I've heard a lot, and I agree with my father's point of view. Isn't it just sitting for a month? My grandmother won't help unless she helps. Why are they all elders? Is it necessary to remember it for a lifetime?
It was not until I got married and had children later that I realized the importance of confinement and the reality and bitterness in my mother's words.
Getting pregnant and having children is easy to say, but it is not easy to do. Especially after giving birth to a child, great changes have taken place in women's body and mind. They are weak, sensitive and very fragile, and need the care and care of their families. If you don't do well in the month, you will be wronged, and it is likely that you will collapse inside and leave the root of the disease.
My mother is like this, and so are many women.
However, "revenge of the moon" is not completely inevitable. The practice of this second-born treasure mother is very good and worth learning!
Lili is the mother of a second child, and one child is kept in her husband's house. My mother-in-law is very kind and takes care of her, but the old man is an old man after all, and many habits and concepts are different. And my mother-in-law is stubborn and won't listen. She always likes to talk about her past experiences.
Because of these, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law quarrel almost every day, and finally the moon is not done well, which almost leads to "moon revenge."
When she gave birth to a second child, in order to avoid "monthly revenge", Lili decided to go to the monthly center to have a confinement. After listening to her decision, both her husband and mother-in-law recognized it, and her mother-in-law even took out her own private money and reimbursed her for all the expenses.
Lili said that the most correct decision in her life was to go to the confinement center for confinement.
She said: My mother-in-law is nice. She is usually very kind to me and my children, but after all, we are not mother and daughter. No matter how good our feelings are, there will be contradictions. Especially after giving birth to a child, women are sensitive and anxious, and trivial things can be magnified several times, which is easy to produce contradictions. If you don't want to have conflicts and cause "monthly resentment", it's best to ask for a new moon or go to the moon center, and don't let your mother-in-law go home to support the elderly.
Speaking of Revenge on the Moon, many people's first impression is that their mother-in-law is not caring for her daughter-in-law. This is indeed the case. For example, my mother was bullied by my grandmother when she was a child, and she went to work in the fields less than three days after giving birth.
However, not all the "monthly complaints" are caused by the improper care of the mother-in-law, but also related to many factors, such as the sharp drop in hormone levels in the body after giving birth, coupled with physical pain and changes in identity, they will be sensitive and fragile, and even magnify trivial matters several times, causing dissatisfaction. I think when my mother helps me with my confinement, a few unintentional words will make me uncomfortable. If it weren't for my own mother, I would have been dissatisfied with her.
And the habits and concepts of the two generations are different. My mother-in-law especially likes to hold children. I think the baby is too young to hold it often. Once they get into the habit, it is difficult for them to leave. My mother doesn't want to bathe her children, because she thinks they are too young to catch a cold. I think children have a strong metabolism, often sweat, and often take a bath, which is healthier ... There are many contradictions between us, but they are all good intentions, all for the good of children, but their habits and concepts are different.
My mother and my mother-in-law have another habit, especially like staring at me and nursing my children. Every time they feed, they sit by and count the sound of the child swallowing. Once children swallow slowly, they start nagging: Is there no milk? Drink this bowl of pig's trotter soup quickly, and don't starve my big baby to death.
With them, I always feel that I am a tool for feeding, and I am almost depressed!
Fortunately, my mother-in-law only appears at night, and my mother won't keep staring at me. When they are away, I can secretly watch some funny videos to relieve boredom.
These problems may be nothing in normal times, but during the second month, pregnant women are sensitive and fragile, and they are likely to magnify these problems several times and complain about their mother-in-law, forming a long-term "monthly complaint."
Here are three schemes to escape from the "revenge of the moon", especially the last one is very good, and pregnant women can try it.
1, help from elders
If the elders are not stubborn, willing to learn scientific parenting knowledge and listen to the opinions of mothers, then the care of the elders is also good.
However, the parturient must have a dessert and pay attention to the way of communication with the elders. For example, the elderly think that newborns can't take a bath and will catch a cold. Don't pout, you can convince your husband, or you can search online for expert videos and ask a doctor for help.
At first, I just asked the doctor of obstetrics and gynecology for help, and asked her to teach my mother the importance of bathing newborns.
No matter what elders come to help at home, as the cared-for party, they should respect each other, recognize each other's efforts and understand each other's hard work.
Please have a new moon.
If the elders are unreliable and worried about causing conflicts, you can ask for a new moon. Although expensive, they are professional, experienced and capable, and can take good care of the mother and baby without causing conflicts and affecting family harmony.
However, there are many moons in the market and many irresponsible ones. Everyone must be careful when looking for a month, and don't be cheated.
3. Go to the Confucius Center
If the home is too noisy and inconvenient, or if you want to get better care, the Moon Center is a very good choice. This is a new way of confinement, which is liked by many young people.
This is the case with Lili. After giving birth to her second child, she moved directly to the Confucius Center, where she was taken good care of, met many precious mothers and had a good time every day.
Lili said that she was most satisfied with the food and decoration of the Confucius Center. Five meals a day, each meal is provided according to her physical condition, such as postpartum 1- 12 days, the diet is mainly "platoon", and all the delicate and light food provided by Yuezi Club is very comfortable to eat.
And postpartum repair. Lili didn't do a good job in the first month, and she often had backache. During the confinement of the second child, she will have incense moxibustion every day. Every time after moxibustion, the body is very warm and it is particularly comfortable to sleep at night. The "back pain" left by the first child is much better.
Baby care is also very professional. There are not only 24-hour professional services, but also exclusive early education personnel. They take their babies to swim, touch and massage every day, train their heads and promote their healthy development.
Hating the moon is no small matter. If it is not properly solved, it is likely to affect the feelings of husband and wife and undermine family harmony. It is suggested that prospective fathers and expectant mothers can plan ahead and choose the appropriate method of confinement to avoid "revenge of the moon".
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