First, I lost my temper because my needs were not met. Due to the doting of parents, some children cry and make a scene when they are slightly dissatisfied. Parents must not accommodate, accommodate, otherwise it will fuel their temper. The easiest way is to shut him up in his room for a short time, give him time to calm down and reconsider what to do next. Even outside. Repeatedly, children will feel that it is meaningless to lose their temper and cry. They will not get the attention of their parents and what they want, and they will gradually stop losing their temper. After each episode subsides, parents should remember to reason with their children and conduct follow-up education in time. Telling children what they have just done is not good, and threatening parents to meet their own needs by losing their temper can't achieve their goals. Let children know that their parents still love them, but they don't love their splashing behavior. This can not only educate children not to make trouble in the future, but also prevent children from alienating their parents' affection.

Second, I lost my temper because I was ignored. For such children, we should appease them and divert their attention. The younger the child, the more unstable the mood, and the easier it is to divert attention. When unhappiness occurs, we should use the activity transfer method to let them vent their inner tension in game activities or sports activities. For example, the child misses his mother and her mother hasn't come home after working overtime. The child is extremely wronged and litters, no matter how to persuade him. At this time, the family can consciously mention something that children are most interested in to divert their attention. For example, tell children a favorite and funny story, or take them to play their favorite swing game, and so on. We should start from love, comfort him emotionally and persuade the child not to cry; Be patient, don't scold, and don't get angry and beat and scold. Otherwise, the child's temper will only get worse.

Third, lose your temper because you are not understood. Children over the age of 3 already have their own ideas and opinions about something, so parents must provide their children with opportunities to fully express their inner thoughts. Sometimes, when a child tells his parents an interesting story endlessly, parents often nod or hum inadvertently because they are busy with their own affairs, so that the child will be very angry. Therefore, parents may wish to put aside their own affairs for a while, listen to their children's words with focused eyes, understand their children's words with appreciation, and have a chat with their children with great interest, which will be a great support and encouragement for their children.

Fourthly, I lost my temper because I couldn't delay my satisfaction. Most preschool children simply have no patience to wait a little longer for what they want to eat or play, especially in the face of temptation. There was a psychological experiment that asked children to wait 15 minutes as a condition for getting delicious candy, otherwise they would only get bad candy. Therefore, children behave differently according to different experimental conditions. When candy is not in sight, children insist on waiting for the longest time; When there is a kind of candy in front of you (delicious or not), the time that children can wait is halved; When both kinds of candy are in front of you, the child has the shortest waiting time. It shows that children are not easy to resist the temptation in front of them and have weak self-control. Therefore, as parents, we must consciously cultivate children's ability to delay satisfaction on weekdays, start from small things, and don't let children learn. As long as it is what I want, my parents will be satisfied immediately, forming a feeling of hardship. In this way, when children occasionally can't get what they want, it is easy to get angry.

In addition to the above specific treatment of children, parents should also pay attention to their words and deeds. Parents' words and deeds are a mirror of children's behavior.

First, parents' educational attitudes should be consistent. When a child loses his temper, don't form several factions among adults. Some people ignore it, some coax it, some leave the children, and some run to please them, let alone argue in front of them. Adults must communicate well, and once the child has an attack, the whole family will adopt a consistent attitude. Otherwise, he will cry even harder.

Second, parents should remember not to lose their temper often. I once saw a thrilling scene in the toy department of a shopping mall. A mother suddenly raised her voice and said, "I just bought it last week and want to buy it again." It seems to tell everyone that my children are unreasonable. The reason why I don't buy it for him is that I just bought it, not that I don't buy it for him. I think this mother is a little guilty. What's the shame of not buying toys for her children? Don't buy it, don't buy it. Just explain it to the children. But her method was a bit out of shape, and the child insisted, so she dragged the child out and the child dragged it in noisily. The mother lost her temper and slapped the child twice, and the child began to cry. As a result, the mother didn't say anything, dragging the crying child slowly into the crowd. With such a grumpy mother, it's hard not to let the child lose his temper.

Therefore, in order to cultivate children's good character and not lose their temper, parents must set an example and create a good one for their children; The atmosphere of family environment can keep children in positive mood and control the outbreak of bad mood.