Whether childhood is happy or not is related to parents' education. As the saying goes, what kind of seeds will produce what kind of flowers.
If you are a grumpy parent, you will certainly bring up a grumpy and willful child.
1, which hinders the courage of children to express their thoughts and vent their emotions.
Children's language expression ability is limited, and they often want to say something but can't organize it in words. Sometimes parents don't understand it properly, and they may like to vent their emotions by throwing things.
At this time, if parents are impatient, but give their children a beating and scolding, they will be scared at first and don't understand why parents are fierce, which makes children afraid to express themselves and vent their emotions.
2. Make children feel insecure and become more timid.
If the child is in a family with a bad family atmosphere for a long time, parents often quarrel over trivial matters and have a grumpy attitude towards the child.
Children will naturally wonder if they are not doing well, making their parents dissatisfied and causing quarrels, and even fearing that both sides will dislike themselves after their parents quarrel.
Such children will become insecure when they grow up, will not express any thoughts, and will be more timid when they get along with others.
3, let children go to extremes, and their temper is more violent than their parents.
Parents' words and deeds have a subtle influence on their children. If parents are grumpy people, children will naturally be deeply influenced and imitate their parents' grumpy behavior.
I can't calm down even if I encounter difficulties in the future. You will only lose your temper in ignorance, and you will not take the initiative to think about ways to solve problems, but vent your emotions first.
Over time, the emotions imposed on children by parents will make them go to extremes, or be more grumpy than their parents, or become timid, cowardly and autistic.
4. The relationship between parents and children is more alienated.
When children encounter problems, they should first think of their parents and think that they are superhuman parents who can protect themselves, hoping to get their parents' help and understanding.
But the first reaction of many parents is to lose their temper. First, they asked the children why there was a problem. Children naturally have a sense of distance from their parents, and then they don't want to say anything when they meet something.
In the long run, it will become more and more difficult to open up, and even if parents want to make up for it, they can't make up for the damage at that time.
1, please enter your personality.
When children see their parents lose their temper, their first self-emotion is fear and grievance. They don't know what to do to keep their parents from losing their temper.
They will subconsciously feel that their parents are angry because they are not doing well enough, so children will gradually learn to obey their parents' wishes.
I don't dare to express my inner feelings when I get along with you at ordinary times, but I will only persistently please my parents without myself.
2. Insecurity
In fact, parents don't realize that if they lose their temper with their children, they are actually hurting their self-esteem from the outside to the mainland.
So that I can't feel family problems, and I have become more and more insecure and less confident for a long time.
If children with low pressure-bearing ability will give up on themselves, have no motivation for anything, and think that they are doomed to failure, so they will even save their energy to try.
Step 3 be sensitive and suspicious
Children who are often surrounded by their parents' bad emotions will become sensitive and suspicious because of fear. They always reflect on their own problems, and their parents will treat me like this.
In the future, as long as the parents are not in the right mood, they will start to think about things at random.
1, good at finding problems.
When you are angry with your child's behavior, don't get angry in a hurry, but think about the meaning behind your child's behavior.
Everything happens for a reason, and the child's mood is no exception or physical discomfort, or he may just do something to attract the attention of his parents.
Try to communicate with children, understand their needs, and don't just vent their emotions.
2. Reflect on your emotions
When parents find that their emotions are out of control, they should reflect on what is wrong with them.
Everyone has an emotional outburst point in everything, but it may not only be solved by losing your temper.
Be tolerant of children, be strict with yourself and always reflect on yourself.
3. Show more love.
For example, parents really can't help losing their temper with their children. Be sure to say sorry to your child in time in the future, and don't lose face because you are an elder.
We should communicate well with our children, give them a loving hug after apologizing, and let them feel the sincerity of apologizing and the love of their parents.
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