People's life is not always smooth sailing, and they will always encounter troubles of one kind or another, which will surprise you. You can't accept it for a while, but you can't face the reality.

It is said that modern middle-aged people are not qualified to say that they are tired. This sentence has caused many people to sing.

1. Life stress

Housing is the biggest problem in life. Mortgage, car loan, and unpaid loans of wage earners make life in trouble.

Children's education has also become a top priority for children. When a child is born, he is faced with the problems of bringing a baby, early education, finding a school district and high tuition fees in private schools, which makes most people panic.

Not only that, but also the health and upbringing of parents. Therefore, the body bears the heavy responsibility of supporting the elderly and caring for the young. Dare not say tired, dare not get sick, dare not give up, dare not spend money indiscriminately.

2. The pressure of education

Not long ago, I read a report that a 40-year-old online dating driver spent all his time at work for his family and children. Almost all the day is spent in the car, from 6 am to evening 1 1.

In order to save more than ten dollars for children to study, I would like to eat noodles and buns to solve the problem of food and clothing. In order to support the family, others sleep for eight hours, but he can only sleep for six hours, and he is exhausted every day.

Now most 40-year-olds are faced with the situation that their children go to high school and college. They are willing to suffer more for their families and better education for their children.

But life will not treat you well just because you are willing to suffer. Some things always happen by surprise and without warning.

Second, the fatal blow is inner collapse.

The 42-year-old Xiao is a mother with a second child. In order to support Dabao to go to college, he was burdened with a debt of 654.38 million yuan. I haven't caught my breath yet. Her mother-in-law squashed one on her spine because of coughing and wheezing, and she was bedridden, making life more difficult.

Shortly after her mother-in-law became ill, her father-in-law was hospitalized again because of problems in prostate surgery. What happened suddenly is undoubtedly worse.

From then on, all the housework fell on her at once. Go to work every day, pick up the children, and shuttle back and forth in the hospital to deliver meals.

Busy life makes her have no time to appreciate the scenery around her, just want to end it quickly and let her life return to the original point.

She believes that as long as we are full of love and hope for life, all difficulties will be solved. Everything that is bad will be fine.

After careful nursing, the two old people are almost cured. Seeing that life is back on track, Xiao believes that as long as the family is safe and healthy, no matter how hard and tired, life is worthwhile.

However, it came as a bolt from the blue, and the house leaked during the night rain. Her mother is mentally ill. Seeing that she is crazy, she doesn't even know herself. As a daughter, she has always been strong. At this moment, my heart is on the verge of collapse.

The so-called "killing more than the heart" is to destroy a person's heart. Destroy what matters most to him. One thing is enough.

She found a place where no one was there and burst into tears. Put all grievances and emotions in your heart, like a sluice with a valve opened, crying and drying your tears.

I don't know if you feel this way. When all emotions and grievances are hollowed out, you hollowed out your heart. At that moment, my heart was quiet.

Thich nhat hanh said in Miracle of Mindfulness, "If you are occupied by sadness, anxiety, anger, passion or any other feeling, you should use your own state of mind as meditation to heal your wounds".

She calmed down and thought, Oh, my God, is this testing me to the awkward age of middle age? After venting, she had an answer in her heart.

How can a person's life be calm? There are always waves in life. Temper your will and test your heart. Some people are more frustrated and brave, while others kill their fighting spirit. Those who do the former are all smart people.

Third, be a brave person.

When a person is willing to change herself, children, family and future life will also become the driving force to support her.

I firmly believe that no matter how big the storm is, it will pass because we are invincible in life.

1. Managing money for life

In order to pay off the debt as soon as possible, Xiao studied financial management courses during the epidemic, improved his financial management knowledge and improved his life through financial management.

Originally burdened with 654.38 million debts, she learned financial management skills; Carry out new Hong Kong stocks, fixed investment funds, and fixed investment in education, and manage family finances by category; I also provide insurance for my family.

Under her influence, her husband also joined a financial plan. At present, the debt is being repaid in an orderly manner, which will not affect the current quality of life.

Step 2 educate children

For the role of mother, the greatest sense of accomplishment comes from the process of raising children. A good education is inseparable from my mother's words and deeds.

Author Zhang Xiaotao said: "Mother is the light of children. The braver the mother, the more she pursues herself and achieves herself, and naturally she will raise excellent children. "

Little boy, because of the lesson of his eldest son's exam, now he pays special attention to early childhood education. In order not to let the little guy lose at the starting line, she signed up for children's English enlightenment class and super brain memory class, and she wanted to grow up with her children.

Although not very proficient, but influenced by her. Both sons like reading and can talk with their children in English from time to time. Children of the same age in Balbi have learned more.

Dabao has participated in national design art projects and won national awards. Small, she hopes to lead the children with her own actions. Learning can't change fate, but knowledge can.

Step 3 improve your ability

The growth of the mind and the maturity of the mind need constant efforts, and it must be a difficult process.

Xiao thinks that as a woman in a new era. In the era of rapid development of modern information, we must keep learning so as not to be abandoned by the times. With skills, you won't be overwhelmed by the pressure of life.

Not long ago, she signed up to study the manuscript of Writing Clearing Course edited by Liu. In the process of studying, I opened three books, all of which were manuscripts, and got the manuscript fee 150 yuan. Although the money is not much, it is a recognition of her academic achievements, and since then she has strengthened her determination to continue studying.

She is well aware of her lack of knowledge and its influence on the future. Now I have signed up for "Zhou Zuoluo's Writing Class", hoping to grow myself through continuous efforts.

Only a rich, clear and bright heart can resist all the uneasiness and agitation in the world.

Because of her study, she learned to control her emotions and manage her time. Nowadays, people are more and more confident and self-disciplined in their lives; All the difficulties encountered in life can be solved easily.

Hickert Parker, the most outstanding psychologist, said in his book The Road Few People Walk: "We should face our problems bravely, not escape. Facing the problem directly, our minds will gradually mature; If you avoid questions, your thoughts will stagnate forever. "

The big classroom of life gives us a good opportunity to study and exercise. Let us taste the ups and downs of life; Test our will.

No matter whether we live in adversity or difficult times, no matter what era we are in. We all learn to be brave, strong and optimistic; Think about the people who died in the epidemic. Nothing is more precious than being alive.

Therefore, we should not be crushed by the straw of life. Facing life, we should face up to difficulties. After Qian Fan, I will come after all. May we meet better ourselves in life.