As a teacher, I always investigate classes at the beginning of school. There are always students whose parents are divorced in a class, and these students are the focus of the teacher's care.
Because most of these students have bad study habits and poor grades.
Of course, it does not rule out that some students have good grades.
But they are not as easy to get along with as those children who live in harmonious families. Most of these children are very self-abased, particularly sensitive, closed-minded and do not like to associate with others.
Therefore, a harmonious and warm family atmosphere is very important for children's growth, and such a family environment is conducive to children's better character.
2. Do a good job in parent-child reading and let children develop good reading habits.
A person's reading history is his mental development. He is a child who loves reading and has the most potential.
Parents should study with their children when they are young. When reading every day, it should be fixed at a certain point in time, so that children can form inertia. By that time, parents are required to study with him, so that children will develop good reading habits after a long time.
There must be a bookcase at home, often buy some books that children like to read, usually buy less toys and more books for children.
3. Develop good living habits.
When children are young, they must be allowed to do housework as much as possible. Parents can never take the place of undertaking all housework.
If parents do all the housework instead and children just study, then children's independent living ability will be poor.
When some children grow up, they don't pay special attention to hygiene and can't clean their rooms, which has a lot to do with their parents' requirements when they were young.
4. Cultivate children's broad interests and hobbies.
As long as children have hobbies, they will live happily.
If children like calligraphy, learn it. If children like dancing, they can learn. If children like painting, it is ok.
Children with a wide range of interests tend to make more friends, which is especially beneficial to their healthy growth.
In this world, only a few people are born with golden keys, and most people are ordinary. Who says humble families can't have noble children? As long as you are diligent and practical, you can still make a career. Anyone who plays poker knows that this is an opportunity to touch anything. If you play your cards well, it is not certain who will win in the end!
People here generally don't say that there is a golden key inside, but that there is a golden spoon inside, which means the same thing! I think it's different to push the spoon forward for generations, as long as you can fill the rice in your mouth!
I have a friend with me. For the sake of children's so-called "not losing at the starting line", tens of thousands of children under the age of one sign up for early education classes every year. Husband has to work part-time in his spare time, and his thirties are the same as his forties and fifties!
Your so-called starting line, perhaps many people don't care at all, long-distance runners all know that at first, the power is fierce, and then it's boring! The same is true for children's education, which is a long-term and lasting thing!
Many high-quality education does not require too much cost. Parents can set an example in reading, habits and manners!
There is no deep musical atmosphere at home, and many people force them to learn piano. You can look at those grown-up children. It's a pity to sell the piano at home, but it takes up space if you don't sell it!
What suits children is the best, and family happiness is the most important! Don't always ask children to study, and do that with one thousandth or one tenth of individual excellent children!
I am an ordinary family, I should be down-to-earth and educate my children as well as possible in my own way!
What should you do? This is probably the usual thinking of most ordinary people.
First of all, let me talk about my personal thoughts. Similarly, I am an ordinary person who can no longer be ordinary. Now I have two children. One was born with a rare disease. He is seven years old and can't do anything. When he grew up, he had lost the ability to take care of himself. The other is normal. For a family like mine, don't say that a child born without a golden key in his mouth is born with poison. He takes medicine 365 days a year. I won't worry about whether he has the golden key, because there is only one way before me, and that is to try my best to create as many good conditions for her as possible in my lifetime. After all, it has been decided since birth, and it is useless to complain. Now only strengthening yourself is the only way out. Only the rich second generation was born with a golden key, not the rich second generation. I only rely on my own efforts and pay to improve all this, no matter how good I can be. As long as I don't give up, I have a chance to improve, as long as the child is normal. When he grows up, he may create everything he wants by his own ability. He may not need your arrangement.
I tell you with my own story that it doesn't matter whether the child has a golden key in his mouth. The key is what kind of ideas are passed on to her at home, which is what is most needed. I hope you don't worry about it.
1 Good moral education can make him liked and respected by everyone. This is very important for him to make friends in the future. A person who knows how to respect others will be respected. No matter what the other person is, whether it is security or cleaning or even leadership, he can achieve the same respect.
A person who knows how to be modest will not be maliciously hurt by others.
An understanding person will get help when he is sad, failed or blocked.
A person who knows how to be clean and civilized will be liked wherever he goes. No one likes a sloppy person who loves to call names.
Such people will be loved by colleagues and leaders regardless of their ability.
Poor ability, the leader is willing to give you time to grow. To tell the truth, I have met many excellent leaders, and there is no shelf at all. He will respect everyone very much.
Not only because you are his excellent employee, but also because you are his employee. He respects you, even if you are nothing now. As long as you give him a smile and a name, he will nod, whether he knows your name or not.
2 Learning ability Nowadays, social science and technology are developing rapidly, and new things are constantly emerging.
No matter how high your education is, or how poor your education is. If you don't always keep the spirit of learning.
You will be out of touch with this society. For example, WeChat business, official WeChat account, take-away US group and Didi taxi are all new.
You don't know how to take advantage of these conveniences to get a ride.
Good learning ability can help you learn new things better and faster.
Even if the starting point is very low and the education level is not high, you can still have a brilliant tomorrow. Just pay more!
Learn the skills of swimming, riding a bicycle, cooking, folding quilts, shopping, managing money, taking care of yourself and traveling by yourself, use mobile phone software, use computers, and communicate with foreigners simply in English.
Got a high degree diploma.
When I grow up, I won't sacrifice my time to worry about work. I have a good job, but I'm worried about being too far from home.
I can't use the internet, I don't know how to find a job, I can't buy things, I often buy the wrong things, I can't manage money, and no matter how much money I earn, I always make ends meet.
When you 18 years old get your driver's license, you won't have to worry about traveling and taking the driver's license.
A diploma is not afraid of a high threshold.
4 Good behavior habits We all know how terrible a habit is. We are used to reading books and exercising every day.
In fact, if we don't do it one day, we will feel as bad as eating without drinking water today.
Similarly, we have formed the habit of watching mobile TV, throwing things around and wasting resources. Ge You lies down every day.
It's still painful for us to change!
Just like I love reading novels, I can't sleep once I haven't finished reading them. The only thing is to find other hobbies and stick to them.
Postscript: I don't need much income, just the funds I need to maintain my normal life.
Give your baby more fruits and vegetables, keep a certain amount of meat every day, and supplement fish, chicken, cattle, ducks and shrimps every week according to the family situation.
Take him out to meet more people and give him more rules and manners. Let him participate in housework at home and keep up with his studies.
Sign up for some professional courses online. Learn some better learning methods and problem-solving skills. There is no need to be greedy, just report one or two according to the child's situation.
I think an ordinary family with good health and stable income can do it now.
On the contrary, I have seen many families with superior family conditions, especially good food for their children, and a lot of junk food, and they can eat whatever they want.
There are many courses, so you can go wherever you want. Children who swear and litter are not necessarily good children.
Hello, I'm glad to answer this question!
Children without golden keys can become talents!
But you need to do the following three things:
1. Give the baby a good family growth environment.
It is said that "the dragon gives birth to the dragon, the phoenix gives birth to the phoenix, and the son of the mouse can make holes". That's exactly what it means. Every child is born with a blank sheet of paper. Our parents should actively create a good family atmosphere and let their children grow up in a high-quality environment. The quality environment mentioned here is not an economic condition, but more importantly, the awareness and attention of parents. I still remember that the athlete chairman of the Special Olympics was a mentally retarded child, and his mother did not give up on him, but tried her best to accompany him. Through unremitting efforts, he not only reached the intelligence level of normal children, but also was far superior to normal children. At the opening ceremony of the Special Olympics, he conquered everyone's hearts with fluent English. ...
2. Give your baby a healthy body
Strong physique makes children not only walk easily, but also go further on the road of life, so our parents should not only pay attention to daily feeding, but also take their children to exercise more, develop the habit of loving sports, help their children to exercise muscle memory, and make them more active, pay more attention to their own physical management, and be less sick and worried by their mothers.
3. Bring more children into contact with excellent circles.
As the saying goes, "Birds of a feather flock together, and people are divided into groups". In this process, we try to expose our children to these high-quality circles. Of course, this does not mean that there are many top circles, because ordinary people may not have the conditions to contact frequently, but we can take our children to visit friends who have positive energy, love learning and are positive. These goals can be achieved. What children see and hear is what they learn. Sometimes, resources are around, and we should have one. ...
If parents can make efforts on these three points, even if there are no children born with golden keys, their lives can be wonderful!
I often hear people say "Don't let children lose at the starting line", which feels like an inspirational biography of parents. In fact, behind this, how many people know that it is actually a false proposition, because too many people struggle for the end of life but are not as good as the starting point that a few people are born with. So I don't think people can deliberately compare. The quality of a child's birth depends on both sides of things, each with its own advantages and disadvantages. What we as parents should do is to use the existing resources to guide and help children grow up healthily and establish a correct outlook on life and values.
The difference of starting line is an objective existence that we can't ignore. I remember a TV program that truly recorded the story of teenagers born in different urban and rural environments who finally grew up. Children in the city came to the countryside and were surprised to see the backwardness and poverty in the rural environment; The children in the village came to the city and were surprised to see the bright lights. The existence of the difference between urban and rural areas, the difference between the East and the West, and the difference between the rich and the poor are all cruel realities.
Another example is a common vegetable, which can be done in many ways in a specific place. Children in big cities have innate advantages from birth. For example, children in Ma Yunjia, Li Ka-shing grew up with a golden key.
Yes, we can't deny it. We can't choose our origins, nor are we necessarily inferior to what others are born with. This is the difference in our hardware. The pain of life comes from endless comparison. But if we jump out of the closed thinking trap and watch and listen more, you will find many amazing secrets. Confucius was born in a poor single-parent family. When Chairman Mao was a child, he had no money to buy books. He walked more than 20 miles to borrow books from relatives and friends. Li Ka-shing and Henry Fok were apprentices in Hong Kong, and Chow Yun Fat was also a car washer. ...
So accept what we can't change and change what we can. We prefer to believe positively and optimistically that my life is up to me.
We may not be able to give our children a natural golden key or win their father's capital, but we can give them better companionship and guidance. By encouraging them to set an example on peace day, we can tell them to work hard and change their destiny through knowledge. As the saying goes, we are not rich second generation, so let your next generation become rich second generation.
I won't say much about what the "starting line" is, but mainly about how the subject himself faces this fact: "What if I'm not good enough?"
You will find that how to compare yourself is a dead game. Only by comparing yourself can you find your own outstanding point.
However, all the above are wrong.
This is related to the horizontal ratio and vertical ratio. The objects of horizontal scale include peers and themselves. The vertical proportion is more inclined to people at other levels.
And if you don't find your own bottleneck through horizontal comparison, blind vertical comparison is a destructive behavior for most people.
You said the golden key, millionaire. Compared with Ma Yun, millionaire is poor.
Compare with the same millionaire first. How can the same millionaire get ahead of others? Some people are worth millions, but they are busy all day, while others are idle and have no time.
So what you have to do is to compare with your peers, find your own shortcomings, and then move forward with this bottleneck to make up for this gap.
Of course, you can continue to be afraid and anxious here, and finally leave with anxiety and regret.
Do a good job in family education, help children establish correct three views and cultivate good character.
A good family atmosphere and an emotionally stable mother will help children grow up!
Hello, thank you for your question, and I am glad to answer it for you.
There is a saying that is the key to making yourself better and solving all problems. In fact, parents should spend more time and energy on themselves to influence people around them, including children.
The critical period from 0 to 3 years old, in fact, children may need their parents' wholehearted companionship before they are three or four years old. Because at this time, the whole family is the children and the world. Less contact with the outside world.
The baby in compulsory insurance grows up slowly, can speak and has his own independent opinion. At this time, he needs to get in touch with the outside world step by step and slowly open up his understanding of the world with his own cognition.
Children over 3 years old should also go to kindergarten at this time, or they can take some parent-child courses. But neither of them can be satisfied. You can also ask the elderly to take them outside to the park or community yard instead of spending part of their time in contact with children of the same age.
Let him stay with children of the same age, which is also a crucial period for him to develop peer relationship. This is of great benefit to training his skills, thoughts and emotions.
At this time, parents can start to concentrate on their careers.
In fact, all kinds of things in all stages of life are difficult to be satisfactory, and they are constantly advancing in contradictions.
It is possible that you will be reluctant to give up when you first start to return to work, or concentrate on your work, and you will worry that your child will have a bad life without a mother.
Every life is self-sufficient. You should trust your children absolutely. He can adapt to this society and the people and things around him.
Being a parent is a confident game. If you worry about your child's safety and growth all day. Maybe the child didn't grow up so smoothly. But if you can relax and trust the people around you, you can use all the power around you. Help you with the children. Help you take care of your children during work hours.
To sum up, whenever you want to believe, there are only a few people at the top of the pyramid. Why did those men stay at the spire?
Because they have made the ultimate effort, as long as you can make the ultimate effort, nothing will be bad.
As long as you think of yourself, your child will be fine, and your child's starting line will be high. As for how he runs on his own track, it's really not up to his parents to decide.
No one knows how the future society will develop. Neither did we. Ten years ago, everyone went shopping in the supermarket on weekends. Now, you can shop anywhere through your mobile phone.
If parents can understand clearly, our children will not be bad after all. My difficulty is only the immediate difficulty, and with the passage of time, this problem will gradually become no longer a problem.
Because this is his life, he needs to live by himself, and no one can replace him.