I invited my friend's sister to play with me. I didn't expect the baby to "greet" his sister with his fist as soon as he met.
In the playground, in less than two minutes, there are children in the baby's nine-yin white bone claws;
Ask grandma for snacks, but grandma says she can't eat any more. The baby is very angry, which is a mysterious palm to grandma. ...
A few days ago, a grandfather said anxiously in the group: "My grandson is over five years old and always hits people in kindergarten. Parents of other children in kindergarten have great opinions. If this continues, they will not dare to send him to kindergarten again. " What are we going to do? 」
Babies are grumpy and parents are more anxious. Today, Miss Wang Rong Hui will talk to you. Why did the lovely baby become a little Tyrannosaurus Rex?
In fact, when a baby hits someone, sometimes it is not necessarily violence or attack. It depends on the reason why the baby hits people in different situations.
Babies under the age of 65,438+0 who have poor sense of space and body control will especially like to pat, pat people, pat themselves, jump on people and even bite people. It's not intentional. This is based on the development of the child's body and exploring the use of "hands".
Moreover, it is very likely that when the baby learns to "hit people" for the first time, his parents are cheerful and encouraging, which makes the baby feel that "hitting people" is a good thing, so he will interact with his parents from time to time in this way.
But at this time, their physical control ability is not enough, their sense of space is not mature, and they can't control their upper arms well, so their "beating" is not real violence. Even the baby's pat is likely to be "hi, hello, I like you very much!" " "It's just that he can't control how much.
The "beating" of a baby of this age is not a real attack. It is probably a way for him to be nice, close or say hello, but he doesn't know how to send it yet.
When the baby "hits", parents should not encourage the baby's behavior with cheerful expressions, but should tell the baby: "I don't like this, you are wrong, you should change it in another way. 」
Teach your baby some simple greetings as soon as possible instead of "hitting people", such as "blowing kisses", "hugging" and "holding hands".
Ways to express emotions:/kloc-Babies over 0/year old will express their emotions by hitting people, because at this time their language ability is not mature, they have not learned civilized communication methods, and their language ability is not enough for them to express themselves fluently, or they have no patience to express themselves. Who makes hitting people more studious than talking?
When they encounter difficulties and are emotional, but they can't find a way to vent their emotions, they usually shift their goals to a third party and "hit people" to vent their dissatisfaction, gain self-sufficiency or attract people's attention.
At this time, parents should teach their children to express their emotions correctly and tell him that you can stamp your feet and shout when you are angry, but you can't hit people.
Imitate parents' behavior. Babies usually learn any new skills from "imitation", and so does "beating people". Parents who clap their hands often, the baby is already imitating you. Maybe you haven't hit your baby, but he will think this is the solution to the problem, so he learned to "hit people".
Never ignore the influence of family education on your baby. When parents disagree, we must avoid fierce quarrels and hands-on. Children's irritating behavior can't be stopped by fists. Otherwise, the baby will follow suit and become a real little Tyrannosaurus Rex.
I once saw a three-year-old boy in an early education center, and his behavior was particularly aggressive. He is emotional and always attacks other children to vent his emotions. Moreover, he was always brought up by his grumpy grandfather, and his mother seldom took care of his emotions.
Children who are often beaten at home will seek to imitate the abuse of adults by beating weak companions outside, so a harmonious family communication model has a great influence on children.
As the American Academy of Pediatrics said, "The best way to prevent aggressive behavior is to provide stable and safe family life, stable and loving discipline and all-weather care for infants in their infancy and preschool years."
Improper expression of social behavior. Babies over 2 years old have begun to learn to socialize independently, but they have not fully mastered the social rules. Sometimes there are some inappropriate expressions, such as Nooyi Emma Nursery. Many babies will use "hit" to express "like" and hit whoever they like. They don't realize that this is not the correct expression.
Of course, there are many times when you are socializing, it is inevitable that you will have conflicts with your friends, such as children grabbing toys from each other, but they have not learned the correct way to solve conflicts and contradictions, so they will try to solve problems by "hitting people" and defend their authority.
Parents should pay special attention to the baby's "beating" behavior when socializing.
To teach children the correct social rules, you should tell your baby that "hitting people" is not the right way to express "like". You should teach your baby some correct social rules as soon as possible, such as holding hands and hugging instead of hitting people.
It is normal to guide your baby to correctly resolve conflicts. When there is a problem, parents should help their baby learn to deal with contradictions and find a solution to the problem, instead of quarreling with other baby's parents for the sake of the baby's slapstick. The result of such a quarrel can only be to scare the children.
Parents can first help their baby express and vent their bad emotions through * * * affection, and then tell the baby what to do and provide him with another way, such as:
"You really want to play with your little sister's toys, don't you?"
"Do you want to play with the car first?"
"Let's come back when my little sister is busy, ok?"
"Would you like to exchange toys with your little sister?"
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These methods of solving contradictions require parents' patience, because babies must accumulate enough experience to master good social skills and reach a certain age to understand the feelings of others.
Let the baby realize his mistake. If the child often "hits people" and refuses to change after repeated education, it is necessary to let the child realize his mistakes and treat the child coldly. For example, he is not allowed to continue playing his favorite games; Within 5 minutes, sit in the fixed "reflective chair" and don't move.
But even so, parents should remember not to isolate their children with boredom and rejection. Criticism is aimed at children's things and behaviors, not at children's character. Once a child's behavior has improved within a certain period of time, it should be encouraged and praised in time.
The reason why the baby hits people is because he didn't find the right way to deal with some problems in the process of exploring the world. With the method, it is no longer easy for the baby to raise his fist.
So we have more time to educate and accompany our children, so that they can learn to express themselves correctly in love and socialize smoothly.
But! There will be another situation when the baby grows up: being beaten by other babies!
This may be something that can cause parents' anger more than a baby hitting someone. After all, my dear loves to beat herself. How can she let others hit her?