If you meet yourself as a social expert, it is easy to say that you can be the king of children without any obstacles. But in fact, parents' social skills have an impact on their children, but they are not decisive factors.
Social fear mothers can also bring out "social cow" babies! I have personal experience.
I am an introverted person, and I don't talk much. My child was diagnosed with suspected language retardation when he was in his early 2 years old, and he was very sensitive and afraid of life. For example, if he goes to do child care, the doctor will cry near her. Going to the playground, I saw a child approaching her and running away like a monster. At one time, I felt that my poor words delayed her expression and even affected her social level. What should I do?
There are many activities in shifts.
First of all, I started her early nursing career very early. When I was 2 years old and 3 months old, I sent her to a kindergarten with a high teacher-student ratio (1:4). I didn't expect her to adapt well. Since attending early education, she has become older. Not only has Baba's small mouth become a chatterbox every day, but she is also a taxi driver who met for the first time and an interest class teacher who has attended several classes. She will also take the initiative to hug familiar teachers, and it is not a problem to be confused. This is much more generous than being a mother.
I summed up some tips in life, hoping to help all mothers who are worried about their children's excessive fear of life. Enjoy ~
1. Lead children to communicate actively, such as in elevators, taxis and interest classes. Parents first teach their children to say hello, "Baby, please call the driver's uncle" and "Bye-bye to the teacher", such as going to the store to buy things, and guiding the baby to say "Auntie, please bring me a cake" to the shop assistant, so that he can put the goods in front of the shop assistant when paying the bill. Even if the baby doesn't follow at first, it will be influenced by your initiative and generosity over time. The summary is that every scene makes the baby a small master and an equal role with adults.
Physical fitness class is very happy.
2. Don't label the baby. Some parents, especially the elderly, are embarrassed to say "this child is introverted and timid" when the baby calls someone, which is actually very hurtful! Remember, whenever you go out, you should stand on the same side with your children. Don't "pretend to be modest" about your child's negative performance for the sake of face ~ and reply with your child afterwards. What can you do with words next time you encounter such a situation?
Making faces during the Spring Festival?
3. Give your child a specific speech reference. For example, today, children went to a new interest class and met new teachers and classmates. You can talk to TA, for example: What's the name of the new teacher today? How many children are there? What works have they made? What did you do? You can say to the teacher: Oh, I pinched a puppy with mud, because there are two dogs at home, and I want to be their playmates … and so on. Give the child some topic references, and the next time she meets the teacher, she will have something to say in her heart. ?
Raise your hand in class?
4? When reading picture books and watching animations, consciously guide children to think and express the thoughts and practices of the protagonist with the protagonist's situation. Give children more opportunities to create situational dialogues. Many scenes, even if children have no personal experience, can be handled freely after thinking in picture books.
A smashed classic picture book.
5. Social setbacks, help children recover in time and improve their emotional strength. When the social interaction between children and their peers is not smooth and their social enthusiasm is hit hard, parents can intervene. Help ta analyze the reasons why the other party doesn't pay the bill, and guide the children to think from the other party's point of view and how to deal with it next time. Of course, it is also necessary to buy some age-appropriate social and emotional intelligence picture books.
More and more confident
"Social cattle" does not mean running around, but enjoying expression more.
I hope that children's socialization will not be a problem in the future. If you have this question, please forward it to a loving family and try it together.