one more life experience. If the children are of different sexes, their life experiences will be richer.
It is the ideal of many people to have children and win in life, which is why some people want a second child.
The children are so naive and beautiful, I think it's not bad to have one more.
Many people especially dislike children before they become parents, but they like all children after they have children. Although it is difficult to raise children, after the first year of their life, children will laugh, sit, climb, walk, communicate and interact with you, and gradually realize the magic and greatness of life in the process.
Children are so cute and innocent that you will feel that the world is particularly beautiful. In the process of raising children, you will also find many novel discoveries. Children will grow up with you and give you special touch and love at a certain moment. Therefore, many people are pregnant again after the hardest two years of raising children, because they think the children are too beautiful and cute, so it is good to have one more.
Every family who wants a second child may have a long story about the second child, about children, about love, about thinking and love for longevity.
Everyone who doesn't want to have a second child also has many reasons for refusing to have a second child, such as physical condition, too much financial pressure such as mortgage and car loan, and no one to look after the baby. Mom wants to have more energy to run her business.
I have always felt that it is personal freedom to have children, and whether to have a second child should proceed from the actual situation of the individual. One more child is one more responsibility. Having a second child means that you need to pay more attention to raising children, which is not as simple as having two children. Unless you are pregnant unexpectedly, it is best to plan ahead before giving birth to a second child.
If you and your husband have decided to have a second child, please make a plan before you get pregnant. Can be prepared from the following aspects:
Do necessary physical examination before pregnancy to ensure the best physical condition during pregnancy. After all, many people may be in their thirties when they want a second child. If you plan to get pregnant, you should supplement the required nutrition in advance and exercise. The more prepared they are, the better. Proper savings, having a second child means more economic expenses, and a certain amount of savings can better resist risks. People who discuss how to take care of the baby have greater responsibility in taking care of the second child. If the boss is already in kindergarten, just pick him up. If the boss hasn't entered the park yet, who and how to bring the two children should be discussed in advance. If you are a working mother, you must plan your work well in advance, learn the necessary skills to improve your career and increase your irreplaceability. Keep a peaceful mind. Although many people want to have both children, not everyone can get it. If you want a second child, you must be psychologically prepared for the second child, with peace of mind and gender. The most important thing is to do the boss's job well before giving birth to the second child, give him enough love and security, and let him know that no matter who comes, his parents' love for him can't be changed. Let the boss participate in the development and growth of the second child from the beginning of pregnancy. It is also a kind of learning for the boss to watch the baby grow up. If conditions permit, the sooner you get pregnant, the better, and the younger you are, the better for postpartum recovery. The golden age of having children is only a few years. If you really decide to have a second child, don't hesitate, as soon as possible. If you are very determined not to have a second child, for whatever reason, just stick to your own ideas. In addition to ups and downs, the second-child family also has various hardships. There must be a corresponding price for raising children. Not every family has the conditions to have a second child, and not everyone can bear the efforts to raise two children.
Many Dink families at home and abroad are happy and chic without children. Every family has its own life and choices. It doesn't matter whether it is right or wrong to have a second child, as long as you don't leave regrets for yourself. After all, people are born, and there are many other roles in life besides being parents. Having children is just a life experience and choice.
On the issue of having a second child, no matter what choice you make, please take yourself seriously, love life and live a positive and happy life.