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Why do parents love to urge you to get married and have children?
Recently, when I was watching White Deer Plain, I met several places that puzzled me very much.

1. Why do you want all six wives of Bai Jiaxuan to die?

2. Bai Jiaxuan's income after getting a treasure house of geomantic omen is obviously less than that of Lu Zilin, so why did he bother to change land?

Why did Mr. Chen write this strange story? Deleting this story won't hurt this novel.

Take a walk after dinner, and I'll think about these problems.

Thinking of my nearest home, my parents urged me to get married and have children as soon as possible in a sarcastic tone. I suddenly understood Mr. Chen Shizhong's good intentions in designing this bridge.

First, the unfortunate wives of Bai Jiaxuan.

Intercepted from the TV series "White Deer Plain"

Bai Jiaxuan had to marry early because she wanted to marry six wives.

Just after Bai Jiaxuan's sixteenth birthday, he married his first wife who was two years older than him. A year later, the first wife died in childbirth.

The second wife is two years younger than him, with a handsome face and a bright eye. In less than a year, she died of lung disease.

Although the third wife is only sixteen years old, she is quite plump, with plump shoulders, plump hips and plump breasts. A year later, the plump woman turned into a dry corn stalk, and finally vomited blood and died, not knowing what disease she had.

Bai Jiaxuan was not at home when his fourth wife died. When she came back, she found that her mouth was biting her back corner, her nails were caught off, and the blood on her hands was not completely dry. She died in great pain and twisted into a shrimp.

The name of the fourth wife, Bai Jiaxuan, began to spread among villages, and people began to talk about him:

Bai Jiaxuan has a penis that can be wrapped around her waist and a poisonous barb at the tip. The woman's liver, lungs, intestines and stomach were all smashed and injected with poison.

Bai Jiaxuan's fifth wife is the third daughter of the carpenter Wei family. The Li family has always had five daughters, so they can't support themselves, so as long as they give rich gifts, the Li family doesn't care about Bai Jiaxuan's wife.

On the wedding night, Bai Jiaxuan closed the door and began to undress, but the three girls began to cry trembling:

"My dad took your bride price regardless of my life. When you meet a well on a cliff, you have to jump.

I don't want to die early, I want to wait on you for a few more years. I bring you water, tea, foot washing, cooking, sweeping the floor and sewing without even saying a word. Don't scare me with that thing in the dark. If you are a good officer and a good brother, you can let me go ... "

Bai Jiaxuan didn't feel sorry after hearing this, but felt that the three girls had hurt his self-esteem, so he was angry and hard.

After that, Bai Jiaxuan asked her what internal organs she had hurt, only to find that she had held her breath. He quickly grabbed her, and when she woke up, she hid in the corner of the kang and huddled up.

In the following days, no matter how comforting Bai Jiaxuan was, she shivered in bed like malaria every night.

Six months later, three girls got sick while washing clothes, jumped into the pool and drowned.

After the death of the sixth wife, Bai Jiaxuan's mother immediately spent a lot of money to find the sixth wife Hu.

Intercepted from the TV series "White Deer Plain"

Hu's father agreed to marry his daughter to Bai Jiaxuan because he lost everything in gambling.

When the sixth wife got married, Bai Jiaxuan kissed and touched her. She didn't resist, but when Bai Jiaxuan wanted to start work, she took out scissors and pointed at him:

"If you dare to open my belt, I'll cut your thing off."

Bai Jiaxuan found a local famous doctor, Mr. Leng, complaining that he was afraid that his things were really poisonous.

Mr. Leng laughed, told him not to panic, and prescribed some aphrodisiacs for him to eat for one hundred days.

When Bai Jiaxuan came back, he told Hu that Mr. Leng had given me medicine, and my poison would be cured for 100 days. A hundred days later, Bai Jiaxuan happily had sex with Hu.

Not long after a good day, Hu said that he saw the five women in front of Bai Jiaxuan and described their faces very carefully, even though she had never seen them before.

It's no use for Bai Jiaxuan to invite the mage. Hu fell into bed after a pile of flesh and blood, and soon died.

Second, uneconomical land transactions.

After the death of Bai Jiaxuan's sixth wife, she was timid and afraid to marry a second wife, but her mother Bai insisted on marrying him. Bai Jiaxuan can't help it, so she has to ask the Yin and Yang teacher to come and have a look before getting married.

In winter, it snows heavily at night The next day, Bai Jiaxuan went out to invite the teacher of Yin and Yang, and saw the white of the world.

Walking on the road, Bai Jiaxuan found that a piece of land in the whole white Yuan Ye was black. When he walked past, he saw that the land was still wet and steaming.

Stranger still, there is a thistle growing on the land. Dig down and dig out a white stem with several leaves of the same color on it.

Intercepted from the TV series "White Deer Plain"

At this time, Bai Jiaxuan's head was spinning quickly. It would be bad if this precious medicinal material was dug up, so he carefully buried the soil, kicked the surrounding snow to cover it, and pulled a bubble of shit on it to disguise the scene.

After reading this, I began to get excited, because I had a hunch that Bai Jiaxuan was going to counterattack.

Bai Jiaxuan told his learned brother-in-law Mr. Zhu what he had dug up, and his brother-in-law asked him to draw what he had dug up. After painting, it looks like a deer.

White deer is a good sign. It is said that there is a white deer on the White Deer Plain. Where the white deer ran, the wheat seedlings suddenly jumped high, and the weak yellow seedlings became good green seedlings.

After the white deer passed by, people found dead wolves, dying nurses, 40% piles of toads in sewer wetlands, and all poisonous insects and animals were quietly killed.

Even more amazing, it was found that the old lady cooking on the kang was paralyzed, the old man who had been blind for half his life was picking up sand mixed in wheat with bright eyes, the dysentery of the bald man's second child grew black hair, and the ugly girl with a crooked mouth and squints became fresh as peach blossoms.

White deer is so powerful that Bai Jiaxuan has found it now. Why not try your best to get it?

The obstacle is that this land belongs to Lu Zilin, Bai Jiaxuan's rival in love, and Bai Jiaxuan has to pay a lot of effort to get this land.

"The road is planned by people. The key is to be calm and not hasty.

Once the overall plan was formulated, Bai Jiaxuan put it into practice quickly and decisively. "

Bai Jiaxuan plan is very dangerous, crying miserably to himself:

Married six wives and died, his father left, and he didn't see his grandson before he left. Now, in order to spread the incense of the White House, he can only sell the two acres of Tian Zi handed down from his ancestors.

(In the Qing Dynasty, land was divided into six grades according to "climate, geographical location and human harmony", and the division was based on the output of land)

Through the intermediary of Mr. Leng, a well-known local doctor, Bai Jiaxuan exchanged land with Lu Zilin. Bai Jiaxuan got the land named after Bailuyuan, and Lu Zilin got the fertile land named after Bai Jiaxuan's two acres.

Lu Zilin gained a lot of economic benefits in this land exchange transaction.

Bai Jiaxuan's land can be planted for two seasons a year. Plant corn when the wheat is harvested, and plant wheat when the corn is harvested. It is difficult to guarantee a year's summer grain in that land.

Lu Zilin's family has 20 mu of land by the river, which is distributed in every corner. The biggest piece is only two acres and seven cents. Together with Bai Jiaxuan's two acres, it can be merged with the original one acre and three points into a three-acre and three-point land.

This has formed the scale effect. For example, in the past, only soil was used to drill wells to alleviate the drought, and it was not cost-effective to drill wells in other small areas. Now there is another piece of land, so we can drill wells and take care of three acres of land.

In this way, Luzilin can harvest more crops.

Although Bai Jiaxuan took a treasure trove of geomantic omen, he didn't get more economic benefits in the subsequent grain planting, including he took the lead in planting opium poppy, and then all parts of Bailuyuan began to plant it.

Therefore, Bai Jiaxuan forbeared decisive things for the sake of feng shui treasure, including selling the land left by his ancestors without telling his mother that he had been beaten and crying to Mr. Leng, which did not produce any economic benefits.

Third, peace is incremental.

Later, when I thought about it carefully, I was confused.

Bai Jiaxuan's greatest benefit is his wife's peace:

His seventh wife, Cao Xian, did not die. She also gave birth to three sons, Xiao Wen, Xiao Wu, Xiao Yi and Bai Ling.

Bai Jiaxuan's seventh wife is Cao Xian.

It has the same meaning as the fairy grass he found in the snow.

Now let's return to the three questions raised in the article.

1. Why do all six wives of Bai Jiaxuan die?

A: In order to bring Bai Jiaxuan's personal feng shui difference to the extreme, if he doesn't improve, he will never get a wife in his life.

2. Bai Jiaxuan didn't get any actual incremental benefits after he got the treasure house of Feng Shui. Why did he go to great pains to exchange land? Growing poppies to make a fortune is an economic benefit gained at the expense of others, which is not worth mentioning. )

A: In order to improve Feng Shui, let the married wife stop hanging up.

Why did Mr. Chen go to so much trouble to write this strange story? Deleting this story won't hurt the novel.

A: Through the accumulation and release of progressive contradictions, we can tell a truth:

How important it is for the older generation to carry on the family line!

Looking back on the deaths of Bai Jiaxuan's six wives, Mr. Chen described each of them in a detailed, bizarre and frightening way.

In other words, for Bai Jiaxuan, if he can't change Feng Shui, he will be single all his life and will never lift his head in front of others.

In fact, for himself, when his fourth wife died, he was too timid to marry again, but Bai Jiaxuan's father, Bing De, insisted on marrying him, no matter how much he paid.

Intercepted from the TV series "White Deer Plain"

Before Bai Jiaxuan married his fifth wife, the old man was dying. Before she died, Bai Jiaxuan said:

"After three filial piety, three years of filial piety are you a dutiful son? You are the most treacherous and unfilial person! I'm just saying, even if the cattle, horses, land, houses and houses are sold out ... "

The old man held his breath until Bai Jiaxuan promised to marry him as soon as possible.

Therefore, Bai Jiaxuan only took getting married and having children as his most important thing under the "urging" of his parents.

Financial freedom, experiencing life, traveling around the world and realizing the value of life all have a premise in the eyes of the older generation: having a partner and having children.

In other words, a partner and children can have the most basic life.

Before that, you tell them what I do, what degree I get, where I go and how much money I earn.

They will think you are a flawed person and try their best to ridicule you for not having a partner.

Fourth, you don't have to listen, but you must understand.

PS: This paragraph is for an older single young man like me. Those who are married and have a sweet baby, please ignore them automatically.

In fact, no matter how my parents advise me to get married and have children early, I will go in one ear and out the other.

I feel that life is very hard and tired. Why should I bring another person connected with my blood out and make him/her come into this world tired?

Many people will impose on their children what they have not finished in their lives, such as forcing their children to study hard and not be admitted to a prestigious school.

Children and parents are not conjoined twins, so why should parents let their children do things they haven't done?

Why don't parents do it themselves?

Because my parents are tired, I have to work hard for this family, make money and take care of my family after work. I'm exhausted. Where can I find the strength to realize my dreams?

There is a post on the internet asking what kind of life experience is it with an annual salary of 500 thousand?

A person who works in Beijing complains desperately about how hard he works, but because his wife doesn't work, in order to take care of the children at home, the children are educated early when they are born, how much money he spends on them and how miserable he is. Although he earns a lot of money, he still can't enjoy life.

So I learned this lesson and gave up the idea of getting married and having children when I had no leisure and many unfinished wishes.

Without a wife and children, I don't have to work hard for my family, just live for myself, and make up for the broken shortcomings in my life with strong subjective consciousness and secular desire.

We should understand the importance of carrying on the family line in the eyes of the older generation, and also understand that since we live in this world, we should strive to love ourselves, take good care of our emotions and find our own value.

Taking care of emotions is to find someone you really like and find love, not to make do with someone you don't like or hate in order to get married and have children, and then devote the rest of your life to your children.

Finding your own value means finding what you like to do, or what you are good at, and sticking to it and making achievements in this field, instead of leaving unfinished regrets to the next generation.

We can turn a blind eye to parents' nagging and urging, but we should understand the thoughts of parents' generation. At the same time, since we are human beings, we should love ourselves and live for ourselves seriously.

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