I still remember when my daughter was just born and still in her infancy, the doctor let me have a look. The first feeling is that the baby is ugly, not as handsome as her father at all, haha! Later, I learned that under normal circumstances, when a baby is born, it will not look too good, and then it will change. It turned out to be right!
The baby didn't feel anything in the first three months. What impressed me most was that my daughter was ill for the first time. Her daughter got otitis media because she often choked on milk. I didn't know what heartbreak was until I saw the yellow pus flowing from the baby's ear. The whole person has an unspeakable distress. It is absolutely true that my daughter is my father's little lover in his last life.
In normal life, as an old father, I can't see my daughter being wronged a little, and even falling down and crying will feel very uncomfortable. My daughter's food, clothing, housing and transportation, within the economic range she can afford, can't wait to give her the best. When I was young, I didn't know how to manage and save money, and I didn't have any plans to spend money. After having children, I also pay attention to this aspect. I save a part of the so-called "education fund" for my children every month, so I envy my niece. At an early age, she is already a little rich woman!
But what makes me most gratified is that I can witness my daughter's growth bit by bit every day. The first time I called my parents, the first time I ran standing, the first time I counted from 1 to 10, and the first time I learned English letters and words. Not only do I feel that my hard work is worthwhile, but I also deeply feel that "parents are grateful for raising their children."
For the rest of my life, snow is you, plain is you, and poverty is you; Glory is you, tenderness in your heart is you, whatever you see is what you are!
Since having a baby, time is no longer my own, and my mind is full of children. In order to help children really understand children, I will read and inquire a lot about parenting knowledge and learn a lot about children's psychology. Times are different now. I only need to feed and warm my children, but I should pay more attention to their inner construction. In the process of raising children, the deepest experience is that I will regain it with the growth of children.
My baby is now 15 months. How can I put it? The baby was planned years before we got married. As a novice mother in 1992, like many mothers, the little nursing dog that laughs and cries is charming when it is cute, and really collapses when it is annoying. I want to give it to my grandmother. I wonder if I will go crazy if I take it. At this time, children began to have their own ideas. I don't know what to do, and sometimes the food is not good. Is the biggest headache. I spent half a day cooking various complementary foods, but people just tasted them and didn't eat them to death. At that moment, I really couldn't help losing my temper. Sometimes I really don't know how to teach children or how to start. Some people say that I can't beat children, scold them, be impatient and spoil them. How can he listen? It seems impossible.
Of course, my children still love him very much. From infancy to now, he has walked steadily and witnessed every process of his growth.
I have been in contact with young people who have become parents before, and I am deeply impressed by the hard work of parents and the filial piety of their children. But when I became a mother, I found more than that. I felt a lot. There are mainly the following points:
Tired, worried and having no time for yourself, this is probably the experience of all people with children. A person who needs attention all the time and involves your energy, regardless of physical strength and energy, is a great test. Only when the baby sleeps can he get a short rest. I used to feel like a villain, how tired I can be. Now I find that you are in charge of everything about him, and worrying has become an instinct. I used to watch many parents sacrifice themselves to protect their children in times of crisis on TV. I think they are great. Now I think it's instinct. I can sacrifice myself for my children.
Before the baby is born, I think my main responsibility to him is to raise, that is, to solve the problem of children's rations. But when the baby came to me, I found that he had a lot of needs, and the mother's responsibility was not just breastfeeding. In the past, work came first and baby came first. Especially when the baby is sick, it affects his own heart and feels that work is for what, not just for the life of his family. Many people think I've changed a lot, and I think it's brought by children.
The essence of raising children is that parents should set a good example again, so many habits must be changed first, otherwise they are not convincing. Secondly, many cognitions have also changed, such as education. I used to think that education is a simple and rude thing. Strictly speaking, just be positive. But after having children, I will find that education is dealing with human nature and psychology, rather than simply copying the template rudely. I need to deeply understand children's psychology, put myself in their shoes, and guide children's cognition and interest in the outside world. Nowadays, seeing many parents educate their children in a simple and rude way, they will feel ignorant. Even many times, I found that I failed the exam as a mother, and I needed a lot of study to not be scared.
Since having children, my biggest feeling is that parents should cultivate themselves before having children.
In fact, from the moment they plan to have children, parents should realize that they should make some changes and learn relevant knowledge. First of all, start with eating and living habits. Pay attention to balanced and light nutrition in diet, and be careful not to stay up late and overwork in living habits. Pay attention to the combination of work and rest and keep a happy mood.
The pregnancy preparation process is also very important, especially for mothers. Diet, life, exercise, mood and even words are all important. Good prenatal education helps to cultivate excellent children. As early as 3000 years ago in the Zhou Dynasty, the ancients believed that the fetus was easily influenced by the mother's mood, living habits and surrounding environment, so the mother must regulate her behavior and maintain good living habits and mood.
When they get pregnant, mothers will start to learn about parenting. Whether it is the care of newborn babies or early education, it can be involved. Most mothers still need to take care of their children by themselves. Of course, before the child is 0-3 years old, it must also be brought by the mother herself. This is a period of psychological attachment. This period will determine your future relationship with your children. Whether children are attached to you or close to you is determined by this period.
In addition, 0-6 years old is the time when many sensitive periods of children break out. If mothers can understand the law of children's development, seize the sensitive period of children in time and give the most correct guidance. Then educating children in the future will get twice the result with half the effort. Because mothers will know their children better and give them correct guidance. Good parent-child relationship is the foundation of education, and taking care of children by yourself will save a lot of trouble in the future.
Unfortunately, I didn't know all this at that time, and now I will always encounter problems in my future education. But learning has only a starting point and no end. One small step for parents, one big step for children.
I haven't officially become a mother. The baby has been in my stomach for three months. What I think most is that she loves her so much.
I came to Chengdu for an exam these two days and ate hot pot yesterday. My baby has been smoking, and I regret it. I told myself to put my baby first and love my family in the future.
It turns out that I am a mother full of infinite gentleness and patience, but my daughter has taught me more on the road of her growth. I am my daughter's lovely big friend, and she is very happy to have a mother like me. This is my greatest harvest and feeling. It feels good to be a mother.