Mom and dad are worried that the baby will get sick from his mouth by sucking his fingers and eating some bacteria. What can he do if he is ill? Mother was anxious to solve this problem, so she put pepper on her baby's hand. When the baby sucked it, she burst into tears. It's so painful to watch! Clean up the peppers, and he still smokes. So, I don't know what to do
My baby is over 2 years old. I used to like sucking my fingers for a while, but I didn't wipe anything on my hands and forced him to change. Finger sucking is gradually decreasing. In fact, knowing why children suck their fingers, parents will know how to solve this problem.
Correct understanding of children's finger sucking behavior, children's finger sucking behavior, started very early, can be traced back to fetal period. Pregnancy 1 1 week, the fetus can already put his hand in his mouth to suck. During the whole fetal period, sucking fingers is a child's greatest pleasure. When doing four-dimensional color Doppler ultrasound, you can see the way the fetus sucks its fingers, which gives many surprises to mothers.
A child will have a sucking reflex after birth and can suck breast milk correctly. Wait until 2 months, the child's hands can be opened, the cerebral cortex is well developed, and he begins to practice sucking his fingers, so as to explore the world and know the body with his mouth and tongue. This stage is called "oral desire period" in psychology.
When children suck their fingers at an early age, it often means that they are hungry. By the age of 2-3, children's hands can do more activities, and the way of expressing hunger is upgraded to language, and the phenomenon of sucking fingers will gradually disappear, and then turn into the "anal desire period". If children suck their fingers very frequently, it is often caused by some environmental factors.
Oral desire prolonged by being corrected.
When a child sucks his fingers, parents think it is a bad behavior, try to correct the child, and reprimand the child "Don't suck your fingers, it will get sick if it is too dirty!" " Or use pepper spray, pepper spray, hand-binding, beating and other extreme practices.
The child's understanding ability is limited. His brain will take the initiative to remove the forbidden word "no" and only pay attention to the "finger sucking" behavior that appears later, so he will continue to suck his fingers. You can do an experiment. It is easy to understand that if the child gets under the table and you ask him to "don't look up", he will definitely look up.
There is a case in "Slow Raising: Giving Children a Good Personality". When I was a child, Heiriyan liked to eat fingers. After being discovered by his parents, when he was sleeping, his parents tied his hands and prevented him from eating them. As a result, he ate his hands all the way.
self-consolation
Children are particularly eager for skin contact when they are young, hoping to be accompanied, hugged and caressed by their parents. If parents don't have time to spend with their children, or if family relations are tense and they are not warm enough for their children, children will feel lonely. Children have no good way to solve their troubles, so they can only comfort themselves by sucking their fingers.
Babies around 2 years old are basically weaned. After weaning, the child can't switch from the sucking stage immediately, and there will be a short stay at the end of the mouth desire period. Can't breastfeed. In order to get the satisfaction of lips, use the most convenient sucking finger instead.
Bauer was weaned at the age of two. At the time of weaning, the phenomenon of sucking fingers did increase obviously, and it was adjusted after slowly adapting.
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Children also have emotions, but their expressive ability is limited. They can't express themselves in words when they are depressed, so they can only adjust themselves in the way they are best at, such as sucking their fingers.
Children like to run into the kitchen and want to take pots, knives and forks when they see them, but their parents won't let them. When you see vegetables and fruits on the shelf, whether cooked or dirty, pick them up and eat them. Mom and dad immediately banned it.
In order to ensure the safety of children, mom and dad are inseparable. Whenever they "touch" something, they will say "no". At this time, the child is emotional. If you don't let anything move, suck your fingers.
Correctly understand the influence of children sucking their fingers. Our biggest worry is that children will eat bacteria and affect their health. It may also lead to finger deformation and affect tooth development. But as long as the child's hands are clean, the number of finger sucking is not too frequent, which has no adverse effect on physical development.
Understanding virginity says that if children are allowed to eat their fingers, they will get a lot of development. If children are not allowed to eat their fingers, they will learn to talk about hygiene, but they will also lose a lot of development.
Finger sucking is not the main task for children. The more important task is to explore things with your mouth. Fingers are a part of the outside world in children's eyes. Sucking fingers is exploring the outside world and is a sign of children's brain development. It's not easy to suck your fingers. It needs the cooperation of your hand and mouth, the control and deployment of your brain. When sucking fingers, the development of hand touch is stimulated, the ability of hand to perceive external objects is improved, and the holding ability of hand is also strengthened. The brain grows in use, and the development of hand ability in turn promotes the development of the brain.
Freud argued that the child's mouth is the core of psychology, and sucking fingers is the external expression of psychological satisfaction. When children are bored and in a bad mood, sucking their fingers becomes quiet. When we stop the child from sucking his fingers, he will cry. If we continue to allow him to suck, he will be quiet again. The time for children to show social smiles is basically the same as that for sucking fingers, which shows that sucking fingers makes children happy.
How to deal with children's finger sucking behavior Through the above analysis, we know that finger sucking is normal for children aged 2-3, and it has a positive effect. Don't worry too much. With the correct guidance, children will gradually lose interest in sucking their fingers and be replaced by more interesting things. If it is not properly guided, the child's finger sucking behavior will continue into adulthood, and then it will be a lifelong habit, which is difficult to change.
First, create a warm family atmosphere.
Parents should not hope to force their children to get rid of the habit of sucking their fingers. They should have time to hug their children, play games, read books and chat with them to satisfy their hunger, so that they have no time to be bored and suck their fingers.
What Bauer likes to do most every day is reading. He is in charge of turning over the books, and we are in charge of reading. No matter which page he turns to, just read what he wants. His hands are too busy turning pages to suck.
Children suck their fingers in different ways and treat them differently in different situations. Once you see a child sucking his finger, don't be too nervous, don't scold the child, but quietly help him take it out.
Some may smoke while sleeping, some may smoke while waiting for dinner, and some may smoke while thinking about problems. Hold his hand while sleeping, tell him stories, sing and sleep, put a spoon or grab food in your hand when eating, and put a chewing gum toy in your hand when thinking.
Secondly, provide toys for children to play with.
2-year-old children have flexible hands and can carry out rich activities. Give them some hands-on toys and use their hands. Playing with cars, trains, building blocks, folding music, playing with balls, origami, drawing and so on are all very suitable for children's hand activities.
There is a kind of overlapping music, which is not completely round in size, color, hardness, touch and shape, and contains many novel things, which will arouse children's strong curiosity and especially like to play. Children can feel these differences with their hands. Besides using their hands, they can also improve their perception.
Bauer likes playing small trains very much. Because he has read many books about trains, he is pushing the train on the track with his hands, while recalling the plots, directors and acting stories he has read in the books. Such activities will be enjoyed every day.
I just want to tell my parents that there are actually many opportunities for children to start working. You can flexibly choose toys suitable for children according to their situation, and reduce the chance of sucking your fingers by hand.
Finally, meet the needs of children to explore.
It is normal for children to like to hold or touch some household items with their hands. This is a way for children to explore the world and a good opportunity to make use of it. Don't stop them easily.
2-year-old children especially like to play with kitchen supplies, so they can play with them on the premise of ensuring safety, such as pots and spoons, which will not cause harm to children. If you are worried that your child will break the kitchen utensils, you can prepare a set of playable pots, spoons and other utensils for your child. Of course, there are also kitchen toys specially prepared for children. Prepare a set for children, so that children can cut and fry as they like, and enjoy the fun of being a chef.
Children like to touch vegetables, so teach them how to choose vegetables. Children like to drink water from an adult's cup, so prepare the same cup for him. By analogy, as long as the child wants to do something, under the premise of ensuring safety, it will meet the needs of children to explore, which is also an early education that does not go out. When the child's desire to start work is satisfied, he won't spend time sucking his fingers with his mouth.
Conclusion In the face of children's finger sucking, we are naturally worried, but we must realize that it exists for a reason. According to these reasons, one by one, children will naturally transition in a calm state and get rid of the habit of sucking fingers smoothly, which is easy and educational.