As parents, they must love their children very much and hope that their children will live better than themselves and others.
So it is easy to pay one-sided attention to the advantages of others.
Ignore children's inner needs
In this way, habits become natural ... compare the shortcomings of your own children with the advantages of other children.
Question 2: How do parents at all ages love their children's feelings after reading (1) 0-6 years old, love equals companionship.
1, shaping intelligence: intelligence develops fastest at the age of 0-6, and 50% intelligence is formed before the age of 4. Intelligence is not the number of brain cells, but the number of connections between brain cells. To some extent, there are more * * *, and the brain neurons are thicker. Intelligence develops in a certain way.
2. Emotional cultivation: the left brain is developed: the logical thinking is strong, and the right brain is developed: the creative thinking is strong, and the imagination is cultivated. A complete emotional cultivation will have a complete personality performance: at this time, don't restrain the child too much, play with him and let him win (every win will increase his confidence). Cultivate his warmth.
3. Character building: establish concepts, distinguish right from wrong (never start work after 6 years old), put education in stories, and be less reasonable. There is a saying: if you are used to being responsive, you will be arrogant and rude; If you are used to not asking for anything in return, you will feel inferior and negative. Children's self-confidence and self-esteem are the most important. Parents should pay attention to this.
(2) 6- 12 years old, love equals a coach.
Children have a second world: school! Entering the group society, he felt the power of the group, and praise or criticism played a role in suggesting education. Words and actions convey the message of love: love is the greatest motivation. If he can feel the sunshine and rain of love, the sapling will thrive. Therefore, the power of the coach's positive suggestion is very important: how do you evaluate the child and what the child will become; So what kind of person do you want your child to be and how do you evaluate your child? Always convey positive thoughts, positive language and positive energy.
1, self-confidence: you must follow your child's interests, not to make him famous and get married. We should educate with the thumb, not the index finger. 65438+20000 must be completed before the age of 02. Praise must be timely, and face-to-face criticism must be relaxed and serious. Sandwich education can be quoted here: disadvantages lie in advantages, and criticism lies in hope (affirmation-but-belief). What's the matter? What's the matter? Get rid of your mistake once and you will get better and better.
2, habit formation: pay attention to details, everything has to go through their own efforts, be honest with themselves.
3. Reward and punishment: Pay attention to his preferences and give him a reward when it is time, so that he will be moved by affirmation. Don't reprimand in public, protect his self-esteem. Even if your child does something wrong and makes you angry, you should separate things from love. If you make a mistake, you must criticize and punish, but punishment is not to vent your dissatisfaction, but to educate and care. Every kind of education is related to love.
4, responsibility cultivation: independence or dependence is cultivated, do your own thing, do it seriously, and do it thoroughly. Parents do it instead of him, but they can't replace it for a lifetime; Teach him to do it, and he can benefit for life.
5. Play and study: Interest is the best teacher. If you have fun, you can study hard.
(3) 12- 18 years old, love equals respect.
He walks on a self-centered road: I have grown up and demand equality. Talk to children like friends.
1, parents and teachers: Don't take the teacher's words as the imperial edict. Let the teacher look at the child with appreciation: where has the child improved? All the children are afraid of the teacher's criticism. It is important that children like teachers.
2, learning and academic performance: children's mental health is more important than academic performance. A temporary achievement cannot represent the success or failure of a lifetime, but a continuous growth can achieve a lifetime. Never let children feel guilty and guilty because of poor grades.
3. Give a thought: What kind of person do you become? Become an upright person, a kind person, a person with a story, a person who contributes to the family, a person who contributes to the society and wins the respect of others. As a leader in the future, you can suffer three losses: when you pay, when you contribute, and when you speak, you must be willing to suffer.
4. Give the platform: encourage going to the library and cultivate the habit of reading. Encourage participation in sports team activities. Encourage Wan Li Road on the premise of safety. Let children love life and participate in summer parent-child summer camp.
5. for example: who to go with and who to learn from. Appropriate goals encourage achievement. Care more, communicate more, and be moved more. Touching has a great influence on children's psychology and conveys understanding, trust and respect.
All parents say "I attach great importance to children's education, even more than other parents", while most parents say "I will try my best to send my children to the best early education center, the best kindergarten and the best primary school ... I don't know how many people I contacted and how much I spent ..." I have tried my best, forever ... >>
Question 3: How to love children is really a science. There are 10 stories that tell you how to really love children.
First, look at children with loving eyes.
Once, I traveled by train and slept in the middle berth. There is a little girl reading a book under the bed next door. I like children who study, so I look at her with appreciation. The little girl noticed my eyes and looked more carefully. I walked out of the shop and chatted with her. I always look at her with loving eyes when I speak. The little girl told me a lot. The next day, she insisted on going to the dining car for breakfast with me. Her aunt said, "Stop it, you haven't finished the rice in the bowl." The little girl looked at me for help. I quickly said, "OK, I'll treat you to breakfast." At the dinner table, I asked her, "How much can you eat? If you want to finish eating, you will have nothing. " The little girl thought for a moment and said, "Half a bowl of porridge, half an egg." "Very good." I gave her half a bowl of porridge and half a boiled egg. The little girl took a few bites and began to play. Her aunt scolded her: "I told you, you won't eat well." "She will finish eating." I smiled and said to the child's aunt and gave the little girl a wink. Without saying anything, the little girl picked up the bowl and finished the porridge inside. "It's amazing, as scheduled!" I gave a thumbs up. People often say that "the eyes are the windows to the soul". When communicating with children, the information conveyed by adults through their eyes is often better than language.
If the child is restless, you should ask yourself, does the child lack loving eyes? If the child is silent, you should ask yourself again, have you given the child enough loving eyes?
Second, face the child with a loving smile.
Once, I went to a primary school to meet children. A girl stood up and asked, "dear sister, what if our teacher can't laugh?" This question reminds me of my interview in a primary school in Beijing. In the diary of a squadron, I found an article "Where is the teacher's smiling face? The article said: all teachers come to class with a sullen face, and only the art teacher is smiling. As a result, some people talk loudly in art class, some people leave their seats, some people borrow things ... it's a mess. Later, the art teacher had to put away his smiling face and come to class with a straight face.
Finally, I said, to put it bluntly, this is called "shameless". The students burst out laughing. After laughing, I asked the girl who asked questions, "Have you ever been shameless?" "yes." The girl said frankly, "As long as the teacher gives a good face, some students will start to make trouble." The audience laughed again. Finally, I suggest that students investigate "Where is the teacher's smiling face?"
A few days later, I received a survey report from my classmates. One of them wrote: "After class, I passed by the office and heard hearty laughter. It's our head teacher. I want to see what she looks like when she smiles, but I just called the teacher. The head teacher turned around and saw it was me. Suddenly, there was no smile on her face. She asked coldly, "What can I do for you?" This makes me understand that the teacher is not unable to laugh, but just won't smile at us. "
The child longs for a smile, because you smile at him and express your inner feelings: "I like you, you make me happy, and I am very happy to see you." Children who grow up smiling tend to form an optimistic and positive attitude. Therefore, no matter how busy and tired parents are, don't forget to give their children a smile.
Third, listen to children with love.
The child wants his parents to share his happiness. It's no use talking to his parents. It's best not to talk. Over time, negative emotions can't be vented, and become a confrontational emotion, lurking in the heart. Xiaoxue, a junior girl, committed suicide by taking sleeping pills. Fortunately, she woke up in time. After waking up, she refused to talk to her parents. Later, I rushed to her house. I didn't say anything, just listened to her quietly. "I ate it twice. The first time I ate, I remembered my parents' kindness, and some were reluctant to leave them. But on second thought, living is too boring, so I poured the rest of the medicine into my mouth ... "Speaking of the process of taking medicine, Xiaoxue is as calm as telling other people's stories." Why do you want to die? ""Because living is very painful ... "Xiaoxue and I chatted very speculatively. In fact, it's mainly Xiaoxue talking and I'm listening. She has strong expressive ability and clear thinking. " If really dead, maybe China will lose a woman writer! "I can't help but say." My mom doesn't think so. "Speaking of mom, her eyes are red. From her talk, I learned that no one understood her, which was the reason why she chose to die. And I pay attention to her, praise her and give her hope for life. Whether adults or children, they can only listen to each other if they feel that they can really understand him. Listening is an art, so is learning this art.
Question 4: Is it more difficult for children with defective parent-child relationship in childhood to understand the meaning of love and feel the feeling of love from others when they grow up? Your family is flawed, and I sympathize with you. You should love yourself more!
what is love ? Care is love, warmth is love, pity is love, and sympathy is love. Love belongs to the public, it does not belong to any one person, any group, any region, any country, and it is not deprived. I can't say that only I can love, and you can't love. Love exists in every corner of the world, whether tangible or intangible. Love, as long as there is life, there is love, whether it is animals or plants. If you are a beggar, the charity given to you by others is also a kind of love, otherwise you will be ignored; As a child, no matter whether the family is defective or not, raising you means giving you the love you can. If you are a leader, it is still a kind of love that subordinates can seriously carry out every instruction you give.
There are too many loves in the world, such as fatherly love, maternal love, love, pity, mutual love and unrequited love. . . . . . Endless.
Those gangsters in TV series, holding their heads to make money, burn and rob. . . . Not for parents, not for children. . . . But obviously there is one thing you can do for yourself. What's this called? This is called self-love.
How many songs are full of love; How many stories describe love? . . . . .
So we should love ourselves, others and every life. . . . .
Let's sing together-the dedication of love-as long as everyone gives a little love, the world will become a beautiful world. .
Question 5: Why do most parents always compare their children with other children? This is a problem for China people. China people always care about their own face. If their children are more promising than other people's children, it is a face for parents. This is a common problem in society. Try to communicate with your parents. But only if you live up to your expectations. After all, they are also thinking about your future.
Question 6: How do teachers enter children's inner world? Love is the key to communication. Without love, there is no communication. "Love is the feeling that one life likes another life. The love between teachers and students is equal and respectful. Teachers' love for students is unconditional, and we should dedicate all our love to students. Teachers' love for students is an overall acceptance. We should love all students, including all their advantages and disadvantages. In the communication with students, you can directly tell your children that the teacher loves you and hopes to be friends with you, and knock the students' hearts with the teacher's loving words, so as to get the recognition and acceptance of the students. At the same time, we can also turn this love for students into a sweet smile, and tell children what to do, what not to do and how to do things with that kind of gentle words and smiles. While helping children to establish correct concepts, children will gradually open their hearts to you. "With love, we also need to accept children unconditionally. In the process of growing up, a person must be accepted by the most important people in his life in order to find the motivation for growth. This acceptance itself is unconditional. For us, even if the children in the class are congenital malformations, as teachers, we should love him unconditionally and regard him as our darling. Many teachers only like smart and sensible children in the class, but there are no two identical leaves in the world, let alone real children. We can't expect all children to be excellent. Psychological research believes that whether a child is confident or inferior comes from his childhood experience. Because children see themselves through the eyes of adults, that is to say, children's evaluation of themselves comes from parents or important people, including teachers. In this way, we can infer that if a child firmly believes that the teacher likes him unconditionally, then he will become a very confident person from an early age. I remember Suhomlinski once said: "The mission of educators is to make children develop harmoniously in all aspects. The premise of this harmonious development is to respect each student's personality. "This also requires educators to respect every child unconditionally and treat every child in the class equally. Only when you truly respect him and understand him will he open the door of his heart to you. As a teacher, we can really enter the inner world of children.
Question 7: What about the children when the marriage comes to an end? Most divorced people are blind, blocking others' concern and blocking others' kindness to you And while you are thinking about how to be good to your children, you are doing everything that hurts them, aren't you? If you really do it for the children, you will think about it yourself. Have you ever worked hard for the children's living environment? When the other person makes a mistake, makes a mistake or doesn't care enough about you, do you think more about yourself or your children? If you love children, you have to pay, whether it is grievance or hard work. In the end, you will choose the best and most suitable for your child's growth. As for how much you have lost, the power of maternal love and fatherly love will make you bury your pain deeply. Yes, everyone has the right to happiness. Everything is just for the children. Don't you want your own life? This is really unacceptable. However, when two people get married, they are in love. Now that we have started, both of us have obligations and responsibilities. Why this love, who let go, who does not act, who does not maintain, will hurt love, and blindly blame each other, only look at other people's shortcomings, but also selfish and low quality. If you give it to the other person, there will be no love, so love yourself more? A person who knows how to love will first love others and give himself a good environment. In his own happiness, his lover's smile, his lover's understanding and his children's happiness will almost occupy his life. Whose happiness is not the overlap of the happiness of people around you? Only your own happiness, you will not feel any happiness. Therefore, many people who have changed their marriage and life without a question of right and wrong, I think it is the most irrational and lack of wisdom. Forgive me for talking too much, but you criticize too much when you are sad. I hope you can recall that you made as many mistakes in love, lacking tolerance and understanding, and only considered you and your children when choosing. Best wishes to you.
Question 8: How should teachers love their students? First, pay attention to guidance. Teachers' connivance or neglect of children often leads to children's vague concept of right and wrong, lack of morality, and even misconduct. Therefore, teachers have not neglected the leading role in children's development.
The second is to pay attention to respect. Respecting children's personality is the driving force to cultivate children's self-confidence and self-improvement. Therefore, for any mistakes and shortcomings of children, teachers should not be impulsive and hurt children's hearts.
The third is to focus on demonstration. Students are replicas of teachers' behaviors, emotions, wills, personalities and people. Primary school is a person's best imitation period. Teachers want their children to be what they want, and students will follow suit.
Therefore, we should not only love children, but also love children scientifically. Let love truly become an educational love, and cultivate every student into pride with the power of love.
Question 9: How to train children to study well is of course important, but it is more important to learn to be a man and do things. Cultivating children's good moral quality is an important goal of current education. This paper discusses from the following aspects: First, the methods of cultivating children's good moral quality. 1. Good habits are the basis of cultivating children's good moral quality. 2. Establishing self-confidence is the key to cultivate good moral quality. Paying attention to children's psychological feelings is a means to cultivate children's good moral quality. 3. Learning to be grateful is the requirement of cultivating children's good moral quality. Second, the effect and experience. Keywords habit, self-confidence and gratitude, I always put personality education at the top of children's education, and cultivate children's noble character, helpfulness and selfless dedication. Children have the nature to protect toys since childhood. I often teach children that "sharing good things with friends can make them happier." If our parents are vulgar, don't abide by social morality, don't maintain democracy and litter everywhere, children will also be affected. Therefore, we dare not relax bit by bit, don't relax our demands on ourselves, and use our words, deeds and actions to influence children's young minds, so that children can develop good habits and learn to be human. Many people have told me that as a teacher, you must be good at educating children, which is really shameful. I'm usually busy at work. I go to work early every morning and get off work after six o'clock in the evening. I often go home. It's already dark and people feel very tired. There is a lot of housework to do in the evening, but also to study, study and prepare lessons. I really don't have time to discipline children. However, I don't think it takes a day or two to educate children, but it takes a long time to train. I think the most important thing in educating children is to set an example. Let me briefly say what I am: First, the way to cultivate children's good moral quality. (1) Good habits are the basis of cultivating children's good moral quality. Good behavior and habits can benefit children for life, so I have always been strict with children. For example, when eating, I must let my elders eat first. When you divide things, you should make yourself smaller and give them to your elders. You must not throw things around. Let me talk about my specific practice: 1, good habits should start from an early age. Good habits include good behavior habits and study habits. To cultivate good habits, we must first set an example for our parents. For example, I don't spit, swear, litter and so on. When my daughter sees me like this, she will "follow suit" and will not swear, spit or litter like me. When I got home, I let my daughter do her homework in the room. If I want to watch TV, I will close my daughter's door and turn down the TV volume as low as possible. For a long time, my daughter never asked me to help her with her homework before. From an early age, I gradually developed good habits. 2. Cultivate children's good habit of thinking and solving problems independently. It is every parent's bounden duty to raise children. It is also important to let children think and solve problems independently. Children's independence can only be gradually cultivated in practice. As a parent, I deeply realized that no matter what children do, they will not attend the meeting, and then they will be proficient. Children should be allowed to do it by themselves. As long as they work hard, whether they succeed or not, they should be encouraged and proud. After all, children are children. When children are doing things, I always encourage more and criticize less, even if they make mistakes. Don't do it twice, twice and three times at a time until you are satisfied, so that children can feel the joy of completing tasks independently. However, due to historical reasons, many parents have suffered a lot in the process of growing up, so they often pin their regrets in the process of growing up on their children and their best hopes on them, so they have high expectations for their children's success. As a result, parents arranged to do housework instead of their children. First, they feel sorry for their children and refuse to put the blame on them prematurely. Second, they disdain to let their children do "housework" for fear of affecting their learning and growth. Actually, we didn't. Only in this way can children do more work, experience the hardships of life and cultivate good work habits. Secondly, we should have more contact with the school, communicate with the class teacher and let the children participate in school activities. Only in this way can children's independence be cultivated. 3. Be cautious about making promises to children and cultivate the habit of keeping promises. Parents' promises to their children must be meticulous and practical, so that children can have a motivation to make progress and urge them to complete their tasks better. Only by perfecting yourself ... >>
Question 10: What is the effect of parents' divorce on their children? (All) 5 points Hello, lovely friends.
It is my greatest honor to help you.
Divorce, for both sides of the divorce, is a mutual relief. But for children, it is undoubtedly something as important as the sky-broken.
The divorce of parents makes children have to live in a family that is no longer sound, which casts a thick shadow on their hearts, while some couples whose feelings are breaking up often do more harm to their children for their own needs.
For example, some divorced couples, or for economic reasons, only consider remarriage and regard their children as a burden when divorcing. You pushed them down and made them "redundant". They tasted the coldness of the world and the indifference of selfish people at an early age.
Have a plenty of children as the object of venting unhappiness. Divorce between husband and wife is an unpleasant thing for both men and women. They are physically and mentally exhausted and emotional, and often lose their temper because of an unsatisfactory little thing in life. At this time, children often become the object of venting these bad emotions. Parents treat their children as punching bags and don't let them beat and scold.
Then there is the blind doting on children. Some divorced couples feel sorry for their children and deeply guilty, especially trying to establish a strong relationship with their children. In the attitude towards children, they spoil blindly and indulge desperately. They don't play football with their children and turn a blind eye, for fear of hurting their already fragile hearts in their parents' divorce.
Unlike those who spoil their children too much because of guilt, some divorced parents lose confidence in their marriage and personal future, so they pin their hopes on their children and are eager for them to grow up and make a difference. Therefore, it is unreasonable to be harsh on children's study and life.
According to the statistics of 1000 children from divorced families, among them, 45% children have inferiority complex, 40% children are withdrawn and emotionally fragile, 25% children are emotionally fluctuating, and 24% children are precocious.
In a quiet family, children are the object of attention. Families with broken marriages, cold war between parents, don't care about their children at all. Living in such an environment, children are worried that they will be asked about their family when they interact with others, so they become silent and withdrawn. These children also show distrust of anyone and lack of confidence in themselves.
A psychologist said: "parents' divorce will cause children's personality distortion." "Some children don't get the care they deserve, and gradually fall into rogue gangs and embark on the road of crime." According to the statistics of relevant experts, the juvenile crime rate is about 40% in families with divorced parents. Not long ago, a theft occurred in a Beijing resident's home, and the stolen cash was 65,438+10,000 yuan. It took the public security department only four days to catch the criminal. After solving the case, none of the policemen who worked hard for four days showed a smile of victory, because all four criminals were children in middle school, and three of them lived in families with divorced parents.
Some parents use divorce to relieve their pain, but any pain relief comes at a price. But the price should not be borne by innocent children. We can't stop divorce, but we can and should call on the society to mobilize all forces for the children and minimize the harm and negative impact brought by divorced families. Let these children grow up healthily like other children.
To do this, the most important thing is to respect children's emotions and rights. The fate of men and women has been exhausted, and the feelings have indeed broken down. They chose divorce as a last resort. At this time, we must first think of the children. For example, there is no need to make a fuss, because it will affect children's study and life. If you can agree to divorce, you can solve it yourself; If the agreement cannot be resolved, they will resort to the law, and the problem will be solved openly by the law. In short, we should get together in a civilized way and break up in a civilized way. After divorce, we should get along with each other in a civilized way, be generous, try to be friendly, and provide a relaxed environment for our children to get along with their parents. No matter what dissatisfaction you have with each other, tell your child that we all "love you" and "you are his pride" and so on. If you live with children, you should provide maximum convenience when the other person comes to see the children. If children live with each other, even if you don't want to see each other, take time to look after them. On children's special festivals, you should still be together and spend good time with them. If the situation is serious ... >>