Practice has proved that if good habits and emotions are not cultivated at the age of O ~ 3, children may have the following situations after the age of 3: procrastination in homework, inattention in class, carelessness, unwillingness to use their brains, ignorance of problems, lack of self-motivation, inactive study and poor grades; Emotionally, grumpy, don't listen to discourage, self-centered, a little dissatisfied, make a scene:
Quality, bad faith, lying, contradicting parents, stealing money from family or classmates;
In life, I don't do housework, I don't talk about hygiene, I am picky about food, I lack the concept of time, and my life is irregular;
In terms of interests, I am obsessed with the Internet and TV.
These bad habits sometimes become their fatal shortcomings and the biggest obstacle in their lives.
"Behavior comes from our basic desires." "There is only one way to influence others, that is, to put forward his needs and let him know how to get them." This is the famous saying of Carnegie, a famous American success master. If parents adopt appropriate methods and learn to motivate their children, children will consciously and actively restrain themselves and form good habits, so as to have a better life.
Make a reasonable plan to improve children's concentration.
If children want to be truly independent, they must learn some methods and skills. Children's minds are gradually developing, and we can't expect children to do everything from an early age and show maturity beyond their age. Lively and active, unable to concentrate, without a plan, unable to stick to the end, these are some common manifestations of children doing things. But as children grow up, parents must cultivate some habits of their children. At this time, parents should guide their children and teach them how to do things. Planning should be the first lesson parents give their children.
Make plans to make children do things more orderly.
No plan is a natural reaction of childhood. If parents do not effectively guide children's behavior, children will develop bad personality and bring troubles to their lives. Children's blindness and disorganization are manifestations of lack of necessary thinking and planning for what they are doing or activities. Doing things blindly will not only reduce the efficiency of children's work, but also make children lack interest in this matter and give up soon. Some children have a wide range of interests and want to learn painting this year, but they think it's good to play the piano before they finish painting the eggs. When the expensive piano was put in the child's bedroom, he stopped playing as soon as he learned to play Three Bears. Such children don't know that the piano is graded, and they have to practice step by step at the student get-together to play a song smoothly.
If children do things without planning since childhood, they can do whatever they want and do things in a mess, then when they grow up, they will be reckless and difficult to do anything. Doing things in an orderly and planned way can improve children's attention, and children will not give up easily in the process of implementation, so that things can proceed in an orderly way.
When a child is ready to do something, parents should ask the child about the plan to do it. When children gradually get used to thinking about what they want to do first, what they want to do later and what kind of purpose they want to achieve, the order of children is formed. Some children do things by halves, often because there is no plan. For example, children play with building blocks, showing that they want to build a house with building blocks, but after several times, they only stay in the basic part, and then they are not interested in building. If parents first ask their children what the various parts of the house are and what shapes they need, and then implicitly give them some suggestions to guide them to build the house correctly, maybe a beautiful building block house will be created in their hands.
Resist interference and improve children's attention.
In order to improve children's efficiency and chances of success, parents need to let their children know what they want to achieve and what to do before the activity. Setting a timetable is not the ultimate goal, and parents should pay close attention to how their children carry out the plan. Because when children are doing something, they are often interfered by the outside world, such as difficulties, children's visits, and even some factors that adults think are irrelevant, which may make children deviate from the original plan, forget what they should do, and engage in other activities. At this time, what parents should do is not to rudely interfere with their children, but to indirectly guide them back to their activities. A few barks of the neighbor's puppy may make the child who watered the flowers on the balcony run out. It is unwise for a mother to stop her child at this time. Mother might as well pretend to water the flowers. When the child finds out, he will tell his mother that this is his own work and he has to finish it himself. A mother can take the opportunity to say to her child, "But a child who doesn't like flowers hasn't finished watering them. The flower is very thirsty now, so she has to ask me for help. " At this time, the child's attention is likely to shift from the barking puppy to the "poor" floret waiting for him to "save".
Of course, orderliness and planning can't be developed overnight, and we don't ask children to do everything perfectly, which is not in line with children's nature and natural laws, and we don't expect it. It is parents' greatest wish to cultivate children's habit of doing things in a planned way in detail, so that children will not do things so badly now or in the future. Here are some ways to help you:
Cultivate children's concept of time
When to do what and when not to do what, this is the first thing that children should be clear about. A child who has no concept of time, no concept of planning in his mind, no plan for doing things, and procrastination. Cultivating children's concept of time is the premise for children to do things as planned.
Always remind children to make a timetable.
If the child can already write and read, let the child make a timetable before doing things, and then urge the child to do things according to the plan while avoiding other omissions.
Supervise the children to strictly follow the plan.
The timetable has been worked out, and the rest is the executive part, which is an important part of doing things. At this time, parental guidance is extremely important. Whether studying or changing the plan, children will soon lose their freshness and try their best to escape from the plan. At this time, parents will fight with them, both hard and soft, and let the children return to the plan.
Let children learn daily summary.
Before going to bed at night, mothers can ask their children whether they have completed their own plans, whether there are unfinished parts, and how the children should remedy them. It is a good way to chat or write a summary for 10 minutes before going to bed. Mothers might as well try it.
Cultivating children's habit of doing things in an orderly way from an early age is very beneficial to their growth and future study and work. Planning and organizing is not only a habit of doing things, but also reflects a person's attitude. As a parent, discuss his plan carefully with his child to make it feasible. Over time, children will form the good habit of planning everything.