I have a friend with me. Her husband is the director of the company, with a monthly salary of 10 thousand. She has been a stay-at-home wife for more than four years (since she was pregnant). The couple bought a two-bedroom apartment by mortgage in our community, and their life was fairly comfortable. My daughter is three years old this year, and it's time to go to kindergarten. The couple began to quarrel incessantly.
Once my mother chatted with me and said that her husband made too little money. The mortgage is more than 2,000 a month, and the children's early education class is more than 3,000. Plus living expenses, there is basically no surplus every month. At present, my daughter goes to kindergarten, and the kindergarten she wants to go to costs 100 thousand a year, which the family can't afford. My in-laws said they could support 20,000 at most, which is really sad!
I asked my noisy mother, do I have to go to that kindergarten? Dabao kindergarten is less than 30 thousand a year, which is not bad. Make trouble with mom's pie. Can it be the same? Your son, my daughter! Then she told me a lot about the "advanced" features of that kindergarten and how it suits her daughter. I was speechless and argued that I was a "sour grape".
Later, I heard that I went to that private kindergarten for a year100000, and the money was borrowed by my father. Why do noisy mothers have to let their daughters go to private kindergartens? By chatting with her, I summed up these three points:
1, the environment is good, children eat nutrition.
Noisy mom thinks that the current public kindergartens are poor in environment and outdated in equipment, which simply can't keep up with the pace of modern education. Besides, teachers can't take care of many children.
Private kindergartens are better in these aspects, especially the children's three meals a day, which is much better. What should I do if my child grows up and can't keep up with nutrition? Can't wronged the child!
2. Teaching has its own characteristics.
The teaching characteristics of private kindergartens are indeed better than those of public kindergartens. English teachers are all foreign teachers, and children learn and hear pure American English. Moreover, regular parent-child activities and special courses can enhance parent-child feelings, cultivate children's hobbies and broaden their horizons.
Relatively speaking, public kindergartens are not so rich, and the teaching content is in accordance with the regulations of the Education Bureau. Although it is in line with children's physical and mental development, it is relatively weak to cultivate children's hobbies. Who doesn't want their children to win at the starting line?
3. The kindergarten system is flexible
Some rules and regulations of private kindergartens can be adjusted according to parents. For example, if a mother can't pick up the children at 5 o'clock, she can say hello to the teacher, who will arrange the children's school time flexibly. But in public kindergartens, the time of going to school and leaving school is the same. Even if you say hello in advance, you may not be able to arrange your child properly. Sometimes it is even possible to let the children wait at the gate of the kindergarten with the doorman uncle, which is very dangerous (as far as I know, there is no such kindergarten at present, and I don't know where the noisy mother heard it).
I once discussed this kind of problem with a colleague: Is it necessary to send children to "aristocratic" kindergartens because their families are average? I was deeply impressed by her words, but I beg to differ: "Everyone does. If you don't do this, you will suffer. "
I think this sentence should reflect the true mentality of many parents with average economic conditions when choosing kindergartens beyond their ability for their children.
They were trapped, but they never thought it was really right. Is it good for children? Suhomlinski, a famous educational practitioner and theorist in the former Soviet Union, said: "The whole mystery of educational skills lies in how to care for children." Instead of throwing children into an environment you think is good. Maybe it's not just his parents' sad faces. He wants to see his parents who can smile at him every day and grow up happily with him.
Pillow parenting information:
Although "aristocratic" private kindergartens are better than public ones in many aspects and are more suitable for our children. However, our parents should also consider their own financial ability. For the sake of children, you have to go to a "noble" kindergarten and borrow money, even if you have no money! After several years of kindergarten education, is it really necessary to dig up the family or even get into debt? In my opinion, what we can give our children must be what we can bear as parents. It is not necessarily a good thing for children to blindly follow the trend!