For example, personality cultivation, in fact, we have a particularly precious resource. China is an ancient civilization, a country of poetry, calligraphy and virtue. The traditional education in China is an education with humanistic education as its core content, and the goal of training is gentleman's personality. Everyone's conventional achievement is to be a gentleman, modest, sensible, gentle, honest and so on. But the people trained today are still far from this goal.
Although the rules and regulations of many schools shout slogans such as educating people, the teaching process still depends on exams and scores, and it is mainly based on subject teaching, without putting personality training at the core. Nowadays, education has deviated from the essence of education, and only some examination machines, technical geeks and economic animals have been cultivated. In Qian Liqun's words, they are exquisite egoists, but they have abandoned our precious cultural traditions.
For the cultivation of personality, for a person's excellent personality, emotion, temperament, dreams, cheerfulness, optimism, courage, perseverance, tenacity and so on. These are the most important foundations for a person to settle down. Similarly, to cultivate a person's ability, the most important thing is the ability to migrate and learn, not the specific professional knowledge, because the specific knowledge can be reached soon or easily obtained from Baidu.
There is a hot topic recently. This year has entered the most difficult employment season for college students, but we all know that on the one hand, a large number of graduates can't find jobs, on the other hand, a large number of enterprises and institutions can't recruit people. These two phenomena have always coexisted. In addition to some structural imbalances, such as the surplus of low-cost majors such as law, English and computer in previous years, there is also a very important reason that the talents trained by universities now do not meet the needs of the labor market.
In fact, what employers reflect most strongly is not professional knowledge. They value two qualities most, one is values, which is the basic personality. Are you a good person and have public welfare to serve the society? If you are a half-hearted, opportunistic person who takes the enterprise as a springboard, the enterprise is most afraid of such a person. The second is migration ability, that is, communication ability, cooperation ability, mobility, creativity and performance, and then it depends on your organizational management ability, courage and willpower, but our education ignores the cultivation of these abilities.
Pay attention to short board or develop long board?
As we all know, our education policy has always emphasized all-round development. This educational planning outline has a new formulation, that is, "all-round development and personality development are unified." Education plans and policies all over the world put personality development in the first place. However, because it is difficult to achieve all-round development, we are reduced to average development and mediocre development in actual operation. In this mode, what hurts most is personality.
This is one of the reasons why we haven't trained truly outstanding talents for so many years. We know that the vast majority of outstanding talents in the world are one-sided, whether they are scientific and technological talents or humanistic talents, because only by fully developing in their own professional direction can they reach a certain height. Development is average, development is average, you can become a good student, but you can't walk far, and you won't have a voice after entering the society.
There is a sentence engraved on the ancient Greek temple, which is called knowing yourself. This is a fact. Since ancient times, educational wisdom is people's self-discovery and self-realization. So today, we should be very clear that the function of education is to help people discover and realize themselves and be their best, rather than making the same standard parts according to unified standards and norms.
Why emphasize personality development? Because life is different, personality difference is the basic premise of pedagogy. Sociology divides people into academic type, economic type, artistic type, social type, power type and religious type. Academic type can think deeply, sit still and get in; The economy is sensitive to money and the financial quotient is very high; Powerful people like to manage people and be class cadres. These intellectual tendencies have been shown since childhood, with scores as the only criterion, but in fact only some of them have been evaluated, and other intelligences have been suppressed.
An important difference between Chinese and western education is that teachers in China always pay attention to your shortcomings; American teachers always say to discover and strengthen their thickest nerves and be their best. Western education pays attention not to short board but to long board, which is to develop students' personality and specialty. Education is not irrigation. Outstanding talents at all times and all over the world, with outstanding personality, have a strong interest in a certain aspect and are often "extreme". Many of our high school students don't know what they like and want to learn when they take the college entrance examination. Teachers and parents advise them to learn whatever they want. After graduating from college, I still don't know what I should do. This is a failure.
Competition at the starting line is a false proposition.
Today I want to put special emphasis on family education. There is a book called "A good mother is better than a good teacher", which has been published for 3 million copies. Why is a good mother or a good parent better than a good teacher? Each of us should think deeply about this problem, because parents are the first and permanent teachers of children, and children grow up watching their parents' shadows. The educational function of parents can't be replaced by schools anyway.
It is a very common reality that the best students are often the children of teachers in rural areas with the least educational resources. This teacher may also have a low education and no educational methods. However, this kind of parents mainly teach by example. At least you won't play mahjong every day. At night, you should sit in the light to correct your homework and prepare lessons. This is the education of children. From an academic point of view, this power of words and deeds is called the transfer of cultural capital, and the cultural atmosphere of your family will be transferred.
Today, we saw several unfortunate parents. In the first category, send children to boarding schools and give them to teachers, or go to key schools, feel safe and give up family education. The second category is more common, and many families become accomplices in school exam-oriented education. Schools cover the family field through home-school communication. Parents help teachers supervise and oppress students and attend various cram schools on weekends. Some people call it "five plus two, white plus black". It is conceivable that even if a child goes to a key school, his health, his feelings, his character and his personality will not be taken seriously.
The third category is overexertion. There are many tiger mothers and wolf fathers in China, and their children are only three years old. Parents have always been like ants on hot bricks, discussing in QQ group every day and trying their best not to let their children lose at the starting line. This confusing business slogan has aroused the anxiety of the whole society, and even many parents have given up their working life and stayed with them all the time. The unbearable pressure of parents on their children is one of the reasons why some children eventually go to a dead end.
It's hard to be a parent nowadays. Every parent has anxiety. Will children lose at the starting line? Competition on the starting line has become the most inflammatory commercial slogan at present. The starting line has been moving forward, and now it has been moved to kindergarten to primary school. In fact, the competition at the starting line is a false proposition. Children will never lose at the starting line, but will only die of fatigue and illness at the starting line. Competition at the starting line is very important to Liu Xiang, who needs to race against time. Life is a long marathon. As we all know, people who lead in the first few laps of the marathon can hardly reach the finish line. If they overdraw their physical strength too early, this will be the result.
Physical and mental health is more important than famous schools.
To get rid of the fear at the starting line, parents now must have a strong sense of normality, not be disturbed by commercial temptations or comparisons, stick to common sense, treat their children as children, and downplay the craze for early education, training, grade worship and prestigious school worship. Now everyone does this, and people who don't do this are afraid and feel that they are behind the times and have been eliminated. In fact, children's health, personality, personality, interest, curiosity, imagination, reading and so on are much more important than those things, and these things depend largely on their parents.
If parents don't have a normal heart, your family will not be at peace. Home is the battlefield, from three to twenty years old. Parents' anxiety is nothing more than letting their children go to key universities and pursue higher social status. What exactly is an ideal education? Pay attention to grades and pursue good grades blindly, or cultivate a healthy and happy child? In my opinion, a healthy and lively child is more important than any famous school, and physical and mental health is more important than grades.
What is quality education? It is to let children sleep for an extra hour every day and play for an extra hour every day. Can our parents do it? If you can't, send him to a cram school. The sun won't shine for a day. In fact, many people with wisdom in life have low expectations for their children. Lu Xun resolutely opposed children as short writers. Lao She's expectation is to be proficient in pen and ink, to be self-reliant, and not to bully others or be bullied by others. This is based on the understanding of life and a thorough outlook on life. In fact, most celebrities become well-educated civilians and various professionals.
If we had three children, the problem would be easy to explain. Parents are very clear: the boss is honest and will stay at home for the elderly in the future. Second, cunning, can do business in the future. The third is to be smart and let him learn. Anyway, not everyone is suitable for a key university. But there is no way. Now that a child has been trained as a child prodigy, the child is at a loss, so the normality of parents is particularly important.
What is a successful family education?
Therefore, the concept of children, the first is to be tolerant and kind to children, protect his normal life, protect his physical and mental health, and treat children as children. This is the most important education.
The second is waiting. There is a book in Korea called "Good Mom Take Your Time", and now parents are too anxious. Writer Bi Shumin said that trees should not grow too fast. One-year-old trees are used as firewood, three-year-old trees as tables and chairs, and century-old trees as pillars. The more expensive the wood, the longer the growth period, such as rosewood and Huang Huali. People are all the same, so don't worry, be patient, and a normal heart is also a kind of patience.
The third is liberation. Tao Xingzhi proposed to liberate children's mind, eyes, ears, mouth, time and space. Yu Pingbo has a godson's idea, which is to raise fish with big water. Is to give children a relaxed and free environment. The bigger the pool, the more water there will be before they grow into big fish. You can cultivate talents without occupying all the time and space of children. In addition, it is not advisable to give directions to children too early, otherwise Yang Zhenning is a skilled accountant and Qi Baishi is just an excellent carpenter.
The fourth is discovery. In family education, the most important role of parents is to help children discover themselves and their personality. Buffett said that the only thing parents should do for their children is to find their passion and encourage them to go all out to pursue it. Finding enthusiasm is a difficult and mysterious process, which requires a lot of free space. If parents exert pressure, it will only be counterproductive. Parents just need to tell their children not to consider status and rewards when making choices. Just like Jobs said, do what you really love.
How to measure the success of family education? The first indicator, when children are friends of books since childhood and like reading, education is half the battle. Because good books will lay the foundation for children's spiritual background, those basic values will affect children's life. The second goal is to form a clear personality and specialties around his high school, including hobbies, and children can form themselves and discover and learn themselves, even if they succeed. We see too many children crushed by exams. If we give him three days to arrange for himself, he doesn't know what to do but do his homework, and his spirit is blank. This is a failure of education.