For example, if you don't agree, you will strike the table and kick the stool, turn around and shout like a trapped animal, scream and cry at the top of your lungs, or simply lie on the ground and roll. ...
One world, one baby, I believe that all mothers will encounter this challenge, and stars are no exception. In a program, Alyssa Chia taught him to sing. Not only did he not cooperate, but he suddenly lost his temper and pushed down his sister next to him, making her cry.
Look carefully at Alyssa Chia's expression at that time, she was also surprised and angry, but she quickly adjusted her emotions and quickly solved this small conflict with textbook-style methods.
First, she asked Mimi, "Why did you push your sister?" Find yourself lying on the ground crying and rolling, and immediately change your strategy. She picked up Mimi in her arms and asked her softly, "Are you tired?" Surprisingly, babbling immediately became much smaller.
Alyssa Chia said, "When a child loses his temper, it is useless to shout and swear. The more you yell at your child, the more scared she is, and the more she will cry, because she wants to express her fear and let you know. "
When the children calmed down, Alyssa Chia began to make rules. She proved with her body that it was wrong to push her sister like this.
People don't listen to anything when they are angry, even adults, let alone children. Therefore, if you want to set rules for your child, you must tell your child what you can and can't do in a gentle and firm way after your child's emotions have calmed down.
However, the child's sudden bad mood will not only happen at home, he may roll around in the mall, scream on the subway, and even destroy toys in the kindergarten class. These behaviors always make our parents embarrassed and helpless.
In places we can't see, such as kindergartens, children are also likely to lose control of their emotions because of teachers' criticism, unfriendly classmates and winning or losing competitions.
In the process of raising children, it is not enough to wait for them to lose their temper. It is most important for children to know and control their emotions.
Child psychologists point out that 2-6 years old is a critical period for the cultivation of children's temperament, and 80%-90% of personality characteristics, ideals and lifestyles in a person's life are formed at this stage.
Professor Li Meijin also said: "Before the age of 6, it is a critical period for children's personality development."
Children at this stage are as flexible as "wet cement". After this period, the "cement" will gradually solidify, and the basic character of the child will gradually be fixed. It is difficult to make big and radical changes.
Therefore, parents must work hard to teach their children self-emotional counseling and help them build a peaceful mind before the age of 6.
When my daughter was 3 years old, she had a particularly bad temper for a while and almost got angry. Either she lost her temper and broke something, or she kept crying.
I was very upset during that time, but it was also very uncomfortable for children to be disturbed by bad emotions. I had to sit through it and take pains to help her, for example:
Describing emotions in time can help children know and understand sadness, injustice, loneliness, joy and other emotions, and can help children better control their emotions.
Many times, children's anger points are really "wonderful" to us adults, and it is difficult to get them with adult thinking.
However, children's expressive ability is very limited. He is eager to express his needs or feelings, but adults can't get them. The more anxious he is, the less clear he is. Finally, he burst into tears.
In this case, first of all, like Alyssa Chia, give the child a hug to calm him down. Then slowly guide the child to express what he wants to say completely.
No matter what children say, adults should not laugh or deny it. They should listen very carefully and tell their children, "The baby will understand slowly now and say everything slowly in the future, ok?"
Third, teach children how to correctly resolve their emotions.
Piaget, a developmental psychologist, believes that 2 7-year-old children don't know much about abstract logic, like to think with symbols and representations, and are willing to believe in animism. For children of this age, telling a bunch of big stories is far less useful than telling a story.
My daughter's warm heart has a set of picture books called "Little Light Bulb Emotional Management Picture Book", which contains such a story:
There is a little blue orangutan in the baby's heart. The baby will sleep soundly when he is happy, but if the baby loses his temper, the little orangutan will be awakened and become a red orangutan, which will destroy the baby's heart, make the baby uncomfortable and make the baby cry.
If the baby speaks his mind well and dispels his unhappiness, the orangutan will become smaller and sleep soundly again.
Every time Warm Heart loses her temper, I tell her, "Warm Heart is very angry now and feels very uncomfortable. It's not your fault, but the red gorilla in your heart is making trouble. " Can you put it to sleep? When it falls asleep, you will feel much better. "
I will continue to ask her: "Do you know how the little sister in the book put the little orangutan to sleep?" At this time, Warm Heart will try to draw and tear old newspapers for a while, just like in a book. After a while, she proudly ran to me and said, "Mom, the little gorilla made me fall asleep."
The child "coaxed" the little orangutan through his own efforts. Such a small success brought her great satisfaction. After many times, the child really learned to guide himself.
The Korean "Little Light Bulb Emotional Management Picture Book" mentioned above is my daughter's favorite, which is a bit old. A book with 8 volumes contains 8 themes, including fear, jealousy, inferiority, shyness, loneliness, sadness and how to feel happiness.
The author describes the changes of children's emotions through colors, pictures and words. Every painting can go into children's hearts and make them feel the same.
Moreover, the story is very positive, which brings warm encouragement to children, teaches children how to correctly resolve bad emotions, and cultivates children's happy and healthy mentality, which is very healing.
The authors of this set of books are Korean first-line children's literature writers and illustrators, which are deeply loved by many mothers and children in Korea and shared by many picture books and kindergartens as classic books on children's emotional management.
The quality of books is also very good. You can print it out with thick coated paper and soybean ink, and feel free to show it to your baby.
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If your child is also troubled by timidity, shyness, anger, inferiority, etc. You might as well read this set of books with your child to absorb energy from warm stories and make your child a strong, peaceful and optimistic person.
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