The truth is, there is no clear path to parenting success (believe me, I have tried to find one). What I have found is some important research, which provides some methods that can greatly help you raise extremely intelligent and successful children.
1. Social skills
In a 20-year study, researchers from Pennsylvania State University and Duke University showed that there was a positive correlation between children's social skills in kindergarten and their success in early adulthood. Teaching your children how to solve problems with friends, sharing their belongings, and constantly listening to and helping other people in the family is a good starting point.
2. Don't be overprotective
In today's helicopter parenting era, many parents (including myself) find it difficult for our children to solve problems, but they are eager to solve challenges for them.
According to a study by Harvard University, Julie Lythcott-Haims believes that allowing children to make mistakes and cultivating flexibility and resourcefulness are essential to cultivate their success.
News: It's not easy. We all need to maintain a good relationship between protecting children and letting them solve problems in order to learn from them.
Let your children take part in academic activities as soon as possible (and then encourage them to be independent when they are old)
Studies show that reading to your children as early as possible and teaching them math will greatly affect their future achievements. However, it is best to cut off children's homework help in the late primary school, because helping children finish their homework will actually hinder their development.
Parents should always show interest in their children's school education, but encourage them to take charge of their own work independently.
Don't let them languish in front of the screen.
Too long screen time is related to childhood obesity, irregular sleep patterns and behavioral problems. In addition, a study conducted by Greg L. West of the University of Montreal on 20 17 showed that playing the "shooter" game would damage the brain and lead to the loss of cells in the brain.
So, what can we do about such a useful digital nanny that many of us rely on?
According to the American Academy of Pediatrics, entertainment "screen time" should be limited to two hours a day.
Another useful idea is to encourage your children to be content creators, not passive consumers. Encourage children to learn computer programming, 3D modeling or digital music production, and turn screen time into fruitful efforts.
Step 5 set high expectations
A team at UCLA used national survey data to find that parents' expectations of their children have a great influence on their achievements.
The study found that when they were four years old, almost all the children in the best research group had parents who expected them to get a college degree.
6. Don't spend too much time praising talents, such as intelligence or appearance.
"Wow, you are so smart!"
A study by Stanford University shows that praising children for this statement and paying attention to their intelligence may actually lead to their poor performance.
7. Assign housework
A lot of evidence shows that housework is beneficial to children's development. However, in a poll conducted by Braun Research, only 28% of parents said that they often assign housework to their children.
A data analysis by the University of Minnesota found that the best predictor of success in adulthood is whether children have engaged in housework at the age of three or four.
8. Don't give up
According to a survey by Common Sense Media, 28% of teenagers said their parents were addicted to their mobile devices. Another recent study found that 32% of the children surveyed felt unimportant when their parents were distracted by mobile phones.
As the first generation of parents who surf the Internet around the clock, we must know when to disconnect and focus on our family.
9. Strive to create a peaceful and caring home.
According to a research summary of the University of Illinois, children from high-conflict families are often worse off than those whose parents get along well. Creating a caring and supportive environment is the main content of healthy and productive future generations.
If there is a dispute with your spouse, it is suggested to establish a fair fight, draw boundaries and pay attention to coordination and settlement.
10. Not too hard (or too soft)
In her pioneering research 1966, Diana Baumrind distinguished authoritative (very strict), tolerant (very tolerant) and authoritative (equally disciplined and caring) parents.
In short, authoritarian parents are too hard, tolerant parents are too soft, and authority is just right.
When children follow the example of authoritative parents, they will learn emotional adjustment skills and social understanding that are crucial to intelligence and success.
The world is very complicated, and Le Jia parenting knows you better!