This situation is entirely the responsibility of parents. It can be said that the children's dawdle is arranged by their parents. Every day, the children put on their clothes, hats and bags with the help of their mothers. They don't have to worry about what to eat and drink, and they don't even have to squeeze toothpaste, so they can enjoy themselves. This arrangement just deprives children of the opportunity to exercise and gradually forms the habit of dependence. Children also think that their parents take it for granted: anyway, my mother will help me arrange it, and I don't have to worry about it.
Solution: First of all, give children the initiative to do things, and let them do what they can, such as sweeping the floor, taking out the garbage, tidying the room, etc. In addition to teaching patiently, we should also resist the impulse to do things for others. It takes a process for children to learn to do things, and it is impossible to learn them all at once. As the saying goes, practice makes perfect. In addition, children should be allowed to do badly and take their time. When children make progress, they should be praised and encouraged in time. When they learn to dress, eat and pack things slowly, their hands-on ability will be exercised, and other things will naturally be done neatly.
We should let children know that finishing homework on time is the most basic requirement for students. Listen carefully in class and register your homework. After finishing your homework, you should put all the textbooks in your file bag in your schoolbag and prepare for school the next day. If children don't do things step by step, we should teach them to make a list of things to do and sort them according to their priorities. Slowly, children will develop the habit of doing things in an orderly way.
Second, the pursuit of perfection-rubber syndrome
Some children study hard and get good grades, but their homework is particularly slow. When writing new words, if a word is not well written, they rewrite it with an eraser. If they still feel bad, they will continue to erase and write, or even feel bad. They will tear up this page and write it again. The original half-hour homework often takes two hours to write. Repetition in pursuit of perfection will waste a lot of time and the homework will become procrastinating.
Solution: These children who pursue perfection are actually cultivated by their parents unintentionally. Correct the child's problem and don't pursue perfection too much. Mother's words and deeds have a great influence on her children. If we demand perfection ourselves, we also demand a lot from our children. In this case, the child is either slow in doing homework or afraid of learning.
Some children will have high demands on their studies, especially those in the lower grades. When they first come into contact with their homework, they will be particularly serious. They always feel that they don't write well and repeat it over and over again. We should communicate with children, understand the reasons why children are dissatisfied, guide children not to pursue perfection, and then take another book to practice repeatedly after homework is completed.
There are also some children who like to use erasers constantly, which is called "rubber syndrome" in psychology. The reason is that children are under great learning pressure, anxious, afraid of making mistakes, demanding too much of themselves, or parents demanding too much of their children. For such children, parents should not blame them too much, let alone forcibly correct them by beating and cursing. They can train themselves with positive praise. Do homework at home, use little or no eraser, write quickly and accurately within a certain period of time, and praise and encourage in time. After a period of desensitization training, children's bad habit of relying on rubber will be gradually corrected.
Third, poor learning foundation-learning difficulties, not interested in learning.
Some children can't understand what the teacher said because of their weak foundation, so they will encounter some problems when they write their homework. If they don't know the word and the question, their speed will naturally slow down. There are also some children who leave their schoolbags and go out to play after school, or take the TV remote control. They put off their homework as much as possible, and then dealt with it casually until it was too late. They act quickly when they play, but dawdle when they write. If your child belongs to this type, the real solution is not the problem of muddling along, but how to coach the child, make up for the defects in knowledge and improve the child's interest in learning.
Problem-solving: When you encounter a problem that you can't do, teach your child to do other problems first, and then do the part that you can't do, which saves the time for asking questions and doesn't interrupt the child's concentration in doing homework. Give guidance to problems that children don't understand. Guidance is not to let parents give answers directly, but to find out what children can't do, and then make up the knowledge they don't understand and inspire children to think. Only by helping children solve their learning difficulties and keeping up with their learning progress, the speed will naturally be faster.
Children like to play and don't want to do their homework. In his view, learning is difficult, they can't remember it or understand it, but it's easy to play. In this case, we should improve children's interest in learning and cultivate their learning ability. Let's talk to them first and see what's wrong. You don't understand what the teacher said in class, so we make up lessons for him; If you can't remember the way we helped him master his memory; If he just feels tired, we will help him arrange his time reasonably and combine work and rest.
We can arouse his enthusiasm through games. For example, if we finish an assignment within the specified time, reward a little star and collect 10 stars, it can satisfy a child's wish. This wish can be to watch a movie, buy a favorite book, eat a McDonald's and so on. For the small progress made by children, we should also give affirmation and encouragement in time.
Reason 4: Deliberately muddling along-forced to be helpless
This is a subjective muddling along, and many children belong to this type. How to be forced? By who? Mom and dad, of course! Nowadays, parents want their children to succeed and their daughters to succeed. They are worried that their children will fall behind. In addition to the homework assigned by the school, parents can't wait to add homework. The children thought: Why should I write fast? Anyway, there is no time to play after writing. I might as well write slowly and play while writing. Parents did not expect that dawdling became a child's countermeasure.
I'm afraid this way of muddling along is the biggest headache for us, because it's not that he can't get up quickly, but that he doesn't want to get up at all. In the face of this situation, we don't need to break into a furious rage, and we don't need to treat it with a tough attitude, because children with this kind of thinking often have rebellious psychology. If we treat them rudely, it will be counterproductive.
Solution: Parents are advised not to add extra homework to their children. Children should finish their homework on time and with good quality. They should leave some time for their children to control themselves, play with toys, read extracurricular books for a while, and go out for a walk. Do what you like. After forming this habit, children will finish their homework quickly, because they will have a lot of time to play if they finish it early. Otherwise, the child will start to be slow consciously, and gradually form a habit over time, which will really become a bad habit of muddling along.
Reason five: poor concept of time-can't manage time.
This situation exists the most. Children have poor self-control ability and have no concept of time. Doing homework and doing things is natural and slow. There is only one solution, to cultivate children's time management ability. First of all, we should get rid of the bad habit of staying up late and let children realize the importance of time. Then let the children learn to use their time reasonably and teach them to make a study plan. It is mentioned in The Doctrine of the Mean that everything is established in advance, and it is abolished if it is not predicted. It can be seen that it is very important to make plans so that children can live and study regularly. If you can persist for more than three months, the child will definitely become an efficient person.
"It's time to do your homework." "It's time to practice the piano." "It's time for a bath!" Do you often remind and urge your children like this at home? If parents are always used to thinking and arranging everything for their children, it is difficult for them to have a sense of time. Therefore, if children want to be masters of time, they should be allowed to arrange their own time. If you make your child a slave to time, arrange every minute for him. I think the parents here will make wise choices.
Solution: We can help children to establish the concept of time by entertaining and playing games, such as using an alarm clock to time in five minutes and competing with children to clean up toys; Or take homework as an exam and set the exam time to give children a sense of urgency. Children constantly experience a sense of accomplishment in the process of learning, and over time, the speed will increase.
Parents are advised to give their children one minute of special training every day, such as one minute of oral calculation, one minute of Chinese character training and one minute of writing numbers. Through the above training, children can understand the value of time and do a lot of things in one minute. At the same time, it also improves children's writing speed and problem-solving speed. During training, take 1 min as a group and practice two or three groups every day. Pay attention to record the children's achievements and compare them.
Reason six, inattention-irrelevant movements.
Some children dawdle because they are not focused, and every little thing, an insignificant little thing, attracts his attention. Especially the first-grade children, when doing their homework, look around, play with erasers, bite their fingers and sharpen pencils. How can this style of writing get up quickly?
This is a typical situation of inattention. Psychologists' research shows that the stability of children's attention is prolonged with age. Generally speaking, at the age of 2-3, the concentration time is 10- 12 minutes; 5-6 years old 12- 15 minutes; 20 minutes at the age of 7- 10; 10- 12 is 25 minutes and 12 is 30 minutes. Because of their young age, the attention time of lower grade children is generally around 15-20 minutes. If they are allowed to do their homework for more than 20 minutes, they will be distracted. If they write a word for five minutes, the homework will of course be delayed.
Solution: In the face of a child who is inattentive and procrastinating, we need to help him strengthen his self-control ability, reduce the attraction of external things to him, try to give him a quiet and concise environment, especially the desk, and prepare all the stationery to be used, but don't pile up toys that will distract the child. Children's learning environment should be quiet. Don't send fruit or water to your child in order to take care of him during his study. This is actually disturbing the children.
First of all, we should know the amount of homework that children do that day, and then stipulate that it must be completed within a certain time. If you do well, you can give affirmation and encouragement. If there is too much homework, you can divide the homework into two or three stages. If it is stipulated that the first time you do it 15 minutes and have a rest, then do it 15 minutes and have a rest. When the child's attention is improved, the time set in the future can be slowly extended, and it is not necessary to divide the time to develop a good habit of highly concentrated learning.
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Reason seven, poor coordination-sensory imbalance
In addition to the above reasons, the reason for children's dawdling may also be physiological. Nowadays, most of them are only-child families, and parents regard their children as the apple of their eye. The behaviors that children should have, such as touching, crawling, rolling, hitting and jumping, have been artificially destroyed in the process of development. Children who don't climb when they should climb may have poor coordination and balance in the future, don't cry when they should cry, have insufficient oral muscle exercise, weak cardiopulmonary function and even poor language expression ability. The main reasons for the sensory integration disorder of the only child are: lack of exercise, lack of games and lack of influence from nature.
Some children are smart and active in thinking, but slow in expression and writing, and often write typos and omissions. These are all because their minds and hands are not synchronized. These children are generally not good at communication, and some stutter. We usually encourage children to communicate with others and consciously exercise their expressive ability and reading and writing ability.
Solution: Some children write crooked, out of line, or mispronounce, and write friends as friends. These are all uncoordinated hands and eyes, so it is very difficult to do homework and is always criticized by teachers and parents. Over time, they will hate and even be afraid to do their homework. In this case, parents and teachers should cooperate with each other and guide their children in the right way, instead of complaining and criticizing blindly.