Family support is the key to enhance children's stress resistance.
Shawn Cove, director of the Center for Child Development at Harvard University, found that those children who can "counterattack" in a difficult situation are more resilient, that is, they are more resistant to stress.
Improving children's ability to resist stress is inseparable from the support and interaction of parents. Parents can try to cultivate their children according to these three characteristics-
Adults should establish a strong supportive relationship with their children.
If the child is in a stable supporting environment with adults, the physiological effects such as heart rate, blood pressure and stress hormones can be buffered after the child's stress response system is activated, and then it can return to the normal baseline.
For example, when a child cries, if you give him an appropriate response in time, such as eye contact, verbal comfort, or hugging him, it will stimulate oxytocin in the child, make the child feel safe and happy, and establish a positive nerve connection in his brain.
Teachers and parents, do you know? In the daily life of raising children, there may be more scientific moments than you think.
Maybe some people will think that science is too far away from us! Actually, it's not. Scientific parenting takes place in a play scene, a companion action, even a word, a hug.
So, how should parents use the knowledge of scientific parenting in their families? How can we give children a scientific and reassuring education?
Not long ago, Zhong Jiaojun interviewed Wei He, a professor and doctoral supervisor at Peking University Institute of Psychology and Cognitive Science. In his new book "Wei Kunlin's Collection of Scientific Parenting", he provided some knowledge about scientific parenting for parents, which is easy to understand and can really help parents. Most importantly, it is scientific and reliable! Come and see what he said to Zhong Jiaojun and what was written in the book!
If you want your child to have a smart and healthy brain,
Parents should pay attention to cultivating these four abilities!
0 1. Learning ability
Metacognition is the key to improve children's learning ability.
Among children's various learning abilities, one is the most important, and that is the ability of "metacognition". Mastering it, not only the learning of various subjects, but also the cognitive abilities such as memory and emotion can be improved.
Meta means "knowledge about", while meta-cognition is knowledge about self-cognition. Many studies have found that children with good metacognitive ability will have better academic performance.
So, how to cultivate children's metacognitive ability?
Using metacognitive strategies can make children think and learn better. Metacognitive strategies include preparation before learning, application and monitoring of learning and feedback. In this process, parents should be children's "metacognitive voice generators", talk to children more often, encourage children to have an insight into their learning state, and help children correctly estimate their strengths and weaknesses.
It should be emphasized that parents can teach their children metacognitive ability in time when they are still young, which is an effective trick to improve their learning ability.
Examination is a good tool to improve learning efficiency.
The latest achievements of cognitive science show that the process of extracting memory, especially the method of extracting by examination, not only has the function of learning, but also has better effect than simple repeated learning.
One of the reasons why we feel that our exam results are not good is that our attitude towards exams is not correct enough. The researchers found that if the exam didn't help students consolidate their knowledge, it might be because they didn't "check" and "reflect" after the exam.
Parents should not blame their children for an achievement. After getting the results, they should first help children find the knowledge gap and then promote the change of children's behavior. It is necessary to guide children to think about these questions: What caused your mistakes? Didn't understand a concept, wasn't careful enough, didn't come up with a solution, or other reasons? How do you plan to improve your study methods next? Through reflection and summary, children will improve their learning efficiency.
02. Reading ability
Reading is an important way to cultivate smart children.
Parents should know that when children are young, the most important thing is to make them interested in reading, not how much knowledge they learn immediately from reading. In the early days, cultivating children's interest in reading is more important than learning knowledge.
Cultivating children's interest in reading doesn't mean buying children a bunch of books, but reading with them. Scientific research has found that just giving children a bunch of books has little effect on improving their reading ability, but companionship and interaction are the key. Reading should be embedded in the daily interaction between children and parents. For example, reading picture books together, telling bedtime stories to children, role reading and so on.
Many parents ask me, when is it better for children to start reading? In fact, there is no strict age limit for starting reading. Children have different stages of development, so there is no need to set a reading schedule for children mechanically. Observe children more, and start reading at any time as long as the time is right and the children are interested.
My suggestion is that the earlier children get into the reading habit, the better. At the same time, parents should be reminded that parents always talk about their children's reading habits, so do you read by yourself? If you don't study yourself, how can you expect your children to study? The problem of family atmosphere is also worthy of attention.
03. Compressive capacity
Family support is the key to enhance children's stress resistance.
Shawn Cove, director of the Center for Child Development at Harvard University, found that those children who can "counterattack" in a difficult situation are more resilient, that is, they are more resistant to stress.
Improving children's ability to resist stress is inseparable from the support and interaction of parents. Parents can try to cultivate their children according to these three characteristics-
Adults should establish a strong supportive relationship with their children.
If the child is in a stable supportive environment with adults, after the child's stress response system is activated, the physiological effects such as heart rate, blood pressure and stress hormones can be buffered, and then they can return to the normal baseline.
For example, when a child cries, if you give him an appropriate response in time, such as eye contact, verbal comfort, or hugging him, it will stimulate oxytocin in the child, make the child feel safe and happy, and establish a positive nerve connection in his brain.