Netizen tiaotiao (pseudonym) said: "If there is an afterlife, he would rather not have children." "He spent 200 yuan on a piano lesson. He spent 600 yuan on a pair of shoes. He is carrying a bag containing thousands of dollars. There is a big car in his home. The house where he lives is very big. His room is full of toys, unlike me, as long as there are these toy cars. " This is what Tiaotiao's son, who just went to elementary school, said to him. Apart from feeling depressed and educating his son not to be so vain and materialistic, his only reaction was to sigh.
God knows how much he has lost and paid for raising children in recent years. He once lamented that if he knew that the poor in today's society were so tired of raising children, he would rather not have children.
Originally, I was not in a hurry to have children after marriage, and I felt that I lacked capital reserves and psychological maturity. But my family always said that it is only a few dollars to raise a child, and it is easy to have a child early. People in the past, a family of seven or eight children, didn't come like this.
I have to hurry every year, so I can't help it. I have to have a baby quickly so that my wife can recover quickly. After the baby is born, baby carriages, diapers, milk powder, etc. Is not a problem. These are small money, he can bear it, but life will be tighter.
But since children started early education and went to kindergarten, money has flowed out like running water. Other people's children go to swimming classes, and my children don't feel wronged. His children learn dance, musical instruments and various art classes, but my children are like losing at the starting line if they don't go.
His children wear clothes 100 yuan, and my children wear 60 or 70 yuan. His children ride thousands of prams, and my children have to have a similar one. His children eat cherries for 50 yuan a catty, and children have to taste them. His child's birthday cake is 300 yuan less, and the child can't be too cheap. ...
Such a calculation, coupled with the monthly expenditure of more than 2,000 yuan on kindergarten, simply hollowed out this home.
Tiao said that since he had a child, he had not bought clothes for a year, and his wife's cosmetic level dropped again and again. He could have spent 300 yuan on lipstick without hesitation, but now he can only spend 100 yuan on cheap substitutes. The child's life and death level has gone up, while mine has plummeted. Completely poor.
Should the poor really not have children? Faced with this problem, tiaotiao said, "I really shouldn't have children." It's torture for me and the children. Now it's not like before. How can I support myself? Now I can't even support myself. How can I support my children? "
Netizen forsythia (pseudonym) said: "The matter of raising children has nothing to do with the poor and the rich. The poor have ways to support the poor, and the rich have ways to support the rich. There is no need to use other people's norms to raise children. Both the poor and the rich have the right to raise children. "
He earns 4,000 yuan a month, his wife 3,000 yuan a month, and the extra money is 1,000 yuan a month. Two people pay the mortgage regularly 1500, and the fare is 500 yuan. The wife's salary is enough to support the children. In addition to subsidizing daily life, his salary can also be balanced by half, and he can save tens of thousands a year.
Children's diapers are always used during activities, the milk powder they drink is also inquired through various channels, and the toy car they use is also used by relatives, which can save a lot of money. Thanks to a thrifty wife.
When children are older, they only choose a few courses that they and their wives think are necessary, and others unconsciously follow the crowd. There are many levels of kindergartens near his home. He spent a few days investigating and found a cost-effective kindergarten suitable for his family. My wife has a full salary and can afford it.
Children's wear has never been a famous brand, and there are not thousands. He taught children not to be vain and not to compare with others. Compare who is more polite and who is more sensible.
He never felt how hard life was, nor did he feel that a family with a monthly income of less than 10 thousand could not afford to raise children. If there is any central point of entanglement, it is that whenever a child is ill or his job seems to change, he will be confused, because it means that their income is lacking, and they have to scrimp and save or borrow money to make ends meet.
Some people may say that a monthly income of 8,000 yuan can certainly raise a good child, and the poor refer to those who can't even get enough food and clothing. If you really can't even care about your own food and clothing, then friendship tips really don't want children, not for fear that you can't raise children, but in this social environment where you can't move without money, you will really be disappointed with life.
In fact, many netizens' comments are from the heart, which have poked the hearts of us poor people, but anyway, if lowering the standard can raise a child, then raise it. Maybe children are your motivation.
If you can't raise a child or yourself after lowering the standard, then give up the idea of having children. This is not only for myself, but also for the innocent and unfortunate children. In short, don't let the child be born with you.
Finally, in fact, I still want to say that the poor have the right to have children, but please don't use poverty as an excuse for not making progress, and don't use poverty as an excuse for quarreling. Children will not be too poor at home, but they will hate their parents who quarrel all day because they are poor.