I still remember when I was a child, I used to do my homework alone in my room. Mom won't be angry with me for homework without supervision.
But now, more and more mothers are accompanying their homework, and the contradiction between them and their children is becoming more and more fierce.
I really should say, "I don't do my homework, my mother will be kind and filial, I do my homework, and chickens fly and dogs jump."
In fact, if you want your child to study well, you can't solve it by accompanying homework. More efforts should be made before children enter school, that is, in kindergarten.
There is a big difference between doing these things and not doing them, which will directly affect children's academic performance and learning motivation after entering school.
A mother will say, "I prepared for my child before he went to school." Spend money to give him an early education class, pick him up and drop him off rain or shine, teach him to read, recite ancient poems and do arithmetic problems. Why is it so difficult to do homework when you go to primary school? "
The answer is simple, because we used the wrong method.
Grasping the critical period of children and giving them early education can really develop their intelligence, but only if the methods are scientific. Only by following the basic laws of brain development can our efforts be reflected in children's grades.
So today my little mother will share some knowledge about brain science. If your baby is not in primary school, help your child develop his intelligence as soon as possible.
In our opinion, if children want to get good grades, they must study more.
I once saw a mother on the show let her 5-year-old daughter study at home all day. Do English after math problems, write Chinese characters in English, and practice piano after writing Chinese characters.
My daughter's only entertainment is playing video games with her father. I have no contact with children, and I have no chance to build blocks, draw pictures, run and jump.
Mother thinks that such efforts will help her daughter lay a good foundation. As a result, experts came to have a look and found that children's fine motor skills, language skills, understanding skills and social skills are behind their peers.
In other words, these exercises that the mother asked her daughter to do not only failed to promote, but also delayed the children.
If you are also using rote learning and a lot of questions to help your children prepare for the young connection, you should pay attention.
Before the age of 6, what can really help children develop their intelligence is not to do problems or attend morning classes blindly, but to give them rich experiences and excitement.
Why the more experience, the better?
Because the child's brain develops very fast before the age of 6 and is extremely plastic. The basis of brain plasticity is a complex network formed by the interconnection of neurons.
Simply put, we can imagine a child's brain as a criss-crossing traffic network. The more developed the network, the smarter the children are.
In the first two years of life, the main job of the brain is to constantly build new roads.
From the age of 2 or 3, in addition to building new roads, roads that are rarely used will be demolished one by one. Frequently used roads will be preserved and built wider and wider, so that information can be transmitted more efficiently.
We certainly hope that the important roads in children's minds can be preserved as the basis for future study. Therefore, it is particularly important to increase children's experience and use these roads as soon as possible.
Take language as an example. A foreign language not only has a critical period of learning, but also the earlier it is contacted, the better the learning effect will be.
Even in our mother tongue, the sooner we talk to our children, the more we speak, the smarter our children will be.
It is found that in backward rural areas, children's intelligence level is obviously lower than that of urban children. A very important reason is that children in poor areas are mostly brought up by grandparents, so they are rarely stimulated by language.
Maybe all day, the communication with grandparents is just the words "get up, eat and sleep".
In fact, children in many cities have good material conditions now, but because their parents are busy with work, they can only keep company with old people's nannies all day, and the things they can contact are also very single.
So no matter how busy we are at work, we should set aside time to talk, experience and play with our children. Don't wait until you miss the critical period of your child's growth to regret it.
There is a classmate named "Bao Bao" in the sample kindergarten. At an early age, my parents filled all his spare time with early education classes.
Not only do you have classes on weekends, but you also have to rush to class after school from Monday to Friday.
Although mom and dad are ambitious and don't want their bags to lose at the starting line, such over-education may only be counterproductive.
Many parents, like their baby's parents, think that early education means teaching in advance and teaching as soon as possible. But in fact, "early education" only refers to early education.
Only by following scientific laws and letting children do the right things at the right age can we achieve the ideal effect.
For example, many children have not learned to crawl, and parents are eager to let their children learn to walk, even proud of it. They think skipping this stage is a sign of children's cleverness.
I don't know that crawling plays a very important role in the development of children's balance ability and spatial ability.
Many children always write their words backwards after primary school, and they can't tell B from D, P from Q because they didn't climb enough when they should climb in infancy.
There are also many parents who, like parents carrying schoolbags, only value learning and deprive their children of opportunities to play and play.
But for children before the age of 6, games are just the basic way for them to explore and learn, which can help children learn to solve problems and develop their cognitive and social skills.
My mother often shares some early education games. For example, games are used to learn shapes, numbers and laws in mathematics, and games are used to develop children's creativity and memory.
I will play these games with samples. The sample not only enjoys this process, but also learns a lot unconsciously, and has stronger concentration and curiosity than children of the same age.
This is the magic of the game, turning learning into a simple and happy thing.
In fact, the most important significance of early education is not to let children remember much knowledge, but to help children maintain and broaden their minds, promote the development of various abilities, and stimulate their interest in learning at the same time, so as to prepare for formal learning in the future.
In the process of giving children early education, there is another mistake that we often make, that is, putting too much emphasis on "teaching".
We always think that a child is a blank sheet of paper, and he will learn as we teach him.
When children play with toys, we will say, "You are not playing right, you should play like this."
When a child draws a picture, we will say, "You don't draw like it. Why don't you draw your mother's hair? "
When children recite ancient poems, we will say, "You recite this sentence wrong, it should be ..."
In front of children, we always find fault with a magnifying glass. The result not only swept away the children's interest, but also stifled their imagination, creativity and thinking ability.
Piaget, a famous child psychologist, once said: "Children are little scientists. When they face problems, they will actively explore and learn. "
But in the eyes of many adults, children don't know anything unless someone teaches them. Is that really the case?
Psychologists have studied children's logical reasoning ability.
They found a group of children aged 15 months, and wanted to know whether the children could infer whether it was a human problem or a toy problem according to the clues when the toy could not make sound.
So they designed two groups of experiments.
In the first set of experiments, the researchers first demonstrated to the children that Aunt A pressed the toy and it would ring, while Aunt B did not.
When the child presses the toy by himself, the toy will not ring. Even if it is only 15 months old, it is speculated that it should be a human problem. So the babies gave their toys to their mothers, hoping that their mothers could help them ring the toys.
In the second group of experiments, the researchers demonstrated that Aunt A pressed the toy, the toy rang for the first time, but the toy didn't ring for the second time, and Aunt B pressed the toy, but the toy rang once and didn't ring again.
It was the child's turn to press it himself, but the toy didn't ring. So this group of babies speculated that the toy was broken. So instead of asking their mother for help, they picked up another toy on the table.
This experiment tells us that even babies of 15 months have good reasoning ability. But why don't our children look so smart in real life?
The reason is that we didn't give our children a chance to play and think quietly.
We are always busy teaching him how to play and correcting his mistakes, so children have no chance to use their brains to make themselves smart.
In fact, there is no right or wrong for children to play with toys, draw pictures and recite ancient poems. Their thinking and creation, as well as the cultivation of interest and the development of ability in this process are the most precious.
Today, I will share with you three ways to promote children's brain development:
I hope that mothers can use the right methods and avoid detours in the process of raising their children.
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